"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[sqlxprt]

I would think that if there is trust in the relationship, and both husband and wife are open and honest, it let's the wife fulfill desires with the husband's knowledge and/or participation. I think it prevents the two partners from cheating on each other and I think shows the husband's love for his wife. He is not locking her up and keeping him all for his own desires, but allowing her to meet her needs as well. Love and sex are not the same thing and most people don't understand that. And loving someone is not the same as being in love with them.

And as most men fantasize about F-M-F sex, why shouldn't the woman have M-F-M sex or be able to enjoy another solo partner? I think that the couple should still have their own private one on one lovemaking, but no reason they can't spice that up and enjoy some out of the box relationships, as long as each are in the know about what's going on. And as long as everyone places safe and doesn't do something that couple be harmful to the other's health.

I'm new to this so maybe I'm still too idealistic? But just sharing my thoughts. I'm not married, but was for 20 years. I wish my wife had come to me about her fantasies rather than cheating on me behind my back, and then villianizing me to justify what she was doing. Had she just shared her fantasy with me, I would have given my blessings and we might still be together. But I've moved on, and won't forgive her bad behavior and I'm not talking about the cheating, I'm talking about the villification of me for things I never did. But anyway, if I do get married again, I want to marry someone that will be a hot wife!

[gatorrdw]

sqlxprt, it is a shame that your wife didn't open up to you, you are very right about the trust issue. As a long time wife sharer, my wife and I discussed her sexuality and things that she wanted to do and we were able to enjoy a very fulfilling lifestyle for many years. I could see her confidence in herself growing with each new FB to the point of being a very confident, sexually healthy woman and I reaped the benefits. We often talked about what and/or who was on her mind, over the years we had 2 different live-in "second husbands" that would take her out to shows, dinner,ect. and we would also keep her well fucked. Hopefully you will find a woman that will be open and honest with you, that you can really enjoy this lifestyle. GTR

[NJ Hotwife Couple]

As to why WE enjoy my wife dating and fucking other men, we both feel that there is some scientific reasons as well as physcological ones. No one man can satisfy every aspect of what a women needs. Weather its a larger cock, giving more attention, having the same perspective, etc. Having sex with and time alone with another man gives her the oppurtunity to satisfy any needs she has as a women. For us, her going on dates and building up towards sex on each date (just like courtship) makes her glow and her glow gives me such satisfaction, which is what every guy wants for his wife. Think about it, why do men get so frustrated when the women whines or complains? Its because she is not happy and for us that is against our core desire to please them. By pleasing them, we win them over and keep them as our mates. As long as the husband is at ease within the relationship and there is complete communication and understanding, any jealousy and concerns can be worked on and will eventually diminish each time the wife demonstrates her primary life is with her husband. Physically, its obvious that women are built for multiple lovers. Its much more rare that a guy can cum multiple times without taking a brake. Obviously, that is not the case for a women. A guy cant pleasure multiple women at the same time with comparison to intercourse like a women can. So, a new question should be why a guy wouldnt want his wife to fuck other men. We both believe that is soley due to social pressures created by the church and state and taught to us against our nature. In the 1930-40s the German governement introduced a program where members of their elite soldiers would breed certain wives that were found to have physical qualities they deemed Arian. While not all of the husbands were necessarily willing participants, its just another example of how the philosophy of fucking and even mating wives is not at all against our nature. To clarify, this wasnt a Hitler thing so lets not get carried away with comparing other horrors that followed that period. My wife was introduced to swinging by me and when I heard of a guy she went on 1 date with and was curious where it would have gone, I told her to go for it. She did and it went fine for a few times and we were hooked. She has better times when the guy takes time to date and know her. A fuck date is ok but she is no where as excited as when they return from a date for a few hours. Also, the sleepover happens as often as she can arrange it and would go on a mini vacation if the oppurtunity arrises. Due to our relationship being rock solid, my desire to always learn what makes her happy and do it, and her willingness to talk openly and discuss this with clarity I am able to allow her any pleasures with other men she is interested in. Our bond gets even stronger each time she returns and we discuss what occured, her feelings, and my attraction to her during that talk. It certainly takes the right combination of traits in both parties to make it successful, but it is simply natural. All in all we are animals, make no mistake of it. So, if a human mate dies does the surviving mate find another? Eagles dont, they mate for life and that is it. The ONLY factor that seperates us from deer, rabbits, and other hearding animals are the social rules that religion has entered into scripture. Without it, its a free for all. Perhaps it has helped us advance in ways, but its in contrast to what our desires are. In eastern cultures the woman must be covered and its a sin to talk to another man when married. Its a clear knee jerk reaction to our default preference to mate with other women no matter if married or not. Few guys would turn down the oppurtunity to have sex with an attractive wife with no strings attached, yet once he is married he should not expect the same from his wife? Thats not being consistant with who we are.

