She told me she's ready to start the process!!

[HopelessCuckold]

Last night's pillow talk was very productive. We hadn't talked about my desire since the week before. I have been very patient as not to push it. She started the conversation last night. It started by her telling me she was willing to play in the realm of the Hotwife world without the commitment of the final act. She also asked if she could make her own profile and engage with bulls on her own. This floored me. I never expected her to ask something like that. She said last time we tried it that I (me) was in control of everything and didn't really let her do her thing. She also said she spent hours looking and talking to bulls last time without my knowledge. I was so shocked and never expected that!! When I told her how much it surprised me to hear this she replied " I wanted to really give it a chance and see if I could do this." I was so happy to hear her say that. But then she said..." Unfortunately 99% of the responses repulsed her." So then she went into detail and described exactly the man she would want. To sum it up it's Robert Redford from Indecent Proposal. My wife is very attracted to GQ type successful men. That's what she wants. And that's what she will get as far as I'm concerned. We broke down exactly how she wanted to build her profile and what it should say. She also agreed to do some new pics. She said we could start working on it during "sex night" this week. I may be away on business this week and she suggested she might do it while I'm gone. I asked her what if she met this man accidentally on a business trip since she travels some for work. I asked if she could see herself bringing him back to her room and calling me to listen while they fucked. She said yes I could do that. Oh my what a night. It took me by surprise. She asked me if there was a place that had a chat room for her to meet bulls. I told her I wasn't sure but she could always use AFF. We used Fet last time and she wasn't crazy about the hard-core aspect of that platform. She wants to do it her way with my guidance this time. She also reminded me how picky she is and that it may never happen. We ended the night with her watching me jack off while she talked about fucking a man in front of me. I shot a load half way up my chest. After we turned out the lights and kissed she said " Boy this really turns you on huh ?" . I said " What do you think ?". We chuckled and went to sleep.

[SmallTownGuy]

Congrats, sounds just like it should be. Be prepared to wait for a long time until it happens but enjoy the travel

Whereas many men, given the chance, would be willing to have fun with a large percentage of suitably aged ladies, women are in my experience more picky. I don't see how I've passed my wife's filter, or the filter of some other women I've been lucky with. So her comment of 99% being not what she's looking for doesn't surprise me at all

[Bogdan]

Last night's pillow talk was very productive. We hadn't talked about my desire since the week before. I have been very patient as not to push it. She started the conversation last night. It started by her telling me she was willing to play in the realm of the Hotwife world without the commitment of the final act. She also asked if she could make her own profile and engage with bulls on her own. This floored me. I never expected her to ask something like that. She said last time we tried it that I (me) was in control of everything and didn't really let her do her thing. She also said she spent hours looking and talking to bulls last time without my knowledge. I was so shocked and never expected that!! When I told her how much it surprised me to hear this she replied " I wanted to really give it a chance and see if I could do this." I was so happy to hear her say that. But then she said..." Unfortunately 99% of the responses repulsed her." So then she went into detail and described exactly the man she would want. To sum it up it's Robert Redford from Indecent Proposal. My wife is very attracted to GQ type successful men. That's what she wants. And that's what she will get as far as I'm concerned. We broke down exactly how she wanted to build her profile and what it should say. She also agreed to do some new pics. She said we could start working on it during "sex night" this week. I may be away on business this week and she suggested she might do it while I'm gone. I asked her what if she met this man accidentally on a business trip since she travels some for work. I asked if she could see herself bringing him back to her room and calling me to listen while they fucked. She said yes I could do that. Oh my what a night. It took me by surprise. She asked me if there was a place that had a chat room for her to meet bulls. I told her I wasn't sure but she could always use AFF. We used Fet last time and she wasn't crazy about the hard-core aspect of that platform. She wants to do it her way with my guidance this time. She also reminded me how picky she is and that it may never happen. We ended the night with her watching me jack off while she talked about fucking a man in front of me. I shot a load half way up my chest. After we turned out the lights and kissed she said " Boy this really turns you on huh ?" . I said " What do you think ?". We chuckled and went to sleep.

I think this is a great post to read for all the men out there (including myself) that have some fear of letting their partner know and letting her take some actions herself in finding what she really needs. Thanks for sharing HopelessCuckold

[HopelessCuckold]

Congrats, sounds just like it should be. Be prepared to wait for a long time until it happens but enjoy the travel

Whereas many men, given the chance, would be willing to have fun with a large percentage of suitably aged ladies, women are in my experience more picky. I don't see how I've passed my wife's filter, or the filter of some other women I've been lucky with. So her comment of 99% being not what she's looking for doesn't surprise me at all

This is so true. I'm lucky we met when we did. I wouldn't filter now lol.

