Hall Pass?

[luvwives999]

Before we got married, I told my future wife that we are going to be together for a very long time, 50th anniversary is this Dec. I told her it would be naive of me to think that an attractive woman like her would not get offers. I said do what you want, but never do it behind my back, just be honest with me, I don't want to be the reason you look back and regret not doing something that you want to do. Also, don't do something with someone else you hadn't done with me first, for example MMF or FFM. I would say that my wife has never been monogamous yet has always been faithful. My now 70-year-old wife was asked recently if she would be interested in a 3-some, the man asking didn't specify if it was me, him and her, or he, his wife and her. He knows nothing about our past, so I was a little surprised, but glad that she still has that vibe.

[Drew2]

My wife says she's saving her hall pass but I never say no when she wants to hookup...which she does frequently. I'm not sure what she means by hall pass. I'm guessing she wants a few days with a well hung young stud. That hasn't happened yet.

[Wifekeeley]

My husband gave me a hall pass around a year ago now. TBH I think we both thought it would never get used as I am a very shy and private person in my everyday life. However, it only took around a month and I had taken full advantage of the hall pass. We both knew it was a hot fantasy, but in reality it was even hotter than we imagined:)

[rodturn]

Hope that was a fantastic experience for all concerned! I think a lot of us reading you post would be very interested in hearing more details… some readers are contemplating the move you made and others are looking to compare!

[MatureCouple]

My husband gave me a hall pass around a year ago now. TBH I think we both thought it would never get used as I am a very shy and private person in my everyday life. However, it only took around a month and I had taken full advantage of the hall pass. We both knew it was a hot fantasy, but in reality it was even hotter than we imagined:)

Would love to hear the backstory and the build up to the big event! And how things are going now?

[Mumfred]

My husband gave me a hall pass around a year ago now. TBH I think we both thought it would never get used as I am a very shy and private person in my everyday life. However, it only took around a month and I had taken full advantage of the hall pass. We both knew it was a hot fantasy, but in reality it was even hotter than we imagined:)

Would love to hear the backstory and the build up to the big event! And how things are going now?

Me too!

[DCaftermath]

I gave her a hall pass after the first couple years of marriage, then 14 years later she finally used it. Two thumbs up for that one! I let her know the pass didn’t expire but I have waited now 10 years since the last. Still feels great to me she doesn’t have to worry if something comes along.

[zorro]

Great question. Yes, sort of, I think. The question has led me to wonder what a hall pass is. So, here goes: For me, a hall pass is when my wife plays with a guy without my witnessing them at play or participating in bed with them and without my knowing beforehard that it will happen. It is something I learn about after the fact. Others may have other definitions.

We were a couple sliding between HW and swinging for several years until we settled in with one LTR. I had given her a hall pass to fuck anyone she wanted with the only condition being that she tell me about it soon after. She didn't use it (if you overlook going down hallways at sex parties to pick up guys she wanted to fuck then taking them into a side room to have him deliver the goods) until she did.

When I just returned from a 4-day trip to a professional meeting on the East Coast, she told me that while I was gone, a friend of ours had been over to help with some repairs around the house. She says she had just taken a shower when she stepped out the door wearing nothing but a towel, only to find our friend just a few feet away standing naked with a full erection. "He said, 'Let's fuck!' so we did. We had had him join us in bed on 6-8 occasions, but this was their first time alone. And it was apparently unplanned. She played a total of aboutn 15 times with him, but that was the only "hallpass" event.

In the past few years, we narrowed our range of playmates in view of the pandemic and just the gradual replacing quantity with quality that often happens in the LS over time. We had been settling in with a new FWB I had met at a local clothing-optional hot tub. We had several good MFMs, although for a long time he shied away from fucking. One day when I came home from work, she told me he had come over to play. When asked what happened, she said, "Just fucking around," but actually there had been no fucking, just lots of oral and kissing. After a while, we ditched condoms with him, thinking that might have been interfering with PIV, and things looked up. Eventually, when I arrived home, I was told he had come over unexpectedly, fucked her bareback, and came in her. Although her doing 1-1s had not been our thing, I enjoyed the extra novelty and sexual energy with it. So, it was a good thing, and these days I would be very happy to have her surprise me after a new spontaneous fuck date in our bed. What we learned with a few "hall pass" dates was that she really preferred having 2 men and 2 cocks at the same time. So, our relationship evolved into just MFMs.