Im sure there are a lot of people who disagree with this lifestyle and almost all of it can be tracked down to what others think (social pressures). I, for one, have never been led by others beliefs. Perhaps this is something we have in common with other hot wife couples and swingers? Of course, a balanced and strong relationship is key. Introducing other men wont help or ruin the relationship. It will only make it more of what it is.

M&M

[bihoustonhubby]

Because it is so hot.

[Hubby109]

A few things come to mind ....

1) Why would you want to sleep with someone NO ONE else wanted ?

2) When I realized that underneath the goody goody, church going, homschooling mom ... there was a Slut aching to get out ... I figured it was a matter of time b4 she found some strange on her own LOL

3) Because i love her ... and providing her with the amazing pleasures she receives through the variety, excitement, and knowing she is desired by many others ... is worth it's weight in gold. Besides, I dont think any one man will ever truly satisfy her

[chinoflynn]

A few things come to mind ....

she found some strange on her own LOL

WAY off topic, but i haven't heard it refered to as " some strange" since the movie "The warriors" and i think thats the only other place i've ever heard it lol.

[Texman2045]

The thrill of `reclaiming' her after she has been with a lover/boyfriend, the physical thrill of the release into her, knowing you are making her your wife again, even knowing you are fully sharing her with other men. Beyond how I feel...it's how she feels and looks, so sexy and radiant and confident in herself, knowing she is so desirable to her husband - and other men who strike her fancy.

[All4Jenna]

This is such an awesome thread...so many wonderful thoughts that uplift the human spirit with insightful and inspiring messages.

NJ HotWife Couple...that was quite a post with some terrific observations.

Right now, my hotwife Jenna is across the country spending the weekend with her high school boyfriend. It's been an amazing 24 hours for us and all I know is that I never loved her or wanted her more than I do at this very moment.

[hotfreaks]

I love my wife and she loves me. I am a huge voyeur, and enjoy watching. My wife is extremely hot and extremely sexual. It is very psychological for me. The thought that she wants to do it and enjoys the variety of different men. She absolutely loves bigger men. Seeing her take a well hung man, usually bareback and seeing him make my wife moan like ive never heard or been able to make her sound.. her willingness to get naked for them and open her legs for them. And because she is so hot, watching how hot she can make other men, filling there eyes with pure lust for her. So much so that the man is willing to fuck my wife in front of me while i watch and take pics. Enough so he wants to fill my wifes pussy with his cum while i am a few feet away. And that my wife encourages her lovers to do so....keeping her legs open wide so they can cum deep inside her pussy while her husband watches

[rick181au]

A good posting HotfreaksHotwife.
Just a question as to why it’s “usually bare back”?
Admittedly we were older than you when we started playing (the wife was 35 when she went with her first ever other guy as I took her cherry when we were 19) and she had her tubes tied so it was bare back for us all the way from the word go, in fact we have not used a condom since we first got married and the pill came out, why do you use condoms at times and not other times? I think if a guy wanted to use a condom on my wife she would take it as an insult and the guy would more than likely get a knock back “not that any guy ever asked to use one”!
As for your wife being willing to open her legs to other guys, I am sure that my wife opens her legs wider for other guys than she has ever opened them for me, but there again it might just be that I am looking at it from a different prospective .
And as for the getting naked I love the first time my wife goes with another guy, watching them undressing and exploring each other’s body, and the expression on her face as she feels the hardness of the guys cock and takes it into her hand for the first time and rubs it, I just love it “OK so I am a voyeur”! lol.
All the best rick181au.
PS loved your pic’s as well, very sexy.

[dali_23]

