Trying not to get my hopes up

[bltn1966]

Me and my talked about her becoming a HW for a long time too. One night she confessed to flirting with a guy she met at a conference. She said if she ever was to mess around it probably would be someone like him. The guy lived in a coastal city that was over a hundred miles away from us. With that in mind, for my wife’s birthday, I gave her a mommy getaway vacation to the guy’s city. I told her she had the choice of meeting the guy or avoiding him altogether. She was very apprehensive but she finally agreed to go to the beach and enjoy her weekend. She also told me she was not going to contact the guy.

When she went on her vacation my wife called me every night. She told me went sightseeing and ate at a nice restaurants and just relaxed. She never talked about seeing the guy. When she came back home she told me she never saw the guy. A few days later her story changed. She said she talked to him on the phone but he was too busy to meet her for lunch. Later on it went from actually having lunch with him to having dinner at his Condo. She kept repeating “BUT NOTHING HAPPENED”. She seemed like she was mad at me when I said it was OK if she did. So I dropped the subject. I truly believed her when she said nothing happened. A week later we talked about it again. The story changed to spending the night with him. She kept insisting “NOTHING HAPPEN”.
She saw, in my face, that I didn’t believe her anymore. I took awhile but she admitted to having sex with him. When she saw I wasn’t mad about her having sex she told me something that was hot and funny. She said one night when I called her, she told me she was taking a shower and she quickly got off the phone. The truth is she was riding him at the time.

It was like pulling teeth but I was able to get a few details from her. She said he was a great guy but the sex was just OK. They had sex three times. He was ok with her cheating on me but he became very intimidated when he found out she was married to a big black guy. So, that’s how I found out my wife was a HW. So hang in there man. It’ll happen soon. Just assure your wife that you’re OK with it.

[isinlarsa]

Oh so many years ago, as my work lead me to attend many related conferences I had flirted only very lightly with one of the owners of a small company that was present at many of the related commercial exhibitions. She was very much the prim-and-proper CEO and very much in charge businesswoman but from time to time would join with a group of other presenters and customers at the conference hotel for a few minutes of drink and conversation after the commercial exhibits closed for the evening.

It was after one of those times that she and I found ourselves alone together in a conference hotel elevator and she mentioned that there were some additional information packets concerning some instrumentation my research group was considering purchasing up in her hotel room. The implications were obvious, and I understood. Some time later we had discovered that this prim-and-proper CEO who seemed aloof and reserved had a well hidden submissiveness that emerged as well as a secretive exhibitionist streak.

It was not an instantaneous decision for her to make that offer to come to her room, but one that had apparently been considered for some months. My very light flirting and gentlemanly behaviors were also a factor. She told me (some moths later when we again met at the next conference) that she was wondering how I would respond to that invitation. We enjoyed each other for many years till our changes in careers gave us no more conference opportunities.

So I would say the conference opportunities are real, and in part because they offer that "away from home" venue as well as some familiarity with the other attendees for some of those sorts of things.

Prof Wood

I had a similar experience at a conference, although the time frame was much shorter than yours.

We were both young lawyers attending an out-of-town seminar when we met. Over the two weeks, she and I started hanging out with a group after each day’s seminar. Gradually, she and I started hanging out more by ourselves. It was innocent at first.

At the end of the first week, she asked me to give her a ride back to the city that it turned out we both lived (Washington, DC). Thus we spent several hours in the car together going home and coming back the following Sunday night for the second week of the seminar.

We started avoiding other people after each days’ seminar. Finally, another person in our group asked when we wanted to meet for the evening, and Linda said that she thought she would just spend the night in her hotel room. I said something similar, then instead of going my room, I circled back to her room. I knocked on the door. She opened the door laughing, knowing it would be me.

We spent some time talking, and then I said, “I get these vibes between us.” (I know it was a cheezy line, but it worked.). She acknowledged she was feeling it. Somehow, we skipped past the fact she was married (I was single at the time), and decided we would fuck. She wasn’t on birth control, so I said I would go out for condoms. In reality I had some, but I didn’t want to seem too prepared.

We spent the rest of the week’s seminar fucking each night, and we agreed to see each other when we got back to DC.

[sandy691196]

So what happened finally with the OP's wife at the conference?

[sandy691196]

Oh so many years ago, as my work lead me to attend many related conferences I had flirted only very lightly with one of the owners of a small company that was present at many of the related commercial exhibitions. She was very much the prim-and-proper CEO and very much in charge businesswoman but from time to time would join with a group of other presenters and customers at the conference hotel for a few minutes of drink and conversation after the commercial exhibits closed for the evening.

It was after one of those times that she and I found ourselves alone together in a conference hotel elevator and she mentioned that there were some additional information packets concerning some instrumentation my research group was considering purchasing up in her hotel room. The implications were obvious, and I understood. Some time later we had discovered that this prim-and-proper CEO who seemed aloof and reserved had a well hidden submissiveness that emerged as well as a secretive exhibitionist streak.

