Why I don't like the cuckold community

[Bluetoed]

Adding another sign that a story is fake:

The choir begins to determine what the preacher preaches.

Continuing to produce more and more creative writing is a daunting task, and eventually the ideas of what to write about begin to become sparse for the writer. At this point the writer begins to take direction in some form or another from those responding to their posts. Respondents plant seeds in their responses, and the writer uses those seeds for inspiration and grows them into new stories.

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

the stories are unbelievable. I feel like I'm talking to a group of pathological liars half the time.

There is some of that to be sure.

Cuckolding can give off incel vibes (sometimes being an incel is the fantasy).

Also true, but not always.

women don't want to be married to beta males. You can be an alpha and a cuck. Being so secure that your wife having a guy on the side doesn't bother you is a sign of strength, being so insecure you can't handle the slightest bit of jealousy is a sign of weakness. Cucks on forums relish in their weakness. I feel bad for their wives. What's worse, they put this forward sacrificing their wife's happiness for their own fetish, when cuckolding is about the wife's happiness and not the husband's.

I general I agree, but it depends. My husband is only beta in bed, and that was our deal. Every other aspect of life, especially work, he's Alpha. He's definitely not insecure. You're right sacrificing a wife's happiness for a fetish is NOT a good thing, and is the fast road to a divorce.

[Wisher]

Adding another sign that a story is fake:

The choir begins to determine what the preacher preaches.

Continuing to produce more and more creative writing is a daunting task, and eventually the ideas of what to write about begin to become sparse for the writer. At this point the writer begins to take direction in some form or another from those responding to their posts. Respondents plant seeds in their responses, and the writer uses those seeds for inspiration and grows them into new stories.

I can't even begin to tell you the numbers of stories I've been able to predict the twists and turns in weeks or months ahead.

They really do become predictable.

[trecital]

Adding another sign that a story is fake:

The choir begins to determine what the preacher preaches.

Continuing to produce more and more creative writing is a daunting task, and eventually the ideas of what to write about begin to become sparse for the writer. At this point the writer begins to take direction in some form or another from those responding to their posts. Respondents plant seeds in their responses, and the writer uses those seeds for inspiration and grows them into new stories.

I can't even begin to tell you the numbers of stories I've been able to predict the twists and turns in weeks or months ahead.

They really do become predictable.

I've had a bit of fun with this, in the past. It's quite easy to make posts in stories, in a subtle way, that pull the story teller in a certain direction. Ok, you can't gaurantee that it wouldn't have gone in that direction anyway.
There was/is one particular long running story that has these subtle twists. I would read a new development, and think "Didn't someone mention/hint about that idea, a few pages back?". Was really quite funny to see.

[trecital]

Another quite amusing type of thread in the Cuckold forum starts out with a seemingly innocent question, or statement, where the poster is not actually in a cuck relationship.
Then, several posts later, in the same thread, he becomes a cuckold. I often wonder how he had the foresight to be posting in the cuck forum, rather than perhaps the Wannabe.

[Wisher]

I've had a bit of fun with this, in the past. It's quite easy to make posts in stories, in a subtle way, that pull the story teller in a certain direction. Ok, you can't gaurantee that it wouldn't have gone in that direction anyway.
There was/is one particular long running story that has these subtle twists. I would read a new development, and think "Didn't someone mention/hint about that idea, a few pages back?". Was really quite funny to see.

When they first start and you see a certain progression, you can all but guarantee they'll end up with a woman, a black guy and sometimes a relative, neighbor or workmate in one way or another. There are very few exceptions.

[saveacow]

Could someone please compile a list of longer stories that could be considered likely to be true according to the hints given in this thread. In other words what are your favorites that certainly are true. It is disappointing to navigate all these fakes. :/ Thank you!

[trecital]

....you can all but guarantee they'll end up with a woman, a black guy and sometimes a relative, neighbor or workmate in one way or another....

And sometimes all of the above! Within the first fortnight......

[trecital]

Could someone please compile a list of longer stories that could be considered likely to be true according to the hints given in this thread. In other words what are your favorites that certainly are true. It is disappointing to navigate all these fakes. :/ Thank you!

