Not the same after watching

[Yaosboni]

Hello guys, a bit too much for a first post, probably, but long story short-wife hooked up with a guy we found from swinger friends. We were both up for it, she was actually very turned on, he came to our house after we chatted for a bit a few days ago, we talked a little and my wife decided to offer herself. We all went to the bedroom and stuff started getting steamy, I really wasn’t prepared for what I was about to watch. I felt my stomach ache and I felt anxious yet a little aroused too. But they were at it like I wasn’t there. A few days ago and I still feel that was a hit on my mental, I don’t “hate” it, it was just a little overwhelming and I just don’t know how to feel about a lot of things. Some parts of the act are forever imprinted in my mind

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Yasboni.

[johncitizen69]

You are probably in the best place here in this forum after your experience. You'll find lots of support from many of us here, including myself. Personally, I think all should be ok, just the shock of it all still needs to settle in. Nevertheless, don't give up on your girl as you may find you just experienced what some of us might say is the best moment in your life.

[funfortwo]

Hello Yaosboni,
We've been in a hotwife dynamic for almost two years. Initially, I was all for it and it took almost 10 years for us to finally agree to move forward. We had some struggles initially, and I totally was in a bad space. It took time and a lot of communication between my wife and I to move past it. In her words, "this was your idea, if you want to stop...I'm okay with that. I want you to think about it because it may never happen again if we stop. You're my number one guy, I love you with all my heart....but I don't want the swing in emotions. Take some time and think about it..." I thought about it for a while and we had A LOT of discussions. I felt that was an important time in our process as we've taken off and haven't looked back. That's just my experience, but you have to draw your own conclusions.

[Treat yourself girl]

Hello guys, a bit too much for a first post, probably, but long story short-wife hooked up with a guy we found from swinger friends. We were both up for it, she was actually very turned on, he came to our house after we chatted for a bit a few days ago, we talked a little and my wife decided to offer herself. We all went to the bedroom and stuff started getting steamy, I really wasn’t prepared for what I was about to watch. I felt my stomach ache and I felt anxious yet a little aroused too. But they were at it like I wasn’t there. A few days ago and I still feel that was a hit on my mental, I don’t “hate” it, it was just a little overwhelming and I just don’t know how to feel about a lot of things. Some parts of the act are forever imprinted in my mind

So, you were really up for having your gal become a hotwife, but seeing her getting fucked... and enjoying it hasn't been as good as the fantasy.

Maybe her bull fucked her better than you can? Maybe your gal was really turned on at fulfilling YOUR fantasy for you? Perhaps it was this that made her really get into her bull... making you feel neglected... when really she was fucking him for your pleasure?

You say part of you was still aroused... how about next time you leave them alone and don't watch?

When Amy first became a Hotwife I was always in the room. I never had the bad feelings you have though... just super turned on. But as time went on I became happy to let her fly solo, and to be honest I find that even more arousing... thinking about what she's up to... hoping she's loving it... and getting the details when she gets home leads to the most amazing reclaim fucks.

Don't give up. Talk to each other and make some adjustments.

[54321]

You and your wife need to spend time coming to terms with this new development.
Are you both OK?
Is your relationship still OK?
Do you still love each other?
Are you still best friends?
Do you still want to go through life's adventures and grow old together?
Do you still want to make love with each other?
Are you still each other's number one?
How do you both feel?

I'm sure you can think of many more questions.
Take your time. Let the waters settle.
An experience like that can be wonderfully exciting or horribly terrifying or both at the same time.

Take your time.

Every good wish,

54321

[AHDog]

Wow, just watching the first time would be overwhelming for anybody. Just try to remember that her feelings are going to be up in the air too, and try to reconnect with her on whatever level she needs you on.