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[TimelessAttraction]

Married man with an open-minded interest in sharing-wife fantasies and meaningful connections. My wife is 41 and passionate about all things vintage. She runs a retro clothing shop, helping people find unique pieces with character and style, and also sells retro toys and collectibles to women who appreciate nostalgia, creativity, and one-of-a-kind finds.

One of my favorite fantasies begins naturally through her business. I enjoy imagining her meeting a male customer, collector, or investor who genuinely appreciates her work, ideas, and entrepreneurial spirit. What starts as a conversation about vintage fashion, collectibles, or business opportunities gradually grows into discussions about creativity, ambitions, and life experiences. The attraction develops organically through intelligence, personality, mutual respect, and shared interests rather than pressure or expectations.

She is friendly, confident, and enjoys meeting interesting people who value good conversation, creativity, and a touch of old-school charm. I believe any connection should be built on honesty, clear communication, and respect for everyone's comfort and boundaries.

If you're a mature, thoughtful person with a genuine appreciation for vintage culture, meaningful conversation, and authentic connections, I'd be happy to chat and see where a discussion might lead.

[leggysman]

Welcome to the forum, TimelessAttraction. She sounds (and looks) delightful. Does she know you're interested in sharing her?

[TimelessAttraction]

Welcome to the forum, TimelessAttraction. She sounds (and looks) delightful. Does she know you're interested in sharing her?

She knows how proud I am of her, and she also knows that I find it exciting when other men notice her. Since we're both new to this, I want to approach it carefully and thoughtfully.

[TimelessAttraction]

Looking for experienced, genuine guys who enjoy conversation and can help encourage her and build her confidence in a positive way. We're taking things slowly and thoughtfully, so please only reach out if you're serious and respectful. Send me a message if that sounds like you.

[leggysman]

(Thoughtfully) opening up to her about your fantasies is a great first step. While you're at it, ask about hers! You'll see it repeated over and over here: communicate.

Fantasies don't always translate into desires, and desires don't always become reality (nor should they). But being able to be open and honest (and, sometimes - vulnerable) about how you feel, and who you are, is a positive foundation for any relationship.

Many of us feel like "having the talk" - and, sometimes, progressing to sharing our wives in reality - has made our marriages that much stronger.

[TimelessAttraction]

(Thoughtfully) opening up to her about your fantasies is a great first step. While you're at it, ask about hers! You'll see it repeated over and over here: communicate.

Fantasies don't always translate into desires, and desires don't always become reality (nor should they). But being able to be open and honest (and, sometimes - vulnerable) about how you feel, and who you are, is a positive foundation for any relationship.

Many of us feel like "having the talk" - and, sometimes, progressing to sharing our wives in reality - has made our marriages that much stronger.

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I’m really new to this and have a lot to learn, so I truly appreciate your guidance. I also added a photo. I wanted to upload it earlier, but I didn’t see an option to do so. Sorry if my questions seem a bit silly. I’m just getting started and figuring things out.

[leggysman]

I know we'd all love to see that pic But pictures can't be added in this (sub)forum. The Personals and Hotties sections allow picture uploads. Upload as an attachment, and then click to place it inline in your post.

Since you're here, I'm assuming you have the same sharing kink as most of us. Here's a challenge for you: if/when she's fully aware of it, point her to this site and invite her to read about this type of lifestyle. Seeing that it's not an unusual kink (there are lots and lots of us) and that - to paraphrase Farmgirl - there are women who are normal, happy wives in loving marriages doing this, will help her to understand. And maybe even consider giving it a try

Finding this site was the catalyst for my wife and I. She knew about my kink, but had never seriously considered taking me up on it. I wrote my first post and invited her to read it. She got curious, started reading, took over my account (leggysandy), and within weeks, the adventure was on.

[TimelessAttraction]

[Wantsomefunto]

Timeless. She is truly sexy and beautiful. I took me three years to go from fantasy to action with my wife. Patience is so necessary, they have been programmed all their life to be with one man only. Message me once you have 5 posts if you want to private chat and see if I can help.

[Boad69]

As I learned to say during my time in NOLA…dayum.

[john41+1]

Timeless. She is truly sexy and beautiful. I took me three years to go from fantasy to action with my wife. Patience is so necessary, they have been programmed all their life to be with one man only. Message me once you have 5 posts if you want to private chat and see if I can help.

