Feeling slightly insecure.

[Lockedgy]

I’m brand new here folks, and brand new to the cuckolding lifestyle, a little background about myself and our dynamic.

Me and my wife, been married for 14 years, have been playing with chastity for a little over a year now, I’m the one who mentioned chastity, she was a little slow to warm up to it initially, didn’t really “get it” or understand it. About 3 months in or so she really got into it and requested that I stay locked 24/7, and she took pleasure in having the control over the cage and when it comes off, along with the teasing and denial. She could only manage to keep me locked for about 30 days at a time before she had to unlock me for sex, toys and oral would only cut it for so long for her until she needed the real thing in her.
That’s when cuckolding came up, again by me, we roll played and dirty talked it for several months, and we both finally decided to go for it. Neither of us is into the humiliation aspects of cuckolding at all, mostly using it as a way to extend the lengths of my lockups, and to allow her to really explore her new found sexual confidence outside our marriage.
It was discussed extensively, she would go out with friends and tell me she will be “hunting” while out. This went on for several weeks, nothing ever happened, until one night it finally did.
The night she did cuck me for real, she went out, told me she was going “hunting”, I was excited by her openness about it, but honestly didn’t think anything would happen. I went to bed around 9ish that night, and woke up to her coming home around 12:30-1am, not that unusual though for her girls night out. When she climbed into bed she told me “it happened”, and started to tell me about first seeing the guy, how he was an arrogant dude, after flirting with her for about 2 hours he flat out told her he wanted to fuck her. Well, not long after that they went back to his place and he fucked her hard for an hour straight, until she had to tap out because she was getting sore.
My head was in an absolute WHIRLWIND of emotions, I couldn’t form a simple single thought at the time for anything. She kept me locked that night, which I already told her I would prefer do the fear of “post nut clarity” kicking in. However, I did her off the next evening with her, but I was still cages.
We both feel that overall, it was a positive experience, for both of us.
With a quick background out of the way, it brings me to my question about insecurity.
I keep getting feelings of being inferior to this guy, and I do not like it at all, I’m not into the humiliation or feeling inferior.
My wife has never directly said to me, but the way she says she likes the deep penetration, he is bigger than me, and she likes how aggressive he was, really hard ass smacking, and I’m pretty sure verbally talking aggressive to her too, coupled with the hard pounding for an hour straight, that’s the part that makes me feel insecure.
His arrogance, being bigger, and ability to fuck hard for an hour and not even finish, while being rough with her all at once. After 14 years of marriage I know that I’ve made her sore in the past, and we’ve had rough sex, but with two kids, the ass smacking can’t get very aggressive out of concern the kids hearing the slapping and screaming coming from mom and dads bedroom.
For some strange reason o keep getting a slight feeling that I can’t and don’t compare to this dude in the bedroom. My wife has told me several times that he is so arrogant that she couldn’t even really be a friend outside what they did, that he just fucks really good and that’s it.

Do you have any pointers to get over feeling inadequate to an arrogant sexually powerful guy?
I’ve been trying to lean into the submissiveness toward my wife, since she holds my keys, and accepting that she does like biggger dicks that fuck harder, but it’s hard to not feel not enough at the same time.

[CuckedbyNikki]

Don't feel insecure of what she does with other men, be proud of the fact your love brings her back home. This will get normal with time. Afterall her happiness is the primary goal right? And you saw how happy she was when she returned home well fucked.
If you have trust on your love, there will be no insecurity. For them its just sexual satisfaction but for couples its emotional. Accept this fact and life would be easy.
You can talk to me, if it disturbs you.

[hubudig2]

How do you think you would feel by comparison if he wasn't able to fuck her as well as you can?
Would you not feel disappointed for your wife?

Is there not a part of you that finds it hot that you're helpless to compete sexually with him?
If so, focus on that. When you're feeling at your most submissive/helpless/horny, have her tease/tell you honestly how you can't compete.
If cuckolding is ultimately what you want, your mind will eventually find a way to rationalise/eroticise the parts you struggle with.

Do you feel like you're going on this adventure as a couple?
If not, it would probably help to consider it that way.
Don't consider him as someone you need to compete with, he is merely a couple's sex toy. There are plenty of actual sex toys out there that you can't compete with and I'm guessing those don't make you feel insecure?
Remember that you are a couple, he is there to enhance your sex life as a couple. You have consented to it, he hasn't got one over on you.
If you chose a sex toy that satisfied your wife better than you, you'd probably be happy you found it. Maybe try to consider it more like that.
You are married and in a solid relationship. She is indulging your kinks and finding her own thrills with it, he isn't comparable to you, only sexually, just as a sex toy is.

