How did you discover that you were into hotwifing or cuckolding?

[KevKev]

I'm always interested in hearing how other people discovered that they're into this. What's your "origin story?"

[Treat yourself girl]

Going way back, we'd not been together very long. I decided to surprise Amy by turning up at her workplace to take her to lunch. When I got there she'd already left the building. Her friend Jane had a look of shock on her face at seeing me and fumbled her words when saying... oh, she's gone to lunch. I thought nothing of it but wondered what Jane's problem was. I later discovered through a mutual friend that Amy had gone to lunch with a guy who had been sniffing round her for the past few months... hence Jane's nervous reaction. I was angry and jealous. We had a big row that night. But after a few days with the thought of her and him out together in my head, I found the anger turned to arousal that another guy was trying to fuck my gal. This was the seed that blossomed in me, the thought of her getting fucked by another made me hard and the feelings never went away. From then on I encouraged her flirting, took every opportunity to tell her others wanted her and I'd be fine if she was naughty. Eventually she understood and treated me.

[hubudig2]

I "discovered" it from the opposite side of the coin.
3 of my close friends were very weird about having me around their girlfriends or girls that they liked. They would find weird reasons to have me around or ask me to take their girlfriends somewhere when they weren't around. There were also lots of weird situations where they seemed to challenge me to seduce a girl they liked because they weren't able to.
At first my moral compass stopped me from taking it further than I should, even if she was pushing for it. Eventually I started realising that they were ok with it. I didn't understand why at the time, I just accepted I could get away with some things and kept pushing the boundaries of it.
There were also girls that I'd previously fucked and despite having boyfriends would subtly let me know that they would cheat for me. "Please don't make me cheat on my boyfriend", spoken while physically offering herself to me was a phrase that I found and still find incredibly hot.

[Dream Weaver]

I got cheated on by most of my girlfriends, including when my best friend stole a girl who two weeks before started dating me and said she wanted to be my girlfriend. It got to the point where I saw her naked in the shower (she told me later that was my chance and I didn't take it.) Pure rage there, end of friendship fairly quickly.

A couple of other banal situations where girl I was dating wanted to be with others and both were honest to me that they were breaking up to see others.

I met my wife, fairly young. Very good looking, but immature (much like myself), and went full young person romance. I was her first. She was 19, I was 22. By this time I was so traumatized from the earlier experience that I decided to protect myself and my ego. We had the talk (that most couples do when they get serious), what would I do if you cheated on me. This was over a nice dinner in a nice restaurant. My heart was thumping, and I told her if she ever wanted to be with somebody else, to know what it was like, that I didn't mind, and she could do that. She was definitely surprised. I can't say she was happy, it's more like she thought it was strange, weird. But whatever, my point was made. I told her I wouldn't cheat on her and if I did she could ditch me, I'd deserve it.

Fast forward a few months. She got a job near the end of her university schooling that was really good, with a big firm that had offsite training for the dozens of new hires they had that season. She went, and it was the first time we were apart from each other so long that didn't involve one of us having to do the mandatory family visit.

I fantasized over that break, every night, looking at here picture, that she would have some sort of sexual encounter. I WANTED it to happen. That is when I definitely admitted to myself that I wanted my girlfriend/future wife to sleep with somebody else. She didn't, of course, it was all in my head. But the dye was cast for my eventual cuckolding. I posted the whole thing back in 2008 when it happened, here, but took it down a couple years later when in a rage I tried to get rid of it all because she wasn't into sex anymore. Still married 30 years. Her libido is 90% gone, at least 10-15ish years now, it's a shame. She still has sex with me, but she almost never suggests it. Never a hint of wanting any sexual tension in her life.I tell you this because I say to you younger people - Do it while you still can!

[DevotedScholar]

I'm very kinky. Even before I knew anything about sex, I had these fantasies of being tied up, kidnapped, used and abused by women. Maybe because of this niche fetish, porn quickly lost its appeal for me; instead, I gravitated to Wikipedia articles and Reddit forums about sex and kinks. This is how I started picking up names for my kinks. I learned about femdom, humiliation fetish, voyeurism, but it was all surface level.

This was also the time I got into my first romantic relationship with a beautiful woman. The relationship was super vanilla, since it was the first for the both of us, nevertheless very satisfying. She wanted to save herself for marriage, and I respected her wishes. So we never explored all the way. But anyone one would say our relationship is filled with passion. We could not stop touching eachother ever if you gave million bucks. After exploring in every way possible within the boundaries set by her, she confessed to me how much she fantasize about being dominated. I listened, but nothing happened. We kept hooking up just the way we always used to hookup. I never said anything at the moment. We thought we were perfect for each other, completely in sync. But on that day, I learnt I couldn't give what she desires the most.

So whenever we get intimate, complusive thoughts filled my head. I imagine a big, strong man having rough sex with her, completely dominating her, and leaving her in a puddle for me to take care afterwards. My intellectual pursuit of understanding human sexuality made me think I completely figured out my desires and fantasies, but this felt completely new. The other stuff paled in comparison. There is so much fire, intensity, and zeal -- I honestlly felt completely lost.

In the end, I had to move cities and we decided to say our goodbyes. I never got to share this side of me with her. But I came out of this relationship with rediscovered sense of self. Initially I found it hard to identify myself as a cuckold, but in the classic me-fashion, I picked up Insatiable Wives by David Ley and Ethical Sluts by Easton & Hardy. I learned what compersion means, and now I proudly call myself a cuckold. It's been quite a journey of growth and fulfilment.

