Hesitant wife turning the corner, then back again...

[Otherwise_Door_2458]

48m/42f - reluctant wife finally turning the corner from pillow talk to IRL play - that would be the chapter title of our journey. I have lots of experience in the LS with my ex but currently, lovely, fun, sexy, smart and (overly lol) loyal wife has been a slow burn on the HF/cuck kink journey.

Anyhow, after years of pillow talk and her going back and forth on how she feels about the idea, she just recently allowed herself to consider being with another guy. It was all she could think/talk about for a couple days - and not all good things. She's conflicted about it and I would never ever rush or pressure her into things. I would be entirely satisfied with our sex life if we kept doing what we are now. We have sexy 2-3 times a week, and for busy professionals with young kids I know this is great. We graduated from dildo play to sleeve play - which absolutely scratches, at least partially, the itch I have to see her with another guy.

She's a super outgoing, extremely confident social woman but at the same time has traditional/conservative views on marriage/fidelity/monogamy. While we have great sex, she doesn't have exhibitionist/slut tendencies - never had a promiscuous phase in her life lol. She can be very flirty with men - and enjoys the banter - but in the most vanilla way. That said she's been willing to entertain this kink of mine for years and, as much as it is two steps fwd, one step back, she seems to be heading in the "right" direction.

So for the time being I am going to her continue to process the idea of IRL play. At the moment she actually seems to have rejected it again - which is totally fine with me. I'm just here to enjoy the ride.

[iluvmyhw]

good luck and keep us posted

[sharedfantasy]

That’s exactly it. As I have mentioned to someone else on this forum, it seems to me like my wife brings it up and shows interest in the idea of having another man in bed with us, when I lay off of the idea for a while..

Can’t wait to read more.

[AZguy425]

I think this is many of us. My wife is the same way. There have been times where she's been tantalizingly close to doing it. All it would've taken was maybe one more drink and continued flirting at the hotel bar on a work conference... but alas she pulled back at the last minute.

Its enticing to know that it's possible in the right scenario with the right motivation and the right energy. Even if that situation is few and far between, I am encouraged and love the journey just knowing it's possible.

[AZguy425]

I also, BTW, have had this lifestyle in the past like you. It adds a sense of reality to the journey.

[parklife]

Its enticing to know that it's possible in the right scenario with the right motivation and the right energy. Even if that situation is few and far between, I am encouraged and love the journey just knowing it's possible.

So much is this…. Particularly when you have a more traditional wife whom nonetheless plays with the fantasy. Once she is open to the possibilities, it really comes down to person, time and opportunity.

Always enjoy the ride as I’m often caught quoting Rocky Hortor, “slowly, slowly, it’s too nice a jump to rush”

[slickestchick]

Sounds very similar to a friend of mine who started cucking her husband a few years ago after being married for 15 years and entertaining his fantasy in the bedroom but never taking it further.

What pushed her over the edge into seriously considering it was when her husband started to lose interest in sex. I have to confess it was my idea for him to do so after he confided in my husband about his frustration.

I suggested he slowly lose interest to the stage where they only have sex once a month if at all. He started it after her next period so it seemed less obvious and mentioned stress work etc. as a reason.

Another thing he tried was sleeping in the spare room more frequently saying she was snoring a lot and he needed more sleep - hence the work stress etc.

I don't like the idea of lying, especially in this lifestyle but...

As I guessed, it didn't take long for her to get frustrated and he noticed she was masturbating a lot when he was in the spare room - she sometimes forgot to clean her dildo and the lube was running down when they weren't using it together due to no sex.

He was the one who bought her the sex toys, she initially said she hated them etc but he knew she used them.

The big shift really came after about 4 months when he discovered in her dressing table drawer a new glass dildo she'd bought herself. She also began to put more effort into her makeup for work and slightly sexier dressing. She was a professional woman as in this thread and he noticed a shift in her appearance for work, not just date nights.

As you can guess, she was sexually frustrated and was trying to seduce him but over time she withdrew and eventually, I think it was about month 10 he brought up the fantasy again and she confessed that she had the hots for a colleague at work. Just a harmless kind of crush she said.

I don't have all the details as I found this all out from them later on but, after she noticed it genuinely turned him on that she was admitting a crush and encouragement from him it didn't take long for her to go 'for a drink' and then ending up in bed together regularly.

They never recovered the frequency of sex together but neither minded as found their cuck arrangement much more fulfilling and exciting than either expected.

Might be worth trying this approach?

[leggysman]

Wow, slickestchick!

I often see you logged in, but for a longtime member your posts are vanishingly rare!

[slickestchick]

Thanks hun.

Just find a lot of the threads quite boring these days to be honest. Not many other verified wives seem to be contributing either which is sad.

I just check in now and again but don't have a lot to say.

Happily just living the life and doing this stuff in the real world. x

[slickestchick]

Thanks hun.

Just find a lot of the threads quite boring these days to be honest. Not many other verified wives seem to be contributing either which is sad.

I just check in now and again but don't have a lot to say.

Happily just living the life and doing this stuff in the real world. x

[slickestchick]

Thanks hun.

Just find a lot of the threads quite boring these days to be honest. Not many other verified wives seem to be contributing either which is sad.

I just check in now and again but don't have a lot to say.

Happily just living the life and doing this stuff in the real world. x