Introducing the Hotwife Concept

[Sharing One]

For some of us guys, we carry around the fantasy of having a hotwife for a long time before bringing up the idea with our other half due to a fear that she would think we were perverted, or that we did not love them, or they would shoot down the idea, or for other reasons. So we just kelp it in our heads for a long time. I took most of these steps. I am sure that all men do not or did not have this fear, but I did.

Eventually, I got past this fear by taking small baby steps to test the waters. I thought it would be good to list some small steps that a person could take to help in this venture. It would be nice to read some of your steps.

1. Ask her to share with you about her prior sex life including all of the details. You will have to convinced her that you are not judging her or wanting to use it against her. This is an important step, because you have to earn her trust. If you want her to share what she does in the future, she needs to feel comfortable in discussing the past.

2. See if you can get her to share her fantasies with you. If your not ready to go into your hot-wife idea's you can bring that up later.

3. Ask her if she will share with you what guys she thinks are sexy or good looking.

4. Tell her about guys you saw in the gym locker room who had a large penis or standing next to you at a urinal, just to see what her reaction would be in regard to large penises, or you could asked if she thinks its true about what they say about black men being good in bed.

5. Leave a porn magazine around the house with a photo of two men having sex with a woman.

6. Get her a dildo and see if you can get her to use it with you.

7. Put some mayonnaise on her pubic area and tell her you want to clean it off with your tongue, just to see if you could.

Thats all for now. I can add more later. I would love to hear any steps you took before you got her on board.

[vrmtr]

Interesting steps. I have been a wannabe for more than 10 years. I actually have done all but number 7, the mayonnaise. so, I'm interested in what more you have as suggestions. My journey has been fun.

[Sharing One]

#8 Tell her that you heard that sloppy seconds felt really different and that you would like to try it with her by putting baby oil or some other lubricant on your penis. This would get her to thinking that you really are serious.

[Sharing One]

#8 Tell her that you heard that sloppy seconds felt really different and that you would like to try it with her by putting baby oil or some other lubricant on your penis. This would get her to thinking that you really are serious.

[Sharing One]

#9 Take her out on a date to dinner or lunch then take her shopping to buy some sexy shoes and clothes tell her you want to make the other guys jealous.

[vrmtr]

Excellent!! I like them both. I'll be working on them. We have roleplayed her being with a guy before me, but never put on lube, lotion to simulate his cum.

[Sharing One]

Great to hear that you have tried many of the actions discussed. I would love to hear about her reaction to using the oil or mayonnaise. If you have tried any other things, we would love to hear what they were, and how she responded when you brought up the subject?

[vrmtr]

As I mentioned, it's been a long process and I have not pushed it. She is /was shy so getting her to open up about her old boyfriends, was difficult. She also felt I was odd because I'm not jealous. She equates being jealous with love so for me wanting to hear about her ex boyfriends to be odd. I had to educate her and work through that before she gave me details. Sending her podcasts AND listening to podcasts as we travel helps alot!. Strictly anonymous!

We also go to the gym, We play along there. I tell her about guys I see checking her out and she tells me when she sees a guy she likes and when she feels a guy is checking her out...this is fun and without the nurturing I don't think it would have been possible with her.

We also "live in the woods" this has allowed us to get into nudity. kids grown and gone. we use hot tub nude and now I have her going to local nude beach come summer time.

Lastyear with me traveling, I suggested we go to Florida and go to a nude resort. She did not want to go to family resort so we ended up at lifestyle resort for the weekend. we did not play with others but we did go into a playroom and we did get approached by a single guy.

So I continue the journey, she is still shy, but opening up and becoming more confident. Some day I still hope it will happen!

[vrmtr]

So just tonight I have to add, through texting, my wife agreed to sign up for a free SDC account. I suggested we go next month, nude bowling....she came back saying g she'd have to think about it. She then said they guys who are bowling are probably not her guys and maybe there's another way...so I asked how (knowing she had previously no to other approachs) ...she does not it set up..she say bar or social media.


I said let's try social media so, we will come next week!

[Sharing One]

Wow! It sounds like you are very close to having a hotwife, especially where she comes up with the suggestion of social media or a bar. You were wise to put the ball in her court to come up with an idea. Both of her suggestions are great choices. I agree with you, the social media being the first choice would give you both a safer way to start your journey. She could share her conversations with you, then you both could discuss options in private before she responds. This way you both could stay on the same page.

Did you ever get a chance to try the lotion or mayonnaise? If you did, it would be interesting to hear how she responded, and how you proposed the idea.

[vrmtr]

No, I have not been able to try the mayonnaise, oil idea. I'm actually on the road for a business trip. We text to stay connected

[Sharing One]

OK, I understand. Everything takes longer when you’re apart.

#10 One other thing you may want to propose to her, especially since she was the one that mentioned the bar scene, is to go to a bar that is located in a hotel near an airport during a weeknight. If you have a location like this near your home, it could be a good place to start for the following reasons: a) She could meet a man that is on a business trip who is staying at the hotel and has his own room. b) meet a person who is married which could reduce the chances of a std, or a person who is not looking for a long term relationship. C) meet a man who is living town on the weekend.

You two could go in separately and she sit at the bar and you elsewhere. She could text you from the bathroom as to his room number, if she goes with him. She could also tell him that you are her roommate and you would give her a lift home afterwards. Of course this could be done differently, but it should be done in a way that includes her input. I am only throwing out some options.