It was not an instantaneous decision for her to make that offer to come to her room, but one that had apparently been considered for some months. My very light flirting and gentlemanly behaviors were also a factor. She told me (some moths later when we again met at the next conference) that she was wondering how I would respond to that invitation. We enjoyed each other for many years till our changes in careers gave us no more conference opportunities.

So I would say the conference opportunities are real, and in part because they offer that "away from home" venue as well as some familiarity with the other attendees for some of those sorts of things.

Prof Wood

I had a similar experience at a conference, although the time frame was much shorter than yours.

We were both young lawyers attending an out-of-town seminar when we met. Over the two weeks, she and I started hanging out with a group after each day’s seminar. Gradually, she and I started hanging out more by ourselves. It was innocent at first.

At the end of the first week, she asked me to give her a ride back to the city that it turned out we both lived (Washington, DC). Thus we spent several hours in the car together going home and coming back the following Sunday night for the second week of the seminar.

We started avoiding other people after each days’ seminar. Finally, another person in our group asked when we wanted to meet for the evening, and Linda said that she thought she would just spend the night in her hotel room. I said something similar, then instead of going my room, I circled back to her room. I knocked on the door. She opened the door laughing, knowing it would be me.

We spent some time talking, and then I said, “I get these vibes between us.” (I know it was a cheezy line, but it worked.). She acknowledged she was feeling it. Somehow, we skipped past the fact she was married (I was single at the time), and decided we would fuck. She wasn’t on birth control, so I said I would go out for condoms. In reality I had some, but I didn’t want to seem too prepared.

We spent the rest of the week’s seminar fucking each night, and we agreed to see each other when we got back to DC.

So did it then become an affair?

[isinlarsa]

Oh so many years ago, as my work lead me to attend many related conferences I had flirted only very lightly with one of the owners of a small company that was present at many of the related commercial exhibitions. She was very much the prim-and-proper CEO and very much in charge businesswoman but from time to time would join with a group of other presenters and customers at the conference hotel for a few minutes of drink and conversation after the commercial exhibits closed for the evening.

It was after one of those times that she and I found ourselves alone together in a conference hotel elevator and she mentioned that there were some additional information packets concerning some instrumentation my research group was considering purchasing up in her hotel room. The implications were obvious, and I understood. Some time later we had discovered that this prim-and-proper CEO who seemed aloof and reserved had a well hidden submissiveness that emerged as well as a secretive exhibitionist streak.

It was not an instantaneous decision for her to make that offer to come to her room, but one that had apparently been considered for some months. My very light flirting and gentlemanly behaviors were also a factor. She told me (some moths later when we again met at the next conference) that she was wondering how I would respond to that invitation. We enjoyed each other for many years till our changes in careers gave us no more conference opportunities.

So I would say the conference opportunities are real, and in part because they offer that "away from home" venue as well as some familiarity with the other attendees for some of those sorts of things.

Prof Wood

I had a similar experience at a conference, although the time frame was much shorter than yours.

We were both young lawyers attending an out-of-town seminar when we met. Over the two weeks, she and I started hanging out with a group after each day’s seminar. Gradually, she and I started hanging out more by ourselves. It was innocent at first.

At the end of the first week, she asked me to give her a ride back to the city that it turned out we both lived (Washington, DC). Thus we spent several hours in the car together going home and coming back the following Sunday night for the second week of the seminar.

We started avoiding other people after each days’ seminar. Finally, another person in our group asked when we wanted to meet for the evening, and Linda said that she thought she would just spend the night in her hotel room. I said something similar, then instead of going my room, I circled back to her room. I knocked on the door. She opened the door laughing, knowing it would be me.

We spent some time talking, and then I said, “I get these vibes between us.” (I know it was a cheezy line, but it worked.). She acknowledged she was feeling it. Somehow, we skipped past the fact she was married (I was single at the time), and decided we would fuck. She wasn’t on birth control, so I said I would go out for condoms. In reality I had some, but I didn’t want to seem too prepared.

We spent the rest of the week’s seminar fucking each night, and we agreed to see each other when we got back to DC.

So did it then become an affair?

Yes, you could call it an affair. She ended leaving her husband for me, and we had a long-term relationship. After being monogamous for a couple of years, she decided she wanted to experience sex with other men (and women, as it turned out).

[sandy691196]

So it wasn't a hot extramarital starting off at a conference... it was the real thing.. a "love" relationship blossomed.

[isinlarsa]

So it wasn't a hot extramarital starting off at a conference... it was the real thing.. a "love" relationship blossomed.

It was extramarital at first for her. And it was her only extramarital experience. Then when she left her husband it turned into a "love" relationship until she decided she want to expand her sexual experiences.

[sandy691196]

yeps