If I'm with someone else's wife, sure, I have particular advantages and things I can do that he can't compete with. However, I don't have the same connection with her that he has, it's not possible to. Seeing us fuck might still look erotic and impressive but it's just "in the moment" and sexual, it doesn't have all of the feelings that I get when I'm fucking my own wife. Both are hot and enjoyable but if I had to pick one, it'd be my own wife every time, regardless of what other women had to offer because those years of connection that we share make it incomparable.

[user322]

hello !

In my opinion, if your wife ended up in bed with this arrogant guy, it's because she must enjoy cuckolding you with this kind of man, otherwise she would never have accepted his approach, and of all the men she might meet at a party, he's not the one she would have chosen.
So it's possible that in the future, this is the kind of profile she'll be looking for.

For this guy she met, it might be an advantage because she says she couldn't spend time with him outside of bed. If she's telling the truth, it's a sign that their relationship will be purely sexual.

For your part, you should try to see if your discomfort with humiliation and feelings of inferiority can be a source of arousal for you. If so, your arousal will probably be powerful, and with an arrogant guy who lays well, you'll have plenty to enjoy. You've already started with the cage fantasy, which is humiliating, so try to see if humiliation in front of another man also turns you on.
If all that doesn't excite you, try asking your wife to change sex partners.

Good luck and keep us posted!

[bradisalpha]

Lockedgy,

You are going through what cuckolds go through until you understand that your wife is feeling New Relationship Energy right now. She is with a new man and it is exciting her tremendously .. her sexual arousal is at its peak right now. However, you are the one she loves.. you are the one she is counting on being there when she gets home. You are the one she is counting on to be her cheerleader !! You are her cuckold husband !!

She is not running off with anyone.. she is having sex. Hot wives do not pick men that are the same as their husbands as BF’s. For the most part, they like bad boys.. the ones they will not marry but that Fuck long, hard and deep. They are the Dominant Alpha males that will “take” her. Women have fantasies also and bad boys are the ones that arouse them sexually.. they want to be “taken”.… that is why she went with him in the 1st place !!! She made it a point to tell you how arrogant he is to ease your mind and know she is not running away with him. She tells you this because you are her cuckold husband and she wants you to know she she is coming home to you.. the one that will comfort her and protect her. Again, you are her cuckold husband and she respects and loves you for that.

You should be telling her how happy you are that he fucks her the way she likes.. and making plans with for her next date. You are her companion and you are both in this together. Don’t let your insecurities ruin the mood. If she feels you are upset or unhappy she will probably stop. If she stops for you it is unlikely she will start again. I don’t think that is what you really want… is it ??

Best wishes…

Brad

[Lockedgy]

How do you think you would feel by comparison if he wasn't able to fuck her as well as you can?
Would you not feel disappointed for your wife?

Is there not a part of you that finds it hot that you're helpless to compete sexually with him?
If so, focus on that. When you're feeling at your most submissive/helpless/horny, have her tease/tell you honestly how you can't compete.
If cuckolding is ultimately what you want, your mind will eventually find a way to rationalise/eroticise the parts you struggle with.

Do you feel like you're going on this adventure as a couple?
If not, it would probably help to consider it that way.
Don't consider him as someone you need to compete with, he is merely a couple's sex toy. There are plenty of actual sex toys out there that you can't compete with and I'm guessing those don't make you feel insecure?
Remember that you are a couple, he is there to enhance your sex life as a couple. You have consented to it, he hasn't got one over on you.
If you chose a sex toy that satisfied your wife better than you, you'd probably be happy you found it. Maybe try to consider it more like that.
You are married and in a solid relationship. She is indulging your kinks and finding her own thrills with it, he isn't comparable to you, only sexually, just as a sex toy is.

If I'm with someone else's wife, sure, I have particular advantages and things I can do that he can't compete with. However, I don't have the same connection with her that he has, it's not possible to. Seeing us fuck might still look erotic and impressive but it's just "in the moment" and sexual, it doesn't have all of the feelings that I get when I'm fucking my own wife. Both are hot and enjoyable but if I had to pick one, it'd be my own wife every time, regardless of what other women had to offer because those years of connection that we share make it incomparable.

