WHAT dating site have you used?

[FINALLY_2-24]

Hey all.

Wife was a “hell no… maybe… you really don’t care if I fuck this guy?” for thirteen years and FINALLY, a little over two years ago, she did it. She was this guy a handful of times and that is now done. We’ve dabbled around here n there taking shots here n there but have not dove head first into finding a third. We tried FEELD once and holy shlit, the onslaught was to much. May try it again as there were a lot of fish in that sea. I signed up for Ashley Madison a few months ago but the need for an ID was off putting. We’re on AFF with no real profile and that seems like an old man/weirdo site. May give that a go. Reddit sucks. I know of the others.

I’m going to be writing up a profile tonight and submitting to a dating site. I will be including some vanilla photos and one spicy one. We will be a couple and I will be the one monitoring.

Two questions.

What advice do you have for finding a third on any site? I’d prefer folks that have actually gotten a third through a site.

Anyone have a profile they’ve seen or have, that cuts through the bullshit up front?

I input some info into GROK asking for a profile and this is what they shot out. Not using it, but I’m guessing a good starting point.

MF4M] Central Maryland Stag/Vixen Couple (40-50) — Looking for a Respectful, Average-Sized Bull (5-8″) — Husband Fully Involved, No Cuckold/Degradation Ever

Full Updated Profile Description
We are a fun, happily married Stag/Vixen couple in our 40s living in Central Maryland. She’s the sexy vixen MILF who loves being shared; he’s the confident stag who stays very involved the entire time. This is 100% stag/vixen — zero cuckold, humiliation, or degradation. Husband is straight.

What we’re looking for in a bull:
• Age roughly 40–50
• White or Hispanic
• Not a gym rat required (being fit is a bonus), but please be reasonably in shape — nothing completely out of shape
• Average cock size only — 5″ to 8″ max. She is NOT a size queen and specifically does NOT want anything bigger
• Non-drinker and non-smoker (420 is fine, but not a daily pothead)
• Personality is a MUST — respectful, drama-free, good sense of humor, can hold a real conversation
• Discreet, local or within reasonable driving distance, and serious about meeting (not just endless chat)
We’re open to one-time fun or, even better, an ongoing regular third who clicks with both of us.
Our rules & how to contact us (please read everything first):
• Group chat only from the very first message — no private/solo messages to the wife ever
• Husband is part of every step: he vets, he approves, he’s present (watches, directs, joins if the vibe is right, and participates in our fantasy)
• First message must include: your age, stats (height/weight), recent clear face + body pic (clothed is fine), and a short note on why you think you’d fit our dynamic
• Recent full STD panel (within the last 60 days) required before any play — proof will be exchanged
• Public meet or video call with both of us first — no exceptions
• Safe sex is default (condoms) unless we all mutually agree otherwise after testing and comfort
• Respect the stag/vixen dynamic at all times — husband comes first, no trying to push boundaries or go behind his back
• No heavy drinkers, no heavy smokers, and no flakes — if you disappear after chatting, you’re blocked
• If you didn’t read this whole profile and follow the rules, please don’t message
We’re real, laid-back, and serious about finding one (or two) quality guys who get the lifestyle and respect our marriage. If that’s you, send a proper intro in group chat to include your favorite movie in the subject line and we’ll go from there. Low-effort or rule-ignoring messages get ignored. We’re also in no rush.
Looking forward to hearing from the right guy!

[leggysman]

Profile stuff looks sensible and informative - and largely standard I'd say - at least on a 'lifestyle' site. I suppose I'd want to put a little bit more of the fun stuff in there too. Sugar to go with the medicine.

It depends on your location which site(s) are best. I'll PM you the ones leggysandy has used with success here in the UK. YMMV in the US.

[BT2]

My wife and I have in the past had to search for a guy when we wanted "to play". We had always taken the position that we are looking for a volunteer to enable us to fulfill our fantasy. As such, we have never taken a position of "boy, will you ever be lucky if you are chosen to have sex with my wife, so here is a long list of hoops you must jump through to see if you can possibly qualify".

I'm afraid your list of demands would not even receive a second glance. If you know what you are doing you can usually figure out if the guy is ok or not. We've never had a dud in over 30 years, but I do admit it can happen. Its a risk, but then, so is being a hotwife.

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

I've used AFF, SLS, Ashley Madison and Facebook. I've met the most men on Facebook, a few good ones on AM, and a few on SLS.

[deffle]

I've used AFF, SLS, Ashley Madison and Facebook. I've met the most men on Facebook, a few good ones on AM, and a few on SLS.

How do you meet men on Facebook?

[SilverStag]

cast a wide net by using multiple sites. You will have plenty of responses to sort and rank.

[NC-hotwife-hubby]

My wife works in a hair cut chain, mostly mens cuts. So she can get guys very often. Lucky us

[yournyhotwife]

I use Feeld (app) nowadays. Tried SLS/SDC but it was mostly an older crowd and the same single guys.

With an app like Feeld I can quickly see their bio and see pictures and find out if I am interested.

[Hotwifecpl]

Fabswingers and fabguys

[CocoaYearRound]

I've used AFF, SLS, Ashley Madison and Facebook. I've met the most men on Facebook, a few good ones on AM, and a few on SLS.

How do you do it on Facebook?

[Tryagain]

Gee...it reads like Hitler's demands on Czechoslovakia !

Lighten up a bit. Do you want anyone to reply? Some of it is obvious and need not be said at this stage anyway. In your zeal you are not always clear. For example, you mention they MUST have a full panel of STD tests. Yet you go on to say condoms will be used. Weed is ok but you do not want a regular pot user. How will you know that if he says he uses it but not every day? Does that really matter to you?

Your ad does not read like a laid back couple.

And rather than bullets, write a couple of paragraphs. I suggest you review with an eye to cutting down on your DEMANDS rather than desirable traits.

Wish you the best in your search.

[PlayfulGuy]

I suggest making it shorter/ merging some points (STD/ condom) no heavy drinkers/ drugs. Some stuff can wait and be mentioned once start chatting with them such as the fact that you 2 prefer group chats/ no secret messages and being respectful not into humiliation etc. No need to compromise, plenty of fish out there and need to be patient. Good luck

[PlayfulGuy]

Have to ad that AM is no longer what it used to be. I am not sure how women find it to be, but as a male interested and searching, I got to say that most days I used to receive more than 10 messages. Of course most were spams/ looking for a way to get paid. Maybe one out of 20 would be genuine but considering how much it would cost to weed out the bad ones, it just wasn't worth it. Unfortunately it's too hard to find and figuring out which female profiles are genuine and which ones aren't. Maybe putting "hotwife" or cuck in headlines might help. Came across 2 of those but in the end I gave up on that site

[SalseroStag]

We tried a famous website for swingers in Italy and a dating app but those lead to complete failures, maybe we were simply too demanding.
When we got back to what we like, latin and carribean dancing clubs, we found a few decent guys but not into the lifestyle and then finally our perfect playmate.