"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[Buttercream]

In many marriages, the thing that attracted us to our spouse in the first
place is the thing that gets on our nerves or irritates us the most later
in the marriage. One famous case study is that of Rachael Jackson, wife
of the President. As a young woman, she like to dance, flirt, dress in
attractive ways, laugh, and smile a whole lot. That is what attracted her
first husband. However, once married he became oppressively jealous when
she danced with other men, smiled at other men, or showed any interest at
all in the other half of the human race. Ultimately, this led to divorce.

I think that is one of the things I loved about my friend who became my husband. He never tried to change me or try to temper my enthusiasm. He knew me for so long before we dated that he realized that I Chose Him. I wasn't with him for any other reason then because I chose him. So he always enjoyed (or at least seemed to enjoy...) my flirty nature. Never was threatened when I gave someone a hug and kiss. And I think that ultimately lead to this adventure into HWing.

[cuckold-newbie]

I completely agree with the moderator...

[dali_23]

In many marriages, the thing that attracted us to our spouse in the first
place is the thing that gets on our nerves or irritates us the most later
in the marriage. One famous case study is that of Rachael Jackson, wife
of the President. As a young woman, she like to dance, flirt, dress in
attractive ways, laugh, and smile a whole lot. That is what attracted her
first husband. However, once married he became oppressively jealous when
she danced with other men, smiled at other men, or showed any interest at
all in the other half of the human race. Ultimately, this led to divorce.

I think that is one of the things I loved about my friend who became my husband. He never tried to change me or try to temper my enthusiasm. He knew me for so long before we dated that he realized that I Chose Him. I wasn't with him for any other reason then because I chose him. So he always enjoyed (or at least seemed to enjoy...) my flirty nature. Never was threatened when I gave someone a hug and kiss. And I think that ultimately lead to this adventure into HWing.

As I read this great post I thought of a time when, even after we been swinging, I would get very jealous of her when she would be among her friends, just being herself, very outgoing, flirty, loves to dance with all the men and ladies, and always very affectionate with them. We'd be mainly at music festivals or nightspots with live music. And I do mean very jealous! I was completely suppressing who she was. She wasn't considering sexual contact with them, but I always (maybe born of a guilty conscience for my own indiscretions) suspected she was. Her affectionate nature is a big part of her personality, but it bothered me in these instances. I have no idea how the switch got flipped, but we are both much better off for it. I was able to take the leap of faith, and leave my insecurities (mostly) behind and allow to her to flourish, she is happier, and has a made our bond stronger.

[Tounguefunngames]

Why? Because it makes the sex life so damn hot.

[Billblog69]

Best sex I ever had was fucking my girlfriends loose spooge filled pussy after a guy with a 10 inch cock fucked the day lights out of her. She told me the gory details of how he tried to force his intruder down her throat and she had to beg him to fuck her so that her throat wasn't torn apart.

[Mia]

Best sex I ever had was fucking my girlfriends loose spooge filled pussy after a guy with a 10 inch cock fucked the day lights out of her. She told me the gory details of how he tried to force his intruder down her throat and she had to beg him to fuck her so that her throat wasn't torn apart.

Welcome to OHW, Billblog69.



Mia

[Billblog69]

Thanx Mia. Looking forward to contributing!

[Buttercream]

In many marriages, the thing that attracted us to our spouse in the first
place is the thing that gets on our nerves or irritates us the most later
in the marriage. One famous case study is that of Rachael Jackson, wife
of the President. As a young woman, she like to dance, flirt, dress in
attractive ways, laugh, and smile a whole lot. That is what attracted her
first husband. However, once married he became oppressively jealous when
she danced with other men, smiled at other men, or showed any interest at
all in the other half of the human race. Ultimately, this led to divorce.

I think that is one of the things I loved about my friend who became my husband. He never tried to change me or try to temper my enthusiasm. He knew me for so long before we dated that he realized that I Chose Him. I wasn't with him for any other reason then because I chose him. So he always enjoyed (or at least seemed to enjoy...) my flirty nature. Never was threatened when I gave someone a hug and kiss. And I think that ultimately lead to this adventure into HWing.

As I read this great post I thought of a time when, even after we been swinging, I would get very jealous of her when she would be among her friends, just being herself, very outgoing, flirty, loves to dance with all the men and ladies, and always very affectionate with them. We'd be mainly at music festivals or nightspots with live music. And I do mean very jealous! I was completely suppressing who she was. She wasn't considering sexual contact with them, but I always (maybe born of a guilty conscience for my own indiscretions) suspected she was. Her affectionate nature is a big part of her personality, but it bothered me in these instances. I have no idea how the switch got flipped, but we are both much better off for it. I was able to take the leap of faith, and leave my insecurities (mostly) behind and allow to her to flourish, she is happier, and has a made our bond stronger.

Good for you! I think it is important for spouses to remember that love is a choice. To never take for granted that someone chooses to love them. Congrats on trusting her to be herself, the woman who chose you :-)

[Jules]

Best sex I ever had was fucking my girlfriends loose spooge filled pussy after a guy with a 10 inch cock fucked the day lights out of her. She told me the gory details of how he tried to force his intruder down her throat and she had to beg him to fuck her so that her throat wasn't torn apart.

