The end for us in the lifestyle?

[pixmangurn]

Wishing you all the best in reaching a solution that works for both of you.

[Anonymousrob]

We had a good talk and a decent reconciling and I think we are headed in a positive direction

[elina]

We have discussed it at great length. Last night we had a talk again that has carried into today and I think she gets it. We shall see, but I’m cautiously optimistic.

Glad to hear that.
I really hope everything will work out to the best for both of you.

Sincerely
Elina

[Anonymousrob]

We’ll update: we are in a very good spot. She has heard me and is already making inroads to meet me at some of the things I’m curious about. Happy day! Also, last night was a wild one for us.

[Rogueuser1]

Good to hear, hopefully you are both better about giving each other what you want and need going forward so you don't reach this point again.

[elina]

Good to hear things are evolving ina good way.
Please keep us posted.

Sincerely
elina

[venus-can99]

We’ll update: we are in a very good spot. She has heard me and is already making inroads to meet me at some of the things I’m curious about. Happy day! Also, last night was a wild one for us.

Sounds like fun night - hopefully we will get some details

[Anonymousrob]

We’ll update: we are in a very good spot. She has heard me and is already making inroads to meet me at some of the things I’m curious about. Happy day! Also, last night was a wild one for us.

Sounds like fun night - hopefully we will get some details

When the site stops glitching, she plans on updating our thread

[elina]

We’ll update: we are in a very good spot. She has heard me and is already making inroads to meet me at some of the things I’m curious about. Happy day! Also, last night was a wild one for us.

Sounds like fun night - hopefully we will get some details

When the site stops glitching, she plans on updating our thread

Eagerly looking forward to that.

Rachel is such an incredibly sexy Lady, She deserves to be worshipped by both cuckold husband and Her lover(s).
I truly hope She will discover how She can make Her devoted cuck-hubby worship Her even more while enjoying Her own freedom.

Sincerely
elina

[Ready_to_Share]

We’ll update: we are in a very good spot. She has heard me and is already making inroads to meet me at some of the things I’m curious about. Happy day! Also, last night was a wild one for us.

So glad things are looking up. Since we are in the same age range, and practically neighbors, you have kinda been a hero to me.

[funfortwo]

I also just found this thread and was happy that you sat down and had a productive conversation. We've been in this LS for about 2.5 years and had our difficulties in the beginning. After my wife has a date, we reconnect (reclaim) and it's one of her favorite parts of the dynamic. We almost always wait a few days and have a debrief about how the date went, what we both liked, didn't care for, and how we can improve in the LS and as a couple. Both of our needs are taken into consideration with our marriage being put in the forefront. It improves our appreciation for each other while acknowledging our preferences. It builds trust, and as a result, former rules that were initially considered a "no go" have now come into play. She truly enjoys her time with her BF, understands his needs and desires, but WE always come first and this is a dynamic that enhances our relationship and marriage. I'm glad you had a great meaningful conversation, keep at it and hopefully both of you find a space where you can thrive. Good luck!

[Anonymousrob]

We’ll update: we are in a very good spot. She has heard me and is already making inroads to meet me at some of the things I’m curious about. Happy day! Also, last night was a wild one for us.

So glad things are looking up. Since we are in the same age range, and practically neighbors, you have kinda been a hero to me.

Really? Why’s that?

[Ready_to_Share]

your path is similar to what I am working toward.

[coastalkid]

Thanks for creating this thread. It is a topic that I'm deeply interested in. Specifically, how does a wife respond when her husband feels unsatisfied. If she's a smart wife she should sense it before the husband mentions it. It seems there should definitely be some sort of awareness of the implications when things progress and established rules are compromised. Surely she had some idea that things weren't right.

I've always held a deep belief that if a husband, in some manner or form, facilitates the best in a lifetime, incredible sexual experience for his wife, that the wife at some point acknowledges it couldn't have happened without her husband. If you're a real caring person, and if someone does something special for you, no matter what it is, sexual or not, you SHOULD feel a great need to return the favor, at a minimum show some form of gratitude.

