Signs She Is Getting There

[Subzero84]

Hey everyone what are the signs a wife might be open to becoming a hotwife or interested in seeing other men? I’m looking for both subtle, early indicators and clear, definite signs. Please include examples of behaviour and conversation cues, but also note which signs could be misread and which are strong confirmations. Any advice on how to bring the topic up respectfully, keep consent central, and protect the relationship while exploring this would also be appreciated. Thanks.

[just_cuck]

I am not sure it is much of help for you but I believe that a honest conversation and a direct question how she would feel with the idea of seeing her with someone else is the best policy. Signs both subtle and direct may be misleading. She may want to play some fantasies but it is not an indicator as those are rooted in something else than a volition to fulfil them.

[Knightryder701]

Try coming right out and asking her if she has ever thought of having sex with another man during your marriage.if you must beat around the bush on the idea of sex with another man how are you going to handle the conversation when she actually fucks another man.

[SilverStag]

The best piece of advice is to not be insistent or constantly bring up the subject. More women have been turned off by "badgering" than have been encouraged. y all means have a conversation about it but understand that her biggest question will by "Why?", so be prepared, set the foundation by understanding why you want this and that you have given thought about how it will affect her as well as your relationship.

"Know yourself"

[aztd]

But in the foreplay she goes absolutely nuts with the follicular band. Then by the nation starts asking about logistic questions. STDs where you find them where you would go understand it understand most women never go through it with it. Can they enjoy the fantasy but it goes against every social value. So woman has been talking to stay true even a version of the marriage. Jump on that and be with another man it's a fertile most can't take. Some I suggestions is enjoy the fantasy make steps but don't don't expect it to go all the way. It goes all the way you may not get what you're thinking of. It reading this board you can see people are getting real close they even have the date. And then they completely go away. Makes you kind of think that things can go well. Then you see people have been here for years. One life having a 208 cocks in her

Be careful what you wish for you you just might get it

[Jujube]

One tell tale is there’s a coworker who she talks about all the time- “He said this” and “He does that”. If she brings him up all the time, chances are she’s smitten with him.

[HotwifehubbyVA]

I definitely agree on not badgering! Pressure is a buzz kill

[Late]

She's a woman. If anyone here tells you they can predict how a woman will respond; just know they will lie to you about other stuff as well. Having a hotwife is a destination, not a target. A target might be introducing her to the concept of other guys checking her out. Then, a target might be getting her to check out other guys. Then,..... you get the idea. As a wannabe, I believe the journey to getting her to hotwife is the best part, not actually arriving at the destination. I guess that may be because I know I will never reach the destination, but she is allowing us to take the journey. Good luck.

Late

[mattyg_2671]

Hey everyone what are the signs a wife might be open to becoming a hotwife or interested in seeing other men? I’m looking for both subtle, early indicators and clear, definite signs. Please include examples of behaviour and conversation cues, but also note which signs could be misread and which are strong confirmations. Any advice on how to bring the topic up respectfully, keep consent central, and protect the relationship while exploring this would also be appreciated. Thanks.

Advice on bringing the topic up: dream scenario. For example, “I had a weird dream last night that you had incredible sex with another guy, and I don’t understand why but I woke up with a hard-on….” Etc.

Signs she is considering it: going from a hard “no” or “never” or “that’s not something I want to do”, to pushing back using logistical arguments or posing negative questions: we’d never find the right man, no-one would find me attractive, you couldn’t handle it, how would that even work? Etc etc

At least that’s how it was for my wife, and it took several years to get to the point we are now. And we’ve had some INCREDIBLE experiences since she allowed her sexuality to be unleashed!

[BallSpanking]

Early signs?
Well, in general terms, listen closely to the way your wife words her refusal, if it's a flat 'no', or an adamant 'not a chance in hell', it likely means exactly that.
If her responses are more like 'But what if my sister finds out', or, 'No way I would stand for you to start dating other women', or something along those lines ... That means it is a 'conditional no' ... That means she would not consider it unless certain circumstances and complications can be resolved.
In other words, 'yes', but only if certain conditions can be met.
That is no longer a hard and fast "NO".

