Greetings

[AY2302001]

Where do I start? Trying to figure out how/where we fit into this lifestyle and slowly get started, I think we are still in the curious but looking phase and learning where we fit in.

Both of us are in our late 40s, together for 20+ years and married for 15+ years. Early in a relationship there was definitely an interest and curiosity that we never explored partially due to life and partially physical. When we met my wife was active on several personal websites and had multiple partners that she was meeting up with, sometimes 2 in a single day, and an interest in exploring exhibitionism, MMF, and possibly more, she was a beautiful slut to say the least. She was very self-conscious about being overweight and despite knowing that some men enjoyed that she had met too many that thought sex with her was a novelty or that she was going to be particular. At the time I think we just decided to avoid the potential problems and enjoy life together. To be fair, I had/have some anxiety around performing that I always worried about, never a problem alone but who knows....

Fast forward and she lost weight, thinking it might be time, she was still nervous over the loose skin. For the record I loved her body at this point and the thought of other men lusting for that body was a huge turn-on for me. We bought a Hismith machine and several cock sleeves to add some fun to the bedroom, I loved using the sleeves and watching the machine pound her endless while I watched or got sucked off. Finally after some surgery, we're ready to see what's out there.

I guess we're looking for partners and couples, if I had to guess I'd say 80% of the time it would be her with other men but I'd love to experience other women. I am not into humiliation or anything, in fact I would not want her having sex without me watching and participating. We have done many simulated threesomes and even a simulated gangbang with the machine and sleeves, I thought it was very hot.

If we had it all over again I guess we'd have tried things 20 years ago but I figure better late than never.

[coastalkid]

Welcome to the forum AY2302001!

Congratulations on getting to a point where you both feel comfortable enough to get serious about it. I am curious about your 20%. How does your wife feel about you experiencing other women? If she's for it and doesn't have any problems with that she is in a small group of women. It seems most wives don't like sharing. It also seems like most husbands "claim" they don't want it. I wonder if they would say the same thing if it was genuinely offered by their wives?

The best thing for the both of you is that your wife feels confident enough about her appearance to move ahead. That alone deserves credit to both of you. The fact that she desires the experience again enough to overlook her self perceived flaws shows confidence. I think it may be wise to share that you have your own anxieties. That way you can work on and enjoy building each others confidence and enjoy the results together.

You should be proud and excited that you have this opportunity, especially after so many years. Those years have given you a maturity you didn't and couldn't of had before. I think you're poised to make these years the best ever.