I have enjoyed MFMs a great deal, but the excitement of another unplanned hall pass encounter would be welcome.

There is something very primal and intensely erotic about the woman you love taking another man just because on the spot she wants to fuck him -- especially when she is fond of the guy and trusts him.

I can imagine some readers may restrict a "hall pass" to first-time sex partners that the wife spontaneously and passionately finds. The few guys my wife has taken to bed when I am away have all be established play partners, so that leaves me a little uncertain about whether her connecting with such a FWB without me is what would universally considered a hall pass. Input from others would be welcome.

I like hall passes, but I want her to have the guys she wants to have under the conditions that turn her on.

[Aussiem]

My wife of 50 years has been free to fuck whoever she wants since the start. She most certainly has, both with me and alone. She has even rung me while having some afternoon delight with a friend. Very erotic listening while they fuck. Bit hard to concentrate on work while listen to her getting a good shagging.

[Mumfred]

Great question. Yes, sort of, I think. The question has led me to wonder what a hall pass is. So, here goes: For me, a hall pass is when my wife plays with a guy without my witnessing them at play or participating in bed with them and without my knowing beforehard that it will happen. It is something I learn about after the fact. Others may have other definitions.

We were a couple sliding between HW and swinging for several years until we settled in with one LTR. I had given her a hall pass to fuck anyone she wanted with the only condition being that she tell me about it soon after. She didn't use it (if you overlook going down hallways at sex parties to pick up guys she wanted to fuck then taking them into a side room to have him deliver the goods) until she did.

When I just returned from a 4-day trip to a professional meeting on the East Coast, she told me that while I was gone, a friend of ours had been over to help with some repairs around the house. She says she had just taken a shower when she stepped out the door wearing nothing but a towel, only to find our friend just a few feet away standing naked with a full erection. "He said, 'Let's fuck!' so we did. We had had him join us in bed on 6-8 occasions, but this was their first time alone. And it was apparently unplanned. She played a total of aboutn 15 times with him, but that was the only "hallpass" event.

In the past few years, we narrowed our range of playmates in view of the pandemic and just the gradual replacing quantity with quality that often happens in the LS over time. We had been settling in with a new FWB I had met at a local clothing-optional hot tub. We had several good MFMs, although for a long time he shied away from fucking. One day when I came home from work, she told me he had come over to play. When asked what happened, she said, "Just fucking around," but actually there had been no fucking, just lots of oral and kissing. After a while, we ditched condoms with him, thinking that might have been interfering with PIV, and things looked up. Eventually, when I arrived home, I was told he had come over unexpectedly, fucked her bareback, and came in her. Although her doing 1-1s had not been our thing, I enjoyed the extra novelty and sexual energy with it. So, it was a good thing, and these days I would be very happy to have her surprise me after a new spontaneous fuck date in our bed. What we learned with a few "hall pass" dates was that she really preferred having 2 men and 2 cocks at the same time. So, our relationship evolved into just MFMs.

I have enjoyed MFMs a great deal, but the excitement of another unplanned hall pass encounter would be welcome.

There is something very primal and intensely erotic about the woman you love taking another man just because on the spot she wants to fuck him -- especially when she is fond of the guy and trusts him.

I can imagine some readers may restrict a "hall pass" to first-time sex partners that the wife spontaneously and passionately finds. The few guys my wife has taken to bed when I am away have all be established play partners, so that leaves me a little uncertain about whether her connecting with such a FWB without me is what would universally considered a hall pass. Input from others would be welcome.

I like hall passes, but I want her to have the guys she wants to have under the conditions that turn her on.