That's very difficult to do. Whether a story is true or not, partly depends on the reader. It depends on your credibility level (gullibility?). Quite a lot of readers here don't want to question the truthfulness of stories. And sometimes get quite angry if someone else points out the gaping holes (no, not those 'gaping holes') in the plot. I've even seen posts that show that the OP is lying/fabricating stuff, followed immediately by another post from someone that comments, oblivious that the thread has just been shown to be a fake story. Some people just don't want their wank material 'taken away' from them.

You can try looking at the length of threads. This isn't a reliable way to determine it's truthfulness. But, it will give you an idea if the story has got 'legs', if it's one that can run, rather than being of the "My wife found a bull, and I've become a cock sucking, panty wearing cuck, who's been put in a cage, and my little willy has now shrunk to a tiny stub", type. All arrived at within the first page or two.

There are stories I'd highly recommend, but you might not like, because they aren't your 'cup of tea'. Some people don't care about believability. The current fascination of fantasy fiction films, superhero stuff, Marvel comics heroes, etc, testifies to that. Not knocking that, if that's what you like. But, you see people discussing this type of entertainment like it's a real thing. There is a long tradition of people who send birthday cards, even gifts, to characters in soap operas, and want to attend the funerals of characters that have 'died' in them. My tripe fiction might be your 'true to life' story.

Personally, I don't care if it's real or fiction. But, for me, it has to sound credible. But even that is a difficult test to apply. I'm making a judgement about whether it sounds credible to me. But, if I haven't had those same life experiences as the OP, then I'm less likely to believe it. Which is problematic, as it means that we are more likely to believe something that fits our own experiences.

The things that I would watch out for, in particular, are mentions of things like 10", and larger cocks. Do a bit of research and take note of the percentage of cocks that are 10" or above (as researched by reliable, reputable surveys). There's your first clue about believability. People will swear blind that the bull pulled down his pants and a 14" cock dropped out.....and he might not even be erect yet. You can stop reading at this point, if you don't want to read a work of fiction. Cocks that shrink in a chastity cage.....complete nonsense, but plays to a cuck desire. Stop reading if credibility is important to you. The wife is a demure housewife up till this point, but the moment a 'bull' comes on the scene she becomes a cock hungry slut, taking it in all holes..... Anal sex without lubrication, and without pain the first time....
The list goes on, and on.

Sorry, you are going to have to make your own mind up about what you think is true and what is fiction, masquerading as truth.

[Wisher]

The truer that not ones are likely the longer slow burns without a lot of intimate details and jumping from partner to partner day after day. See Jane's Adventure for example.

I used to think Jasmine was legit, and it may still be.


The more extreme they are, the farther out there they go, the less likely they are to be real.

[Wisher]

One other clue is really long posts. Most forum posts are a couple of hundred words and a few paragraphs at the most. The ones that are thousands of words, dozens of paragraphs and read like a stand alone short story .... just may be.

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

With some exceptions, I often find the "slow burn" threads to be boring, no offence to the ones here. For example, I dont do a daily journal.. posting every time I go for a coffee, or have a phone call. But you're right the threads that quickly go from curious to extreme are hard to believe. I post the experiences that are memorable for me and I have a lot to say about. It's therapeutic to recall it and write it out in detail. Describing what I am feeling in the moment turns me on and means the most to me as a woman. That is why my posts are longer. I'm walking through the experience again in my mind, hopefully talking you along with me as I do. I will go through phases where something interests me a lot, then die out over time after it's played out, and I move on. I may revisit something I worked through later, but whether I write about it depends on how it affected me. We, as hotwives and cuck husbands, are by definition open to situations that vanilla couples would never consider, so will some situations sound unbelievable? Yes. Some of us have completely different ideas of what our play life should look like and how far we are willing to take it. What may be extreme for someone may not be enough for another. Something may seem "made up" for a person who would never consider or "allow" their wife or husband to do a certain thing, but it's what another person craves and will "cross the line" that others wont cross. All of us in OHW are doing that to some degree by partaking in this hotwife-cuckold kink we all love.

