Reignite the Flame

[BallSpanking]

"... if K does not take her to NYC soon, she will board a plane on her own ... "

That would be wild, and delicious.

[playwifeplease]

hi
How did you get her number, I thought you never exchanged info..
I feel like we are missing some of the story, if so please update us..

Thanks

For those wondering, I texted S today and our back and forth is exciting. S told me if K does not take her to NYC soon, she will board a plane on her own. She is very classy in public but in private she lets her submissiveness show.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

K .... Are you bringing her back?

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I was thinking this exactly??

Was S not quite 100% honest about not exchanging numbers, or did 'quiethope' come up with a devious master plan, to allow them to connect?

All exciting stuff, can't wait for more updates, altho' like others, I do think quiethope is now 'playing with fire', but as most realise, that's the most thrilling, albeit dangerous, part!

[Midnight Joker]

K .... Are you bringing her back?

Yes Sir. I'm realizing that I wasn't aware of the full dynamic between you two.

Woah, that's quite the development. No wonder she isn't talking about it as she's still thinking about it and wanting more. Seems like she was resisting, but now that she has had a taste she wants more.

Have you been doing any sharing/dirty talk during your own lovemaking or when she dresses up, letting her know you're still interested?

[QuietHope]

I don't think anyone lied, no numbers were exchanged that night, but over the course of the evening, enough information was shared that it didn't take much for them to find each other.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

To see that in print and knowing he's talking about my S just blows me away.

[Alcepsya]

I don't think anyone lied, no numbers were exchanged that night, but over the course of the evening, enough information was shared that it didn't take much for them to find each other.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

To see that in print and knowing he's talking about my S just blows me away.

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

[Alcepsya]

I don't think anyone lied, no numbers were exchanged that night, but over the course of the evening, enough information was shared that it didn't take much for them to find each other.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

To see that in print and knowing he's talking about my S just blows me away.

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

[QuietHope]

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

We haven't really talked about it, she clearly doesn't want to.

[BallSpanking]

Hi Karl,

Is Sophia's unwillingness to discus her affair with you consistent with the Sophia you know?
From what I can gather, she feels her relationship with NYCBullForHW is her own, and special.
If she won't speak of this with you, how do you move forward? Do you encourage her to book a flight on her own to see him?
I find it disconcerting that she won't share her feelings with you, hopefully NYCBullForHW can fill you in.
I don't know if you set out to be a HW husband or a cuckold, but the power is definitely in Sophia's hands.
You are in for one hell of a ride, if they share it with you, but I can't see how events will make it into your thread.
I hope she is willing to be more forthcoming, even at the expense of you openly accepting your new cuckold status.
Talk to her.

[Midnight Joker]

Are you two talking at all about the experience or is she still pretending that it never happened...at least with you? Has her behavior changed in any way? More quiet, our outgoing, or sexy?

[Coolcalm]

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

We haven't really talked about it, she clearly doesn't want to.

Yeah that is not a good sign. She’s contemplating not being in the marriage it seems. Get a handle on this. She’s talking to HIM, but not to YOU, her husband. Something is clearly wrong.

[BallSpanking]

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

To see that in print and knowing he's talking about my S just blows me away.

Would you like that for S?

[ducati boy]

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

We haven't really talked about it, she clearly doesn't want to.

Yeah that is not a good sign. She’s contemplating not being in the marriage it seems. Get a handle on this. She’s talking to HIM, but not to YOU, her husband. Something is clearly wrong.

Something has gone very wrong here I fear....I hope not...but I certainly hope the OP can recover his wife and keep his fantasy....

[Coolcalm]

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

We haven't really talked about it, she clearly doesn't want to.

Yeah that is not a good sign. She’s contemplating not being in the marriage it seems. Get a handle on this. She’s talking to HIM, but not to YOU, her husband. Something is clearly wrong.

Something has gone very wrong here I fear....I hope not...but I certainly hope the OP can recover his wife and keep his fantasy....

Most important is their marriage…
A lot of folks here seem to want to watch it end. I don’t get that.
OP needs to step back. Talk to his wife. Find out what is going on.
This whole fetish is great-when there is openness and honesty. She has not been open or honest.
Quiet, have we missed something? Was this all a part of your plan? If not then something is very wrong.

