Back at it again

[steveb713]

That is a nice development, all three of you seem to be taking things at your own pace which is not always easy.
Nice that he wanted to invite you both over for dinner not just L. Long may it continue!

Yes thanks it is an interesting situation - we are definitely taking things at our. ( actually at L and Joe's pace - I am along for the ride - if it were
up to L I think she'd see him more frequently. She seems to be up for it most every day or every other day. When I asked her about it she said well he needs time to recover his libido. When I said hell, I'm older than him she said well your oversexed with a smile.

As for the dinner there's a bit of a story to that as well. It turns out Joe has a daughter living in DC that he wants to visit. The big problem though
is he has a dog that he refuses to board or send to a kennel. Mind you this guy is a retired veterinary surgeon. He hinted at having L ( and me ) stay with the dog or at least come by a few times a day to walk and be with the dog. Following that maybe I'll have you two over for dinner and we can
talk about that - I of course said sure, meanwhile I'll ask how he enjoy fucking my wife.

I could actually write a book about this whole scenario. He lives in a PUD with neighbors. He's very protective of his privacy so he's very careful to not
have L there without me - its a joke really - I did say to L no darling you're not going to DC with him while I stay home and walk his dog. She replied maybe you should go to DC with him. And yes long may it continue - BTW in closing its only been two days since she was with him and she's already getting cranky and has apologized twice to me for being cranky.

PS to clear up one point - when she meets him at his house so as to not have her visible to the neighbors several of who we know socially he picks L up a nearby store and drives her to his house in his car pulling directly into the garage - he's very protective of his privacy - she on the other hand is far less concerned as I've written earlier we're orphans in our community so we're much less concerned about what others think or think they know. We're pretty certain they already thinks she's probably cheating with him thats why he wants the neighborhood to see both of us at his house with him and or walking the dog while he's a way -

[steveb713]

The more I read your posts and the more I think about it, you are in a very good spot. You both have stayed together. You both have experience to draw on from her earlier days. She's ten years younger than you and she still calls YOU oversexed! This guy is obviously quirky and discreet so, minimized threat there. I'd say you could have a lot of fun if things go right.

The dog thing is kind of weird. You know if you agree to watch it you'll end up walking his dog. Can you imagine walking his dog while he's having sex with your wife?

What is your wife like when she's cranky?

Coastal you're right on - quirky ? well L would say he's weird in many ways though she likes him and yes discreet is the word - I don't think theres a threat there at least not with L wanting more - she makes it clear she likes the sex ( though she told me yesterday he only can cum with her giving him a blowjub -) shes never been one to hesitate to swallow so its not a problem for her. she did say hes' good with finger in her and on her clit - no PIV - I said really ? right so no sloppy seconds for me = quite the disappointment really -

Yes walking the dog while he's fucking her - nah I don't think so - we did joke about that - the whole thing including L being back with him is surreal - i still have difficulty imagining her having sex with him - we the long married middle class senior citizens living an "open" marriage - we both frequently have a laugh over this though L seems far less intrigued by the whole thing - it still boggles my mind -

What is she like when cranky ? Snarky. - a little angry sounding - short tempered - I've learned to ignore it which then gives rise to her quickly apologizing for being cranky - if I react she'll get very quite - L is a very introverted person - she frequently is content to not talk for hours - I on the other hand is the opposite - I used to think she was pissed over something if she didn't talk or say something - I've learned that home is where she feels the comfort of being herself which she can't do when out in public - Home is where she feels safe - this latest round of intimacy with her in the lifestyle has given her the ability and comfort to open up about all that - when its working this lifestyle has many merits - at least it has for us after we learned how to navigate the challenges of a few years ago.

[Tomanytoys]

Love this story, it’s almost the perfect situation. I’d love to experience it for ourselves. The reclamation sounds so intense. Thanks for sharing.

[Swingpaul]

The more I read your posts and the more I think about it, you are in a very good spot. You both have stayed together. You both have experience to draw on from her earlier days. She's ten years younger than you and she still calls YOU oversexed! This guy is obviously quirky and discreet so, minimized threat there. I'd say you could have a lot of fun if things go right.

The dog thing is kind of weird. You know if you agree to watch it you'll end up walking his dog. Can you imagine walking his dog while he's having sex with your wife?

What is your wife like when she's cranky?

Coastal you're right on - quirky ? well L would say he's weird in many ways though she likes him and yes discreet is the word - I don't think theres a threat there at least not with L wanting more - she makes it clear she likes the sex ( though she told me yesterday he only can cum with her giving him a blowjub -) shes never been one to hesitate to swallow so its not a problem for her. she did say hes' good with finger in her and on her clit - no PIV - I said really ? right so no sloppy seconds for me = quite the disappointment really -

Yes walking the dog while he's fucking her - nah I don't think so - we did joke about that - the whole thing including L being back with him is surreal - i still have difficulty imagining her having sex with him - we the long married middle class senior citizens living an "open" marriage - we both frequently have a laugh over this though L seems far less intrigued by the whole thing - it still boggles my mind -

What is she like when cranky ? Snarky. - a little angry sounding - short tempered - I've learned to ignore it which then gives rise to her quickly apologizing for being cranky - if I react she'll get very quite - L is a very introverted person - she frequently is content to not talk for hours - I on the other hand is the opposite - I used to think she was pissed over something if she didn't talk or say something - I've learned that home is where she feels the comfort of being herself which she can't do when out in public - Home is where she feels safe - this latest round of intimacy with her in the lifestyle has given her the ability and comfort to open up about all that - when its working this lifestyle has many merits - at least it has for us after we learned how to navigate the challenges of a few years ago.

You explain everything very honestly and I hope you three are in a happy place.

The lifestyle is never completely straightforward and dealing with idiosyncrasies, nosy neighbours and differing libidos is all part of the game.

It was interesting what you said about your wife being more introverted. I think it is all about energy, introverts start the day with a lot of energy but that can drain from social interaction and cause crankiness. Extroverts such as yourself go looking for social interaction as they gain energy from it. It can cause conflict but you are sensitive enough to have recognised it and to act on it, she is just recharging her batteries.