[Bluetoed]

Could someone please compile a list of longer stories that could be considered likely to be true according to the hints given in this thread. In other words what are your favorites that certainly are true. It is disappointing to navigate all these fakes. :/ Thank you!

The number one thing to look for in a true story is things not working out as planned. Anyone in this lifestyle will tell you that things never go perfect. Meet ups cancel or no show. There was no chemistry. They were decent but the wife doesn't want to settle and is still looking. The wife loved the new bull, but the bull moved on and broke her heart. She tries something new, hoping she would but like it, but ended up hating it. The husband and wife realize they aren't on the same page and the rules aren't clear. Etc, etc...

That's not to say there is not someone out there who is writing a story and has never had a road bump along the way. Just like there are real lottery winners out there. But the odds are highly against it happening. In this lifestyle, things rarely ever go perfect, especially in the beginning when the couple is trying to get started.

Now, someone could decide to share their story and remove all the negative experiences they had. And while it is technically true, what the reader is reading isn't what really happened. All the reader gets is "based on a true story" where only sunshine and rainbows occurred. If you are a person here to learn if this lifestyle is for you, that story is very misleading, because without the negative parts, the experience isn't really how it went.

I can't give a list of ones I think are true, but I will give one example of one where I lean towards it being true. That would be this one: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=71862

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

Could someone please compile a list of longer stories that could be considered likely to be true according to the hints given in this thread. In other words what are your favorites that certainly are true. It is disappointing to navigate all these fakes. :/ Thank you!

The number one thing to look for in a true story is things not working out as planned. Anyone in this lifestyle will tell you that things never go perfect. Meet ups cancel or no show. There was no chemistry. They were decent but the wife doesn't want to settle and is still looking. The wife loved the new bull, but the bull moved on and broke her heart. She tries something new, hoping she would but like it, but ended up hating it. The husband and wife realize they aren't on the same page and the rules aren't clear. Etc, etc...

That's not to say there is not someone out there who is writing a story and has never had a road bump along the way. Just like there are real lottery winners out there. But the odds are highly against it happening. In this lifestyle, things rarely ever go perfect, especially in the beginning when the couple is trying to get started.

Now, someone could decide to share their story and remove all the negative experiences they had. And while it is technically true, what the reader is reading isn't what really happened. All the reader gets is "based on a true story" where only sunshine and rainbows occurred. If you are a person here to learn if this lifestyle is for you, that story is very misleading, because without the negative parts, the experience isn't really how it went.

I can't give a list of ones I think are true, but I will give one example of one where I lean towards it being true. That would be this one: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=71862

Bluetoed, your response assumes that someone is keeping something of a journal of every experience. We used to have lots of what you describe, but I never write about those. What is there to say about someone not showing up? How boring! I mostly only write about the ones that do work out. Also, after many years, I have built up enough contacts that I know who is contacting me or who I want to see again, and those are (usually) going to work out.

BTW, it should be noted that to claim by name that someone's post is fake is against the forum rules (or at least it used to be).

[Bluetoed]

Could someone please compile a list of longer stories that could be considered likely to be true according to the hints given in this thread. In other words what are your favorites that certainly are true. It is disappointing to navigate all these fakes. :/ Thank you!

The number one thing to look for in a true story is things not working out as planned. Anyone in this lifestyle will tell you that things never go perfect. Meet ups cancel or no show. There was no chemistry. They were decent but the wife doesn't want to settle and is still looking. The wife loved the new bull, but the bull moved on and broke her heart. She tries something new, hoping she would but like it, but ended up hating it. The husband and wife realize they aren't on the same page and the rules aren't clear. Etc, etc...

That's not to say there is not someone out there who is writing a story and has never had a road bump along the way. Just like there are real lottery winners out there. But the odds are highly against it happening. In this lifestyle, things rarely ever go perfect, especially in the beginning when the couple is trying to get started.

Now, someone could decide to share their story and remove all the negative experiences they had. And while it is technically true, what the reader is reading isn't what really happened. All the reader gets is "based on a true story" where only sunshine and rainbows occurred. If you are a person here to learn if this lifestyle is for you, that story is very misleading, because without the negative parts, the experience isn't really how it went.

