Resort Report

[Confounded]

My wife and I enjoyed a spectacular and sex-saturated weekend at a Santa Barbara resort last weekend. She was sexually ravenous. If remorse sex is that incredible, she needs to have more affairs

She did a spa day at the resort that cost me a small fortune. She wore a spa robe back to our room with nothing underneath it. She carried her clothes in a spa bag. As soon as the door closed behind her, she proudly showed me her bikini-waxed bush. That initiated more incredible sex. She hadn't waxed in years. She uses a razor and hair clippers.

We did room service on Saturday night with two-plus bottles of wine. We calmly discussed her affairs without guilt or blame between incredible sex sessions. I intently listened to her. She volunteered more info than I expected. We agreed to leave the past where it belonged. We focused on our future. We agreed to examine sexual possibilities beyond our bedroom. We agreed that if we were to open our sex lives that we would have to do it as a team. We agreed to research our options and conduct thorough analyses before deciding. We agreed to discuss it at great length, probably this weekend.

We were gratified by the amazing sex we had. It reminded us of our dating and early marriage years when we indiscriminately had sex anywhere and everywhere we could.

I'll post more when I know more.

[Confounded]

How difficult would it be for my wife and I to open our sex lives? If we decide to do it, what should we be aware of?

She's more interested in trying sex with women, but she loves heterosexual sex.

[leggysman]

Great developments! Thanks for writing about them.

Your question is difficult to answer. It's as easy as deciding to do it, and then finding the right people to have sex with! <- obviously this last bit can be easy, or really really hard. Some of it comes down to luck, your location (is it a target-rich environment?), and your ways of searching. Not searching - waiting for something to happen organically - might be a long wait. Or maybe not. Searching adult dating sites (especially ENM ones) is obviously going to be more efficient.

From deciding to do it, to doing it, took leggysandy ~4 weeks IIRC (the actual answer will be somewhere in the thread linked in my sig). Her first guy was a good one.

[Long Lurker 34]

My wife and I enjoyed a spectacular and sex-saturated weekend at a Santa Barbara resort last weekend. She was sexually ravenous. If remorse sex is that incredible, she needs to have more affairs

She did a spa day at the resort that cost me a small fortune. She wore a spa robe back to our room with nothing underneath it. She carried her clothes in a spa bag. As soon as the door closed behind her, she proudly showed me her bikini-waxed bush. That initiated more incredible sex. She hadn't waxed in years. She uses a razor and hair clippers.

We did room service on Saturday night with two-plus bottles of wine. We calmly discussed her affairs without guilt or blame between incredible sex sessions. I intently listened to her. She volunteered more info than I expected. We agreed to leave the past where it belonged. We focused on our future. We agreed to examine sexual possibilities beyond our bedroom. We agreed that if we were to open our sex lives that we would have to do it as a team. We agreed to research our options and conduct thorough analyses before deciding. We agreed to discuss it at great length, probably this weekend.

We were gratified by the amazing sex we had. It reminded us of our dating and early marriage years when we indiscriminately had sex anywhere and everywhere we could.

I'll post more when I know more.

C
- Sounds awesome!! Really look forward to reading more of your journey in future postings. On that note please, please, please DO NOT start another thread. Keep posting to this one, otherwise it will become too disjointed and hard to follow.
- Communication is key. do a lot of discussing, before during after.

[lanceriprock]

How difficult would it be for my wife and I to open our sex lives? If we decide to do it, what should we be aware of?

She's more interested in trying sex with women, but she loves heterosexual sex.

Damn, give her the green light for some girl-on-girl action and see where it goes. My wife has a supremely hot Latina friend with an insanely great body, and I’d happily let them use our bedroom any night for them to explore. I might listen at the door though.

[Confounded]

Good morning, Long Lurker 34,

Thank you for your recommendation. I will keep future posts on this thread.

[Confounded]

Good morning, leggysman,

Yes sir, we live in a target-rich environment, and I'm sure my wife has already identified her feminine target.

A topic as monumental as opening our marriage must be discussed in one comprehensive conversation. Segmented discussions could lead to erroneous conclusions; hence setting aside sufficient time to discuss it in one conversation. I'm nearly certain that we'll have that conversation this weekend.

[Confounded]

Good morning, lanceriprock,

I do not want to control my wife. I'd rather discuss possibilities with her. She'll decide what's right for her and us. If after a thorough conversation she were to decide to pursue sex with a woman and if I were to agree with her decision, what she might decided would be her choice.

As we all know, when women decide to pursue anything, it's likely that that's what they'll do...either with or without our consent.

Happy wife = happy life...

[Confounded]

Are there websites that contain factual information about open marriages?

[Confounded]

My wife & I had an excellent conversation. She wants to return to the risky, exciting, and indiscriminate sex that blew our minds too many years ago. We agreed to examine possibilities. She's going to see how we can safely open our sex lives. I did tell her that she could have all the sex she wanted with a woman. Her response was to inquire whether I would be willing to join in the fun. That would be impossible to know because it would be an assumption whether a woman would want me to participate.

[leggysman]

I think you can safely reply that yes, you'd be willing if your wife and her playmate wanted you to.

