Unexpected situation

[SalseroStag]

Hello everyone,
I'd like to know someone's else opinion over a recent development of our experience; I'm not sure how many of you are aware of my story which has been a little anticipated in my wife topic in "The Hotties" section. Well to make a brief, my wife and I have been living the lifestyle for over one year now with a regular playmante who finally helped to live her fantasies about BBC. It's all perfect with him beside the fact that he's quite often abroad but it would hopefully continue for a long time...
On the last weekend we stayed at her parents summer house when we had the chance to meet her 17-20 y/o summer fling, which was also her first black experience and apparently the flame reignited. Back then, they never had full sex, something she regretted for a very long time, probably enhancing her BBC addiction over the years, they just had oral and light stuff back in those days.
Nothing really happeneded so far, beside some flirting and teasing with some very spicy moment when noone was around as she told later; and I've been watching them from a safe distance once my wife told me and teased me about it; during this week, they texted each other often and kept teasing and now we're going back to her parents tomorrow and we'll surely find him too: he's the adopted son of the family living on the adjacent small villa.

I don't know what to think, she would really like to fuck him and probably he wants that even more after meeting her again. Beside the fact he won't accept our lifestyle, with families knowing each other for a lifetime it would be an issue.
There's a part of me that would let her have it...on the other side, I wouldn't let her go alone, we never played this way and I know she would somehow want me to stay close to her.
I've never felt so confused about this in a long time, in a manner similar to when we were beginning to know regular playmate but this is something completely different. I've been trying to figure out a solution or at least a course of action but I don't know what to do.

Hopefully someone have already experience this and could provide a hint.

[MarknSusan]

This story has one very BIG glaring red flag.

“He won’t accept our lifestyle”.

No “hint” needed. IMO, don’t just walk away …run and move on.

[Domingo-ITA]

He is an ex, so emotions - and arousing - will be doubled. I’d say go for it if she wants, nothing bad will happen.

[Late]

I wasn't going to say anything but since you asked: If it feels like a bad idea, and you think there is a possibility that it could be a bad idea, and it sounds like it wouldn't be good idea; who are we to second guess you? IT'S A BAD IDEA.

Late

[SalseroStag]

I actually spoke to her, for a very long time...I just want to say thanks to all of you who offered their pov.
We have figured out this situation somehow together.

[PussyFiller]

And… what was the decision?

[coastalkid]

I actually spoke to her, for a very long time...I just want to say thanks to all of you who offered their pov.
We have figured out this situation somehow together.

You don't have to go into great detail but I know I (and I bet others) would like to know how you resolved the situation. You never know! Your experience could help someone in a similar situation.

[SalseroStag]

It's very long to explain but we made a reasonable compromise, I would let her enjoy her ex but we agreed on a few conditions.
She wants me to be there in a way or another, if the only way is to stay hidden then so be it. Today they spent a about 3 hours alone while I was watching from some distance and they enjoyed their time together a lot, including some spicy moment, but actually nothing really happened.
We figured out a way to make it happen, possibly tomorrow morning, but that depends on a few things and I don't want to speak way too soon.
We really agreed in the end and we sticked to our common rules to play, he simply won't know anything about my involvement as it would be a turn off for him beside other privacy concerns we have; we just have to solve some organizational details very quick since we'll leave again tomorrow evening.