So I mentioned this on another thread but I thought it might be fun to talk about the process I go through as the husband which is searching for her playmates. I realize people do this differently, but in our relationship, I find her playmates with little help or input from her. Basically I search for them, find them, talk to them then i send her a few pics and giver her an oral report of the ones I have already decided are ok. She has veto power of course, but she almost never uses it. I know what she likes and she trusts me. so what i wanted to discuss here are the red flags i see in the process...the quick reasons I screen a guy and take a pass. Now these will obviously vary depending on taste but for us....
1. if a guy is into pain, giving or recieving
2. if a guy is a bull looking for a hotwife and cuck (we arent in to humiliation, just pleasure and fun)
3. if a guy sends a pic of him and his dog
4. if a guy calls himself a "big nerd"
5. if a guy demands to speak to her
6. if a guy is too needy and expects me to answer all his texts promptly
there's probably more, but thats a good start.
Red Flags
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What’s the red flag with a photo of a guy with his dog? Just curious.
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What’s the red flag with a photo of a guy with his dog? Just curious.
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I also thought about the dog thing and thought he must have meant a sick pick but no, I’m pretty sure it’s written correctly. Allergies maybe? but I digress…
I don’t find men, nor does my wife advertise for them on a website (or go out looking at all to be honest). But she doesn’t enjoy haves flags
- men that have/produce drama (this does not mean an unknowing spouse as that hasn’t stopped her) but rather someone that doesn’t carry emotional maturity. Two of her FWBs ended because they couldn’t handle the emotional component and turned into:
- guys that are wishy-washy. Don’t fuck get, tell her she means something to her and cancel for two months or neglect your FWBs status. You can be Friends or you can be Friends-with-Benefits but don’t play between the two only when it suits you.
- guts that aren’t mature. The one time she picked up someone in the wild, she started texting/chatting and went out to drinks. He was 15years younger, hot and spoke like he had done this before. But he continually spoke of his anime collection, getting a cheap hotel, didn’t drive and in general showed his age gap in ways that were not “younger stud” but more “man-child wannabe”
I don’t find men, nor does my wife advertise for them on a website (or go out looking at all to be honest). But she doesn’t enjoy haves flags
- men that have/produce drama (this does not mean an unknowing spouse as that hasn’t stopped her) but rather someone that doesn’t carry emotional maturity. Two of her FWBs ended because they couldn’t handle the emotional component and turned into:
- guys that are wishy-washy. Don’t fuck get, tell her she means something to her and cancel for two months or neglect your FWBs status. You can be Friends or you can be Friends-with-Benefits but don’t play between the two only when it suits you.
- guts that aren’t mature. The one time she picked up someone in the wild, she started texting/chatting and went out to drinks. He was 15years younger, hot and spoke like he had done this before. But he continually spoke of his anime collection, getting a cheap hotel, didn’t drive and in general showed his age gap in ways that were not “younger stud” but more “man-child wannabe”