Hi Timeless, yes I agree with Wantsomefunto's comments. It takes time and needs patience. For my wife, we started before we got married so she had even more questions and concerns, she was very insecure about this. We were young, I am talking decades ago when we started this. . In the start she thought I was just joking - too crazy, WTF , soon enough she realized I wasnt joking. It turned her on greatly to talk about her being with other guys, just talking about it helped our sex life a lot, but as mentioned above by Wantsomefunto - she was programmed to think this is not normal, so this took some time for her to get a strong enough desire for it than be concerned whether it is normal or not. A really big one was, she was very concerned I will have big regrets after the initial turn on after she does her first guy, and that regret will have me hold this against her. This was a huge fear for her. There was no way to prove to her that wont be the case, I just kept assuring her I will not have any regrets afterward. To reassure her further, I told her if that was the case it is on me, it would be all my fault, zero blame on her.

Something else that helped a lot but may not be for everyone was we both loved to watch X videos in bed, us being young back then, this helped Sue a lot in getting over her programming to be a good girl, she loved watching MMF through to creampie gangbangs, so as mentioned, her desires grew way past her programming. Because of what we had been talking about, she had no reservations in telling me she would love to experience all these things - like in the videos, plus she got to see I never reacted badly to anything she said of her desires, zero jealousy which she needed to see. So over time we often talked about her being with other guys during foreplay and sex and it kind of became normal for us to talk about it. When talking about this stuff, the quickness of her first climax said it all, she was not denying it was a huge turn on for her. So after her initial shock at the whole idea, Sue did come around to the idea once I convinced her I wont ever regret it or hold anything against her about this. She agreed she will give it a try seeing I wanted this so much. She told me she doubted she will be able to climax with a guy she has only just met (basically a stranger) , but will go along with it anyway.

She was so incredibly nervous on her first night to give it a try. Once hair and make up and all dressed and looking incredible, she wanted to back out, nervousness had way overtaken any turn on for her. ( this is before the internet, she did it the hard way, had to win onto a guy at a bar. ) Luckily I was able to be very patient and assure her how incredible she looks, and reassure her in that it is no big deal if she isn't successful. I told her if anything isn't right, just come back. So I really had to emphasize if nothing happens, it is no big deal at all and we can try this some other time. Anyhow, that was enough to give her the courage to go out and try. ( we had no clue what we were doing back then, before internet, had no idea there were names for this HW etc. We are early - mid 60's now so a long time ago.)

So off she went to a popular bar that was about 200 yards from our holiday unit, she sat back had a good look around, spotted a guy she was physically attracted to and once fairly sure he was not with someone, she approached him. She said she was really nervous, but it went smoothly. He was staying in a Unit close by so it all happened easily and smoothly. Sue soon found out how much she underestimated the enjoyment she is going to get from doing this. Firstly she had no idea she would have her deepest climaxes with a guy she only just met. The whole excitement factor was off the scale for her, again, this was not expected at all. As mentioned we started young, Sue was late teens back then, plenty of girls back then were Not on the pill at that age. She had no idea that she would get off on the fact that he didnt even ask her if she is on the pill, once they got in his bedroom, after some foreplay on each other, he took the lead and slid into her and just kept going. Again, unexpected, she loved him taking control and fucking her like he couldnt care less if he gets her pregnant or not. Naturally Sue was on the pill but he didnt know that, so she loved how he fucked her like a slut he just picked up, and with him not even asking is she on the pill, she found this was a massive turn on for her. So she found she loved that he quickly realized she is looking for it at the bar, which gave him the confidence to take control of her and fuck her like she is an easy fuck, or a slut in need of a good fucking. Neither of us expected she would get so much enjoyment from aspects of things that happened - that we didnt even think of before it happened. Sue was not a wild girl, not an exhibitionist, and would not have been into one night stands if she was single back then. So she was shocked by how much she loved being fucked by a guy she just met, she loved that he used / fucked her with no regard for pregnancy. And she found out how much she loved a new guy cumming inside her.

So considering she initially thought she will not climax with a guy she doesnt know in this situation, she couldnt have been more wrong. When she got back to our Unit after he fucked her really well, she came back on a high, so proud of herself, she loved telling me everything and boasting as well, and even better she loved to show off her pussy with his cum in and around her. So we were pretty lucky she found the ideal guy for her first time, he was physically very attractive to her, very well hung, not timid at all - took control of her in bed, and as we found out she loved being fucked where the guy has no idea if he is breeding her or not. My shy girl found out she loves being used and fucked like she is a slut. We had the most incredible sex after she told me what happened and showed me her freshly fucked pussy. So we had about as good a start as you could get for the first time, we had no idea what we were doing and thought if anyone knew - they would think there is something wrong with us.

Things are way better known and much more accepted thesedays as compared to back then - or atleast thats what we thought back then. We just did this every now and then. Sue always got very nervous in these situations, but meeting a new guy every now and then she loved it, and her initial nervousness each time actually added to her excitement once she got to bed with him. As we got older Sue did less one night stands and preferred the boyfriend on the side situations, but she was fussy and expected 100% discretion.