[DaveOnEdge]

Hey everyone what are the signs a wife might be open to becoming a hotwife or interested in seeing other men? I’m looking for both subtle, early indicators and clear, definite signs. Please include examples of behaviour and conversation cues, but also note which signs could be misread and which are strong confirmations. Any advice on how to bring the topic up respectfully, keep consent central, and protect the relationship while exploring this would also be appreciated. Thanks.

Advice on bringing the topic up: dream scenario. For example, “I had a weird dream last night that you had incredible sex with another guy, and I don’t understand why but I woke up with a hard-on….” Etc.

Signs she is considering it: going from a hard “no” or “never” or “that’s not something I want to do”, to pushing back using logistical arguments or posing negative questions: we’d never find the right man, no-one would find me attractive, you couldn’t handle it, how would that even work? Etc etc

At least that’s how it was for my wife, and it took several years to get to the point we are now. And we’ve had some INCREDIBLE experiences since she allowed her sexuality to be unleashed!

What mattyg said.

And at the risk of piggyjacking which I may have just coined as a merger of thread jacking and piggybacking, I hope Mattyg will update us on his own thread.

Also I may be jacking.

[UKhusband26]

She's a woman. If anyone here tells you they can predict how a woman will respond; just know they will lie to you about other stuff as well. Having a hotwife is a destination, not a target. A target might be introducing her to the concept of other guys checking her out. Then, a target might be getting her to check out other guys. Then,..... you get the idea. As a wannabe, I believe the journey to getting her to hotwife is the best part, not actually arriving at the destination. I guess that may be because I know I will never reach the destination, but she is allowing us to take the journey. Good luck.

Late

Great post! Fully agree!

[leggysman]

at the risk of piggyjacking which I may have just coined as a merger of thread jacking and piggybacking

[Averagepeck]

I've been in wannabe stage for about 5 years since breaking the ice with my wife about wanting to see her with a bigger man.My wifes biggest fear is we live on a small island, so she is worried about being outed moreso then the act in and of itself. Of course she has the usual concerns about cuckolding messing up the marriage, but its not a hard no. She has made some comments and we've engaged in certain play that leads me to believe it could happen in the future( we are actually planning to move soon which could eliminate the first fear of being caught out) but anyways:

- our first convo ended with her saying as she is the dominant in the bedroom, she would forbid me from having sex with another woman, and sees any 3somes as me getting off in the corner on watching her

- she has told me a few times of dreams where she was fucking a hung guy in front of me. One particular scenario she said it was with a guy she knew from college

- we use a 9 x 6 BBC periodically, and she likes the idea of fucking it then asks me to fuck her with my 6.5 x 5 cock afterwards. Of course she is stretched out and ends up teasing me that I keep slipping out and asking if I'm in etc.

- Not directly related to cuckolding, but she told me the other day that she likes pegging me because she sees me as her bitch in those moments. So its probably at least loosely connected to an overall feeling of dominance/superiority that you can throw into the pot with cuckolding

[UKhusband26]

One tell tale is there’s a coworker who she talks about all the time- “He said this” and “He does that”. If she brings him up all the time, chances are she’s smitten with him.

Yeah this is a potentially really promising route I reckon - which is why I always encourage mine to go on work drinks / nights out and to dress as sexy as I can persuade her to!

[Subzero84]

Hey guys, thanks so much for the great replies these definitely give some direction. So some of her responses are that she doesn't want it to ruin oir marriage and that she loves the fantasy but is scared of going through it. I Iwas you could hear the detail she goes into tho, she will describe the men from head to toe she even talks about the different shades of cock and if its a black guy she mention that he has a pink tinge on his deck. Any way shes starting pole dancing soon which she said shes been dying to do. Do you guys think this is a positive move and will it help with bringing out her exhibitionist streak? Thanks agin guys.

