Wife becoming more open to it, but not full sex

[Bmoore1990]

Mid 30s married husband here. Anyone else's wife slowly becoming more open to hotwifing/cuckolding you but not with full sex? As she becomes more conversational and accepting of all of it, she opens up about what she would be willing to do/try potentially. It's not full sex with someone, and i feel like that would really make it hard to find a right guy who would be open to it but knowing he wouldn't get to have sex with her. Any others here like this? Whats the best way to find a prospective guy to add to the mix if he knows he doesnt get sex?

[Jaydub1984]

Pics?

[Bmoore1990]

Pics?

Ive shared pics with the odd person from here who ive had long/meaninful/interesting conversations with via email etc.. not into just sharing random photos.

[leggysman]

I can't say it was the same with leggysandy - when she was considering it I suggested starting with something more limited like oral, but she quickly shot that down and said that if she met someone, and clothes came off, she'd want to fuck.

That said, I think it's a reasonable position to take. Keep it in her comfort zone. I expect that that zone would expand quickly once the line has been crossed.

Good luck to you! I hope she gives it a try! I don't think you'll have trouble finding a guy that agrees to start slowly, if you look in the right places. They'll understand. And they'll anticipate that part about the comfort zone expanding.

[Shadnaster]

So what would she be open to doing?

[Bmoore1990]

So what would she be open to doing?

Shes open to having someone walk into our hotel room and masturbate to her, or mutual masturbation.

[ovoxoxo]

My partner would be in to this too ^.

[Bloomincpl]

Mutual masturbation isn't a bad place to start. Leggysman is right; the comfort zone will expand once she starts. It's not that it's a slippery slope into damnation or something Rather, it's about feeling comfortable in such a situation. Our society doesn't raise us to think of non-monogamy, so delving into it can be intimidating. The more she gets into it, the more likely she'll feel comfortable with doing more.

As for finding such a man willing to only do mutual masturbation? It might be tricky, but the first thing is finding a guy she is attracted to, who is interested in her, and then work out the particulars. Obviously you can't make any guarantees about progression, but she might be agreeable to saying something like "I might...might...consider more on a future date if this goes well".

I can tell you this; as an experienced man in this lifestyle, I would be happy to be such a man. I'd feel like I was helping another couple get comfortable with this, expand their horizons, deepen their relationship, and find deeper love between them (yes, it does that for most). Some other experienced men might not feel comfortable with that. You can find them. They're out there.

[Bmoore1990]

Thanks!