Has your wife ever fallen in love with the man she's fucking?

[bk1]

My wife fell in love with the third man she was with after we got into cuckolding/hotwifing. Things were realy difficult at first, but at the same time, nothing got me going quite like it. And yes, we did almost split up. But we worked through it. They're still together, and we have a poly sort of situation. They've spent some weekends together, and when we're all together, he's her primary. But it's very much a minority of the time.

[Ducatista]

Thus far, my wife has only had two lovers. She is super selective and only in interested in moving up-market when it comes to men. Both are remarkable in many ways. Handsome, successful, and passionate. She is in love with both of them, particularly the one she calls "Bull."

[Ducatista]

Thus far, my wife has only had two lovers. She is super selective and only in interested in moving up-market when it comes to men. Both are remarkable in many ways. Handsome, successful, and passionate. She is in love with both of them, particularly the one she calls "Bull."

[Tommy]

Almost always. For my wife, love and sex go together. There's nothing unusual in that. But for her, it doesn't matter which order they come in. Does she love someone and then have sex? Yes. Does she have sex with someone and then love them? Yes. For her, the love fills the mind just like his cock fills her pussy. It's all-consuming passion.

[Very Hot Wife]

I'm sure most women see things differently from men when it comes to having sex.

If it was offered on a plate, most guys could have sex with a woman even though they didn't find her attractive. I'm not sure the reverse is true.

So by that token, most women would have to find some bond with the guy she's having sex with regularly. It's more than just getting their bits together, it's kissing and hugging while he's inside her...!!!

Becky has had several long term lovers over the 30 years that we've been together. With each lover, they would do it bare which increased the bond and made it a more normal relationship. They would spend nights, even holidays together. So a deep friendship would obviously develop. It wouldn't have worked if that element was missing.

She was with one guy for 15 years or more. Could she have fallen in love with him..? No, he really wasn't her type which sounds crazy but they openly said that they could never live with each other. In bed however, they were magic and it worked very well for both of them. But love..? No way.

Two other guys were very different in that they were much more her type and she saw them as being friends that could have developed into deeper feelings. But neither guy wanted that, they were 30+ years younger than Becky and knew our relationship was strong.

And I suppose the thrill of sleeping with an older woman every week without any commitment helped enormously. For a young guy, it's very appealing to pick up a phone and ask a woman if she'd like to have sex. And then be in bed with her 20 minutes later..! Becky knew and embraced that attitude. She found it quite a turn on when it happened.

They would stay with us on separate occasions, share a bedroom for a week or so and do most things a couple would do. Those relationships ended naturally with no acrimony and she was quite upset but philosophical. It was much more than a friendship, but love..? No, not really.

So for us, no she's never fallen in love with a boyfriend and it's extremely unlikely to happen.

[Cuckcop]

For many women it’s difficult to have a sexual relationship without developing feelings. My wife was quite promiscuous before we got together so I believed she could enjoy the sex and excitement without it developing into anything deeper. When I felt like
she was growing too close to the first lover she took after we were married I encouraged her to date a man who had persistently been asking her out. That ultimately was the man she left me for.

While after many adventures we ultimately got back together, that is the great danger in this lifestyle. Think long and hard before you get involved.

[sadsap]

My wife is not a hotwife yet. But, I think that she had feelings for the first man she was interested in (and who was clearly interested in her) back in 2006. Nothing happened, and the contact with him slowed down after we had married.
With her current interest (since 2019) I am quite confident she has feelings. I do not think she would be able to do something with someone without some feelings. WIth both men it started off at work, so she also needs to get to know them first before she has any interest in them.

[leo-cpl]

For us the most accurate option not listed "Has strong NRE towards a guy but never turned into love" . When we first started out wife shared a lot of NRE with this one particular local guy. Got very friendly with him (without even being physical) they would chat regularly and then after a session of soft car fun they got "friendlier" in the end he fell for her ended up saying he loved her, she too had strong feelings towards him but weren't " his type of love". Gradually we drifted away and since then she has kept the chatting in check. She says its good to know someone well before we decide to move ahead but she doesn't need to chat or interact regularly with the prospective guy.
I like it if the guy n she are friendly and comfortable, I know she wont ever feel what she feels about with with any other guy and as long as she is open and honest its cool. We have access to each other phones and prefer to be very open and honest

[dinoo]

I remember very well a 'discussion' at home with my wife and two grown-up daughters.
To cut a long story short, I told them that it was more likely that my wife would have an affair with another man than it was that I would have an affair with another woman. My two daughters agreed with this statement, but they couldn't explain why. It was just a feeling.
I have to say that even before we were married, I knew that my wife loved to tease me with other men.