[Coolcalm]

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

We haven't really talked about it, she clearly doesn't want to.

Yeah that is not a good sign. She’s contemplating not being in the marriage it seems. Get a handle on this. She’s talking to HIM, but not to YOU, her husband. Something is clearly wrong.

Something has gone very wrong here I fear....I hope not...but I certainly hope the OP can recover his wife and keep his fantasy....

Most important is their marriage…
A lot of folks here seem to want to watch it end. I don’t get that.
OP needs to step back. Talk to his wife. Find out what is going on.
This whole fetish is great-when there is openness and honesty. She has not been open or honest.
Quiet, have we missed something? Was this all a part of your plan? If not then something is very wrong.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

Guys ...chill out with the criticism. Remember what happened to KYda? He was basically chased off the site by those that just couldn't refrain from dumping the gloom and doom of his situation onto the site. If you feel you have something to offer QH then just PM him. No need to make it up for public discussion. QH hasn't asked for any advice.

[BallSpanking]

Precisely!
It is apparent from the information posted there is a communication impasse here, but that does not necessarily nor automatically mean the marriage is doomed, and stating so in an alarmist way is not helpful.

It would be useful, perhaps, to have the insight of a HW here on why a wife, after an earthshaking first experience, would lock away that aspect of her persona, seemingly denying its very occurrence and existence to the world around her, including her husband. All the while secretly yearning for a rendezvous to rekindle the affair with her lover. If any wives here initially freaked out in a similar way, it would be good to understand why.

Although it is perhaps an unorthodox approach, maybe the best suited man to speak with Sophia on the issue is her Bull. To all appearances he has been respectful and discreet. It seems counterintuitive, but NYCBullForHW is the only person likely to be able to engage her in a loving relaxed conversation about the future, and how to make it more loving for all involved. Perhaps he can soften S's hard shell, get her to open up her communication with her husband.

I remind you that S is so good at compartmentalizing, Karl's life resumed normalcy immediately, without missing a beat, except he is now aware there is an imposing looming sexual presence in S's life. Even so, that should not be a reason to sacrifice your marriage, nor does it need to be.

[aztd]

I don't think anyone lied, no numbers were exchanged that night, but over the course of the evening, enough information was shared that it didn't take much for them to find each other.

I still remember her on her knees and asking me do with her whatever pleases me.
I remember then and there pulling hair in pony tail and pulled her face on my dick and omg ... the skill ....

To see that in print and knowing he's talking about my S just blows me away.

I have read this thread several times. It seems very authentic. Enjoyed your lead up and steps taken and how she became more receptacle. One thing I say in this is that she seems to be pretty honest with you about her feelings and intentions. My wife other than when she's very drunk would never met that a mother man was handsome or did she have a desire for him. When she gets a little drunk she might make some hands He's a good looking man. But nothing real in our life it's primarily been movie or TV stars. But we're in bed. And I asked her about one particular star from criminals minds. I can't remember his name but he's a big handsome black guy. And ask her if she wants him. All she does is moan and say yes. Oftentimes after that she comes hard. Early on we went to a sex club. We only had contact with each other. It was really really hot. You're early and I relationship that you mentioned something about it might be fun to go back. I said maybe I was concerned about bringing a third into a relationship so early into it. When again that nice complete dead there. We never having attentions of her getting with another man. It's time went on a couple times we talked about in the daylight. One time she was afraid of STDs. My reminder of rubbers. And then that seemed to comment on that. What you need no more of the comments with that. And then she a while later mentioning her religion. How could you do that with her faith. Of course I told her it wasn't cheating if we agreed to it. And then she said what about sin. We still role play and gets her off very much. I'm not sure this anything I want to do. Over the last year or so I've had some problems with sexual function. I had one conversation The tree deserves pleasure and sorry I couldn't do that for her. I said maybe we should talk about someone that could. Your responses I marry you you all I need. I still love you while you can function or not. It seems like at some point should lie watch p*** anymore. Clearly shut down going to the club again. And when I mentioned a man that it paid their attention and she was clearly churned by him. She was very clear that no. Sometimes he's tease me along that maybe. Don't know where I go that way it's always no. I really appreciate the venture you and your wife had. How honest she is with you. And how authentic your story sounds. So often some of these stories are the guy asked his wife to f*** another guy. The next weekend she goes out and it's gave you a g*******. And then everything's great after that. Some of them do I think it happens this way. I will enjoy seeing your future adventures. I wonder if JJ will pan out

[Alcepsya]

How have your discussions been with S. about him and/or about hotwifing more broadly?

