Massive breakthrough

[Laughingcuck]

Hi everyone,

I’ve posted on here a few times but mostly lurked. My wife has been aware of my fantasy of sharing her for some time, and has said she would never want to actually do it. But lately she has been the one bringing it up in roleplay rather than me, telling me she had a dream about it and all the other things people say to do when you want to bring it up to your partner.

Last night we had amazing, kinky sex with roleplay and dirty talk. Afterwards said to me that she would be open to actually trying it in the future - but when the kids are a bit older. It kind of sounds to me like she just doesn’t want to handle the logistics of it, she says she’s really into the fantasy now. I’ve never seen her like this, I’m so turned on and horny. She said we can talk about it more tonight.


I’m thinking I might offer to sort out all the logistics, and tell her it will stop if either of us are uncomfortable. It would turn me on so much if she would agree to try it now. Should I not push it? It seems like she’s open to it but I don’t want to be too forceful.

[SmallTownGuy]

If she says she wants it later give her some time and discuss. The route may be better than the destination so let her enjoy the thrill of thinking and waiting and don't push her.

And congratulations!

[Bent_n_Twisted]

...Afterwards said to me that she would be open to actually trying it in the future - but when the kids are a bit older. It kind of sounds to me like she just doesn’t want to handle the logistics of it, she says she’s really into the fantasy now. I’ve never seen her like this, I’m so turned on and horny. She said we can talk about it more tonight.


I’m thinking I might offer to sort out all the logistics, and tell her it will stop if either of us are uncomfortable. It would turn me on so much if she would agree to try it now. Should I not push it? It seems like she’s open to it but I don’t want to be too forceful.

Don't push it. She said 'in the future', that means that she is thinking about it. That also means 'NOT NOW'. If you push for 'now', you may alienate her and turn her off from it. Leave it as 'pillow talk', when the kids are older and she is more comfortable you will know. If you try to push for 'now' you will ruin it, be patient. You are only thinking of what *you* want, you need to think of what *she* wants, and that is 'not now'.

[coastalkid]

Be thankful that the thoughts are in her head at all! Be even more thankful if she brought up the subject on her own! If those thoughts/notions/ideas are dancing around in that head of hers enough to where she would openly admit interest it's because she been processing the idea on her own.

She's probably already gone through the positives and negatives and created enough curiosity herself to gather more information. She probably wanted to see what your reaction was when she admitted her interest. It would give her an idea of whether this was something you were irrationally obsessed with or whether you could be reasonably objective. She may be wanting to gather enough from her own observation to determine if she believes it could work or fail.

I firmly agree with SmallTownGuy about enjoying the "route" and worrying less about the "destination". If she admitted, without you prompting the conversation, that she was interested, even if it was for a later date, the "seed" has at a minimum germinated. It's in her head. She's thought about it on her own. It might be wise to give the seedling time to get stronger and not "over water" it.

If you figure out how to have fun along the way your chances of success are probably much better. If you stress each other out with impatience and obsession then your chances are less likely. If she does or doesn't bring it up again she will have a reason. I have a feeling that subtle things will have a lot more impact than being direct right now.

[QuietHope]

I'd echo what others here have said...be patient...worked for me. She knows where you want to go and she's open to it so let life evolve and move to that point.

[Freddy314]

I think just the fact that she brought it up, and says she is willing to do it in the future, means she is opening up to the idea. Where once she was a hard no, now she is willing to do it eventually. That is good progress. I would let her be the one to bring it up in role play, and always let her know that it turns you on when she does. If you don't push too hard, it is possible it will happen sooner rather than later, but let her decide when it is time to take the leap.

[Jujube]

Well, did you two talk about it last night as planned?? I would love to have been a fly on the wall!

[Laughingcuck]

Thanks for all the advice everyone! I didn’t bring it up or push it at all, as that seemed to be the consensus. But she brought it up! Something she had been looking into and wanting to try is creating a reddit account on her phone that we could look at people posting looking for couples etc. She wants to explore/play with the boundaries of what’s fantasy and real in a safe way.

Turns out she had been looking into and trying to figure out ways to do this. She seems like she’s done lots of research lately which is just like her with everything haha. It might explain why she’s suddenly so understanding of what my mindset is.

So now we’re going to do this, hopefully tonight we’ll have some time. I’m keen to see just what she wants to explore, and I’ll report back. Thanks again everyone!

[coastalkid]

Thanks for all the advice everyone! I didn’t bring it up or push it at all, as that seemed to be the consensus. But she brought it up! Something she had been looking into and wanting to try is creating a reddit account on her phone that we could look at people posting looking for couples etc. She wants to explore/play with the boundaries of what’s fantasy and real in a safe way.

Turns out she had been looking into and trying to figure out ways to do this. She seems like she’s done lots of research lately which is just like her with everything haha. It might explain why she’s suddenly so understanding of what my mindset is.

So now we’re going to do this, hopefully tonight we’ll have some time. I’m keen to see just what she wants to explore, and I’ll report back. Thanks again everyone!

Right on! Congratulations! Now you can have some meaningful discussions and see if you have similar expectations.

[lanceriprock]

Please elaborate on the kinky sex, so I can be inspired to make my own breakthrough!