Is it a turn on knowing your wife is attracted to and desires other men?

[DCaftermath]

It’s kinda obvious that in society women are to have eyes only for their man. Also obvious is that it requires a lot of willpower on the behalf of women to carry that appearance while it’s natural to be drawn to the opposite sex.

When I first started dating my wife she was 22. She was and still is very attractive. I am always content to be seen with her and have been content in this way from the beginning. Very early on in our dating one day her and I were together going somewhere in the city. There was a lot of traffic and it was bumper to bumper and we were often stopping to wait for traffic. Along side our car on her side was a car with a man driving alone. We had the widows down and the wind was rustling my wife’s beautiful dark hair. She got a good look at this guy and instead of keeping it to herself and just stealing a look when she could she openly exclaimed, “what a beautiful looking man, oh my God!”. And continued to crank her head hoping for another good glimpse. She had just recently came out of a relationship with an overly jealous guy and had told me of it. Evidently she had acted like herself before as well and now was again being herself with a new guy, me.

It was probably the most blatant show of desire I had experienced with any prior relationship, and it was rather eye opening and a cause for some contemplation, but instead of feeling jealous I found I liked it, and was in no way a negative. Years later I still love this about her. In fact on day within the last few years she came home from work and told me the boss’s son who was very buff and good looking ask her if she would consider some overtime while working with him in his office on a new project. I told her it sounded good and why not? Her come back was priceless, she said, “oh my goodness he is so good looking if he made a move on me there’s no way I could say no!”

Just wondering if there’s any other guys with wives like this? And for the ladies that are like this and still are adored by their husbands, love to hear from you as well!

[MartasBoy]

Yes, but she is pretty quiet about it and doesn't talk about it too freely.

[AdamGunn]

When I met the person who would be my wife in my mid thirties, she was constantly being checked out by other men, and as we became closer they didn't stop looking. A wedding ring on her finger wasn't any kind of a barrier. And I so much enjoyed it, pointing them out to her and watching her flirt even more.

At that time we were monogamous, and stayed that way for the next twenty years. At some point, I stopped noticing if men checked her out. Then, twenty years later we began discussing opening up our marriage, and lo and behold, I got turned on when a guy noticed her!

[DCaftermath]

At that time we were monogamous, and stayed that way for the next twenty years. At some point, I stopped noticing if men checked her out. Then, twenty years later we began discussing opening up our marriage, and lo and behold, I got turned on when a guy noticed her!

Yeah I get the “them noticing her” but how about the other way around? Does she? And is it a turn on?

[DCaftermath]

Yes, but she is pretty quiet about it and doesn't talk about it too freely.

I think a lot can be said but how she looks at others, she doesn’t have to say much really, she says a lot if after seeing someone she likes the look of then meets your eyes to confirm her approval.

[Bertman]

Yes! That is a great feeling. Every now and then we talk to a new guy and she really gets the hots for him. Last week it was just a stranger asking for directions when we were making a walk. I see it just "clicked" with her, she smiled more and sort of beamed her female energy. I almost wanted to disappear to let them connect more. She has been talking about him all week in the bedroom.

[DCaftermath]

Yes! That is a great feeling. Every now and then we talk to a new guy and she really gets the hots for him. Last week it was just a stranger asking for directions when we were making a walk. I see it just "clicked" with her, she smiled more and sort of beamed her female energy. I almost wanted to disappear to let them connect more. She has been talking about him all week in the bedroom.

It’s probably the ability to talk about this and the trust that you must have in order to do so that makes it so great.

[AdamGunn]

At that time we were monogamous, and stayed that way for the next twenty years. At some point, I stopped noticing if men checked her out. Then, twenty years later we began discussing opening up our marriage, and lo and behold, I got turned on when a guy noticed her!

Yeah I get the “them noticing her” but how about the other way around? Does she? And is it a turn on?

Oh, absolutely. Especially at the club, she'd tell me which guys she had her eyes on.

[MartasBoy]

Yes, but she is pretty quiet about it and doesn't talk about it too freely.

I think a lot can be said but how she looks at others, she doesn’t have to say much really, she says a lot if after seeing someone she likes the look of then meets your eyes to confirm her approval.

I always sensed that she was attracted to my buddy who was the best man at our wedding. He stayed with us for a few weeks once when he had sold one house and was waiting to close on his new house. I felt a lot of sexual energy between the two of them as they were moving around our house, early in the morning, when we were all in pajamas and bath robes, coming in and out of the bathroom, bumping into each other, and getting ready for work. I saw both of them blush a few times bumping into each other.

