Conservative wife with hot intentions.

[RuleEmAll]

Damn! You guys are well on your way of moving past the "Newbie" section if this forum, looking forward to her second date update!

[Jefft]

Well, we didn’t get a second date with the other guy. Not sure what was up as he said he was interested but my wife said her nerves were really bad. Dunno, but tonight she is going on another date to meet someone. She leaves in a couple hours but already looks confident and said she’s more excited (horny) than nervous. The guys we came across is comfortable with what we are looking for and eager to meet her after seeing photos. Very respectful guy but doesn’t have experience so see how it goes. I am not as nervous as the first date night either which is nice, haha now it feels like we are on a mission lmao. She is more direct in approach than previously and has said hooking up with a bbc with me is her top fantasy. Tonight is hopefully the start of something. What, like tenth try is the charm haha.

[Pecannut]

Sounds so hot! Hope the date goes well! Don't really understand ghosting...

[Jefft]

Sounds so hot! Hope the date goes well! Don't really understand ghosting...

Yea me neither. If not interested it’s fine to say as much. We only pursue one person at a time, so the delay was a bit of a let down. She just left for the date. I love watching her get dressed for it. She is so sexy.

[Jefft]

So she’s on the date. Started to get nervous right before hand, but said she was horny which is exciting. Radio silence since it started roughly 15 mins ago.

[patw3268]

Looking forward to the update

[fraktastic]

Hope all went well!

[Jefft]

Hope all went well!

Unfortunately the date did not. I had given him some background on her and the best type of approach. He was very forward which was fine but was I guess constantly licking his lips but not really engaged in conversation when she was asking what he’s interested in. The main thing was he mentioned his wife and that they were still married but not really together. Then told my wife we shouldn’t have any “rules” and he didn’t want to say too much because the more you know a person the less exciting it was. Major bust for what we were looking. Trying to convince her to go against rules (most of which are hers haha) was a poor choice.

It was exciting and she said she felt much more comfortable on the date even with getting very nervous right before. I think we have an even better understanding of what we want. I did think she may want to take a break just from the drain of not finding a suitable person. To my surprise (delight) she was still very horny and we have had a very healthy week of sex. She’s more engaged in looking at guys. She even said she feels even stronger urges to engage her fantasy and as we discussed it early today playfully I could tell she was getting wet talking about it. We both are comfortable being patient but in pursuit which is great. Less pressure. I was wondering if there were people on there that have had their first experience at a sex club? Her and I have talked about it but not sure it would be suitable for first time playing. Someone mentioned it’s a great place to make connections though but I don’t know.

[bbarnsworth]

Sorry the date didn't go well, but there's the silver lining that it seems to have increased her confidence in doing this. Honestly that guy sounds like a creep. Next! Hotwife dating is in many ways no different than vanilla dating. You're going to run into duds.

As to the sex club; it depends on what you want, and also the sex club. For some people, it can be quite overwhelming to see so many people freely engaging in sex in open spaces in the club. For some, it's absolute horny trigger! Some clubs have less open spaces and more private rooms. Some have a dance club vibe, and others feel a bit more like a pub. It's a good way to dip your toes without having to do anything. You get to meet people who are into this lifestyle, which is a big plus.

[Jefft]

Sorry the date didn't go well, but there's the silver lining that it seems to have increased her confidence in doing this. Honestly that guy sounds like a creep. Next! Hotwife dating is in many ways no different than vanilla dating. You're going to run into duds.

As to the sex club; it depends on what you want, and also the sex club. For some people, it can be quite overwhelming to see so many people freely engaging in sex in open spaces in the club. For some, it's absolute horny trigger! Some clubs have less open spaces and more private rooms. Some have a dance club vibe, and others feel a bit more like a pub. It's a good way to dip your toes without having to do anything. You get to meet people who are into this lifestyle, which is a big plus.

Thanks for the feedback. I know for our local one they have areas where sex and nudity is not permitted and areas where it’s game on and to expect to see action in these rooms etc. more like a dance club vibe than pub. they have “newbie nights” for people curious which I think would possibly be fun, but the overwhelming aspect is where I think it may not be what my wife is interested in. At least not to start.

You are certainly right about him being a creep but I was glad to see her stand her ground on rules, and think you are correct her confidence is growing, and I think with it her sexual prowess/confidence. Shes been more engaged in the search which is hot to watch.

