We don’t drink which leads to challenges in meeting people while her inhibitions are reduced.
However, what turns her from being uninterested in the topic, to being extremely aroused and interested, is attention from men that she finds attractive. She’s never interested in them - even when they’re exactly her type - until they show interest. When they do, she instantly does a 180 degree change. The feeling of being desired and thought about by a man she finds attractive is intoxicating for her. She loves the attention and it makes her non-stop horny.
Unfortunately, she hasn’t been in those types of situations often. But thankfully the few times it did happen brought a ton of energy and excitement to our sex life.
I recently found a way for her type of men to show interest in her even if their interest isn’t sexual. Although at some level I’m sure it is sexual most of the time.
About a year ago she asked me to build out her languishing LinkedIn profile. It’s not something she’s skilled at but it’s right in my wheelhouse. So I made her a profile that would get noticed! This included an attractive professional picture along with an interesting bio.
A few days after I made the changes she told me that the VP of sales at a quickly growing software company that’s causing a lot of buzz in her industry viewed her profile. I encouraged her to add him to her network thinking that it would be a good professional contact to have. I wasn’t thinking anything sexual at the time because it was work related and the guy is several states away.
She added him on Thursday and he accepted right away. That Saturday morning she wanted to have sex right away when we woke up and was more assertive and passionate than normal. I had no idea why but I enjoyed it.
When we were having breakfast she asked me what C-Suite meant in a company because this guy worked in the C-Suite. She told that he commented on her post, she liked it, and then went to his page and liked one of his posts. He then liked two more of her posts. She works in government and is an immigrant so she’s not aware of American corporate terminology. But she spent a couple hours studying it that morning - a topic that she has zero interest in!
Then she wanted to have sex again that afternoon and made a comment wondering why she was so horny all of a sudden. Of course, by that time I put two and two together. I knew it was because this executive showed interest in her. But she likes to lie to herself to maintain her loyal, dutiful wife self image.
Since she’s not socially assertive, especially online, her interactions with the executive died down quickly. Although I know she’s on his radar. And it’s not to hire her or sell her software!
Everything was quiet for six months and we forgot about it all. But then last fall I searched from her profile to prospect for leads because she’d built a large network. I work in B to B sales. LinkedIn allows you to view the profiles of people up to three degrees of connection for free so I took advantage of that.
What I didn’t realize is that I wasn’t viewing the profiles anonymously so her picture and profile was showing as ‘This person viewed your profile’ on many of the accounts I viewed. Lo and behold, a handful of the male accounts I viewed looked at her profile and showed up in her account as viewing her profile. And she added one to her network, researched him a bit (for work purposes
), and was really horny that night.Since then I’ve tried to view at least 10-30 profiles a week of men that she might find attractive. It seems that out of every 100 or so I view, 2 or 3 will look at her profile within a week. She’s only added one more to her network but she enjoys being viewed by every one of them.
I’m trying to avoid going to a paid version of LinkedIn. But that may be the next step if this trend stays positive.
I thought I would share for those of you looking for ways to get your wife out there and visible a bit more.
FYI: If you do this make sure you delete the profiles you view from the search bar in the LinkedIn account when you’re done. Otherwise your wife will see that they were viewed.