Then, many years later, when I was having sex with my wife, she asked me if I had ever imagined having sex with another woman. 'No,' I replied honestly, but she confessed that she regularly had these thoughts.
She asked me if I would be angry if it happened in reality. Again, I said no, but I told her I wished she would tell me. In detail.
(Very short version, like the rest hereunder.)
My statement was based on the opinion that falling in love can't be limited to me alone. I think it's only natural that someone can fall in love with someone else. There is no answer to the question 'Why?' It happens involuntarily.

That said, I will return to our life.
After becoming a HW, I regularly told her that I wouldn’t mind if she fell in love with another man. On the condition that she would end the relationship if it had a negative effect on our marriage. She promised, but we were both sure that this promise didn’t guarantee anything.
I took a lot of photographs of her and her regular black lover. Many of these suggested that she was in love with him. However, she assured me many times that this was not the case. 'Yes, I love having sex with him. Perhaps it's because he acts as if you're never there.”

She met another lover at “our” club who became a regular. From the outset, it was clear that they greatly enjoyed each other’s company. In fact, he behaved as if I weren't present, just like her black lover. The difference was that they both liked each, sometimes very naughty, experiment.

At one point, she pointed me to come closer.
'I put his (always unprotected) cock in my pussy. Kiss me if you still love me.”
While we were kissing, she began to fuck him. While I held her in my arms, she had an intense orgasm.

He left to see his female companion. My wife nestled in my arms.
After some hesitation, she told me that they had both confessed their love to each other. She asked me again to kiss her if I hadn’t a problem with this. I think it was the longest kiss I have ever had with my wife.

The result was even more beautiful.
My wife began to tell me all her innermost feelings, every physical detail and every fantasy she had had with or about him.
Our already strong bond became stronger than ever.
It reinforced our love for each other. Extremely.

[JaesCuck]

Funny just the other day my hotwife and I were texting about her BF and, for the first time, she texted "I f*****g LOVE HIM", the last 2 words she put in upper case. I was a bit freaked and scared for a couple of days but today, I'm back to normal, thinking it's hot she has a BF whom she loves. The ups and down of this lifestyle are like a roller coaster.

[Long Lurker 34]

Funny just the other day my hotwife and I were texting about her BF and, for the first time, she texted "I f*****g LOVE HIM", the last 2 words she put in upper case. I was a bit freaked and scared for a couple of days but today, I'm back to normal, thinking it's hot she has a BF whom she loves. The ups and down of this lifestyle are like a roller coaster.

JC
- Do you have thread or would you start one? You could relate how this all came to be and the journey to getting there.

[JaesCuck]

oh sure Long Lurker 34, will do as soon as I get free time.

[uk_couple_se]

Yeah, this happened twice to us.

On both occasions Clare was honest about it, as the feelings developed. Both times, however, the feelings dissipated over the next few months, like most relationships. It never caused us any problems. I used to love overhearing her say "love you too" at the end of phone calls. This was before WhatsApp etc.

[VTcuck]

Then later on that year we went out to a local bar celebrating my birthday. It was a lively crowd and we ended up getting separated talking to different groups of people. After a while she walked up to me and introduced me to Al the guy she had been talking to. Al was about the same age as us, 6-foot tall, long hair and a goatee. Al had kind of a bad boy biker vibe that she liked. He had the muscular body of a man that did construction and worked with his hands. As we were talking Linda mentioned we had a pool table at home and she suggested that the three of us should go home and play some pool.

Once we got there it quickly turned into a game of strip pool. Pretty soon Linda was down to her panties and nothing else. The guys had lost their shirts. When Linda lost the next game, she protested about losing her panties and her being the only one naked, so I told her she has to kiss both of us guys. Linda leaned into me and kiss and gave me a quick little kiss, She then wrapped her arms around AL’s neck and gave him a really long deep passionate make out kiss that lasted several minutes.

Al lost the next game (I think on purpose) and lost his pants and was now down to his boxers and It was very obvious from the huge bulge in his underwear that he was very well hung. Linda kept looking down at his package and said that she didn't want to play anymore but that she would do anything I asked as a forfeiture penalty. I told her that she had to get on her knees and give Al a 5-minute blowjob.