Thank you for the reply, this really is helpful.
Honestly, if the very first experience she had with someone new was a bad or not so great experience, I honestly would feel bad and upset about it. I want her to enjoy this journey, and for it to be 100% positive every step of the way, that's the whole reason I ever brought it up in the first place, to try and find something new that will make her happier in life.

The second part I mostly do feel like it is a couples journey, however, I have to be completely honest, and I do feel envy of her getting new sexual experiences that I will never get to experience, and I feel it is envy, because it is not a bad or negative feeling at all.

As long as I keep the frame of thought that he is nothing but a sex toy, then it is easier and washes away the insecurities I feel, I know it sounds kinda harsh to think of another person like that, but that's the only way that I can squash the feeling of needing to compare/compete with him. I have to just keep the thought that she is using a dildo to aid in keeping me locked longer, which is something we both want, and to focus on HER getting pleasure, which does turn me on tremendously.


I do believe that I have the tendance to look at it as more or less a comparison of "me vs him" kinda way, which my wife has bluntly told me, he is nothing more that sex, and that is absolutely it, nothing more, which does help quell any comparisons that I feel. I know I shouldn't have the comparison point of view and feel inadequate about it, but at 39 years old, I have a lifetime of re-writing the social script that a mans sexual value is based purely on size and stamina, which doesn't even consider the emotional bond and feelings of love and connection that a long term relationship provides. But, responses like yours really does help me to see the error in the ways that I view it on the "down" days.

[Lockedgy]

hello !

In my opinion, if your wife ended up in bed with this arrogant guy, it's because she must enjoy cuckolding you with this kind of man, otherwise she would never have accepted his approach, and of all the men she might meet at a party, he's not the one she would have chosen.
So it's possible that in the future, this is the kind of profile she'll be looking for.

For this guy she met, it might be an advantage because she says she couldn't spend time with him outside of bed. If she's telling the truth, it's a sign that their relationship will be purely sexual.

For your part, you should try to see if your discomfort with humiliation and feelings of inferiority can be a source of arousal for you. If so, your arousal will probably be powerful, and with an arrogant guy who lays well, you'll have plenty to enjoy. You've already started with the cage fantasy, which is humiliating, so try to see if humiliation in front of another man also turns you on.
If all that doesn't excite you, try asking your wife to change sex partners.

Good luck and keep us posted!

Thank you for the reply, this really had been helpful for me, and my wife even agreed with pretty much everything you said here, that she does like the appeal of just being pursued knowing that it is strictly sex, and nothing else, that there is no way she could every form any kind of relationship with this dude, which does help me feel more at ease.

All of these posts have helped me to reframe the way that I look at this dynamic, from where I know I should be viewing it, from where I do view it on "down" days where I'm feeling insecure. So I do appreciate the input.

[Lockedgy]

Lockedgy,

You are going through what cuckolds go through until you understand that your wife is feeling New Relationship Energy right now. She is with a new man and it is exciting her tremendously .. her sexual arousal is at its peak right now. However, you are the one she loves.. you are the one she is counting on being there when she gets home. You are the one she is counting on to be her cheerleader !! You are her cuckold husband !!

She is not running off with anyone.. she is having sex. Hot wives do not pick men that are the same as their husbands as BF’s. For the most part, they like bad boys.. the ones they will not marry but that Fuck long, hard and deep. They are the Dominant Alpha males that will “take” her. Women have fantasies also and bad boys are the ones that arouse them sexually.. they want to be “taken”.… that is why she went with him in the 1st place !!! She made it a point to tell you how arrogant he is to ease your mind and know she is not running away with him. She tells you this because you are her cuckold husband and she wants you to know she she is coming home to you.. the one that will comfort her and protect her. Again, you are her cuckold husband and she respects and loves you for that.

You should be telling her how happy you are that he fucks her the way she likes.. and making plans with for her next date. You are her companion and you are both in this together. Don’t let your insecurities ruin the mood. If she feels you are upset or unhappy she will probably stop. If she stops for you it is unlikely she will start again. I don’t think that is what you really want… is it ??

Best wishes…

Brad

Thank you for the reply, this is the kind of information that I need to see and hear. I showed my wife the original post and the replies that have been made so far, and she agrees 100% with all of them, everyone here had nailed it perfectly so far. I'm 39 years old have have a lifetime of social engineering to try and re-write my brain to, and some days it is a struggle to do that and not feel insecure about myself in ways that I know I shouldn't feel insecure, but the old programming shines through anyway, and its hard to push back.