We haven't really talked about it, she clearly doesn't want to.

I'm sorry to hear that. That's a difficult situation since your involvement and pleasure from her interaction, in largest part, come from your after-event discussion of it with her. The absence of that discussion must really reduce your enjoyment of the experience. Do you think that S. has some sense of embarrassment, shame, or awkwardness of discussing her experience with you that she is compartmentalizing it to shield herself from those emotions? From all that has appeared in these forums, having both partners in the marriage participate in the experience, the husband at least vicariously by the wife's meaningful recounting of it, seems to lead to the best experience.

It really seems as if you have to have a heartfelt discussion with S. about her closing off this experience from you, how that makes you feel, and why that is unacceptable if you both plan to continue with this path. Otherwise, doesn't it just become her having an affair, but with your knowledge?

Good luck to you, and I hope that you are able to have a good discussion with S., one in which she opens up on the particular event with NYCBull and more widely on the issue of whether to continue on this path.

[Coolcalm]

“Quiet” doesn’t seem to be in a good place. Very terse answers. And it seems like folks seem to just want this to go further.
I feel for him. He’s not talking much and does not have the same enthusiasm he did when this was just a fantasy. Seems he’s hoping against a hope that things will “work out” but fears it won’t. He trusted his wife to be honest with him about not having exchanged contact info yet she played semantics. She is shutting him out and talking with that bull and NOT talking with her husband. That is not a good sign and not cool.
This is a marriage and a family.
I’m wishing you the best “Quiet”

[ducati boy]

“Quiet” doesn’t seem to be in a good place. Very terse answers. And it seems like folks seem to just want this to go further.
I feel for him. He’s not talking much and does not have the same enthusiasm he did when this was just a fantasy. Seems he’s hoping against a hope that things will “work out” but fears it won’t. He trusted his wife to be honest with him about not having exchanged contact info yet she played semantics. She is shutting him out and talking with that bull and NOT talking with her husband. That is not a good sign and not cool.
This is a marriage and a family.
I’m wishing you the best “Quiet”

this....100%

[QuietHope]

I hear what you all are saying. I'm going to try to find another time this weekend to discuss with her. I know this sounds weak but its just so easy to ignore issues and inconsistencies when she seems to be happy not discussing it at all.

I would tell you that our sex life has recently dropped off completely. She had a bad cold for a week which I then got myself and I was work traveling a bit this month so its not surprising but we've both been home and healthy for the past week and nothing. Ebbs and flows to our sex life isn't anything new but given the circumstances, I think worth keeping tabs.

[BallSpanking]

Finally!
A normal, non-alarmist post.
Thx for the update, Karl.

[Coolcalm]

I feel for you Quiet!
Most important thing in the lifestyle is open and honest communication, and she’s doing neither. Also being shady in her communication with the bull.
I hope you can get the talk and answers you need this weekend.

[Midnight Joker]

Really appreciate the update, Quiet. I hope thinks work out well for you two. Of course I hope there are more adventures in the future, but at the same time I want what is best for you both.

[QuietHope]

Haven't found the right time yet for a talk with her.

I will tell you that my mind is still enraptured by cuck thoughts. We were new car shopping this week and she sat down in the driver's seat, wearing a skirt and sleeveless blouse, and she was twisting and turning to adjust the headrest and I watched the sales guy stare at her body. We went on a bioluminescence kayaking tour one night and I watched S and the young guide chat and chat, I think clearly flirting. And we're having part of our house remodeled and while I haven't witnessed anything, I've imagined all kinds of things between her and the workers. The cuck kink is powerful.