That sounds v much like where we’re heading. I have no desire or expectation of being replaced as the primary partner, but would like my wife to be enjoying sex with someone she actually cared about (as well as myself).leggysman wrote: ↑Sun Feb 09, 2025 2:44 pmI suppose maybe in this case, you could say it's more in that direction. But I don't see us ever wanting to go too far in that direction, like a triad or something, where he and I are equals. Call me selfish, but I just don't want to give up that much of my gorgeous, amazing leggysandy. And I hope she never feels as strongly about Ethan as she does about me. I want to be her number one, and know it.fitz_f wrote: ↑Sat Feb 08, 2025 6:53 pmSorry if I’ve missed you talking about this, but do the two of you see this heading in more of a poly direction? I only ask because I’m wondering if that’s where we’re heading.
My wife has been hotwifing for around five years now, and it’s been NSA with a few (increasingly unreliable) regulars. I’m starting to feel it would be easier and safer (and I would be happier) if she had a regular boyfriend she actually cared about as well as enjoyed sex with.
This is a big turnaround for us as we both very clear about no emotions or feelings at any point and it was the thing I most feared at the start. But now the thought of my wife having a boyfriend feels pretty exciting and saucy.
With her first guy a couple of years ago, Anthony, it was more than just sex. He was her first, and the NRE was strong. They were in contact all day long, and well into the night. He wanted a girlfriend, and she wasn't resisting too much. It did lead to some discomfort, and some heated discussions between us. We questioned whether we should continue with this. Neither of us handled it perfectly. I certainly wasn't ready for that level of engagement with another man, at the time. But we kept talking, and we did smooth things out relatively quickly.
With a bit more experience, I think we are evolving. Hookups are fun - and I'm sure there will be more of them along the way - but she's been looking for more of a 'regular'. One regular. And then Ethan popped up again.
I've teased her that she wants Ethan to be her boyfriend, which seemed to turn her on, and which she repeated to him. He liked that too. She responds as though she's excited by the notion of the two of us 'sharing' her body and her pussy. Of being a woman with a husband and a boyfriend. Personally, I think I am more relaxed now. And I trust her. So, that seems like the way this could go, and it seems like a fun thing to try ... within reason.
So yeah. Maybe a little bit.
(if he ever gets around to having sex with my hot little wife)
(without pissing her off too much first - which is always a distinct possibility)
It’s been a weird old journey. I think the most jealous I’ve felt was when she and a semi-regular paused between fucking to watch TV together (a show my wife and I both like.)
We haven’t dealt with the NRE thing yet but I don’t mind the idea of her getting to experience that (we’ve been together a v long time, despite being in our 40s). It makes my happy to see her happy. And it’s a weirdly saucy thought too, getting to share that with her.
I think the big change along the way has been coming to realise her feelings for me won’t necessarily change if she also cares about another lover. But it can feel very counter intuitive.