Honestly, one of my fears is expressing these insecurities that I have with her is making her feel think that I am unhappy with what had happened, or unhappy with what will hopefully continue to happen, and she will want to quit out of fear of hurting me.
I genuinely feel that even after one experience, despite the feelings of being inadequate, that it has had a very positive impact on us as a whole, and I certainly not ready to give up on this adventure yet, I just have to learn to shift my point of view from comparison, to realizing that he is affectively just a sex toy to be used to help me and my wife enjoy better sex more often together.

[Lockedgy]

I don't know how to do multiple quotes on here, so I tried to respond to each post individually as best as I could.

Thank you to everyone who replied, every response honestly did help me to see the error in the way I have a tendency to view this adventure from. I am aware that the inadequate point of view is not helpful, and also not true at all, however I have to rewrite 39 years worth of social programming, which is not the easiest thing in the world to do, but seeing the answers and views on here have absolutely helped me to shift my perspective to where it should be coming from.
The only other issue I have that is negative in a way is the envy of not having any new sexual experiences myself, the feeling of being left out so to say. On the first experience, I was involved with helping getting her "prepped" for her night out, which was very erotic, and very fun, after she showered she let me shave her, and go down on her for just a few minutes, which did help me feel more included in the whole experience. I just kinda, struggle I guess you could say, in being at home while she goes out for a night of fun and sex, while I'm at home on the couch watching some crappy Netflix show and going to bed alone wondering how her night is going and what she is doing and when she will be doing it, I think that is something that feeds into me feeling completely left out, like she is having a separate sexual adventure that I'm not a part of, because I keep thinking that if I am not physically present, I'm not a part of it. I feel kinda dumb having that feeling, just as dumb as feeling insecure about my own performance, I know I shouldn't feel them, but they crop up anyway
Once the negative thoughts start, they tend to kinda spiral outa control, and its nice to have the views from those who have been there and done that. So I thank everyone so far, it really had been helpful this far.

[Wannabee]

Hi Lockedgy, thanks for sharing your story and feelings, it makes it all very real. I hope you and your lovely hotwife can continue your hotwife journey forward and you both get enormous enjoyment together out of it. There are many guys who would love to be in your position.

[softy]

I had this same feeling when we started a long time ago. Her guy was really good in bed. He could last a long time and go multiple times which I’ve never been able to do. Plus they had good chemistry overall. This dug deep into my cuck mindset and actually got me so excited that I would finish prematurely every time I had sex with her.

This was very heavy as a beginner to this lifestyle. I got in my own head about the whole thing. So I had a talk with my wife and she assured me that there was nothing that could break us apart. She said this was just a fun game to spice up the marriage. She said she could quit and never go back if I wanted. It helped quell the fears, and as years went by, I saw that it was indeed just an extra activity for us. And that got me to the point where I’ve never felt insecure again. Even the angst wasn’t overly powerful anymore, it did take years.

So maybe two things, first make sure you’re on the same page about your marriage being too strong for this to harm it. And second is that it takes time to mature to that point where you can let all of that worry go. It’s hard to explain until you get there. But it’s really fun once you can say “this guy did things I simply can’t do to her” and feel nothing but excitement.

[user322]

Hello,
It's great that the comments can help you, and thank you for thanking us; it doesn't happen very often on this forum....

Regarding involvement: wouldn't you simply like to be present when your wife meets her lover?

If that's not possible for one reason or another, wouldn't it be possible for her to video call you while she's with her lover, or at least make a phone call?

Or you could ask her to take videos, and then you watch them together.

[Lockedgy]

I have considered being present for the next encounter, however, I’m just not to sure how comfortable my wife will be with me just watching, this whole adventure is brand new to us, and I don’t want to make it awkward and weird for her as her husband is sitting in the room just watching her hav sex with someone new, we’ve never had sex in front of people before, straight to her having sex with someone else in front of her husband.

I did ask her for videos though. She’s open to that idea, however she did say that she is going to feel weird about it. I’m sure she is going to be concerned about me actually seeing her reactions and noises while having sex with the guy. I’m pretty sure she will be underplaying it if she knows a video is being recorded, out of concern of me seeing the video and it looking like she is enjoying the sex to much, if that makes any sense. I really don’t want her to downplay anything though, I’d much rather see her true natural reactions and noises, but, hopefully she will feel more comfortable after a few times of being on video.

