A Night of Adventure and Trust

[skoot1958]

I think we all want a long term relationship, that’s what he really needs, Eli is using him as a FWB for the sex, that show that Eli has really matured in her understanding of the lifestyle

If BF has no one else, he is not going to turn off the sex machine that is Eli, if I was him, I would start dating and keep Eli on the go, sorry I would just not tell Eli until I has a string other relationship in place

On the other side Eli takes a long time to build up a relationship before move to physical, that may not be the case next time, anyway I think Eli should start looking around / coffee dating, more like she wait to the BF and her are over before she start looking around

Have you considered arranging a date for Eli with a professional, so she can experience a wider world, hotel, dinner, let them have fun, if she wants, a good professional knows how to read a lady and meet her needs

Anyway thanks for keeping use up to date

[EliMySexyWife]

Well, she always tells him to end the relationship if he wants to be with someone else. They’ve decided to be fully exclusive to each other, while I am still the husband, which creates an imbalanced situation. I also think he may start dating others. I hope that does not happen because it will damage Eli extensively. I am very worried and hope he stay as the gentleman he has been so far and break this relationship before starting anything new.

At the moment, Eli says she will stop if he chooses to pursue anyone else. She believes she won’t continue with ENM after that because she finds it very difficult to trust and connect with someone new.

Personally, I don’t think she’ll be able to return to being a traditional wife after experiencing this enjoyable journey.

[allways]

I think now that your sweet wife has tasted the forbidden fruit the next lover who woos her will find that her desire will trascend her past conservative approach. That doesn't mean she will part her legs after the first date but the process will not take as long. Your approach and encouragement is why this will continue to evolve

[skoot1958]

It seems that Eli is Demisexuality. When you're demisexual, you need an emotional connection to someone before you can feel sexually attracted to them

This explains Eli need for a deep relationship before sexual relations, not a problem, if you are looking again, just make this clear in her profile, and someone that is in this for the long term, will match, bang and done chap will skip by


The BF does seem to be a gentleman, so I would think he we stop with Eli when he started having a physical relationship with someone else, he may Date to find someone at the short term (not physical)

If Eli could ever bring herself to just fuck someone for the pure Pleasure, she may change, she like to bell a dirty girl with her BF so maybe the BF will try and make a 3sum happen sometime and Elin will just go for it


Are the stopping at Xmas or is that all in hood for just now

Eli know what she wants which is 90%

[EliMySexyWife]

Yes, absolutely correct. She is a high grade demisexual. I don't think she can change at this moment when she has a good case who she is enjoy having sex with.
When the current relationship ends, that I am not sure when, things can change. She says she is not going to continue hotwifing after this but I think she will miss these days and eventually will need a boyfriend again. Then maybe she will learn how to attach less emotionally and more physically.
The current boyfriend was a big achievement. It took about 12 dates to reach penetration. She had to break a lot of obstacles. She was not sure how she will feel, how I will react, and so on and so forth. The next time, with all those obstacles removed, she can think about making it more physical than emotional.

It seems that Eli is Demisexuality. When you're demisexual, you need an emotional connection to someone before you can feel sexually attracted to them This explains Eli need for a deep relationship before sexual relations, not a problem, if you are looking again, just make this clear in her profile, and someone that is in this for the long term, will match, bang and done chap will skip by. The BF does seem to be a gentleman, so I would think he we stop with Eli when he started having a physical relationship with someone else, he may Date to find someone at the short term (not physical). If Eli could ever bring herself to just fuck someone for the pure Pleasure, she may change, she like to bell a dirty girl with her BF so maybe the BF will try and make a 3sum happen sometime and Elin will just go for it. Are the stopping at Xmas or is that all in hood for just now Eli know what she wants which is 90%

[EliMySexyWife]

She is now in another 3d+2n vacation. She left yesterday morning and will return tomorrow afternoon. She was so busy that she could rarely send me IM updates however first day, they did it 3 times. Today I guess it will be 5 times but I have not received any updates!

She is enjoying herself very much and I am happy for her!

[skoot1958]

BF was planning on stopping and trying to find a new GF is that all on hold for just now, now he is back fucking Eli eyes out or is a last time sort of thing ?

As BF was planing one moving on, has he pushed Eli to cross any of the red lines between them, or is everything the same as always

[EliMySexyWife]

Still nothing is clear on his moving on. They will decide later.

I haven't received updates yet. I will post and update soon. He is not a pusher or maybe he has understood it will from the early dates that Eli react negatively when pushed. She just needs constant smooth and delicate pushing and that takes time.

BF was planning on stopping and trying to find a new GF is that all on hold for just now, now he is back fucking Eli eyes out or is a last time sort of thing ? As BF was planing one moving on, has he pushed Eli to cross any of the red lines between them, or is everything the same as always

[skoot1958]

So how doe Eli weekend go, did she break any records

[EliMySexyWife]

They had about 9 times in 44 hours day and night! She wanted more but he couldn't help. She was glowing and belated when back home. She has changed a lot. Previously she could not even maintain eye contact with him for the first 1 hour. Now she is asking for sex right after entering the cottage.

[skoot1958]

It seems Eli is growing into a new woman in many ways, maybe she will soon need 2 men to keep her going

[EliMySexyWife]

It seems Eli is growing into a new woman in many ways, maybe she will soon need 2 men to keep her going

Yes, she is going toward that, LOL! but for now she is very happy with 1.

