Cuckold stereotypes

[Breakerhymen]

Any relationship predicated on disrespect is not a loving relationship

[BCiym]

Next weekend is the big weekend my wife’s boyfriend is coming to stay with us. But I’m having trouble trying to establish a rapport with this guy. I don’t necessarily need to be best friends with her lovers but i feel like it would be a benefit.

The trouble is he keeps trying to dominate me, like he thinks he’s going dominate both my wife and me. Unfortunately he’s mistaken. I find his actions disrespectful and inappropriate. In my opinion a little appreciation for what I’ve given him would go a long way.

I’ve told him numerous times but he’s not getting it. I think his perception is warped by stupid cuckold stereotypes and media. Why do these guys think every cuckold wants to suck dick and eat their cum. He couldn’t be more wrong. He’s more likely to get my foot up his ass!

Now my wife is concerned. I’ve asked her to talk to him since he’s not listening to me.

You haven't "given" him anything. In the final analysis, your wife makes/made the choice to hook-up with him.
What did your wife say in response to your request? If she did speak with him about this what was the result?

Exactly. If I told Karen I "gave" her to someone she'd either be pissed or laugh. It's her life, her body and it's her choice.

[Mundaka2]

She wants everyone to be happy. She’s talked to him now which is good but now he’s stopped communicating altogether. This is better but not exactly what I had in mind

[Wifewithothers]

Next weekend is the big weekend my wife’s boyfriend is coming to stay with us. But I’m having trouble trying to establish a rapport with this guy. I don’t necessarily need to be best friends with her lovers but i feel like it would be a benefit.

The trouble is he keeps trying to dominate me, like he thinks he’s going dominate both my wife and me. Unfortunately he’s mistaken. I find his actions disrespectful and inappropriate. In my opinion a little appreciation for what I’ve given him would go a long way.

I’ve told him numerous times but he’s not getting it. I think his perception is warped by stupid cuckold stereotypes and media. Why do these guys think every cuckold wants to suck dick and eat their cum. He couldn’t be more wrong. He’s more likely to get my foot up his ass!

Now my wife is concerned. I’ve asked her to talk to him since he’s not listening to me.

Kick him to the curb. He's the guest , he respects your boundaries or he's gone

[wifelver]

Next weekend is the big weekend my wife’s boyfriend is coming to stay with us. But I’m having trouble trying to establish a rapport with this guy. I don’t necessarily need to be best friends with her lovers but i feel like it would be a benefit.

The trouble is he keeps trying to dominate me, like he thinks he’s going dominate both my wife and me. Unfortunately he’s mistaken. I find his actions disrespectful and inappropriate. In my opinion a little appreciation for what I’ve given him would go a long way.

I’ve told him numerous times but he’s not getting it. I think his perception is warped by stupid cuckold stereotypes and media. Why do these guys think every cuckold wants to suck dick and eat their cum. He couldn’t be more wrong. He’s more likely to get my foot up his ass!

Now my wife is concerned. I’ve asked her to talk to him since he’s not listening to me.

Kick him to the curb. He's the guest , he respects your boundaries or he's gone

I agree. Throw his arrogant ass out if he cannot show basic respect.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

I’ve told him numerous times but he’s not getting it. I think his perception is warped by stupid cuckold stereotypes and media. Why do these guys think every cuckold wants to suck dick and eat their cum. He couldn’t be more wrong. He’s more likely to get my foot up his ass!

It’s obvious the guy is an ass or doesn’t know the difference between a stag and cuckold as you suggest. If he’s out of the picture now, good riddance. Maybe it’s a learning lesson for him.

We were always very clear with new guys about both of our likes and dislikes. It was part of our ‘screening process.’ As a result, we never had trouble with guys misunderstanding their role and with the exception of one dud, all of our experiences were great. Even the guy who ended up as my girl’s favorite FWB for over a decade understood all this very intuitively—she was submissive and responded to his domination, but I was not a cuck and just reveled in the sight of her pleasure.

I think part of the reason we never had problems is all of the guys we selected were experienced in the lifestyle and understood how diverse hotwife kink is. It seems most problem stories I hear about involve vanilla guys introduced to this world by opportunity or relatively new guys with experience limited to cuckold situations.

Reminds me of a story some time ago on this forum involving a former SOF operator who waded into hotwifing by allowing his wife to go solo with a guy who had very little experience. One night he was in a hotel lobby when she was exiting an elevator with the “bull”, and the guy made a disrespectful remark to the husband. Hubbie in turn kicked the shit out of the guy right there in the hotel lobby and was arrested for battery. Judging from his disappearance from the board a month later, I guess that bad experience permanently closed the door for them.

[Jujube]

I think all this advice about kicking him to the curb is moot. The OP told us that the disrespect has stopped after his wife told her lover to back off. Now the lover doesn’t say anything ( which the OP didn’t want), but it seems things are fine now.

[mncouplemg]

We/I make it perfectly clear that the sex with them is for our fun and they are just along for the ride.

[Breakerhymen]

The question in my mind is why is your wife tolerating his disrespect of her husband…….

Yeah, that would be cause for sending him 'to town'.

Indeed!!!!