[tauras]

I've been in wannabe stage for about 5 years since breaking the ice with my wife about wanting to see her with a bigger man.My wifes biggest fear is we live on a small island, so she is worried about being outed moreso then the act in and of itself. Of course she has the usual concerns about cuckolding messing up the marriage, but its not a hard no. She has made some comments and we've engaged in certain play that leads me to believe it could happen in the future( we are actually planning to move soon which could eliminate the first fear of being caught out) but anyways:

- our first convo ended with her saying as she is the dominant in the bedroom, she would forbid me from having sex with another woman, and sees any 3somes as me getting off in the corner on watching her

- she has told me a few times of dreams where she was fucking a hung guy in front of me. One particular scenario she said it was with a guy she knew from college

- we use a 9 x 6 BBC periodically, and she likes the idea of fucking it then asks me to fuck her with my 6.5 x 5 cock afterwards. Of course she is stretched out and ends up teasing me that I keep slipping out and asking if I'm in etc.

- Not directly related to cuckolding, but she told me the other day that she likes pegging me because she sees me as her bitch in those moments. So its probably at least loosely connected to an overall feeling of dominance/superiority that you can throw into the pot with cuckolding

As I see you won't be long time any more a wannabe ( who knows,maybe you are already not, she just waiting to be sure you are ready for full disclosure),all signs are there:

• it's not a hard no, more a yes if you assure her that won't cuckolding messing up the marriage,
• biggest fear is being outed , so expecting from you which measure you take for it to not happen (paying hotels,play at home...)
• She already defined ahead what form of cuckolding she want,you only have to accept,with no extramarital sex for you forbid me from having sex with another woman, and no interaction,activ role,only maxim voyeur getting off in the corner on watching her
• already underlying your beta, submissive role she likes pegging me because she sees me as her bitch in those moments, maybe even prepare you mentally to be taken by the bull too...
• She also used the dream scenario to tell you which (kind of) guy she chooses for her bull fucking a hung guy in front of me probably already spot on guy she knew from college
• She's already practice standart cuckold teasing ,teasing me that I keep slipping out and asking if I'm

She already hinted all clues and signs...
Did you sayed yes? Are you already a cuckold?

[tauras]

Hey guys, thanks so much for the great replies these definitely give some direction. So some of her responses are that she doesn't want it to ruin oir marriage and that she loves the fantasy but is scared of going through it. I Iwas you could hear the detail she goes into tho, she will describe the men from head to toe she even talks about the different shades of cock and if its a black guy she mention that he has a pink tinge on his deck. Any way shes starting pole dancing soon which she said shes been dying to do. Do you guys think this is a positive move and will it help with bringing out her exhibitionist streak? Thanks agin guys.

[*]yes,it is positive, she's ok to start cuckolding just waiting assurance from your part , she doesn't want it to ruin oir marriage and that she loves the fantasy but is scared of going through it.
[*]she fantasize already the men she'll fucking with: she will describe the men from head to toe she even talks about the different shades of cock and if its a black guy she mention that he has a pink tinge on his deck
[*] shes starting pole dancing she wants to have succes on guys

Just be ready...

[zorro]

Early signs?
Well, in general terms, listen closely to the way your wife words her refusal, if it's a flat 'no', or an adamant 'not a chance in hell', it likely means exactly that.
If her responses are more like 'But what if my sister finds out', or, 'No way I would stand for you to start dating other women', or something along those lines ... That means it is a 'conditional no' ... That means she would not consider it unless certain circumstances and complications can be resolved.
In other words, 'yes', but only if certain conditions can be met.
That is no longer a hard and fast "NO".

In general a very good principle. But I have to say it did not hold with my second wife. While we were still in a sexually exclusive relationship, she became interested in her college climatology professor and began going on campus early to have breakfast with them. I knew he turned her on, based on her focus and her affect when discussing him. After a while, I suggested for her own personal growth that she move in with him for three months so she can explore her sexual side. Her protest: "No! Never! That will never happen!!! Forget about it!" In reality, in about 6 weeks she began fucking him, at first on the sly and then openly (to her credit, she came out and just told me one night). She didn't move in with him or even spend the night with him (except as a Christmas present I offered). Her preference, for whatever reason, was to spend the evening fucking him until she came home and let me slip into her happy pussy.

So, sometimes even a "hard no" is not a hard no.

But I agree badgering should be left for badgers.