[mundyman]

I have considered being present for the next encounter, however, I’m just not to sure how comfortable my wife will be with me just watching, this whole adventure is brand new to us, and I don’t want to make it awkward and weird for her as her husband is sitting in the room just watching her hav sex with someone new, we’ve never had sex in front of people before, straight to her having sex with someone else in front of her husband.

I did ask her for videos though. She’s open to that idea, however she did say that she is going to feel weird about it. I’m sure she is going to be concerned about me actually seeing her reactions and noises while having sex with the guy. I’m pretty sure she will be underplaying it if she knows a video is being recorded, out of concern of me seeing the video and it looking like she is enjoying the sex to much, if that makes any sense. I really don’t want her to downplay anything though, I’d much rather see her true natural reactions and noises, but, hopefully she will feel more comfortable after a few times of being on video.

If I missed it I apologize but how many times has your wife had sex with this guy?
Has he become a regular partner for her or was he a one-off?
If it’s a regular thing does he know she’s married? Has the things they do advanced to more extreme things? Anal? More ass slapping? Etc?????

[Lockedgy]

So far she’s only seen him once, they have been trying to schedule another meet, but they are having a hard time getting their schedules to align.
He does know that she’s married, and is aware of our dynamic.
Nothing “extreme” per se, no anal or anything like that, just rough aggressive sex with the ass slapping and things like that.

[Jujube]

Please continue with your story when you can. I know all of us here are very interested in hearing how your situation develops.

[Tryagain]

I have considered being present for the next encounter, however, I’m just not to sure how comfortable my wife will be with me just watching, this whole adventure is brand new to us, and I don’t want to make it awkward and weird for her as her husband is sitting in the room just watching her hav sex with someone new, we’ve never had sex in front of people before, straight to her having sex with someone else in front of her husband.

I did ask her for videos though. She’s open to that idea, however she did say that she is going to feel weird about it. I’m sure she is going to be concerned about me actually seeing her reactions and noises while having sex with the guy. I’m pretty sure she will be underplaying it if she knows a video is being recorded, out of concern of me seeing the video and it looking like she is enjoying the sex to much, if that makes any sense. I really don’t want her to downplay anything though, I’d much rather see her true natural reactions and noises, but, hopefully she will feel more comfortable after a few times of being on video.

You should emphasize that you are interested in seeing her fucked and that the more outrageous she is in her response to him is exactly what you are looking for. I also found that, in the beginning to seeing and hearing her and being insecure of how much better sex with him was, the more sexually stimulating it was for me. The fear of somehow "losing her' to her made things more exciting.

[coastalkid]

The second part I mostly do feel like it is a couples journey, however, I have to be completely honest, and I do feel envy of her getting new sexual experiences that I will never get to experience, and I feel it is envy, because it is not a bad or negative feeling at all.

This will be the one that will stick with you. Your wife needs to know that you feel this. She needs to know that you DON'T want to come away feeling like you missed your opportunity to have wild experiences like she's having or had. She needs to know that there are things you'd like to experience too. Believe me after time passes and your window of opportunity has closed this will be the thing that will haunt your thoughts.

It's great she's having the experience of a lifetime. I'm thinking of the post earlier about how would YOU feel if the guy couldn't fuck as good as you can. You of course understood that it was about her having a satisfying experience and that put some of your insecurity aside. I'll put out a question. How will your wife feel years down the road if SHE didn't provide you with an amazing sexual experience? How will SHE feel when she knows without a doubt she was the one that limited your experience? She'll know she didn't build and share YOUR dreams and desires. She'll know she stopped them. She'll learn that "envy" doesn't just stop, it grows into other feelings and attitudes.

This is just my opinion and nothing more. Even in my monogamous world the sex happens and its over, the thoughts stay with you all day and all night.

[Lockedgy]

The second part I mostly do feel like it is a couples journey, however, I have to be completely honest, and I do feel envy of her getting new sexual experiences that I will never get to experience, and I feel it is envy, because it is not a bad or negative feeling at all.

This will be the one that will stick with you. Your wife needs to know that you feel this. She needs to know that you DON'T want to come away feeling like you missed your opportunity to have wild experiences like she's having or had. She needs to know that there are things you'd like to experience too. Believe me after time passes and your window of opportunity has closed this will be the thing that will haunt your thoughts.

