Infidelity to cuckolding

[Jonjones1529]

Can infidelity turn into a cuckolding relationship? If your partner cheats on you with it you knowing, is the trust forever broken?

Or can it open the door to the conversation of your partner not being sexually satisfied and open the relationship to cuckolding?

[Justaregularguy]

My now wife cheated on me, it’s very much possible to rebuild trust and change dynamics in a relationship.

[ursamajor69]

It depends how serious the betrayal of trust was. My wife was on her way to having a full blown affair with someone she met online, but never went to meet him in real life. I changed the situation by turning it into a shared "naughty hotwife" fantasy with my wife, and basically saved my marriage.

Here is our full story:
viewtopic.php?f=8&t=49123&p=937515#p937515

[bbarnsworth]

There's too many factors that play into that idea for us to give you a good answer. Can it lead to that? Sure. It's also likely to lead to divorce. For most people into hotwifing, trust is an absolute must. If your wife is cheating on you, you don't have trust.

[a2malways]

My now wife cheated on me, it’s very much possible to rebuild trust and change dynamics in a relationship.

Your wife is lovely and I have hopes for you to realize your shared goals.

Have you told the story of her cheating? I have always been open to my partner having other sexual contacts or experiences with or without me, but in my longest relationship, when she revealed an affair many years later, the circumstances she recounted were so far from a hot or empowering experience it was impossible to view it as in any way related to an entry point to hotwifing.

I'm interested in other stories, particularly from members like you who I think have awareness of your own situation, and insights into the psychology of this space.

[weluvtoodoit]

Yes, yes and yes

We were both married quite young, I was 21 and she had just graduated HS at 18. Three years later she had a secret affair with a best friend (who was also a groomsman in our wedding). It lasted for months, maybe years because I never was told an end date when she finally confessed to me she had cheated. The trust for me was instantly gone and it took many months for me to get over it. We had always talked in the bedroom of fantasy situations of different men with her, but I was blind to it in real life. That trust did come back and it also created a path for us to talk more about it and the possibility of something happening in the future.

It did happen again many years later with another close friend of ours and it was not hidden, but it was something where I was never included or allowed to watch. That lasted for a while which I loved, but the part that I could not handle was never being included with their intimacy. I was the one that messed that up for them and to this day, I regret not handling my emotions better (lesson learned). We are still very close friends and do things together, but there is no sex involved with either man any more. There were two other men who she met for one night stands and it was incredible both times. It led to bedroom talk of finding others to play with, even though it has been years now since anything has happened outside our marriage.

The questions you asked in the your beginning post, can all be answered yes, but it also can take time and talking between you to make it a realization.
Good luck in your journey!

[Wantsomefunto]

We began with my wife cheating,
Took a while but it eventually became the trigger for me
Wanting her to keep playing without me

[Shadnaster]

That's how it started with us.

She had cheated with an ex-boyfriend. She came clean with me a few weeks after it happened. I was heart broken. I used to think of them together and it made me angry. Over time, it started to turn me on. At one point, I would ask her about it in bed and she could see how it turned me on. Things just evolved from there.

[botleofdom]

Interesting…was he black or white?

[Shadnaster]

Interesting…was he black or white?

He was beige

[mfm4bnc]

My first marriage was open. My wife enjoyed it and had some great times, but she always had to make it "about me" and my pleasure.

When I was courting my forever wife, she had an alpha style ex that she claimed to just hang out with because of the kids being friends and Lil being his colleague. I walked up her driveway and from outside her house, I could hear her building to orgasm. The path to the door goes past her kitchen window, and as I got closer, there she was, sitting on the counter legs spread with her ex's face between her legs.

Lil and I literally had a sex romp scheduled for the next morning. When I arrive at 5:00 for a pre-work quickie, the first thing I noticed was fresh sheets and the second thing I noticed was my picture was not on her nightstand.

Probably every time I have jacked off in the last 15 years, it has been to the kitchen window memory. After seeing that, I was sure Lil would want to cuckold me. She does "humor me" with talk sometimes, and she used to do some epic role play. There is pretty good evidence she has cheated a couple times, but she doesn't want to fuck me in the lifestyle sense. And here I am in the wannabe forum...

To me the absolute biggest turn on blurs the line between cheating and cuckolding.i would be super turned on to catch her, and then have her rub it in my face.

[isinlarsa]

My first wife and I had swapped with another couple, and maybe that made it easier. She started having sex with a co-worker in the office in the afternoon, where they were alone. She continued for a few weeks, but then told me that she was getting fucked every afternoon before coming home. It was so hot to me that we agreed she should continue. She got a lot more extramarital sex than I did -- which I enjoyed.

[GorgeousRandy]

There's too many factors that play into that idea for us to give you a good answer. Can it lead to that? Sure. It's also likely to lead to divorce. For most people into hotwifing, trust is an absolute must. If your wife is cheating on you, you don't have trust.

100%. This "lifestyle" doesn't seem like something that can thrive when it doesn't come from a place of respect and boundaries. I would even attempt it with a woman who wasn't completely on your team. It seems more akin to urging her out the door than strengthening a marriage.

[calicolombia69]

Except for taxes and death, everything can be fixed.

If they are in an affair, they obviously have some sense of adventure and risk taking. They likey thank us for allowing them to come out of their closet and still continue to satisfy their needs.

But dont try to control the affair. You dont have to be a sissy either (unless you want), but keep it balanced.
I think its still important to let them have their space with a lover every once in a while. Especially those with kids and family. The woman needs a break from life and husband. Let her feel young and single for an evening or a weekend. Her thank you present to you is a couple of creampies, a sweaty un-showered body and an ass/vulva that reeks of male sweat and cologne.

[Late]

My first marriage was open. My wife enjoyed it and had some great times, but she always had to make it "about me" and my pleasure.

When I was courting my forever wife, she had an alpha style ex that she claimed to just hang out with because of the kids being friends and Lil being his colleague. I walked up her driveway and from outside her house, I could hear her building to orgasm. The path to the door goes past her kitchen window, and as I got closer, there she was, sitting on the counter legs spread with her ex's face between her legs.

Lil and I literally had a sex romp scheduled for the next morning. When I arrive at 5:00 for a pre-work quickie, the first thing I noticed was fresh sheets and the second thing I noticed was my picture was not on her nightstand.

Probably every time I have jacked off in the last 15 years, it has been to the kitchen window memory. After seeing that, I was sure Lil would want to cuckold me. She does "humor me" with talk sometimes, and she used to do some epic role play. There is pretty good evidence she has cheated a couple times, but she doesn't want to fuck me in the lifestyle sense. And here I am in the wannabe forum...

To me the absolute biggest turn on blurs the line between cheating and cuckolding.i would be super turned on to catch her, and then have her rub it in my face.

One of the things I enjoy about this forum is seeing things through someone else's eyes. You consider yourself a wannabe, but your wife is sexually active with someone other than you. I get it, but I would never have thought about it without your comment. Thanks for sharing.

Late

[parklife]

What about the possible scentuo of infideliy ofthegysvand leading the the wife becoming a hotwife? Perhaps the wife takes the idea and while requiring renewed commitment from the husband, she opens herself up to exploring others. From a sense of guilt and shame, the husband allows it and it grows from there?

Just another possibility….

[tristanos]

My wife also had an affair at the past.
We are still together.

Here is our story:
viewtopic.php?t=74085