You and I define hall pass the same. I find the hall pass an exciting concept but I don't think it is something I could handle emotionally in real live. I would always feel like some information is being held back and it would make me wonder.

Thanks for sharing I love hearing the stories.

[WatchinginNJ]

Invariably I end up giving the woman I'm with a hall pass.

One thought I wanted to fuck other people. I would have if she was ok with it, but that's not the purpose. She became a hotwife, and we had a lot of fun. We were on different tracks so it didn't work out.

Of the serious relationships, some worked well others didn't. My ex-wife had one, but she didn't tell me she had used it, she lied the first time she did, and then probably had an emotional affair with the guy until it all came to a head. He was so terrified I might have outed him he got a transfer and moved away.

We tried non-monogamy but a serious illness and some structural issues doomed us.

[JaBe]

My definition of a "hall pass" is the the woman to be able to fuck another guy, but confirming with her SO first.

[zorro]

My definition of a "hall pass" is the the woman to be able to fuck another guy, but confirming with her SO first.

With all due respect, how would a hall pass then differ from your wife simply telling you she had a date? For me, the connotation has been that the woman can act on a hall pass without needing prior "consent" or at least assent from the husband.

[jesandjerry]

Everything started this way:
She went fir one year abroad. I suggested an Open relationship for that time since WE would meet only twice.
She: No way!
Me: If one of US Happens to cheat, it will be difficult for him to confess. If we start lying and misstrusting it will destroy us.
She: OK, thought it's only for you, I am not Interested having Sex with another man.
Six months nothing happened.
Then I "legally" cheatdf and immediately told her. She accepted it, No drama
Two weeks Kater she texted me,: I am going out tonight.
That was not unusual. I wished her fun and went to bed.
In the middle of the night she sent me a Textmessage:
"I just got fucked! I will tell you tomorrow."
Two weeks later again a supize Text Message in the night:
"Baby, I got fucked again, by another Guy. This one I got to know online. WE Met straight in a Hotel. He had no condoms, This IS why we started 69 then we were to horny to stop. I told him he must pull out in time. He fucked me missionary, then I was in top, then He did me doggy Style. In the end he kept his promise, pulled out in time and shot his load over my back. It was grat fun. Please don't get mad at me.

That was four years ago. After it started it happend again and again. In total she got fucked by 11 other men.

[zorro]

Thank you, J&J, for sharing your successful, hot experience.

Notable that you had to break the ice by using a hall pass with another woman before she could feel free to use the one you gave her. Even though she initially said a hall pass would be only for you. Having a wife reciprocate because the husband did it first in my experience doesn't always work out as desired. It's been better when the wife does it first. So, yours is a good news story.

Congratulations!

[JaBe]

My definition of a "hall pass" is the the woman to be able to fuck another guy, but confirming with her SO first.

With all due respect, how would a hall pass then differ from your wife simply telling you she had a date? For me, the connotation has been that the woman can act on a hall pass without needing prior "consent" or at least assent from the husband.

The mere fact that she can fuck another guy constitutes the hall pass. The rest is just being respectful and civilised

[Wifekeeley]

Would love to hear the backstory and the build up to the big event! And how things are going now?

Just to clarify our position on the "Hall Pass" as it has been discussed a bit after our first post. For us it was my husband giving his consent to me to have a sexual encounter with anyone I wanted without prior consent. The only condition was that I told him at the earliest opportunity (Not when having a meal with his parents for instance haha).

Both of us didn't think this hall pass would ever be used, when I go out I'm with my friends and they would obviously ask questions (none of them know). I work in retail so that would also be difficult. However, I go to the gym (Yes its that cliché, sorry) and have been going to the same one for over 2 years. However its not really a public gym, its a private trainers gym were he does classes and one to ones etc.

