The end for us in the lifestyle?

[coastalkid]

Kind of feeling worse than ever about this whole thing. Had a strange realization today. Feeling like dog shit if we are being honest.

Well, it's the day before Thursday and it's drawing close. How is she acting? Is the topic being cautiously avoided? Does she sense your attitude/demeanor? What was your "realization"? What are your feelings about pulling the plug at the eleventh hour?

[coastalkid]

So, is she supposed to spend the night Thursday and come home Friday?

[coastalkid]

I think you should talk to her. She needs to know what's at stake for her.

[Anonymousrob]

So, is she supposed to spend the night Thursday and come home Friday?

Yes. That is what she is doing. I’m not sure I feel comfortable talking about the realizations here but you can message me if you want

[Anonymousrob]

I think you should talk to her. She needs to know what's at stake for her.

We’ve talked. She doesn’t know that I’m ready to stop yet. I know this is something she’s really excited about, I don’t want to ruin that for her.

[Rogueuser1]

Yikes - sorry things are back on the downward trend.

[Bluetoed]

Sometimes it's good to take a break. Maybe it will just be an "offseason", or perhaps a new season never starts. I recommend not speaking in absolutes about something your wife obviously loves, as it could make her defensive about it, which could escalate it and boil over.

If she refuses to budge and let me have any fun or leeway or even include me, why would I continue though? It’s hurting rather than helping the marriage I fear

Like I said "perhaps a new season never starts."

If she can't budge and meet your needs, then it never will. The ball is in her court to figure out what it's worth it to her to get it back.

[Anonymousrob]

Sometimes it's good to take a break. Maybe it will just be an "offseason", or perhaps a new season never starts. I recommend not speaking in absolutes about something your wife obviously loves, as it could make her defensive about it, which could escalate it and boil over.

If she refuses to budge and let me have any fun or leeway or even include me, why would I continue though? It’s hurting rather than helping the marriage I fear

Like I said "perhaps a new season never starts."

If she can't budge and meet your needs, then it never will. The ball is in her court to figure out what it's worth it to her to get it back.

That’s fair. Sorry. Misread that. Not in the best headspace currently.

[FNQLivin]

I’ve followed your story and journey for a long time. I do hope you both get through this.

[sconesy73]

I’ve followed your story and journey for a long time. I do hope you both get through this.

Agreed.

We all like to hear the "success stories" but often forget that situations can often get out of hand- people can develop feelings and that can change things.

There's a TV advertisement in the UK for a bookmakers going on about accumulator bets etc. but the advert ends with a message about gambling- "once the fun stops, stop". I think that's probably the best course of action in this situation.

I think it's safe to say that everyone here hopes you get a good outcome for you and your partner

[Anonymousrob]

I’ve followed your story and journey for a long time. I do hope you both get through this.

Agreed.

We all like to hear the "success stories" but often forget that situations can often get out of hand- people can develop feelings and that can change things.

There's a TV advertisement in the UK for a bookmakers going on about accumulator bets etc. but the advert ends with a message about gambling- "once the fun stops, stop". I think that's probably the best course of action in this situation.

I think it's safe to say that everyone here hopes you get a good outcome for you and your partner

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate it

[SoCal Bosun]

Good luck to you and your wife. It’s a very tricky situation you are in. But. If you have communicated. Both talked. And one or both of you are unhappy then something has to shift. Otherwise it is not sustainable. As cucks our duty is to support and enable our wives but we have to take account to a certain extent ourselves.
I’m really trying to learn to be more selfless and 100% put the wants and desires of my wife first. I’m getting better. But it’s not an easy thing to do. To fully let go and just be a supportive cuck. Whatever happens.

Good luck in yourself and in your marriage.

[SoCal Bosun]

….oh. One last thought. Perhaps. A solution would be for you to fully let go to serving her. As someone once mentioned you have arrived here at the cuckold forum. So your identity as a cuck is not in question. If you are needing to feel that erotic phycological submission that we all crave, you may get that from fully letting go and serving her even more. Thank her for treating you like this. And for continuing to cuck you. Perhaps try to do more for her. Don’t moan about your position. Then perhaps through good behavior you may get the validation and rewards you seek?

This is only an idea. It may or may not work for you. It’s where I am in my relationship. Or at least what I am trying to be.

[Anonymousrob]

….oh. One last thought. Perhaps. A solution would be for you to fully let go to serving her. As someone once mentioned you have arrived here at the cuckold forum. So your identity as a cuck is not in question. If you are needing to feel that erotic phycological submission that we all crave, you may get that from fully letting go and serving her even more. Thank her for treating you like this. And for continuing to cuck you. Perhaps try to do more for her. Don’t moan about your position. Then perhaps through good behavior you may get the validation and rewards you seek?

This is only an idea. It may or may not work for you. It’s where I am in my relationship. Or at least what I am trying to be.

I def get what you are saying but Just so we are clear, for the last 18 yrs of our marriage, I already do all of the cooking, all of the laundry, and most of the cleaning. Our relationship is insanely one-sided, so that’s not an issue. I can’t “serve” her anymore than I already do.

I’ve just got to I guess accept the fact that I love her more than she loves me and either find a way to deal with it or I don’t know…

[Anonymousrob]

But she is gone now so here we are lol

[coastalkid]

My heart breaks for you, truly!

[Anonymousrob]

My heart breaks for you, truly!

Don’t worry about it. Nothing I can do about it now anyway

[james2011]

Rob
Will you get any texts or pictures while she is gone? Is it one night or whole weekend?
Hang in there as best you can.

[Anonymousrob]

Rob
Will you get any texts or pictures while she is gone? Is it one night or whole weekend?
Hang in there as best you can.

She was supposed to send stuff and take some but she didn’t. It was just for last night. Now we are in a deep discussion about the state of our place in the lifestyle.

[Watchinu69]

Time to start the division of assets- it's not a marriage, your her housekeeper... man up time, learn, evolve & move on already... dude cmon...

[Anonymousrob]

Time to start the division of assets- it's not a marriage, your her housekeeper... man up time, learn, evolve & move on already... dude cmon...

You couldn’t be further from accurate. I do a majority of housework, yes. But we love each other, our sex life is great, and we have built an amazing life together. Navigating the lifestyle is messy and different for everyone. That’s why we are having these conversations. We are establishing boundaries and discovering things about each other. As things stand now, it is unbalanced, but communication is how we fix these things.

[coastalkid]

Time to start the division of assets- it's not a marriage, your her housekeeper... man up time, learn, evolve & move on already... dude cmon...

You couldn’t be further from accurate. I do a majority of housework, yes. But we love each other, our sex life is great, and we have built an amazing life together. Navigating the lifestyle is messy and different for everyone. That’s why we are having these conversations. We are establishing boundaries and discovering things about each other. As things stand now, it is unbalanced, but communication is how we fix these things.

[veub]

What happened after Thursday night?

[shadowtantra]

Time to start the division of assets- it's not a marriage, your her housekeeper... man up time, learn, evolve & move on already... dude cmon...

You couldn’t be further from accurate. I do a majority of housework, yes. But we love each other, our sex life is great, and we have built an amazing life together. Navigating the lifestyle is messy and different for everyone. That’s why we are having these conversations. We are establishing boundaries and discovering things about each other. As things stand now, it is unbalanced, but communication is how we fix these things.

Well said. You need to do what is best for you and her through open and honest communication.

[Anonymousrob]

Well everyone, I’m okay. It was a rough few days. We had quite a few conversations and even though it’s still not even remotely fair, we are in a better spot than we have been in a while. We have made some decisions and I guess we will see how our changes have helped/hurt us in the next few weeks