Whenever I have asked her if she finds him attractive, she has been very casual about it, seeming to play it down, and would just say that he's okay. And then she would come in on what a nice person he is.

But she fixed him up with one of her girlfriends once. They were hot for each other for a while and then it ended for various reasons. My wife later fixed him up with another girlfriend of hers. I overheard her on the phone one day talking to the other girl. When she asked what he looked like, my wife exclaimed enthusiastically, that he was very good looking. Then I heard her gush a little, when she told the girl, that her previous girlfriend he dated told her that he was a very sexy man, and a very good lover.

It always excited me, and I have created AI photos of them together in suggestively intimate scenes.

[steveb713]

Yes, but she is pretty quiet about it and doesn't talk about it too freely.

Martasboy thats pretty much the same in our home. I've learned over the years when L finds a guy she thinks may a candidate for her
she's pretty methodical about making her move though in a very subtle and methodical way. Thankfully she's open with me when she's
found someone that interests her.

Her being open about is reassuring for me that we're together in this. As you've said she is also very quiet about it and doesn't want to talk
about it until she wants to

[MartasBoy]

Yes, but she is pretty quiet about it and doesn't talk about it too freely.

Martasboy thats pretty much the same in our home. I've learned over the years when L finds a guy she thinks may a candidate for her
she's pretty methodical about making her move though in a very subtle and methodical way. Thankfully she's open with me when she's
found someone that interests her.

Her being open about is reassuring for me that we're together in this. As you've said she is also very quiet about it and doesn't want to talk
about it until she wants to

Yes, and I guess you probably read the other post I wrote about me figuring out that she was very attracted to the friend of mine who was the best man at our wedding. I found that out by overhearing a phone conversation with a girlfriend of hers, when they were talking about another girlfriend who had dated my buddy and reported to my wife that he was very sexy and a very good lover. My wife doesn't keep these these things from me to be deceitful or secretive. I think she only does it to protect my feelings.

[petej55]

Yes it is a big time turn that my wife is attracted to other guys!!!!

[steveb713]

Yes it is a big time turn that my wife is attracted to other guys!!!!

Indeed and that they tell us about it - thats what gets me going

[annsman]

My wife has never been shy about telling me who she fancies and who she is sexually attracted to, because she knows it turns me on. She is also happy to openly talk to me about her feelings/emotions for her boyfriends.

[petej55]

Yes it is a big time turn that my wife is attracted to other guys!!!!

Indeed and that they tell us about it - thats what gets me going

Has she ever told that desiring another guy has led her to spreading her legs for that other guy? Now that really gets me going!!!

[petej55]

My wife has never been shy about telling me who she fancies and who she is sexually attracted to, because she knows it turns me on. She is also happy to openly talk to me about her feelings/emotions for her boyfriends.

My wife is not shy either. She has pointed out guys that make wet and then she loves to openly talk about the guys after she has fucked them. Like you all this is a big turn on for me!

[Testing123]

Yes.

At a kids event the other day she motioned to this fit guy and whispered to me “I would love to run my hands over his abs while sucking his cock.”

[steveb713]

Yes, but she is pretty quiet about it and doesn't talk about it too freely.

Martasboy thats pretty much the same in our home. I've learned over the years when L finds a guy she thinks may a candidate for her
she's pretty methodical about making her move though in a very subtle and methodical way. Thankfully she's open with me when she's
found someone that interests her.

Her being open about is reassuring for me that we're together in this. As you've said she is also very quiet about it and doesn't want to talk
about it until she wants to

I have to add to my comments from above - I shared with my wife for years ( we've been married a long long time ) my fantasy and desire for her to have sex with a man with my support and knowledge - I didn't bug her about it though frequently when we were in conversation or having sex about my fantasies of her having sexwith another man - she routinely said not a chance - not for me etc - She met a guy of all things while playing pickle ball that she found attractive, he was recently divorced, they got to be chummy at the pickle ball court - eventually she said I could see myself with him - Long story short she approached him ( he had no clue of what a HW or consensual non monogamy - she expanded it and he agreed after some thought - anyway she went out with him a few times and they began a longer term arrangement where she'd see him every week or so - she loved it and I loved her coning hone to me - our sex life was / is off the charts as a result - its always been great but this supercharged it - finally he decided to end it as he wanted a serious relationship aka finding a girlfriend - she was disappointed to say the least - she told me the other night she's looking for a replacement - !!! said she's holding out hope that her former lover isn't over
entirely as they may not last together - I find it ironic that it was no no no for years and now she's looking for a replacement or replacements - she confided in me that she's not going to stop though she's very set in the fact that she won't go online and won't pick up a guy in a bar - she loves to dance so we'll go to a few clubs and see how that works out - she's never been afraid or against going to dance clubs by herself or with
a group of lady friends - as you all know when your wife tells you these things and or shares her thoughts about being with another man it not only is very erotic but it most importantly enhances your trust in her - at least it does that for me -