She says she is another person when she is there. We call it "El" vs "Eli".
"El" is a 20 year horny insatiable girl while "Eli" is a conservative and humble wife and mother of two!
Most days it takes her around 1 hour to switch from "Eli" to "El" and vice versa!

[skoot1958]

He did apply pressure to see more of Eli, which Eli resisted, so are there are back in a rhythm, how often is EI seeing him now, still once a week

Has Eli move to more overnight as you said it take time for Eli to become El how are you covering this with your kids, work and the weekends away

Do they just hook up, or are the going out and dating now as well?

As for benefits, how often do you get El vs Eli in your bed, all the time, as long as this is works, Eli will not look for a new man, she has 2 as it is, and she may never find FWB as good as the one she has, it is hard to find a good FWB and Eli is not the type of woman’s to sleep about looking for the next man, enjoy it whilst it last

[EliMySexyWife]

Some update after a long time:

She is still going strong. Still have the same man as her main and only boyfriend. She goes to him one afternoon and evening per week, sometimes stay at night and sometimes go to a 2 night vacation.
She enjoys being fucked in multiple positions. Sometimes it takes 4-5 hours of continuous, multiple positions and she is enjoying his body and his toolset extremely.

Our marriage has improved a lot and we love each other more than ever.

Quote from Eli's sister: I am happy for your guys that how much your life and love has improved. Who could believe you could improve your marriage by offering your pussy to a man other than your husband!!

[skoot1958]

Interning that Eli sister and you can discuss Eli so openly Eli must be confiding in the sister

[EliMySexyWife]

No, her sister and I pretend that nothing is happening while both of us knew that the other one is aware of this! Sometime she tells me what the sister has said and I really like that.

Our case was really interesting. How a wife who was calling herself frigid and not interested in sex, turned to become a high libido high energy woman by becoming a hotwife.

A few days ago. She had a bad cold. She said: "I feel so unwell that even if BF calls for sex, I would say No."
A few minutes later, she added: "I think I lied. I would have gone!!!"

[David52]

Eli and her boyfriend have been together for a while now. Has it evolved to more of a polyamorous relationship?

Thanks for coming back to fill us in. I have loved your story.

[David52]

In the past was she concerned that this relationship was keeping him from finding life partner?

[EliMySexyWife]

Well, I guess it is like a simple hotwife who is in love and committed with her husband and family and also has a regular boyfriend who she likes and is FWB. She has agreed with her BF that they both stay close as they have bareback sex and she is worried about STD.

One point I missed. His boy friend has a big package and she enjoys it very much specially in early mornings when it is very hard and larger!

I asked: "they say the size does not matter!"
She said: "it definitely matters!"

[Long Lurker 34]

No, her sister and I pretend that nothing is happening while both of us knew that the other one is aware of this! Sometime she tells me what the sister has said and I really like that.

Our case was really interesting. How a wife who was calling herself frigid and not interested in sex, turned to become a high libido high energy woman by becoming a hotwife.

A few days ago. She had a bad cold. She said: "I feel so unwell that even if BF calls for sex, I would say No."
A few minutes later, she added: "I think I lied. I would have gone!!!"

EMSW
- At some point your SIL will be over and your HW will get a call from her BF and off she will go. I'll bet you and SIL will speak about it then.

_ I have to say I've forgotten if her BF ever comes to your home. There again if he should be over and your SIL unexpectedly drops by. HHmmm.....

[EliMySexyWife]

That was funny.

No, he doesn't come to our home. She goes to him.

She likes to keep it private and away from home. She says, when she is there, she is a different person. She almost forgets about having a husband and kids, etc.

- At some point your SIL will be over and your HW will get a call from her BF and off she will go. I'll bet you and SIL will speak about it then.
_ I have to say I've forgotten if her BF ever comes to your home. There again if he should be over and your SIL unexpectedly drops by. HHmmm.....

[skoot1958]

And that’s why Eli is enjoying he HW lifestyle she can do what she wants, be free again, for a short time then back to life

[Angela Plays]

That was funny.

No, he doesn't come to our home. She goes to him.

She likes to keep it private and away from home. She says, when she is there, she is a different person. She almost forgets about having a husband and kids, etc.

- At some point your SIL will be over and your HW will get a call from her BF and off she will go. I'll bet you and SIL will speak about it then.
_ I have to say I've forgotten if her BF ever comes to your home. There again if he should be over and your SIL unexpectedly drops by. HHmmm.....

I totally understand where she’s coming from. HW’ing is my reality escape from all my “real life” responsibilities and commitments. Once I’ve had that release I’m more relaxed and more focused on family and work.

[Long Lurker 34]

That was funny.

No, he doesn't come to our home. She goes to him.

She likes to keep it private and away from home. She says, when she is there, she is a different person. She almost forgets about having a husband and kids, etc.

- At some point your SIL will be over and your HW will get a call from her BF and off she will go. I'll bet you and SIL will speak about it then.
_ I have to say I've forgotten if her BF ever comes to your home. There again if he should be over and your SIL unexpectedly drops by. HHmmm.....

EMSW
- One of my goals here is to find the humour in things and in a observational and odd, some times, perspective.
- I have often pondered if this is the case. Rather like an actor in a part, but not role playing, more like the self's perhaps alter-ego.

[EliMySexyWife]

Whatever it is, I like it!

EMSW
- One of my goals here is to find the humour in things and in a observational and odd, some times, perspective.
- I have often pondered if this is the case. Rather like an actor in a part, but not role playing, more like the self's perhaps alter-ego.