Am I a stag or a cuckold

[jesandjerry]

Probably, I am not the only one, I am somewhere in between the typical stag and cuckold stereotypes but I am not sure which of the two describes me better and in order to find new people online before meeting in real life, or when for example meeting people in a swinger club, it is beneficial if you can prescribe in one word what category fits you most...

Let's see my situation:

I am turned on by cheating wives. If I (less often nowadays) have the opportunity to fuck another guys wife or girlfriend (without damaging their relationship) I love to do that. Being the bull I think is the greatest thing, but very difficult.

I am not bisexual. I could never do anything with another man. Of course I would never eat cum or eat her pussy of my wife the same day somebody else cummed inside her.

I am a normal man, not more or less dominant than the average in all day life.
I am not a sissy, would never wear women's clothes, If seldom I do BDSM I like to tie or spank a submissive woman in bondage games, but would never allow someone to do this with me.

But I also do not like to be a dominant wife sharer who "forces" his wife to fuck others. For me, fucking with another guy is my wife's way of showing dominance over me, while when I fuck her, I am usually the dominant one and in all day situations it is even, maybe I tend even a bit more to be dominant over her.

I would not feel comfortable in general in a submissive position except in a few with my partner:
I accept that when she has a lover, the guest comes first and I am only allowed to fuck her afterwards or not at all.
She decides whether she meets a lover alone or whether she brings him home and I am allowed to participate or must wait in another room or must watch.

During one vacation she had a lover. When she returned fucked, she did not want sex with me, since her pussy was sore and needed some rest. Two days later she went again to him. When she came back to me, she said that for the rest of the week, she had promised her pussy to him, he would not allow her to h ave sex with me during that week. But if I could not bear it she would give me a release with a handjob.
This experience was the maximum submissive position I accept and only for some while. But I must admit maybe since it was new and different, I also found it exciting.

We never switched partners with another couple. One time I fucked another girl while my wife watched me. Twice she searched for a guy and then wanted him and me to fuck her one after another or she sucked one of us while the other was fucking her pussy.
Most times we simply have an open relationship, meaning we both have once in a while a one night stands alone and just tell each other before or after. She had more than I, since it is so much easier for her to find a guy.... I do it whenever I have the opportunity and usually only for a ONS. She also has ONS but with her it happens also that for half a year she is not interested in all, to fuck other guys and then she finds somebody and meets him once a week for a few months....
Most times I never met the guys, we are in a long distance relationship. She uses them as a replacement....

I would love to breed another wife but I want my wife to get only pregnant from me. But I accept that she fucks whoever she likes as long as it is safe (usually condom except two guys she found who had a vasectomy)...

So where would you put me? Where do you draw the line between stag and cuckold?

[Restarting]

she said that for the rest of the week, she had promised her pussy to him, he would not allow her to have sex with me during that week. But if I could not bear it she would give me a release with a handjob.

This, I believe, crosses into the cuckold category.
It's a grey area though because any stag wants his vixen to enjoy herself to the maximum.

[Deeperlove1369]

100% cuckold my friend. She should certainly be calling the shots in both stag and cuck, but to deny you sex while fucking other men is very far from stag & vixen. You may not go for the active humiliation, but what you describe is still cuckolding. If you are both good with that, then more power to you. As a stag myself, I would put an immediate pause on the LS if she denied me reclaiming her immediately as that is the best sex ever.

[zorro]

You sound mostly stag/vixen to me, with small amounts of cuckish behavior (accepting denial, as cited in the post above). As in most things dealing with human behavior, people often do not fall into dichotomous, well boundaried categories. They have very individualized mixtures of many patterns, plus those patterns by no means remains fixed. Experimenting with different behaviors is quite normal.

I think there are only two issues here:
1) What do you label yourself (identify as)?
2) Can you put the labels aside and just enjoy whatever you and your wife enjoy together?

Play on! And have a good time, whatever you call it.

[jesandjerry]

Thanks. Yes, as I thought, I am somewhere in between. I thought a "Label" makes it easier to make others understand us.... But of course we do whatever we like.

[PlzFuckMyHotwife]

I'd say you're in an open relationship that escapes the confines of both the stag / vixen and cuckold / hotwife dynamic. Just like me.

But... if you want to look at only these 2 options, I'd say you're 95% stag and 5% cuckold. Just my 2 cents (not adjusted for inflation )

[54321]

I agree with PlzFuckMyHotwife. Spot on.

54321

[Mgcouplemn]

Being a Stag, the lady partner is encouraged to sleep with other men, and the man partner gets super turned on by this–they’re sexually aroused by other dudes being attracted to their partner. A Stag is fully involved in the pre-arrangement of their partner having sexual affairs with other people. And they may join in on the sexual rendezvous.And I get the best porno show on earth watching my wife being fucked. The Stag has no need to reclaim his wife, he is always involved.

Being Cuckold is like being subservient to the wishes of his wife and has no say in what she wants to do for sex, it's more cheating than sexual play.

I am Stag and enjoy every minute of watching my wife being fucked,

[Very Hot Wife]

Certainly 100% cuckold.

Her denying you sex is not my idea of Stag and Vixen, where both of you are on the journey together, equally.

But it matters not, there are no rules about these things apart from the ones you impose on yourself.

You don't need labels, just tell prospective play partners what you enjoy. It doesn't have to be a "one word label" as you put it in the OP.

You don't go into a car showroom and say "I want a car please..."

[LI_hotwife]

Being a Stag, the lady partner is encouraged to sleep with other men, and the man partner gets super turned on by this–they’re sexually aroused by other dudes being attracted to their partner. A Stag is fully involved in the pre-arrangement of their partner having sexual affairs with other people. And they may join in on the sexual rendezvous.And I get the best porno show on earth watching my wife being fucked. The Stag has no need to reclaim his wife, he is always involved.

Being Cuckold is like being subservient to the wishes of his wife and has no say in what she wants to do for sex, it's more cheating than sexual play.

I am Stag and enjoy every minute of watching my wife being fucked,

Agree with you. No fun without being involved.

[SilverStag]

Due to the wide variety of types and styles, labels don't really inform others, they still have to guess unless you actually tell them what you do and don't accept. It is always better to just explain your play style to prospective playmates rather than have the mis-matched definitions

[manmuscle]

Don't worry, be happy.

It sounds like you are looking for a label to understand yourself. When you eat chocolate and enjoy it, does that mean you are a "chocolate eater" and don't eat meat anymore?

We are always trying to figure things out instead of just accepting it and enjoying it. There are lots of cultural things imprinted on our psyche, but at the end of the day, you live and then you die. As long as you are not harming anyone and enjoying it, don't worry about it!