I can't give a list of ones I think are true, but I will give one example of one where I lean towards it being true. That would be this one: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=71862

Bluetoed, your response assumes that someone is keeping something of a journal of every experience. We used to have lots of what you describe, but I never write about those. What is there to say about someone not showing up? How boring! I mostly only write about the ones that do work out. Also, after many years, I have built up enough contacts that I know who is contacting me or who I want to see again, and those are (usually) going to work out.

And there is nothing wrong with doing what you do here. My point is, if someone is reading posts here because they are considering this lifestyle and want to read about real experiences, look for the stories where things didn't go perfect. The reader will get a better picture of what the lifestyle is really like from threads like that than threads where nothing ever went wrong.

BTW, it should be noted that to claim by name that someone's post is fake is against the forum rules (or at least it used to be).

I am well aware of those rules, which is why I didn't do that. I linked to a story that I believe is likely true.

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

Bluetoed, I'm so sorry! I misread the post!

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

Could someone please compile a list of longer stories that could be considered likely to be true according to the hints given in this thread. In other words what are your favorites that certainly are true. It is disappointing to navigate all these fakes. :/ Thank you!

The number one thing to look for in a true story is things not working out as planned. Anyone in this lifestyle will tell you that things never go perfect. Meet ups cancel or no show. There was no chemistry. They were decent but the wife doesn't want to settle and is still looking. The wife loved the new bull, but the bull moved on and broke her heart. She tries something new, hoping she would but like it, but ended up hating it. The husband and wife realize they aren't on the same page and the rules aren't clear. Etc, etc...

That's not to say there is not someone out there who is writing a story and has never had a road bump along the way. Just like there are real lottery winners out there. But the odds are highly against it happening. In this lifestyle, things rarely ever go perfect, especially in the beginning when the couple is trying to get started.

Now, someone could decide to share their story and remove all the negative experiences they had. And while it is technically true, what the reader is reading isn't what really happened. All the reader gets is "based on a true story" where only sunshine and rainbows occurred. If you are a person here to learn if this lifestyle is for you, that story is very misleading, because without the negative parts, the experience isn't really how it went.

I can't give a list of ones I think are true, but I will give one example of one where I lean towards it being true. That would be this one: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=71862

Bluetoed, your response assumes that someone is keeping something of a journal of every experience. We used to have lots of what you describe, but I never write about those. What is there to say about someone not showing up? How boring! I mostly only write about the ones that do work out. Also, after many years, I have built up enough contacts that I know who is contacting me or who I want to see again, and those are (usually) going to work out.

And there is nothing wrong with doing what you do here. My point is, if someone is reading posts here because they are considering this lifestyle and want to read about real experiences, look for the stories where things didn't go perfect. The reader will get a better picture of what the lifestyle is really like from threads like that than threads where nothing ever went wrong.

BTW, it should be noted that to claim by name that someone's post is fake is against the forum rules (or at least it used to be).

I am well aware of those rules, which is why I didn't do that. I linked to a story that I believe is likely true.

That is a good point! The experiences will be skewed. I apologize I misread what you linked to. It's a good example.

[Wisher]

The number one thing to look for in a true story is things not working out as planned.

I believe several are just fleshing out a story for another site, trying to gauge responses and adjust according before they write them. In fact, I've seen a few members here using the same IDs on another site and writing the same story with some changes.

[nnjcpl2002]

For me, I find the stories and accounts of cuckold experiences to be much hotter when they ring true and are believable. Everything I've posted here has been 100% real.

[parklife]

Now, someone could decide to share their story and remove all the negative experiences they had. And while it is technically true, what the reader is reading isn't what really happened. All the reader gets is "based on a true story" where only sunshine and rainbows occurred. If you are a person here to learn if this lifestyle is for you, that story is very misleading, because without the negative parts, the experience isn't really how it went.

If someone is here ‘to ‘learn if the lifestyle is for’ them, they should probably not read stories anyway…. Plenty of advice threads to learn about things. Stories are just that.. stories. There is no need for them to be detailed retellings of reality. Didn’t Mark Twain once say, “Never let the truth get in the way of a good story.”