It doesn't have to be the same thing/act she's getting. It does need to be the best of a lifetime, incredible sexual experience you've ever had. Something that makes you crave more just like she does. If she truly does love you she should be jumping at the opportunity to do something for you. She'll realize that she will have let go of some inner stress she didn't even realize was there, just because she will have made things right.

You don't sound like you're into "this type" of denial of being left out. Hopefully something changes for you soon!

Once again thanks for this thread. I hope the very best for you and your wife.

[Anonymousrob]

Thanks for creating this thread. It is a topic that I'm deeply interested in. Specifically, how does a wife respond when her husband feels unsatisfied. If she's a smart wife she should sense it before the husband mentions it. It seems there should definitely be some sort of awareness of the implications when things progress and established rules are compromised. Surely she had some idea that things weren't right.

I've always held a deep belief that if a husband, in some manner or form, facilitates the best in a lifetime, incredible sexual experience for his wife, that the wife at some point acknowledges it couldn't have happened without her husband. If you're a real caring person, and if someone does something special for you, no matter what it is, sexual or not, you SHOULD feel a great need to return the favor, at a minimum show some form of gratitude.

It doesn't have to be the same thing/act she's getting. It does need to be the best of a lifetime, incredible sexual experience you've ever had. Something that makes you crave more just like she does. If she truly does love you she should be jumping at the opportunity to do something for you. She'll realize that she will have let go of some inner stress she didn't even realize was there, just because she will have made things right.

You don't sound like you're into "this type" of denial of being left out. Hopefully something changes for you soon!

Once again thanks for this thread. I hope the very best for you and your wife.

Thank you. We are in a lot better situation than we were two weeks ago. I don’t know that we have fixed everything but I think we are in a better spot in terms of communication.

[ohtobecucked]

Sounds like things have turned out OK. I can't imagine how I'd feel if all of 'this' stopped tbh. It's really not something I want, so you likely felt the same. Fingers crossed she gets back to cucking you ASAP and you get some clean up duties, etc.

[Anonymousrob]

Sounds like things have turned out OK. I can't imagine how I'd feel if all of 'this' stopped tbh. It's really not something I want, so you likely felt the same. Fingers crossed she gets back to cucking you ASAP and you get some clean up duties, etc.

I don’t know if we are really in a great place or if things will go exactly back to where they were. I guess only time will tell.

[coastalkid]

Hang in there Anonymousrob! Hopefully things turn in the right direction for you with a little patience. Has she acknowledged that you're being left out?

[Anonymousrob]

Hang in there Anonymousrob! Hopefully things turn in the right direction for you with a little patience. Has she acknowledged that you're being left out?

Yes 100%. She recognizes it. She cried and said it isn’t fair. But also, nothing has changed really so…

[coastalkid]

Hang in there Anonymousrob! Hopefully things turn in the right direction for you with a little patience. Has she acknowledged that you're being left out?

Yes 100%. She recognizes it. She cried and said it isn’t fair. But also, nothing has changed really so…

Just to be clear she cried because she knows it's not fair to you? At least she acknowledges that you're being deprived of YOUR incredible sexual experience but the "nothing has really changed" part isn't very encouraging. You mentioned before that your communication has been better. What have you discovered/learned from your improved communication? Any eye opening revelations?

[Anonymousrob]

Hang in there Anonymousrob! Hopefully things turn in the right direction for you with a little patience. Has she acknowledged that you're being left out?

Yes 100%. She recognizes it. She cried and said it isn’t fair. But also, nothing has changed really so…

Just to be clear she cried because she knows it's not fair to you? At least she acknowledges that you're being deprived of YOUR incredible sexual experience but the "nothing has really changed" part isn't very encouraging. You mentioned before that your communication has been better. What have you discovered/learned from your improved communication? Any eye opening revelations?