[HopelessCuckold]

So many new developments. We have progressed to much more open discussions during pillow talk and sex. She has acknowledged that an old lover would be her pick if he wasn't married. She told me that while we were having sex. It was amazing. We have taken new pics and made a profile on a swinger's site again. She got 100 messages in two days. She only has responded to one and they have exchanged several messages. Mostly her feeling him out. A younger white guy with 8 inch fat cock. Very muscular and chiseled. 5 years younger than her. I wouldn't say we are about to do this by any stretch but I also am so fulfilled with her activities. She has came a long way and with a great sexy attitude.

[elina]

Thanks for the update,

I hope you will be a good boy and lovingly support and play along with anything Your Wife want to do..

Please keep us posted.

Sincerely
elina

[bradisalpha]

She has given you a great opportunity to realize your desires. My advice is let her lead this charge !!

Be careful with your input. Let her pick her pace. Give your opinions when asked and guidance to keep her safe. But, do not try to pick the ones for her. You will not have the same opinion of a BF that she does and that can become a problem when looking.. and sometimes kill it completely. Let HER make the decision of who she wants to meet. You will read over and over in the forum when a husband cannot understand why his wife wants a certain man. The husband will normally pick someone he likes.. but the wife will pick someone SHE likes. Let it be HER choice.. hell, she is the one that will be fucking him !! And she will normally pick someone that is nothing like her husband, but is someone she will enjoy having sex with and then coming home to her husband !!

Just my thoughts… wishing you the best !!

Brad

[HopelessCuckold]

She has given you a great opportunity to realize your desires. My advice is let her lead this charge !!

Be careful with your input. Let her pick her pace. Give your opinions when asked and guidance to keep her safe. But, do not try to pick the ones for her. You will not have the same opinion of a BF that she does and that can become a problem when looking.. and sometimes kill it completely. Let HER make the decision of who she wants to meet. You will read over and over in the forum when a husband cannot understand why his wife wants a certain man. The husband will normally pick someone he likes.. but the wife will pick someone SHE likes. Let it be HER choice.. hell, she is the one that will be fucking him !! And she will normally pick someone that is nothing like her husband, but is someone she will enjoy having sex with and then coming home to her husband !!

Just my thoughts… wishing you the best !!

Brad

You are spot on. I have really done my best to stay out of it as much as possible until she ask me something. Yesterday we were together all day and I was hoping the subject would come up and maybe she would even message the guy. See it started with me talking to him after he reached out to us but then I handed the conversation off to her. After a few nights she handed it back to me so I could get more of an opinion of him and more details. Me and this man had over 100 messages back and forth and he really seems legit. When she read our conversation she admitted that it made him very attractive. But now he is waiting on her to follow up so they can become more intimate in their conversation. So I was hoping yesterday would be the day but we did go to a funeral and later ate with family followed by attending church. So maybe not the best day. I didn't say one thing about it all day or night. I believe patience is the key. Thanks for the advice.

[bradisalpha]

She has given you a great opportunity to realize your desires. My advice is let her lead this charge !!

Be careful with your input. Let her pick her pace. Give your opinions when asked and guidance to keep her safe. But, do not try to pick the ones for her. You will not have the same opinion of a BF that she does and that can become a problem when looking.. and sometimes kill it completely. Let HER make the decision of who she wants to meet. You will read over and over in the forum when a husband cannot understand why his wife wants a certain man. The husband will normally pick someone he likes.. but the wife will pick someone SHE likes. Let it be HER choice.. hell, she is the one that will be fucking him !! And she will normally pick someone that is nothing like her husband, but is someone she will enjoy having sex with and then coming home to her husband !!

Just my thoughts… wishing you the best !!

Brad

You are spot on. I have really done my best to stay out of it as much as possible until she ask me something. Yesterday we were together all day and I was hoping the subject would come up and maybe she would even message the guy. See it started with me talking to him after he reached out to us but then I handed the conversation off to her. After a few nights she handed it back to me so I could get more of an opinion of him and more details. Me and this man had over 100 messages back and forth and he really seems legit. When she read our conversation she admitted that it made him very attractive. But now he is waiting on her to follow up so they can become more intimate in their conversation. So I was hoping yesterday would be the day but we did go to a funeral and later ate with family followed by attending church. So maybe not the best day. I didn't say one thing about it all day or night. I believe patience is the key. Thanks for the advice.

Good boy !! Wait for her to bring it up now. You have handed it over and believe me.. she has not forgotten. Women have their own pace and do not like being pushed. I know it is hard but hang with it.. you will see movement soon.

Brad

[BBCfan]

Wish for you a perfect unfolding for all.
As a longish time "wannabe", will be fascinating to hear things unfold for 1st time and how the reality matches up with your fantasies.