[early-kink]

I had the idea thrust onto me by a past girlfriend - but not as a planned thing by her. We were together as boyfriend/girlfriend for a short time. She was in nursing school at that time. We were a "steady couple", meaning we agreed to not date others. She went away with friends for about 10 days, and after she came back, she seemed different - slightly distant. I asked her what was wrong, if anything, and she deflected in her answer. That went on for a few days, until I discovered a memento, a trinket and a picture of a guy that was on her dresser. When I asked her about those items, she confessed that she had gone out with that guy several times while she was away with her friends. I asked her if she had sex with him, and the look on her face told the tale. She said she did, several times, and I went off angry to my car. I drove off and didn't speak to her for days. As the days passed, my anger turned to understanding, in a way, and then to outright arousal. I pictured what she'd have been doing with him - to him - and how she'd have been enjoying every bit of it. My hurt & anger was morphing into sexy mental pictures and scenarios .... powerful turn-ons.

She called me after about a week or 10 days, wanting to talk & patch things up, since we had agreed to be an exclusive couple before. She told me she didn't mean to hurt me, but that guy caught her eye, and the sparks flew. She knew it was a quick "fling" with nothing to last or develop, so she gave in to the temptation. I asked her if she liked it - if she had a good time - and how many times they enjoyed each other's company. She said every night for several nights, and that she did like being with a different guy. After what seemed like a half hour, and some hard swallowing on my part, I asked her if she wanted to stay together as a couple, and she said yes, she wanted that very much. I then asked her if she'd like to be able to date other guys - outside of us being a committed couple. She looked at me for several seconds, probably trying to read my mind or assess my feelings. But she said "yes" she would like to date other guys, and still remain a committed couple. I grew iron-hard in 2 seconds! I think my rapid, heavy breathing tipped her off as to what was happening to me .... if she hadn't heard my heart pounding! She reached over and felt the hard bulge in my pants. She asked me if her dating other guys made me horny - while she was stroking my bulge. All I could do was moan while I looked at her. The die was cast. She knew she could date other guys, enjoy sex with them, and I'd be OK with it. I only asked her if she'd tell me everything she did with the other guys, and she readily agreed. Both she and I knew this would be a magically hot ride for us. She began to seek out guys that she thought were hot, and when she came back from her dates, she'd give me all the naughty details. Horny, sexual bliss!

[Swe_male]

This is quite strange. When she was giving birth to our daughter the male doctor was checking her up, how open she was and he was putting his fingers inside her and she, of course, was spreading her legs for him. I thought of it then and I become a bit horny. After the birth I couldn't stop thinking of this and I did masturbate at the WC.

This is 15 years ago now and is probably the first time I felt it and started wondering why so and if this is common and so. Still thinks is hot. She now knows my fantasy but I'm still a wannabe.

[Bmoore1990]

Discovered old images of my now wife and her ex on her old laptop. It went from anger and jealousy to something that morphed into a hotwife/cuckold fantasy ultimately.

[Stokedhubby]

For me, it was the first time I went down on my then girlfriend. I was a virgin and she had been in a fairly long young relationship with a guy she loved but he broke up with her. When we got together, she shared many stories of how they would sneak off for sex, where they had sex, and discussions they had about or during sex. I asked for all the details she would give. One of the details was how she would often go home with his cum leaking out and soaking her panties. So many stories that made me jealous and horny, but no real desire to share yet. I got the urge when I first went down on her because I couldn’t get the thought of her cum filled pussy leaking out on her drive home so many times before. I wanted to stop. I wanted to make her cum more so I dove in. As I was licking her very wet puss, I wondered how long it had been since she was with him. I wondered what that would have looked like. I wondered what it would have felt like to have sloppy seconds. I was hooked from that point on. Approaching nearly 45 years together, I still haven’t shared her, but she is fully aware of my desires.

[bighelmet]

met my now wife 14 years ago and she was 7 years older than me, and divorced for the 5 years before me met - in that time she went pretty crazy and slept with a ton of guys. for whatever reason, I loved that and the fact she was a bit older. So this sat as a latent hotpast kink for a long while, now just fun to fantasize about her re-living those wild days

[bighelmet]

Discovered old images of my now wife and her ex on her old laptop. It went from anger and jealousy to something that morphed into a hotwife/cuckold fantasy ultimately.

when i was dating my wife, early on i found a selfie mirror pic of her bending over her bed and full nude teasing the camera, and i sent it to myself and have kept it ever since. she had obviously sent it to some other dude she was recently hooking up with.

[craven mohr]

I discovered it by reading some magazines my buddy would leave laying about.

There were pics of readers wives. I couldn't believe they would shoot these pics and *share them*. But there were some very hot shots. There were letters about wife sharing. I was astounded. I had a verrry cute GF at the time. I would go on to marry her. I couldn't imagine letting my friend(s) fuck her.

But then it all began to work on me. I read about MFMs. Hmmmm. I could do that. I'd be right there, included instead of left out. Personal porn goddess for me. I started wanting that. I was in my early 20s, still jealous AF. I couldn't tell her that I wanted her to fuck, and definitely not MFM.

We ended up divorced after she cheated. 30 years later, I fucked her again. Told her that if she had been honest, our lives could have been verrry different.

Water .... bridges .. .. . all that.

The rest of the story is at the link in the sig.