[Sharing One]

#11 Another way to up your game is to get her to use a guy’s real name who she thinks is sexy instead of an imaginary man during pillow talk. You could even ask her to call you his name while you are having sex with her.
I found that this approach helped to move us forward on our journey.

It went like this for us, I asked her what position her old boyfriend liked best and she said doggy style, so I mounted her doggy style and asked her to call me by his name. It helped her bring back old memories and in a very short time frame, she invited him with my approval to a threesome with us. He accepted and we had a wonderful time together.

[annsman]

I’m always amazed reading how men are worried about raising this and wonder how many other things they keep secret.

We were both sexually experienced before we met and had no hang ups about talking about our past, except that we were both turned on talking about her experiences than mine.

[annsman]

I’m always amazed reading how men are worried about raising this and wonder how many other things they keep secret.

We were both sexually experienced before we met and had no hang ups about talking about our past, although we were both turned on talking about her experiences than mine.

In our case it was reading the wife sharing letters in my magazines, talking about her past boyfriends to us accepting we wanted to do it for real.

[Sharing One]

There all types of women, some are the ones that initiate the hotwife lifestyle and there are others that get very hurt or upset if a loved ones brings the subject up. It has a lot to do with their beliefs and past experiences. Sometimes they won’t go along with the idea because they think their husband is wanting to have sex with another woman or they think their husband could not handle it due to his jealousy and the wife just refuses to dicuss the issue. In my case my first wife shut me down so hard that I would not bring it up again. In my second marriage I did not want to get shut down again so I slowly introduced the subject in very subtle ways over an extended period of time, and eventually she jumped on board and I have been a very happy man ever since.

[vrmtr]

Can you expand alittle on this " I slowly introduced the subject" What types of things did you do and or say?

[gwl9dta4]

In my case i just said "i have a confession to make and i think it's a burden on me", with a look of concern my wife looked at me and said what's wrong? I confessed liking a fantasy of having a hotwife. She looked at me bewildered and said "what's the big deal about that?" and we both laughed. The rest is history.

Don't overcomplicate things. Just say what you like and let the cards fall where they may. No need for any formulas. Get to the point and work up your confidence. I used to think like you when younger, and this failed. She will either love it and label you a perv and want no part in it.

Hot wives are born and not made.

[Sharing One]

OK, here’s how I slowly introduce the subject to her: one night we went to the movies, after the movie, I went to the mens room while she waited on me. I decided to see what she would say if I said something about a big dick. So, when I came out of the bathroom, I asked her if she noticed the guy who came out of the bathroom ahead of me, she said yes. Then I made up a false story and told her that the guy stood next to me at the urinal and when he pulled out his dick, it was the biggest penis I ever saw. I said the other thing he did was stand there and shake it after he finished. I think he was trying to show it off. She just laughed. I was hoping she would say more but she did not. So I up the game by saying that there were several guys at our gym that had large penises. She ask who, I said I did not know their names, but I would point them out the next time we were at the gym. I even told her that the guy we play racketball with was very large. She said really, but thats all she said. So I dropped the subject, I was just planting a seed. A few days later, I brought home a porn magazine that had all kinds on nude photos. One photo showed a woman standing nude and two nude men caressing her. I showed the photo to her and she said that woman was really lucky. I knew then, I was on a good track. The next thing, I did was ask her to tell me about her old boyfriend. I kelp pushing her for more details. I made sure she did not think I would not hold it against and that I was not being judgmental. I assured her that it excited me. So when she started talking, I asked questions like what position did he like most, what was the time that got you the most excited. She said he like doggy style the most, I asked her if he was bigger than me and she said yes. So when we started having sex, I mounted her doggy style. I asked her if this was the way he did it. I even ask her to call me his name, just so she could relive the event. I told her that I would like to meet him, the next time he was in town, maybe we could go out to dinner together. I know she thought I was nuts, but it got her wheels spinning. She laughed and said she would think about it. There were other things I did but this one thing seem to work the best.

A few days later she came home from work and said that he called her at work and was coming in town to visit his mom for a few days. She said she told him that I would like to meet him and we could meet for drinks while he was in town. I agreed

[Sharing One]

I will provide the rest of the details in my next post, it was a very hot night.

[Sharing One]

Well we setup the time to meet but prior to him coming into town, we roll played in bed as to what we would do if we did have a threesome with him. For example, I used a vibrator on her vagina while I penatrated her annus from behind to see if she could handle two penises. She passed the test and seemed eager to proceed.

On the night of our meeting we met at a local bar and we sat around talking and drinking getting to know each other with no mention of sex. After an hour of this talk, I ask him if he would like to come to our place for more drinks, he agreed and I ask him to follow us in his car. On the way to our place my wife looked over at me and ask if I was really ready for a threesome and I said yes, then she ask if I thought it would harm our marriage and I said no. I asked her the same questions and her answer was the same as mine.

At our place, I fixed drinks while they talked, then I joined them in conversation. To get the ball rolling, I got my wife’s hand and walked her over to where he was sitting and asked them to see if they could rekindal some old fires, she looked at me with a big smile and then she bent down to give him a long sloppy kiss, I said you two guys may want to go back to the bedroom so they got up and walked down the hall to our bedroom and I followed. They both eagerly stripped down and she pushed him down on the bed and sat on him cowgirl style, I was watching from behind. I could clearly see his dick enter her. Now they are both going at it like crazy, after a while he asked me if I would like to join them, so I stripped down and joined. We did it all, split roast, taking turns, and annal vagina with her. He and I never touched. Later he left and I reclaimed her. What a night, it was great, more to come later.