Linda got on her knees and when she pulled down his boxers, she was shocked! she looked back at me and mouthed the word WOW with a big smile on her face. His cock was 8.5 inches long and so thick around that she couldn't yeah close her hand around it. She spent the next 5 minutes trying to take as much as she could in her mouth. The minute time was up she grabbed him by the hand looked at me and said oh I've got to have him and led him upstairs to the bedroom.

When they got to the bedroom, they fell onto bed making out Linda was moaning into his mouth as their hands explored each other. The Chemistry was electric and it was obvious that they were totally into each other and I didn’t even exist for her at this time.

Al kissed his way down to Linda’s tits which are very sensitive as she can cum just from having her nipples sucked. He was sucking on her nipples and playing with her pussy when she let out a deep guttural moan as she had her first orgasm of the night. Al then continued kissing his way down her body until his mouth found her pussy which he devoured. She was moaning like crazy which soon turned into screams as he licked her to several more orgasms. Linda then pulled him back up kissing him deeply and said I need to feel you inside of me!.

The look on her face and the sounds that she made as his huge cock stretched and filled her pussy is something I will never forget.
I remember feeling the pains of jealousy and being incredibly turned on and feeling happy for her all at the same time. I sat in the lounger next to the bed playing with myself. I knew that he was filling her completely, touching her in places and giving her pleasure that I would never be able to. Al was an amazing lover and I watched for over an hour as my wife gave herself completely to him. She was moaning screaming and making noises that I've never heard come from her and begging him to take her and to fuck her pussy. Linda was having almost continuous orgasms as she cum on his cock over and over again. They fucked for over an hour changing positions and they would go back and forth between fucking like animals to making deep passionate love.

After this non-stop all-consuming devouring of each other Linda for the first time noticed me. She looked at me and motioned me over. She gave me a deep passionate kiss telling me she loved me and said thank you.
She asked me to go make us some drinks. When I got back they were kissing touching each other and whispering sweet nothings to each other. As the three of us sat on the bed had a drink You could feel the sexually charged atmosphere in the air.

Linda pulled me in for a kiss and as we made out deeply. Al started sucking on her nipples causing her moan deeply into my mouth. My wife had already had multiple orgasms, and I could tell that she was just getting started. I had never seen my wife like this, but I was thrilled because I knew that this was what I always knew was hidden inside her a completely insatiable sexual woman.

I then started sucking on her one nipple as Al continued sucking her other nipple and Linda went crazy she was moaning and saying OMG that feels amazing and not to stop. This was the first time she ever had two men pleasuring her at the same time. the minute I touched her pussy she had another orgasm. From that moment on Al and I worked in unison to pleasure Linda. I would suck on her tits while Al would go down on her then I would kiss her while Al went down on her as she kept orgasming which amazed me that she could just keep cuming over and over again.

As I was kissing her she took my face in her hands and looked into my eyes ask me can Al fuck me again I need Al to fuck me again and pointed to the lounge chair which I went and sat in.

I watched for the several hours as Al took control of her fucking her in every position. Linda gave herself completely to him as she just kept moaning, screaming orgasming and coating his cock with her cum. Her eyes were glazed and rolling back in her head, she was insatiable and nothing existed for her except for her desire for Al and the pleasure he was giving her.

All this time I sat on the lounger stroking my very hard cock trying to make sure I didn't cum. At one point when she was on all fours getting fucked hard and deep, she looked over at me and said “why can’t you fuck me like this”

Once again, I felt the pains of jealousy but even greater was the feeling of excitement. She was cock drunk and for the first time in her life she was allowing herself to be completely sexual and to let herself go totally.

When they were finally done my wife looked over at me and said to come here. I laid down next to her and as we kissed I could tell that we both felt so unbelievably connected and close to each other. She told me she needed me to make Love to her. When I entered her pussy felt silky wet and very stretch out but it was amazing. I would like to say that I fucked her long and hard but I was so excited and pent up I came pretty quickly.

We took a break to have a drink and soon my wife looked at me again and said “I need Al to fuck me again” and pointed to the lounger. She was not asking me she was telling me she needed this other man to fuck her.

As we said goodbye to Al the sun was coming up and my wife was very happy and completely satisfied.