Yes he is fit and we get along, but I had never actually thought about him in a sexual way. But something in me changed when I knew I had this amazing freedom my husband had gifted me. I started to wonder if I made a move would he reject me, he must have also sensed a changed in me. Because not long after I got my pass we had a moment, that moment when you are close and both looking at each other, you can feel that tension and you both know what each other wants. We kissed, a lot, it was very intense. His hands wandered but unfortunately it was the wrong time of the month so I had to stop him which was absolutely devastating. I got on my knees and sucked his cock till he came in my mouth. It was such a amazing experience as I didn't expect it.

I got home, had food with my Hubby. Put the kids to bed, sat next to my hubby on the sofa and said "You need to reclaim my mouth". The look on his face was priceless.

[rodturn]

Have had a few similar discussions with my wife…. Only condition is the discussion aspect of the encounter later…. Ideally…. A few pictures or video but discussion is mandatory…. Then….. it is all within the bounds!

[Mumfred]

Yes he is fit and we get along, but I had never actually thought about him in a sexual way. But something in me changed when I knew I had this amazing freedom my husband had gifted me. I started to wonder if I made a move would he reject me, he must have also sensed a changed in me. Because not long after I got my pass we had a moment, that moment when you are close and both looking at each other, you can feel that tension and you both know what each other wants. We kissed, a lot, it was very intense. His hands wandered but unfortunately it was the wrong time of the month so I had to stop him which was absolutely devastating. I got on my knees and sucked his cock till he came in my mouth. It was such a amazing experience as I didn't expect it.

Thanks, that was very hot!

[Dream Weaver]

For those men that have given their wives a hall pass. Did she take you up on the offer? Was she already a hotwife when she did? For those that were taken up did you like it? How did it go?

It literally took 14 years before it was used. She actually tried a few times, especially in the first 6 or 7 years after we married, but it didn't work out because she tended to go after co-workers who were too scared (for legit reasons) to go further. Did I mention we met on the job and worked together? So in her mind work was a optimal place to meet "quality" people, but each target couldn't be too far from me.

So long story short, about 12 years in we met a couple who were diving into the swinging thing (but not with us). This new friend on the wife side admits to my wife that her husband wanted her to have sex with another guy and suddenly my wife gets interested (and is like, oh snap - mine too!) and open minded about it again. Then a friend of a friend from work seduced her. It was brief but hot has fuck. We are actually all still friends, but no sex and we don't see each other socially that often anymore. This was 2008 when that happened. Nothing since then and she's turned super conservative since then. She really is a monogamous personality and she's not really as turned on by good looking dudes as she is by the entire package, i.e. are they successful, are they good looking, are they funny (the guys at work she could evaluate for all those factors). The idea of picking up some dude on vacation (one of my bigger fantasies) or in a bar (I find it gross) disgusts her.

[Dream Weaver]

My definition of a "hall pass" is the the woman to be able to fuck another guy, but confirming with her SO first.

With all due respect, how would a hall pass then differ from your wife simply telling you she had a date? For me, the connotation has been that the woman can act on a hall pass without needing prior "consent" or at least assent from the husband.

I think he just means he wants to know in advance, but other than that, have at it. I'd be afraid of losing a chance through my wife getting second thoughts through the "need to confess in advance" process, but hey, he seems to have gotten her to do it more than my wife ever did, LOL.

[zorro]

Interesting discussion. To me, the essence of a hall pass has been the wife has the OK to sex someone without having to get permission a second time and, as Dream Weaver says, risking the opportunity to strike when the iron is hot. For me, it is tied with an obligation to be candid if she does lay someone.

I like hearing the variations people pursue with the simple term "hall pass." So many possible nuances of understanding for different husbands.

[Wifewithothers]

My definition of a "hall pass" is the the woman to be able to fuck another guy, but confirming with her SO first.

With all due respect, how would a hall pass then differ from your wife simply telling you she had a date? For me, the connotation has been that the woman can act on a hall pass without needing prior "consent" or at least assent from the husband.

Different couples have different guidelines that cover their participation in the lifestyle and that's fine

[zorro]

Different couples have different guidelines that cover their participation in the lifestyle and that's fine

Of course. But this discussion highlights when a thread discusses a hall pass that the definition being used needs to be clarified.

[Wifewithothers]

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