[Jefft]

Sorry the date didn't go well, but there's the silver lining that it seems to have increased her confidence in doing this. Honestly that guy sounds like a creep. Next! Hotwife dating is in many ways no different than vanilla dating. You're going to run into duds.

As to the sex club; it depends on what you want, and also the sex club. For some people, it can be quite overwhelming to see so many people freely engaging in sex in open spaces in the club. For some, it's absolute horny trigger! Some clubs have less open spaces and more private rooms. Some have a dance club vibe, and others feel a bit more like a pub. It's a good way to dip your toes without having to do anything. You get to meet people who are into this lifestyle, which is a big plus.

[Jefft]

Sorry the date didn't go well, but there's the silver lining that it seems to have increased her confidence in doing this. Honestly that guy sounds like a creep. Next! Hotwife dating is in many ways no different than vanilla dating. You're going to run into duds.

As to the sex club; it depends on what you want, and also the sex club. For some people, it can be quite overwhelming to see so many people freely engaging in sex in open spaces in the club. For some, it's absolute horny trigger! Some clubs have less open spaces and more private rooms. Some have a dance club vibe, and others feel a bit more like a pub. It's a good way to dip your toes without having to do anything. You get to meet people who are into this lifestyle, which is a big plus.

[AZguy425]

I don't think it's unusual to have some hits and misses looking for your first experience. She's engaged in the process even with the misses. Eventually it'll be be right person and right situation and it'll happen for her.

A sex club is an intriguing idea, but she's actually enjoying looking for the guy who can get her to finally take the last step. I don't know if I'd mess with that dynamic unless she starts getting discouraged by the process.

[Jefft]

Sorry the date didn't go well, but there's the silver lining that it seems to have increased her confidence in doing this. Honestly that guy sounds like a creep. Next! Hotwife dating is in many ways no different than vanilla dating. You're going to run into duds.

As to the sex club; it depends on what you want, and also the sex club. For some people, it can be quite overwhelming to see so many people freely engaging in sex in open spaces in the club. For some, it's absolute horny trigger! Some clubs have less open spaces and more private rooms. Some have a dance club vibe, and others feel a bit more like a pub. It's a good way to dip your toes without having to do anything. You get to meet people who are into this lifestyle, which is a big plus.

[Jefft]

I don't think it's unusual to have some hits and misses looking for your first experience. She's engaged in the process even with the misses. Eventually it'll be be right person and right situation and it'll happen for her.

A sex club is an intriguing idea, but she's actually enjoying looking for the guy who can get her to finally take the last step. I don't know if I'd mess with that dynamic unless she starts getting discouraged by the process.

Yea we are in a bit of a holding pattern but it is a good spot to be. The potential forwardness that comes with a club may backfire for what works with her so we don’t have any plans to alter approach. She has started reading this post haha. She hasn’t caught up yet but it’s interesting to see her reaction along the way. I know she has already pointed out enjoying reliving some of the fun we have had, and overall a positive reaction saying it turns her on. The other thing is she has given me confirmation on some of the instances discussed, where I state how I think she feels and try to act accordingly to suit her needs and have good accuracy in reading her body language. This was great to know, because in those moments sometimes it’s not about what’s vocalized but reading between the lines. Fun nonetheless.

[Fearlesspain]

I'd love for her take on some of the posts. Her perspective would be greatly appreciated as I might better learn more for my own situation and she may even illuminate some things for both of you. I find writing to be very beneficial for capturing my thoughts and desires in a way that helps me communicate them better.

[typerope77]

I'm constantly amazed to read how many flakes there are out there who don't just drop EVERYTHING to fuck hot horny wives... Makes no sense!!

[LVyoung]

I'm constantly amazed to read how many flakes there are out there who don't just drop EVERYTHING to fuck hot horny wives... Makes no sense!!

For real! I've never understood the flakes. Even the slightest chance with a married woman and I'm there immediately lol

[scaryflyer]

Hey Jefft,

Thanks for the update,

It really seems that your wife has taken on your fantasy as her own now, and is excited in trying out her first BBC and perhaps becoming a Size Queen.

The most important thing is finding the right person who could possibly be her regular boyfriend and that the three of you get on well with mutual respect. looking forward to the next development.