A thread discussing the journey of cuckolding and a thread containing a story about cuckolding are two different things and quite often are easily discernible.

I’ve opened many threads over the years and decided in two paragraphs it wasn’t going to be something I cared to read. Like culling thru personal ad responses, you gotta get good at being quick to cut bait on threads that don’t serve your interests or needs.

For the record, I’m not a fan of fake stories but then again, many a works of fiction in the world are just as telling and educational with great advice and lessons to be learned compared to true accounts. And it’s not my place to rain on anyone else’s parade.

[coastalkid]

I try to keep an open mind. I'm not a cuck and my wife isn't a hot wife. We do tease about when we have sex, so at least it's out in the open for us. So, as mrs_hotwifecplsa suggests, many things seem much more difficult to find believable as an outsider. What I consider extreme may be far more sensitized than what successful hot wife couples find insignificant. That's why I try to realize that people get their kicks in a lot of ways. Those ways of getting their kicks are wide and varied, with no specific set of criteria to adhere to.

The part where it gets sketchy to me is when it gets to be too cruel by intention. The ubiquitous 180 degree change in a wife's attitude towards seeking out ways to essentially emotionally torture her husband seems so incongruent. I would think it would be difficult for a wife to find a "new pleasure" in tormenting her husband, especially if she truly did love him with all her heart and soul.

I find if I can ask enough questions, and the OP sticks around enough to answer them, it doesn't take much to discern if a post/thread is believable or not. People are crazy, they're random, they do and don't do all kinds of things. Permanent denial, permanent chastity, permanent servitude, not being allowed to have a sex life and list goes on, sure, I imagine a few may be able to do this successfully but only in those rare instances of exceptionally paired couples.

I like to give the benefit of the doubt but with a short leash for BS.

[Cuck4Life]

I have enjoyed reading many of these comments. I have lived as a cuckold to some degree most of my adult life. My journey began in the early 70’s while in my late teens. This was long before the internet so I had never heard the word “cuckold”. My wife at that time openly had sex with many of my friends and coworkers. She was the “go to girl” with our large group of friends so it was just natural that she continued this play after we married but did cut back to a few select guys. We divorced after 8 years for other reasons.

When I remarried I wanted to continue this type of lifestyle. At this point the internet was up and going so I looked online and learned about cuckolding. I read everything I could and tried to figure out exactly where I fit. Once i thought i had my thoughts together I approached my wife and told her of this interest. She knew I enjoyed seeing her getting attention from another guys but this was alittle much for her to comprehend. The conversation went OK and see was open to learning more.

She got online and was shocked by many of the comments and stores. This was not a good first impression to this lifestyle.

Now getting back to some of the comments and concerns that have been offered up . This “fetish” has a wide spectrum of interest
and can include many emotions, some pleasurable and some painful. Even though I would not necessarily recommend this lifestyle I do wish it was recognized as a real fetish. There are a few clinical Psychologists that have studied this in detail but very few have anything positive to say.

Another thing I noticed was some of the comments about the stories on cuckolding. I have written many stories about “Little stories about life with exwife” that are based on true experiences we had during the 70’s. I changed the names to shield the identity but otherwise they are spot on. I got some nice comments but eventually I stopped posting because many of the stories were repetitive.

I have throughly enjoyed this lifestyle. Many guys fantasize about it but I was fortunate enough to live it.

[Wisher]

I have written many stories about “Little stories about life with exwife” that are based on true experiences we had during the 70’s. I changed the names to shield the identity but otherwise they are spot on. I got some nice comments but eventually I stopped posting because many of the stories were repetitive.

Mine would depress too many people.

[Wisher]

People showing no regard for others is pissing me off too.

Just because you like to show your bits in public doesn't mean anybody else wants to see them.

[trecital]

Just some random thoughts about why I don't post here anymore. Wish you all well.

I thought I'd just go back and re-read the OP's opening thread, and was struck by the above quote.
However, since his original post, the search function lists 16 further posts, 15 of which are in the Cuckold forum.

Anyway, glad you're back. Although it doesn't really look like you ever left.