For the next 2 weeks we fucked each other and made love constantly. This experience had bought us closer together.
However, Linda felt guilty and I think a little scared that that she let go and had given herself so completely to another man. She told me it was wrong and that she was done sleeping with other men.

About a month later we were hanging out in the kitchen having a few drinks and Linda looks at me with an almost pleading look in her eyes and says “can I call AL” of course I said yes. An hour later I am back sitting in the lounge chair in our bedroom naked a stroking my raging hard on as watch Al and my wife fuck and make love all night.

This scenario was repeated for many years. She would feel guilty and say that it was the last time and then after a few drinks she would call Al.
Every time I would end up sitting in the lounger chair watching her fuck and make love to Al having orgasm after orgasm all night long.

As time went on she would say things to me like “why can’t you fuck me like this” or when he was fingering her or going down on her “watch him, I want you to watch him and learn what he does to me”. We had never talked about humiliation or anything like it, so I know that these were genuine statements from her.

This went on for over many years. We started meeting several times a week and I could tell that their feelings for each other were growing. Whenever I would leave the room to get drinks, I would hear her tell him that she loved him.

Then one day she sat me down and told me that we have to take a break from seeing Al because she was falling in love with him and that she didn’t want to ruin our marriage. When I started to question her. I was hurt but I really didn’t want this to stop, she looked at me and said “look Al is incredible in bed you see what he does to me, what did you expect to happen letting another man fuck and make love to me for all this time”
So, we took a long break from seeing Al.

We got back together with him after a few years and it was fun. He would still give her great pleasure but it was different because her feelings about him had changed.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

Our experience in this arena was always simple. Most guys were one-timers, but my wife had a regular FWB for 14 years that we met several times per year for fun. They shared a remarkable sexual chemistry, but there were no feelings beyond friendship. Sometimes they’d fuck. Sometimes they made love. But whatever they experienced together, it was time-bounded and there were no lingering emotions afterward. Just a warm, “Had a great night! Let me know when you guys want to meet up again.”

And that was perfect for both of us.

[Confounded]

This is an excellent topic.

When my wife confessed to me her three affairs, she repeatedly assured me that she had superficial feelings for the first two of the three men she's fucked. She repeatedly told me that she was in love with only me. Paraphrased, she told me that her first two affairs were spontaneous affairs for sexual gratification. I'm reasonably certain that she had an emotional connection, however, slight, to both of them.

Her third affair was with our married friend. We've known him for years. In essence, she said that they had a strong sexual connection and powerful sexual energy. That affair lasted almost a year. She likes him, but she does not love him.

If we were to decided to open our sex lives beyond our bedroom, there might be a risk of my wife developing a pronounced emotional connection with another man. However, I'm as reasonably assured as I could possibly be that I will always be her only love. She was adamant that she did not and does not want to dissolve our otherwise marvelous marriage.

[coastalkid]

My wife isn't a hot wife so I haven't experienced this so I can only imagine the things that I would be worried about.

The biggest one that jumps out at me is, "where does that leave me exactly"? I realize it's easy to answer that with, "No different than it ever was! People are capable of loving more than one person. You love all your children, right? You don't love one more than another, right?" The trouble is that if you even think about "where does that leave me exactly" then you have doubts that need to be reconciled.

I can easily accept that people can easily love more than one person at a time. Although, love can take many forms and show itself in many different ways. Intimate love, that involves sex, carries a different weight than than the love you have for dear grandmother. I can easily accept that having an emotional connection enhances sex.

When that connection is perceived as a threat to the primary relationship then a floodgate of other issues arise. Like, "She's enjoying herself! She's having the time of her life! I can't take this away from her now! I'll just learn to deal with this. Even though I'm not feeling very good about it, I'll just keep it to myself! I don't want to ruin her fun. I may ruin all MY chances of enjoying some fun too. She may never forgive me!"

No doubt there are guys that dig this thrill. I have serious doubts that ALL men are that way. The guys that are getting their thrill satisfied aren't the issue. There IS no issue with them. They thrive on it. It's the guys that aren't predisposed to the kink that I'm considering. For those guys I believe it takes a little more attention if you want to be successful.

I'd be shocked if a wife didn't know well in advance that her husband might react strongly to something or struggle with certain things.

