Found pics on my wife's phone yesterday

[Briannas_Experiences]

Ok, so, I've only shared my wife 3 separate times so far, and its always been an amazing time. We both were on the same page and really enjoyed the experiences. Yesterday though, I found a few pics on my wife's phone of her with another man who I didnt know about. She never told me about the situation, and im curious as to why. Don't get me wrong, I think its extremely hot. Especially seeing the pics and everything. But I dont know if I should ask her about it or just leave it? Im fine either way, but just wanted to know some opinions. Not sure if its a turn on for her, having me not know, and I dont want to ruin that for her.

And for reference the pics were of sexual nature. (Her naked on his bed, having sex, and oral).

[HopefullyOneDay]

The first question is why a were you looking on her phone and is she ok with that? Not accusing you of anything. Just trying to get the whole picture

[Briannas_Experiences]

The first question is why a were you looking on her phone and is she ok with that? Not accusing you of anything. Just trying to get the whole picture

Good question haha we are totally ok with letting eachother look through our phones. Always have been. She gave me her password and I gave her mine. She was in the shower and I was just looking for some old pics of us from vacation last spring, and looked in her photos trash. And thats where they were.

[Long Lurker 34]

The first question is why a were you looking on her phone and is she ok with that? Not accusing you of anything. Just trying to get the whole picture

Good question haha we are totally ok with letting eachother look through our phones. Always have been. She gave me her password and I gave her mine. She was in the shower and I was just looking for some old pics of us from vacation last spring, and looked in her photos trash. And thats where they were.

B
- i would say all together she knows there is a good chance you might come across these pics. Perhaps her not telling you about the 'encounter' and leaving the pics to be found was her wanting to see your reaction. In this case none.
- This might leave her somewhat puzzled or going "Oh i can get some on the side and it's ok if i don't say anything."
- Query - Does she have an 'open' non-conditional hall pass?

[Briannas_Experiences]

The first question is why a were you looking on her phone and is she ok with that? Not accusing you of anything. Just trying to get the whole picture

Good question haha we are totally ok with letting eachother look through our phones. Always have been. She gave me her password and I gave her mine. She was in the shower and I was just looking for some old pics of us from vacation last spring, and looked in her photos trash. And thats where they were.

B
- i would say all together she knows there is a good chance you might come across these pics. Perhaps her not telling you about the 'encounter' and leaving the pics to be found was her wanting to see your reaction. In this case none.
- This might leave her somewhat puzzled or going "Oh i can get some on the side and it's ok if i don't say anything."
- Query - Does she have an 'open' non-conditional hall pass?

I dont think she was wanting to see my reaction and hoping I would find the pics. But I do think its possible she just assumes its ok since I've shared her before. And no we've never talked about an open hall pass before. Although I am ok with it after seeing how much it turned me on haha wondering if thats how i should bring it up, if I do. Like maybe letting her know im ok with it if she meets someone without me knowing. But that id love to hear about it after? Thats how I was gonna go about it. But like I said, if the "secret" part of it is a turn on for her, I dont want to ruin that for her.

[Long Lurker 34]

The first question is why a were you looking on her phone and is she ok with that? Not accusing you of anything. Just trying to get the whole picture

Good question haha we are totally ok with letting eachother look through our phones. Always have been. She gave me her password and I gave her mine. She was in the shower and I was just looking for some old pics of us from vacation last spring, and looked in her photos trash. And thats where they were.

B
- i would say all together she knows there is a good chance you might come across these pics. Perhaps her not telling you about the 'encounter' and leaving the pics to be found was her wanting to see your reaction. In this case none.
- This might leave her somewhat puzzled or going "Oh i can get some on the side and it's ok if i don't say anything."
- Query - Does she have an 'open' non-conditional hall pass?

I dont think she was wanting to see my reaction and hoping I would find the pics. But I do think its possible she just assumes its ok since I've shared her before. And no we've never talked about an open hall pass before. Although I am ok with it after seeing how much it turned me on haha wondering if thats how i should bring it up, if I do. Like maybe letting her know im ok with it if she meets someone without me knowing. But that id love to hear about it after? Thats how I was gonna go about it. But like I said, if the "secret" part of it is a turn on for her, I dont want to ruin that for her.

B
- It's complete secrets that can blow a marriage or 'the fun' up. Perhaps bring up having the hall pass and having secret meetups, but with a time limit. There's another thread (I don't remember) where they do this and if he doesn't guess within 30 days? she has to tell him. Just a thought.

[Briannas_Experiences]

Good question haha we are totally ok with letting eachother look through our phones. Always have been. She gave me her password and I gave her mine. She was in the shower and I was just looking for some old pics of us from vacation last spring, and looked in her photos trash. And thats where they were.

B
- i would say all together she knows there is a good chance you might come across these pics. Perhaps her not telling you about the 'encounter' and leaving the pics to be found was her wanting to see your reaction. In this case none.
- This might leave her somewhat puzzled or going "Oh i can get some on the side and it's ok if i don't say anything."
- Query - Does she have an 'open' non-conditional hall pass?

I dont think she was wanting to see my reaction and hoping I would find the pics. But I do think its possible she just assumes its ok since I've shared her before. And no we've never talked about an open hall pass before. Although I am ok with it after seeing how much it turned me on haha wondering if thats how i should bring it up, if I do. Like maybe letting her know im ok with it if she meets someone without me knowing. But that id love to hear about it after? Thats how I was gonna go about it. But like I said, if the "secret" part of it is a turn on for her, I dont want to ruin that for her.

B
- It's complete secrets that can blow a marriage or 'the fun' up. Perhaps bring up having the hall pass and having secret meetups, but with a time limit. There's another thread (I don't remember) where they do this and if he doesn't guess within 30 days? she has to tell him. Just a thought.

Oh that actually sounds like a fun idea! ill try to bring that up. Thanks man

[SilverStag]

It really doesn't matter what we think, the question is what do you think about the situation. We all have different opinions and beliefs, but you are the one affected by the situation.

[Parsifal]

I see no problem creating a space in which my wife plays in secret. But we first discuss the parameters of the space and then come to a common understanding as to its basic framework. That is, whatever she does happens within, not outside of our marriage. Even though there are loosened boundaries such that the boundaries are largely out of sight, it still feels consensual. More like a nature preserve than a cage. My wife and I call these spaces "affair games".

[skoot1958]

If she did not think it was ok, and it was to be a secret, she would not have taken the photos, especially as she knows you would have found them, maybe just say, I like the photo of you with your new man….

[Watchinu69]

If she's having sex who's taking the pictures with her phone!?!?

[NotNewbs]

My wife knows that she can have a short term “affair” if she ever wants to do so. Basically, I wanted to give her that space to have the excitement of secrecy, and something all to herself, should she want. But our agreement is that she has to tell me about it after the fact, or within 3-4 months, primarily so that we can both enjoy the erotic aftermath together.

I think your wife knew it wasn’t ok, hence the deleted pics, but there’s an element of, “it won’t be so bad if he finds out”, since you already share her. But it seems she wanted something to herself, at least for a little bit. Find a way to create that space for her, in a way that is also within the framework of your committed marriage.