[a51anh0tw1fe]

Lets look at it from various situations:

1. Wife doesn't admit it, you just noticed that she acts differently or you think it.
2. She tells you, but that's it.
3. She tells you and brings the idea of him into your bedroom, i.e. masturbating thinking of him, role-playing or just dirty talking about him during sex.
4. Flirts with the guy, touching, maybe sexting.
5. Gets sexual, either suck him off or fucks him.
6. Developing or developed a CNM relationship with him.

I guess there are levels to this.

[wifedateshubwaits]

It is very much a turn on and my wife will frequently point out men to whom she is attracted. She’ll then often tease me about it later, telling me to imagine her with a particular guy while attempting to make me horny. Sometimes this will be foreplay before we make love, but more often my wife will leave me frustrated and aroused as she knows keeping me on edge has me craving her all the more.

Also, although my wife and I are not public with our marital arrangement, my wife doesn’t hold back when admiring a handsome man when with friends. Of course, when she’s with her girlfriends, my wife likes to talk about men she finds attractive but she does the same even when in mixed company and in my presence. I always laugh it off, but it is something of a thrill to have my wife leering at some stranger in front of our friends.

[manmuscle]

It is always a turn on when a woman WANTS sex.

When she finds men attractive and is noticing men, it is great.

Even better when the men are trying to have her and want her as much.

[Geev]

Right now she has a steady bf on the side. I have started thinking about her having a second bf, as a fantasy for me, but in reality I don't see it happening anytime soon unless she breaks up with her bf.

[Flint]

I would find it a turn-on if my wife did show some attraction to another man but, unfortunately, she never does - no longer attracted to me neither

In the same vein, when I was younger, and dating an attractive girl, we were in a country pub with a group of biker friends when a new group of bikers arrived. My ever-faithful girlfriend seemed distracted by one of them, who had not even looked her way. She had never before shown an attraction to anyone else, but she could not take her eyes of this guy; he was about my size but had longer fairer hair, had a loud outgoing personality and a tight pair of brown leather jeans that seemed to really do it for her. I was quietly angry at her behaviour but somehow found myself really turned on at the same time and I was confused as to why; I could not wait to get my hands on her as she looked so wanton! That was many years before I'd learnt about cuckolding or hot-wives!

[zorro]

After 16 years of LS, my wife insists on feeling the hots for a guy before she'll consider fucking him. In the early years, she delighted in having all the men who wanted her, but by the time the pandemic came in, she switched and said she didn't want to only have mediocre sex with others. She became a demisexual, one who needs to have feelings for a guy before doing him. We remain involved fairly regularly with the same FB she has had for 8 years, one she is very fond of and trusts.

She has and can say a man looks attractive, but not as much as in the early years. When we used to attend sex clubs, I used to ask her if she sees anyone who appeals to her. Sometimes she said, "Yes" and then went over to seduce and fuck him.

If your woman doesn't find the guy she's with attractive, LS ceases to be fun.

[iloanmywife]

Just wondering if there’s any other guys with wives like this? And for the ladies that are like this and still are adored by their husbands, love to hear from you as well!

Yes, it's definitely a turn-on, but there's also something weirdly loving about it. Other men have my wife in the most intimate and explicit ways possible. It would be lame if she didn't trust her own husband to talk about it. She has unlimited sexual freedom, so she should also feel unlimited freedom to talk with me about it. That's different than me expecting a debrief or getting details for my own gratification. I try to listen without probing, staying in "best friend" mode. It's especially exciting when she's nonchalant, casually mentioning how good of a kisser some guy was or how she wants to fuck so-and-so again. Comments like, "That guy's kinda hot" has led to me playing wingman for her. It's even a turn on when she's not speaking positively, like if she vents about a date who was too selfish or rough or whatever.

I'm not sure about other couples, but we found that the more comfortable she became talking to me about other men, the more open she felt about fucking them. It became less of a kink and simply and established fact that my wife fucks other men.