[Tryn]

Can you please share what platform your wife is using? I would love my wife to have a positive experience with messaging guys!

[HopelessCuckold]

Well after several days of hot chit chat with her potential bull it wound up ending abruptly. He was more Dom than she preferred and finally he admitted he wanted more than she was willing to give from a submissive side. He had mentioned that he would give her instructions on what to wear and then upon meeting in the hotel room he would do an inspection then undress her in front of me while I sat in a chair and watched. Both of us actually found this to be very erotic. He was an experienced bull with background in very Dom nature. So anyway that's where we are now. She has one other she has talked with but not as much. The man is extremely hung and it intrigues her so who knows. Probably 200 responses to her and she's picked only two that were worthy of her interest. Sadly most responses by Bulls IMO are just terrible. One liners are the worst.

[Dream Weaver]

Well after several days of hot chit chat with her potential bull it would up ending abruptly. He was more Dom than she preferred and finally he admitted he wanted more than she was willing to give from a submissive side. He had mentioned that he would give her instructions on what to wear and then upon meeting in the hotel room he would do an inspection then undress her in front of me while I sat in a chair and watched. Both of us actually found this to be very erotic. He was an experienced bull with background in very Dom nature. So anyway that's where we are now. She has one other she has talked with but not as much. The man is extremely hung and it intrigues her so who knows. Probably 200 responses to her and she's picked only two that were worthy of her interest. Sadly most responses by Bulls IMO are just terrible. One liners are the worst.

It's kind of funny how much humans focus on dom or sub in the bedroom when in fact all your wife wants is "normal aroused man". Purely my conjecture, of course.

[hornedhubby]

Bingo.

I empathize with the disappointment you and your wife share.

Maybe look for a man, not a bull. YMMV.

Best luck and thanks for sharing your story.

[armyguyot1]

It sounds like she is ready to go with it. You have to keep her up and not let her get depressed by a guy not cumming through for her. Too bad you couldn't have gotten her to give it a go just to get started. Sounds like she and he were both ready to fuck one another but maybe too much talk and not enough action. His scenario sounded pretty damn perfect and especially with you there to make sure the dom thing didn't go too far for her.

[HopelessCuckold]

Well after several days of hot chit chat with her potential bull it would up ending abruptly. He was more Dom than she preferred and finally he admitted he wanted more than she was willing to give from a submissive side. He had mentioned that he would give her instructions on what to wear and then upon meeting in the hotel room he would do an inspection then undress her in front of me while I sat in a chair and watched. Both of us actually found this to be very erotic. He was an experienced bull with background in very Dom nature. So anyway that's where we are now. She has one other she has talked with but not as much. The man is extremely hung and it intrigues her so who knows. Probably 200 responses to her and she's picked only two that were worthy of her interest. Sadly most responses by Bulls IMO are just terrible. One liners are the worst.

It's kind of funny how much humans focus on dom or sub in the bedroom when in fact all your wife wants is "normal aroused man". Purely my conjecture, of course.

Yes that's a great way of putting it. She wants a normal aroused man that enjoys being a bull for couples. However almost every man that responds starts by saying how Dom they are and what they expect. It's a clear indication that they are not reading her bio and understanding her desires. It's such a huge turn off for her when men don't pay attention and just come in with cock in her face and being demanding.

[HopelessCuckold]

It sounds like she is ready to go with it. You have to keep her up and not let her get depressed by a guy not cumming through for her. Too bad you couldn't have gotten her to give it a go just to get started. Sounds like she and he were both ready to fuck one another but maybe too much talk and not enough action. His scenario sounded pretty damn perfect and especially with you there to make sure the dom thing didn't go too far for her.

I was getting a great vibe from the interaction for days. He actually seemed like a likeable person. He even hoped we could have a friendship. He was great looking and had a great package. My wife even said his conversation made him attractive. He did express concern that we were first timers and that's understandable. He had experience being the bull for couples where humiliation was involved. Like wife degrading husband and husband being restrained while wearing panties or husband not being allowed to be there at all. We expressed we weren't sure that would be willing to do any of those right away. She explained to him I just wanted to watch and stroke. She actually told me she didn't want me involved but to just watch while she was fucked. I found it hot that she admitted this. She also new I was extremely turned on by her wearing what he wanted then being inspected while being undressed in front of me. She got turned on because how much it aroused me. We were there. It was looking great. Then he just said " Hey I'm not what your looking for " and dipped. Oh well. She's not depressed about it. We actually laughed because he missed out on a hot piece of ass and getting to be our first.

[armyguyot1]

That's too bad. I still think it was a go but too time and not enough action. I sure don't blame you on the humiliation stuff. Not for me. Sou sounds like you are both ready for your first and then decide how to proceed. She is wanting fucked. Try it and then decide how to proceed and make it better.