HerNumber1 and Farmgirl are the best example I can think of. He has NO DOUBT that he is the primary. Farmgirl has said that she doesn't withhold anything from HerNumber1. She doesn't tolerate disrespect from ANYONE regarding HerNumber1. HerNumber1 KNOWS his wife wouldn't EVEN be interested in anyone that would take advantage of him (unless it was in fun ways that minx of woman Farmgirl condoned).

Farmgirl's resolute proof in action and word allows HerNumber1 to trust her completely and she can express herself in the way that she likes best. They have a track record! They have history! They have endured LONG past others that have come and gone. If you're the type that likes to follow a model or example I couldn't think of a better one. Protect the primary.

[wildrollercoaster]

First of all, neither love nor "falling in love" are binary emotions.

I've long known that it would be naive to imagine my girlfriend-turned-wife has never had another intimate relationship, during ours, that entered the realm of love.

I generally don't specifically ask her about that perilously subjective realm, though, and I'm unsure how confidently I could handle an "I'm in love with him" declaration in a current context.

That said, she did recently use the word "love" in the context of a relationship that ended far enough in the past (a few years ago) to soften any otherwise-troubling sense of threat, and that implicit admission by her has inescapably intensified every carnal element and detail of that relationship in my mind.

Her utterance pertained to an extremely attractive, primally eligible admirer whom she met while away at a week-long wind-sports event. Struck by intense mutual attraction, they became physical on her third night there (stoked by his tongue up her intoxicating pussy in a lakeside wood-fired sauna), and she awoke in his tent every remaining morning. Stunning, overt, de facto boyfriend and girlfriend. Many others who were there, previously cognizant that she was attached, speculated that she'd left her relationship (with me), or was about to. When she returned home (hours-long drive and ferry), she delayed alerting me until the following day so that her new admirer could stay with her, in her own bed, for one more night before continuing his thousand-mile drive to his own home. I couldn't possibly overstate how many hundreds of times I've visualized that night of deeply coupled ecstasy since her initial lakeside-fling disclosure (weeks after it happened). Now, here's what she recently told me: during that final night/morning in her bed, he whispered that he'd fallen in love with her, and she replied to him in kind.

That admission, of circumstances far enough in the past for me to survive it, was -- and still is -- like a powerful drug. Indescribable multi-sensory effects. Words couldn't possibly describe the wildly dissonant image of her -- while I thought she was still away -- in fact locked deeply in a mind-blowing union with a mysterious lover who'd already been fucking her into another universe day and night, and with whom she was sharing the most powerful of words.

[LoverofBDSM]

My first wife did. Hence, first wife.

[leggysman]

Welcome to OHW, LoverofBDSM

[dinoo]

II think for a large number of women who reluctantly are encouraged by their husbands and the husbands are supportive.... emotion is what gets the reluctant wife over that barrier. In our case the plus of just the one long term lover was he was happily married and yes she had strong feelings for him but was clear he would never leave his wife. What evolved was the ideal arrangement.

I always told her that fallen in love with another man is quite human. As long as our marriage wouldn't suffer from it.
Expressed differently, I encouraged her not to hide her inner feelings, that I could accept them so she wouldn't have fear for it.

In what became "our" club, I noticed that she liked another man deeply. And he her.
At a certain moment she, while sitting on top of him, pointed me to come nearby.
She said: "I put his (unprotected) cock into my pussy. You have to know that. I was craving it and couldn't stop myself anymore. Kiss me if you don't mind.”
I kissed her intensively.
She started fucking him while she held me close.
We alternated between French kissing and gazing deeply into each other's eyes.
Eventually, she came very intensely while continuing to look deeply into my eyes.
(He had once told me he never wanted to wear a condom and therefore could never fuck another woman. Yes, in her mouth. Now he didn’t come either.)

He excused himself to go back to his female companion a HW who played around.
My wife nestled into my arms.
I asked her how it felt to have his enormous cock inside her pussy.
She replied that that wasn’t the point at all.
“I told him I couldn’t hide it anymore—I’d fallen in love with him. He told me the same thing. You’ve always told me not to worry if I fall in love with someone else. Well, that’s what’s happened to me now. That’s what I wanted to say. I want you to kiss me now to reaffirm that you still love me as your wife.” I French kissed her for a very long time.

This made our already strong bond unimaginably strong because she now felt free to tell me, down to the smallest details, everything she’d experienced with him, but she could also share her fantasies about him with me. Like her confession that she wouldn't refuse having anal sex with him.