I met my my wife 19 years ago, she was barely 23, and only had sex with 3 men, and I was 37 had more than 50 partners. The chemistry between us was electric, and we were in bed within 3 hours, one of the best nights of my life. We explored so many things together neither of us had ever tried. We started swinging, and the first time we went to a club, the men were all over her. I was jealous, frustrated and couldn't perform. We continued in the swing lifestyle, and she was so outgoing and magnetic, she could make an orgy happen in any club we ventured into. Needles to say, my performance anxiety disappeared. We went to Conclave in Chicago and had a weekend that was a sex fiends dream. After 15 years, I began to focus on her in our trysts, and observed from a new perspective beyond my interaction with the females available available to me. I began to feel an excitement that "mere swinging", could never even be close to. I wanted her to take the reigns of our sex life. Her sex drive seems to be moving into a higher gear at age 41, and I cannot make the same claim. She has put our family first during our married life, and it's time she takes advantage of all life has to offer, and with her amazing sexual nature, she could show and share the way sex is supposed to be with whomever she may select. Although we have had one pretty incredible experience, there was too much alcohol involved, and and for me it was exhilarating but terrifying all at once. I wondered if it was worth the risks. I thought it may take off after that, but nothing has, but thanks to all the posts I've read on this forum, I know one must exercise patience. She's had contact with several members here. She has an attraction to a young guy who works at the local grocery store, and she notices men who are checking her out, considering how to indicate her availability, and fantasizing about being with them.

The stories and photos on this forum may make this post seem rather tame (and considering what we've seen and read, it is!), but it is what it is, and I am thankful we've come this far. Hopefully I will contribute some exciting tales ad pics of our exploits if and when they take place.

[stand77]

I haven't actually seen my wife having sex with too many men. There have been 3 during our marriage where I watched and that was extremely hot. But she also dates a sales man that comes through our city every 3 months. When ever he is in town she goes out with him for an evening of dinner and dancing and then goes to his motel. She'll leave around 8 PM and return usually by 2 Am. This is extremely erotic for me and I alternate between a partial erection and a ragging hard on the whole time she is gone. Sometimes she'll call and give me a progress report and I have ejaculated just talking to her on the phone about what she's doing. When she gets home she'll tell me about her evening while I examine her pussy that is always red and hot. It doesn't take much for me to cum once I enter her and claim my seconds. She loves that I'm so aroused and is enthusiastic in bringing me off after having sex with him.

My point is the 5 or 6 hours she is out is 5 or 6 hours of wonderful sexual excitement for me that I don't experience at any other time. I look forward to the dates and that's why I love my wife sleeping with another man.

[rick181au]

I haven't actually seen my wife having sex with too many men. There have been 3 during our marriage where I watched and that was extremely hot. But she also dates a sales man that comes through our city every 3 months. When ever he is in town she goes out with him for an evening of dinner and dancing and then goes to his motel. She'll leave around 8 PM and return usually by 2 Am. This is extremely erotic for me and I alternate between a partial erection and a ragging hard on the whole time she is gone. Sometimes she'll call and give me a progress report and I have ejaculated just talking to her on the phone about what she's doing. When she gets home she'll tell me about her evening while I examine her pussy that is always red and hot. It doesn't take much for me to cum once I enter her and claim my seconds. She loves that I'm so aroused and is enthusiastic in bringing me off after having sex with him.

My point is the 5 or 6 hours she is out is 5 or 6 hours of wonderful sexual excitement for me that I don't experience at any other time. I look forward to the dates and that's why I love my wife sleeping with another man.

My wife had a married truck driver lover that I never met, she met him on a girls night out and he wanted her to go with him that night then and there, and she said their was an attraction to him straight away, but she told him no, that she would have to get it OK ed by me first, so they just exchanged phone numbers. It was different to what we had been doing with us having M F M threesomes where I would watch and join in, but she was keen to give it a go so why not.
They went out on their first date and finished up making love (having sex) In his car, then it came out that his deport was not far from our place and he usually returned from a trip on a weekend when the deport was closed, and she could meet him there, at the time we were right into CB radios having one in the car and another in the house, so arrangement were made that when he was returning from a trip (she would know what day and approximately the time) he would call on the phone and let her know when he would be arriving and she (we) would sit by the CB waiting for his call.
Eventually he was in range and they would start chatting on the radio as he was getting closer, when he was close to the deport she would head off to meet him with us having a three way conversation between him in his truck, the wife in our car and myself on the home base CB, when she met him they would both go off the air (they had better things to do ).
I would keep my ear open for them to come on the radio for as long as it took, eventually after a few hours the wife would give me a call and tell me that she was on her way home and we would start up our three way conversation again, it was funny the difference in the conversation on her return trip, he had had his and I was waiting for mine to arrive back home, and the wife was well and truly ready for seconds and I love my silky seconds as well.
Further along they would play different variations of it where when he called he would ask her to dress in different ways, slutty, like a tart, a school girl or even naked under a coat, it was all good sexy fun and games. I loved the waiting for her to come back on air and call me, the cheekiness in her voice always told me she had had a good time.