We discussed how one-sided really our relationship is, not just sexually. She apologized and said she wants to do better. Said she wants to give me the freedom to do those things but she can’t bring herself to. She feels physically sick at the thought. Said maybe we should stop it all. She knows I don’t want to. Then she said I deserve someone who will and I told her without mincing any words that I’m not going anywhere.

[coastalkid]

Hang in there Anonymousrob! Hopefully things turn in the right direction for you with a little patience. Has she acknowledged that you're being left out?

Yes 100%. She recognizes it. She cried and said it isn’t fair. But also, nothing has changed really so…

Just to be clear she cried because she knows it's not fair to you? At least she acknowledges that you're being deprived of YOUR incredible sexual experience but the "nothing has really changed" part isn't very encouraging. You mentioned before that your communication has been better. What have you discovered/learned from your improved communication? Any eye opening revelations?

We discussed how one-sided really our relationship is, not just sexually. She apologized and said she wants to do better. Said she wants to give me the freedom to do those things but she can’t bring herself to. She feels physically sick at the thought. Said maybe we should stop it all. She knows I don’t want to. Then she said I deserve someone who will and I told her without mincing any words that I’m not going anywhere.

I get it! My wife is a controlling figure but not in a overt and obvious way. She usually gets the last word. I get the feeling she's starting to recognize she's that way and I can also see that she doesn't like being that way. Hopefully your wife will begin to see herself in a different light. You can always test that controlling nature with little things like choosing a restaurant or a movie to watch. Even those little things tell a lot.

If she's sincere about wanting to do better she'll make certain that the effort she makes can be easily recognized by you. I liked your reply about YOU not going anywhere. That sends a message that you want to work things out AND you want to do it with HER! At some point she's going to break down like you did and tell you that she just can't do it and she's sorry, or she'll ask for help from you to find your happiness. Essentially that's what happened to you. Either way it seems there's clearly more to discuss and concerns to set aside.

She's not still seeing anyone while this is going on? Has she said what specifically makes her "physically sick"?

[Anonymousrob]

Yes 100%. She recognizes it. She cried and said it isn’t fair. But also, nothing has changed really so…

Just to be clear she cried because she knows it's not fair to you? At least she acknowledges that you're being deprived of YOUR incredible sexual experience but the "nothing has really changed" part isn't very encouraging. You mentioned before that your communication has been better. What have you discovered/learned from your improved communication? Any eye opening revelations?

We discussed how one-sided really our relationship is, not just sexually. She apologized and said she wants to do better. Said she wants to give me the freedom to do those things but she can’t bring herself to. She feels physically sick at the thought. Said maybe we should stop it all. She knows I don’t want to. Then she said I deserve someone who will and I told her without mincing any words that I’m not going anywhere.

I get it! My wife is a controlling figure but not in a overt and obvious way. She usually gets the last word. I get the feeling she's starting to recognize she's that way and I can also see that she doesn't like being that way. Hopefully your wife will begin to see herself in a different light. You can always test that controlling nature with little things like choosing a restaurant or a movie to watch. Even those little things tell a lot.

If she's sincere about wanting to do better she'll make certain that the effort she makes can be easily recognized by you. I liked your reply about YOU not going anywhere. That sends a message that you want to work things out AND you want to do it with HER! At some point she's going to break down like you did and tell you that she just can't do it and she's sorry, or she'll ask for help from you to find your happiness. Essentially that's what happened to you. Either way it seems there's clearly more to discuss and concerns to set aside.

She's not still seeing anyone while this is going on? Has she said what specifically makes her "physically sick"?

She is still seeing people, yes. She said the thought of me with someone else makes her sick. She can’t imagine it and doesn’t want to.

[FNQLivin]

I do feel for you. It's a hard one. Whose idea was it? What does your wife enjoy about her dates, what's the appeal? What would she miss if she stopped?

[Anonymousrob]

I do feel for you. It's a hard one. Whose idea was it? What does your wife enjoy about her dates, what's the appeal? What would she miss if she stopped?

It was my idea originally. She loves the attention. He sex is good too. I think she would miss the connections she has made if we stopped.