In theory we're talking about your wife meeting a single (or ENM who plays alone) bi woman who wants to have sex with both of you.

We call those women 'unicorns' for a reason; in theory they may exist, but few of us have ever met one. Maybe in a club?

[Confounded]

I think you can safely reply that yes, you'd be willing if your wife and her playmate wanted you to.

We call those women 'unicorns' for a reason; in theory they may exist, but few of us have ever met one. Maybe in a club?

That is precisely why my answer to her was coy. Because her question was hypothetical, it was impossible for me to answer.

Based on what I've read, it's more common for women to have sex with each other alone.

But that begets another question the answer to which would be, "I honestly do not know whether my wife has had sex with a woman." I know neither one of us were virgins when we began dating. Maybe she has had sex with a woman. She hasn't volunteered info. Maybe I'll ask her at an advantageous time

[Confounded]

I do know that my wife does not like routine, boring, and vanilla sex. She loves exciting, indiscriminate, and especially spontaneous sex.

[lanceriprock]

Whether you participate or not, you have to admit that there’s nothing more beautiful than two attractive women having joyous sex with one another.

[Confounded]

Whether you participate or not, you have to admit that there’s nothing more beautiful than two attractive women having joyous sex with one another.

Thank you, lanceriprok

The way things are looking, I might just get to see that...assuming I'm invited

[Confounded]

Like many women, my wife wants to experience sex with a woman. However, when my wife is deep in the throes of sexual passion, she has always wanted to be, and still wants to be, fucked hard and rough. She'll have to settle for a strap-on

[Confounded]

My wife definitely wants to open our sex lives to possibilities beyond our bedroom; however, as of now, she's now sure our we should proceed. She is adamant that whatever we decided to do that we do it together as a team. We discussed doing something along the line of a nude cruise or nude beach. She wants to become comfortable with nudity. We have yet to decide on where to begin.

What would be an excellent initiation to opening our sex lives to possibilities?

[Confounded]

My wife and I had an interesting and thought provoking conversation last night after another evening of voracious sex. We have been reading about ways to revert to our passionate, exciting, and indiscriminate sex.

She asked me if I have ever been watched having sex. I replied, "No." I asked her if she has ever been watched while having sex. She replied, "No, I don't think so."

She asked me if I would be OK with someone watching us having sex. I replied that I'd be good with it as long as viewers bought tickets to the show.

I asked her whether she would care if someone watched us having sex. She replied, "No, I wouldn't mind."

She asked, "Would you want to watch another couple having sex?" I told he that that would depend on the couple having sex and circumstances.

Then she hit me with the wake-up call. She asked me whether I could watch her having sex. I replied, "With another woman?" She replied, "Yeah, I think so."

I asked her what she had in mind. She replied, "Oh, nothing, I'm only trying to find out what might be our options."

The above quotes might not be verbatim, but they're close to it.

The upside is she is thinking about ways we can enjoy exciting, passionate, and indiscriminate sex like we used to enjoy before our first child was born.

She seems to be focusing on having sex with a woman, but her answer to the question about her having sex with a woman, I got the impression that she was thinking about having sex with men.

[SilverStag]

Visit an on-premises swinger club and see what piques your interest. You can do nothing but observe, or you can choose to explore in whatever ways titillate you (watch others, be watched, find playmates of either sex, etc). Once you visit, you can then discuss what you want and what your rules or limits may be (know that most people's rules and limits change as they gain experience)

[Confounded]

HI SilverStag,

We've discusses many possibilities including checking out a swingers club.

We're gonna talk more this weekend.


Take care

[leggysman]

see what piques your interest

As a grammar and spelling pedant, I just want to express my personal appreciation for your not writing "peaks your interest" or "peeks your interest"

Q: What should you say to comfort a grammar nazi?

A: “There, their, they’re.”

[Swingpaul]

My wife and I had an interesting and thought provoking conversation last night after another evening of voracious sex. We have been reading about ways to revert to our passionate, exciting, and indiscriminate sex.

She asked me if I have ever been watched having sex. I replied, "No." I asked her if she has ever been watched while having sex. She replied, "No, I don't think so."

She asked me if I would be OK with someone watching us having sex. I replied that I'd be good with it as long as viewers bought tickets to the show.

I asked her whether she would care if someone watched us having sex. She replied, "No, I wouldn't mind."

She asked, "Would you want to watch another couple having sex?" I told he that that would depend on the couple having sex and circumstances.

Then she hit me with the wake-up call. She asked me whether I could watch her having sex. I replied, "With another woman?" She replied, "Yeah, I think so."

I asked her what she had in mind. She replied, "Oh, nothing, I'm only trying to find out what might be our options."

The above quotes might not be verbatim, but they're close to it.

The upside is she is thinking about ways we can enjoy exciting, passionate, and indiscriminate sex like we used to enjoy before our first child was born.

She seems to be focusing on having sex with a woman, but her answer to the question about her having sex with a woman, I got the impression that she was thinking about having sex with men.

Great conversation, baby steps, it does indeed sound like she wanted to know if you would be okay watching her with another man, perhaps she was just a little afraid to push it that far, what an exciting journey you are on, keep communicating and have fun. I would certainly buy a ticket for the show!