[miancorey]

It is truly amazing to watch her face, hear her moans, and see her with cum sprayed on her. I am always present for safety, videotaping, and it turns her on to know I am there. I can watch porno and it is ok. When I watch my wife in porno I can hardly control myself. The way a bigger thicker cock makes her little tight pussy stretch is mesmerizing. It is something I never thought I would enjoy. We do not do cuckolding. We share the experiences together. It makes for a thrilling marriage. I guess I am a voyeur. I participate after he is done, usually when we get home.

[Texman2045]

`The way she works out, glows, tans, trims, primps and stays date hot all the time.'

Very well, said, and I second the motion...and she has to come home at some point...where she knows I'm waiting for my turn.

[NEO_IONic]

Wow... I cant believe I just read all 351 prior posts and all the linked articles - this is really some good stuff *whew*. I understand a lot more of some of the underlying psychology - and have a lot more rattling around in my head which will make for some interesting dinner conversations this week with my angel.

I think the most notable epiphany to me anyway from reading this discussion is that "this is not a one-size fits all" lifestyle. I personally find comfort in all of the varied "quantum states" of desires, motivations, and emotions... and having a better perspective on my and mistresses own personal "quantum state".

(and scientifically/ professionally... after reading all of the linked articles, papers, & comments from the Psychology Today et.al. websites... I take a certain about of glee and sick pleasure in watching how that the addition of a single wiener into the equation causes their simplistic categorization & Labeling models of human behavior to just friggen melt! ... *evil mad scientist hand wringing and laughter*)

I do want to add an additional facet (from my own observation) that I really did not see addressed or mentioned in any significant detail re: the root question "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man": and that is as to how much more attractive she has become to other women! and by default me as well - although I attribute that mostly to having to "fluff my plumage and feathers and beat my chest" more often to keep up with her.

She is quite bisexual anyway (and we have had a couple steady girlfriends together for years), so it has been quite interesting as we have begun to follow this (M^2) path of the rabbit hole. Although looking at how her increased desirability to both sexes makes total sense in hindsight, the level and intensity as to which this has occurred has been (pleasantly) surprising...

[Curious_Couple87]

I just love seeing my wife in sexual euphoria.

[TriangleTangle]

This is a terrific discussion. I've been writing an article on this very topic based on my own extensive experiences and study over the years and don't know where to post it; it would make a good but very long post in this forum (12 pages!). Suggestions on how to best share it?

[allengt]

This is a terrific discussion. I've been writing an article on this very topic based on my own extensive experiences and study over the years and don't know where to post it; it would make a good but very long post in this forum (12 pages!). Suggestions on how to best share it?

You can post it in the Library.

[Melinda]

This is a terrific discussion. I've been writing an article on this very topic based on my own extensive experiences and study over the years and don't know where to post it; it would make a good but very long post in this forum (12 pages!). Suggestions on how to best share it?

Please post it. Seem very interesting.

Your username is one of the BEST here. So funny!

[TriangleTangle]

As promised, I have have posed an article keyed off of the subject of this forum. It began as a simple post to this discussion thread and got out of hand, so I pressed onward and turned it into a full article titled Compersion and The Cool Fire of Hotwifing You can find it here:

http://www.ourhotwives.org/forum/viewto ... =8&t=20879

As a bonus and gift back to the forum and all of the amazing and well thought out posts by all of you, I created a condensed compendium of all of the reasons provided throughout this entire thread. I hope you read and enjoy it as much as I had putting it together.

Yours,
TriangleTangle

[stand77]

Great write up. At least for me you have described my compersion feelings very well.

[stanstud]

I have wanted my then GF and Wife now to enjoy another man even before I heard of this topic. Is there something natural about it? Perhaps yes, perhaps biological, in some men? I had only had sex with tfour women in my life, three hookers (before I met my GF) and my wife. She hasnt tried anyone but me. I think i wanted her to try another so that she can tell me she still loves me? I dont know. But i have always wanted her to. But for some reason she doesnt want to entertain the idea. ONly after we got married once, she kind of enjoyed talking about it. I am waiting her to enjoy it in reality.

I just so want her to fuck another man that now I find myself thnking about it all the time. Its now eating me up. a source of insomnia for me.

[TriangleTangle]

I think any man who asks his GF or wife incessantly about her prior sexual experiences and asks her to describe them in detail and isn't yet into Hotwifing is probably a closet hotwife husband and probably unaware of it. :-)

[DianeNJack]

Short answer: It turns me on.

I like watching her move against her lover, watching the expression of exctasy on her face when she's getting well f******, hearing her coo's and moans, and most of all, seeing the huge wet spots when she squirts. Taking all that in gets me hard again pretty quick!

Guessing it's just the way I'm wired... fortunately for me I met someone who's wired the same way