It's great she's having the experience of a lifetime. I'm thinking of the post earlier about how would YOU feel if the guy couldn't fuck as good as you can. You of course understood that it was about her having a satisfying experience and that put some of your insecurity aside. I'll put out a question. How will your wife feel years down the road if SHE didn't provide you with an amazing sexual experience? How will SHE feel when she knows without a doubt she was the one that limited your experience? She'll know she didn't build and share YOUR dreams and desires. She'll know she stopped them. She'll learn that "envy" doesn't just stop, it grows into other feelings and attitudes.

This is just my opinion and nothing more. Even in my monogamous world the sex happens and its over, the thoughts stay with you all day and all night.

Thank you for the response.
Honestly, looking back on everything now, I’m not fully convinced that I really do want some to have sex with another woman. I NEVER intended for anything like that at all from the beginning, and honestly don’t have much desire to sleep with other lady’s. Yeah, I’ll see an attractive woman somewhere, notice and stare/look at her like any other guy, but it’s more in the simple appreciation of their beauty, not so much wanting to actually try anything with someone different.
And she has allowed me to experiment with another guy by myself, and is fine with me doing that still if I decide to. I did try it once, because I do enjoy playing with toys, just to see if I would like it, and honestly I really didn’t. I couldn’t get the fact out if my head that I was having sex with another guy and it kinda ruined the whole experience for me, I’ll just stick with playing with toys from now on, guys DO NOT attract me at all.
I’m honestly not to sure if surround be ok if I would ask about sleeping with another woman, I never asked that before.

[Lockedgy]

Just a quick update.
Nothing new has happened since the very first experience, they were having a hard time getting their schedules aligned with each other for a while, then regular life got busy for us both, and even sex between me and my wife slowed way down. Three days ago the guy reached out to my wife while she was getting ready to go out with her friends for a night out, and I was honestly surprised she turned him down that night when they could have met up, because it has been awhile since me and her had sex together was her reason.
So that honestly did help quite a bit to ease any insecurity that might have been lingering about not being as good as him.
They do still sporadically message each other every now and again, so he’s still available if she feels the want to see him again.

[MartasBoy]

....
........Do you have any pointers to get over feeling inadequate to an arrogant sexually powerful guy?
I’ve been trying to lean into the submissiveness toward my wife, since she holds my keys, and accepting that she does like biggger dicks that fuck harder, but it’s hard to not feel not enough at the same time.

My wife has been with men who were bigger, could go longer, do it more times in the evening, and were more muscular than me.
I learned to find that to be part of the excitement.

You should remember, that this was your idea, your fantasy, you asked her to do this. You had to know that she might end up with someone who would provide something that you can't.

It would be hard to set limits with her, saying that she must find somebody who is smaller, shorter, and with less stamina than you. That's not realistic. I think you need to work on just embracing this. The alternative, is to confess your insecurity to her, and ask her to stop. Or maybe to tell her you only want to hear that she is done it, but you don't want to hear any details, because you find them to intimidating.

I like being a real cuckold. I do have some humiliation fantasies. I can only advise you through the filter of my feelings. You will have to figure out how you can make this work for you.

In my case, I reassure myself by thinking about all of the ways in which I am more important to my wife, than any fuck buddy. I remind myself that my wife has always said that I am a phenomenal dad, and that she can't imagine ever raising children with anyone but me. She has told me that I am a wonderful and loving husband. She has told me I'm a good provider, and I'm her best friend. I just think of the other guys, as being like a vibrator, or the chiropractor she goes to for adjustments, or the massage therapist she goes to for massages. They are touching her, and giving her services outside of our marriage. But I'm still the main guy who she comes home to.

Maybe these ideas will help you. You don't have the humiliation fantasy that helps me through this. You don't have the service-oriented cuckold fantasy that helps me through this. But I enjoy helping her get ready for her dates. I love the excitement of feeling like I am her servant or dresser.
Mine are not so much fantasies of humiliation, but what I call feelings of insignificance. I like the feeling of helplessness, when she comes back from a date, looking all satisfied and satiated, with me helplessly locked in my chest to get advice, begging to be let out, and have my moment of satisfaction. But I love when she denies me and says that I can claim her back as my wife, bye serving her pleasure orally. I love that feeling of insignificance, knowing that I am bringing her to orgasm with my tongue, while just a few hours ago, he was allowed to bring her a rolling tide of multiple orgasms with his cock. The whole while I can feel my penis straining in its chastity device. I have come to enjoy this. But it may not be your fantasy.