A couple of things I would say in our situation. We are still very happily married and still have a great sex life today, life kind of got in the way and it has been some years since Sue had her last BF, though I am hopeful this can happen again with the right guy. Of things to note, Sue was pretty shy when I brought all this up, atleast in those days she would never have gone for one night stands if she was single, she loved sex but it was about being in a relationship etc. We spent well less than a year discussing all of this before she did her first guy and as mentioned she was openly now able to tell me she would love to be with multiple guys at once etc, so she came from being very quiet and your average girl very private about our sex life etc, to now she is enjoying sex with guys she hardly knows and being very slutty with them, so that they fuck her the way she wants them to do.

So I would say any Other Guys reading this, - you have to already have a great relationship, be confident in your relationship so jealousy will not be an issue. We had been together for several years when I brought this up to Sue, ( yes we were very young when we met ), and we were like good mates as well, so I had zero hesitation about any of it, and also no concerns if she had have said I was nuts and no way to the idea, I knew her well enough to know if she did say no to the idea it will be no big deal anyway. But my point is she changed massively in regard to her desire for sex. She had no idea how much she would love sex with near strangers. So if a hubby / BF is in any way insecure, you may get more insecure, if you have a quiet wife / gf and she comes home boasting about how much she loved her guy cumming deep inside her and giving her some of the deepest climaxes of her life, it is quite a surprise to hear this for the first time.. I do think most guys who bring this desire up to their wife / GF, already have the right relationship happening, and really cant imagine any guy asking for this unless they have an excellent relationship already happening. I am probably not explaining this very well, but for us, we released something in Sue we didnt even know was there. Huge desire for this and other guys, not just a fantasy as we talk on stuff.. There 's lots more I could say from our perspective, looking back I cant imagine our lives not doing this. Hope it all goes well, and yes, do take her slowly, as this is pretty strange for your wife when she first hears about these desires. As said, my wife / GF at the time thought I was joking, no way WTF.

[Wantsomefunto]

John, perfect post! Great analysis.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

Looking for experienced, genuine guys who enjoy conversation and can help encourage her and build her confidence in a positive way. We're taking things slowly and thoughtfully, so please only reach out if you're serious and respectful. Send me a message if that sounds like you.

Welcome to the forum!

If I may suggest, before speaking with possible prospects, it might be wise to broach the subject with her first. Many women need time to navigate this idea when newly presented and it may be premature to initiate discussion with guys before she shows readiness. She's very attractive and I'm sure you'll have no trouble finding good guys when the time is right.

How much does she know about your interest at this stage? Have you discussed anything directly?

[Greg_N_Shelley]

If you haven’t discussed your fantasy yet, here’s an idea that might help break the ice…

There are a few online questionnaires that allow couples to compare fantasies. Husband and wife both complete the questionnaire separately, the system compares them, and shares back the overlapping fantasies. Here’s one that contains threesomes and partner sharing: mojoupgrade.com

If she doesn’t volunteer a matching interest in sharing/threesomes, then maybe ask her in the spirit of fun and mutual openness: “Okay, now I’m curious…What was on your list that wasn’t a match? I promise not to judge. I just genuinely want to know what lights your fire. And who knows, maybe it’s something I’ve never considered.” If she doesn’t want to go first, then you volunteer to share first.

Low risk way of opening up about your fantasy.

[TimelessAttraction]

Someone who wants to chat with her and encourage her to be more open and free? One of my fantasies begins in a natural setting connected to her business. I enjoy imagining her showing vintage clothing to a confident, charismatic investor who genuinely appreciates her work and ideas. Perhaps the conversation grows beyond fashion into business, creativity, and ways to help expand her company. Mutual attraction develops through intelligence, personality, and shared interests rather than pressure.

[MonaLisaOverdrive]

Someone who wants to chat with her and encourage her to be more open and free? One of my fantasies begins in a natural setting connected to her business. I enjoy imagining her showing vintage clothing to a confident, charismatic investor who genuinely appreciates her work and ideas. Perhaps the conversation grows beyond fashion into business, creativity, and ways to help expand her company. Mutual attraction develops through intelligence, personality, and shared interests rather than pressure.

If she is genuinely interested in the lifestyle, even just curious, the best bet would be get her to sign up here and get verified as a hotwife. Then she will have access the verified hotwives section of the forums and can speak to all the other hotwives. In all honesty she'd probably get more honest and useful information about the lifestyle from a female perspective there, than talking to a bunch of horny men jacking it to the conversation.