The first inkling of any kind of hot wife potential happened before I'd ever even heard of what a hotwife was. We also weren't married yet. We'd been dating about three years or so and one day she just apologized because she wasn't going to be available on the weekend. Her college ex (He lived in LA and we lived near Cleveland at the time) had invited her to accompany him to a wedding and he didn't want to go alone. So yes... a date!
I had been trying to get her into swinging with me but it wasn't really happening. She was put off by the idea mainly because she didn't want me with other women. But here was an opportunity. So I took it. First, I was very surprised that she had just said yes to his request without asking me. Not that I ever felt she had to, but that had always been her M.O. up to that point. This told me something interesting was up.So I just ran with it. I said there was nothing to apologize for and added, "If something happens between the two of you this weekend, you have my full encouragement". She kind of scowled and said, "Nothing is going to happen". I said, "Oh I know. But just in case"! and smiled. Then, as the week progressed, every time we had sex, I started talking about the "what if" scenario with her ex. She didn't fight it.
She got into it. 
The visit was about a month out, and I worked fast to keep encouraging her. She admitted the idea was hot, but that nothing was going to happen.The day finally came. She did something else that really surprised me. She gave me $200 and said, "Go to a titty bar or something this weekend. I'm really sorry I won't be around". It also happened to be Labor Day weekend. This was something she'd never done before. I smiled and said, "You don't need to do that" and she just told me to take the money. I took it as a good sign that something was going to happen.
I didn't hear from her until the next day. My "cuck angst" was at a high mark and I was just edging all night and all morning. When I did hear from her, I said, "Did anything happen"? She whispered, "Yes. A little. I don't have much time to talk. We made out and I gave him a BJ, but that was it"! Then she told me that he was coming back into her room and she would call again when she had a little more time.
On her second call she had about five minutes. That was when she came clean. "I didn't tell you everything earlier. I put on my least sexy outfit. A dirty wife beater and a pair of boxers. We sat and talked and then he leaned in to kiss me. I didn't fight it. After kissing and then groping for a while, I gave him a BJ. Then he went down on me and I started to get hotter and could tell this might go too far. So I took him to the bedroom and finished him orally there. We went to sleep. Early the next morning I felt his hard on pressing against me. I gave in and got a rubber. We fucked. But that's all he's getting! I've already gone too far"!
She said she was going to drive him to the other side of town to his folks' place and spend the day with him there and she would call me again when she could. That turned out to be later that afternoon. And... they'd fucked again when his parents left to pick some things up at a store. After spending the day there, she was convinced to spend the night with him there too in the basement spare room. They fucked again. The next morning she blew him, and they fucked again. The last fuck was hot for her because she said she could see the reflection of him fucking her from behind in the desk in front of them while they fucked on the floor doggie. I was just edging all day and all night and probably shot my load 15 times a day until she came back to her apartment.
Monday came, and she called me to let me know she was home. My usual three minute drive to her place felt much shorter.
By the time I got there, I was hot for her. She was wearing this kind of slutty disco dress and I just couldn't keep my hands off her. We went to her room fast and had some of the most intense sex we had ever had up to that time. She admitted it was hot knowing she'd fucked two guys that weekend. But then, she had some regrets. She said we shouldn't just focus on this and should get back to normal sex with us. But... we kept veering back towards it. We fucked multiple times that day and finally near the end of the day she actually said, "I should have never done this. It feels like it's changed something and we're not the same".I worked with her and got her through the regrets. It took a few weeks and she even wondered for a while, did it mean she wanted to get back with her ex. That was a little scary for me, but I knew that there were reasons they didn't work out and those reasons wouldn't change just because they had some fun no-strings sex. They continued to fuck on and off whenever he was in town for the next five years (about 1995-2000). He screwed it up by telling her that I must not love her if I let other guys fuck her. I think he must have told her that if he didn't come back to her she was throwing her life away. She never really told me what he said, but she was mad and just cut him off for good. So I saw she had the potential, but she also was turned off by this experience.
We got married two years after that and then became parents and it made playing around of any kind impossible from her perspective. So it just didn't happen. She did allow me to post pix and videos of her on other sites, and did some camming when we played though. But, a lot of that was more for me than for her at the time. It wasn't until 2022 where she finally had a cyber fling (I got it set up and she hit it off with the guy) that lasted a few months. It showed me that if someone else is entertaining and arousing her, she can actually get MORE excited than she ever has with me. That worked fairly well for a while, The guy was 22 years younger than her which DID freak her out. Her first comment was, "Oh my god! I'm old enough to be his mom. This is pervy"! I asked her, "When you were 35, did you need your folks to protect you from an attractive older guy? He's an adult. He knows what he's doing and he likes doing it with you"! But when she got turned on, his age didn't matter and they had some fun sexting and sending each other nude photos. She said she took pride in getting prepared to please and entertain him. This was interesting to me because she is absolutely not a submissive woman. So the idea that she wanted to please him kind of stood out.
In the years that we've been camming she eventually found that she likes to cam for herself as well. It's no longer just for me. She likes seeing multiple guys stroking to her on cam while she vibes herself. She's become great at the "peep show".
She's also accepted and acknowledged that she has a slutty side and that it's fun to let it out on cam. It definitely shows in the pictures and outfits that she's been wearing. And her fantasies are more interesting these days. I gave her a fantasy about fucking a married man once and it absolutely worked for her. She was shocked because she said she is not the kind of person to fuck someone else's husband, but the experience was hot and it's become a regular fantasy we jump into every so often. For a while she also had a profile of her own on an adult photo sharing site. I maintained it but she logged in and responded to comments and e-mail for a while. I am quite proud of her progress even if she isn't hot wifing. When we first met and I asked for nude photos, she almost dumped me, and now look!The current fantasy I've been giving her is dating BBCs and getting addicted to them. Her nips get super hard and she cums hard even though she doesn't necessarily want to talk about it. I've suggested something that I read another couple did: we start a profile on a dating site for her to see who bites and we look at those profiles while she masturbates and fantasizes about what would happen if she said yes. I found a BBC site that I plan to get her onto this Fall/Winter to see if she can be swayed that way. I know she finds black men attractive at times, so there could be more pull there. Hard to say. Even if she never gets to hot wifing (I hope she does and if anyone out there can send some good vibes to whatever higher power you believe in to get her to do it, please do so! I am already doing that!), the journey has been fun. That is where things sit right now.