[MartasBoy]

I don't know how to do multiple quotes on here, so I tried to respond to each post individually as best as I could...

...... So I thank everyone so far, it really had been helpful this far.

You can press the quote button, then, on long posts, I like to delete much of the person's quote, so that it doesn't fill up the thread so much. I just leave the one question I intend to answer. I insert a string of periods ...... to indicate that I have deleted some content, to be able to post an abbreviated version of the original, focusing on the one comment to which I am responding.

Just a quick update.
Nothing new has happened since the very first experience, they were having a hard time getting their schedules aligned with each other for a while, then regular life got busy for us both, and even sex between me and my wife slowed way down.

Then, I go ahead and post that quote, with my comment. Then you can go and create a quote post for another post, and copy that and delete it. Then I go back to my original post, you can touch on the little pencil icon to edit. We have the ability to edit any of our posts for some limited period of time, I don't know what it is. But I know it's available for a while and then the edit icon goes away.

Just a quick update.....
....Nothing new has happened since the very first experience, ...... Three days ago the guy reached out to my wife while she was getting ready to go out with her friends for a night out, and I was honestly surprised she turned him down that night when they could have met up, because it has been awhile since me and her had sex together was her reason.....

You can do this as many times as you like, to respond to numerous posts. I always like to put a string of periods..... In the areas where I have deleted..... content.

[Lockedgy]

I don't know how to do multiple quotes on here, so I tried to respond to each post individually as best as I could...

...... So I thank everyone so far, it really had been helpful this far.

You can press the quote button, then, on long posts, I like to delete much of the person's quote, so that it doesn't fill up the thread so much. I just leave the one question I intend to answer. I insert a string of periods ...... to indicate that I have deleted some content, to be able to post an abbreviated version of the original, focusing on the one comment to which I am responding.

Just a quick update.
Nothing new has happened since the very first experience, they were having a hard time getting their schedules aligned with each other for a while, then regular life got busy for us both, and even sex between me and my wife slowed way down.

Then, I go ahead and post that quote, with my comment. Then you can go and create a quote post for another post, and copy that and delete it. Then I go back to my original post, you can touch on the little pencil icon to edit. We have the ability to edit any of our posts for some limited period of time, I don't know what it is. But I know it's available for a while and then the edit icon goes away.

Just a quick update.....
....Nothing new has happened since the very first experience, ...... Three days ago the guy reached out to my wife while she was getting ready to go out with her friends for a night out, and I was honestly surprised she turned him down that night when they could have met up, because it has been awhile since me and her had sex together was her reason.....

You can do this as many times as you like, to respond to numerous posts. I always like to put a string of periods..... In the areas where I have deleted..... content.

Thank you for the advice.

[Lockedgy]

I don't know how to do multiple quotes on here, so I tried to respond to each post individually as best as I could...

...... So I thank everyone so far, it really had been helpful this far.

You can press the quote button, then, on long posts, I like to delete much of the person's quote, so that it doesn't fill up the thread so much. I just leave the one question I intend to answer. I insert a string of periods ...... to indicate that I have deleted some content, to be able to post an abbreviated version of the original, focusing on the one comment to which I am responding.

Just a quick update.
Nothing new has happened since the very first experience, they were having a hard time getting their schedules aligned with each other for a while, then regular life got busy for us both, and even sex between me and my wife slowed way down.

Then, I go ahead and post that quote, with my comment. Then you can go and create a quote post for another post, and copy that and delete it. Then I go back to my original post, you can touch on the little pencil icon to edit. We have the ability to edit any of our posts for some limited period of time, I don't know what it is. But I know it's available for a while and then the edit icon goes away.

Just a quick update.....
....Nothing new has happened since the very first experience, ...... Three days ago the guy reached out to my wife while she was getting ready to go out with her friends for a night out, and I was honestly surprised she turned him down that night when they could have met up, because it has been awhile since me and her had sex together was her reason.....

You can do this as many times as you like, to respond to numerous posts. I always like to put a string of periods..... In the areas where I have deleted..... content.

Thank you for the advice.

[Wantsomefunto]

Be glad she adventured to try a bigger cock, she will do much more with him than she would with you