OH I wish I had seen that !!

If you can do tell us more.

[Aynsley]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/0 ... 20695.html

First, I'd like to opine that this thread, should be required reading for anyone,
looking to enter this Lifestyle. I believe a full reading of this thread,
will greatly advance both the
wannabe hubby and/or HW, many stages in the HW process...
...as this Lifestyle is just SO much more complex
than One-Night-Stands
(at least for most of the OHW communiy, as far as I can tell).

It is with that thought in mind, that I thereby post the above link. It took me a while
to realize that 'the connection' with a guy, was what 'did it', for Iris...
...and those wannabe HW Hubbies who don't 'get that'...will likely languish in wannabe Hell.

Thanks to all who have contributed to this particular thread.

[Buttercream]

It took me a while to realize that 'the connection' with a guy, was what 'did it', for Iris...
...and those wannabe HW Hubbies who don't 'get that'...will likely languish in wannabe Hell.

Thanks to all who have contributed to this particular thread.

I agree... Maybe if I had never gotten a connection with one of our playmates I would have been ok with the one-nighters and repeat players that came left without leaving much of themselves behind. But after having that connection.. That is what I want.

We are in the process of changing the way we do this adventure... I am now searching for a different type of lover to join us in this adventure. Hubby is trying his best and for the most he's doing well, and I'm trying to be slow and let him keep up with me. He's encouraging me to find the best guy that I will find but he has one thing he wants, a guy who will also join us for mfm as that has been most of our play.

[johndoe2317]

What I always wonder when I see a post like this on an obviously sex related site is what was the person doing here in the first place if this type of activity didn't interest them? Just my 2 cents.

[TriangleTangle]

Here is my theory - like it or proffer your own; I posed a version of this in another thread as a response but I think it belongs here in this discussion. This doesn't cover all all of the reasons/cases as there are many other legitimate motivations including medical, disinterest, and a boatload of other valid drivers, but I believe this is the one of the most common.

Many people that don't get it, don't understand it, or can't explain it is simply because they haven't yet made the psychophysiological connection between sexual stimulation and the risk of losing a wife to another man, or the risk of getting impregnated by another man, her developing emotional feelings, her cheating, her wanting and enjoying the other male more than the husband, and a long list of other risks. For many men in this lifestyle it is all about eroticizing fear and the incredible sexual stimulation that results from eroticizing fear, both physical and psychological. This is called Compersion, Compersion is using any of an array of fears and standing those fears them on their head, inverting them into erotic stimulation. It's the same principle and reason why jumping out of a plane and many other risky activities are exciting and exhilarating, only instead of just increasing adrenalin some men become skilled - knowingly or unknowingly - into converting it to one of the most natural and potent aphrodisiacs know to man (an unknown to most men but they feel it nonetheless, but just can't seem to put it into words). I don't know how many women experience it, but after years of observing and experiencing it myself it seems something known and experienced mostly by men and only a subset of whom that can achieve enough security to take the risks for that amazing reward. Or, they take the risk unknowingly anyway and that is when trouble sometimes ensues. Once understood, a male can then assess just how secure and loyal their relationship is and the female partner needs to understand it very well, which will also explain to them why although many men want their wife to fuck other men they have no or little desire to fuck another woman. Once understood, a great deal of confusion falls by the wayside and everyone has more fun while lowering the risk of the worst possible outcomes.

Some time ago I wrote a very long post/article on Compersion http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=20879. Regrettably, I mis-characterized Compersion as a metaphysical experience which made it sound like some new-age spiritual thing. It isn't. For many males it is the transference of fear in to actual physical sexual arousal. In fact, the more elevated the emotional aspects, the greater the physical reaction of the male including being even more horny, larger and harder erections that last longer, sexual anxiety (impatience), crazed desire, even being more difficult to last longer when fucking his wife without ejaculating due the resulting extreme heights of male arousal that result, including more intense male orgasms.

It is all about jealousy and channeling it. Notice that I didn’t say ‘get over’ or 'unlearn' jealousy. Jealousy is an essential and critical set of emotions that provide the fuel for Compersion. Jealousy itself is a broad term that has discrete components that include fear, insecurity, envy, competitiveness, inadequacy, possessiveness, fear of abandonment, feeling unloved and feeling left out. As I said, jealousy is too broad a term and means different things to different people without breaking it down. Jealousy manifests itself in different ways and we need to use it as a tool and a skill that needs to be learned, managed, mastered but not overcome.

For some men they actually get as far as virtually experiencing pleasure through their female partner - a sort of extreme empathetic experience where watching her getting fucked the husband feels the thrill of her pleasure, her orgasms, her desire, even her emotional pleasure with the other male. Does that mean the male is really a closet homosexual? No! Many men feel these things and are fearful to even say so because they fear their mate will start to wonder if they are gay. The fact is, we aren't. We have no desire or interest (in most cases) of every having sexual contact with another male. There are few males on this earth who haven't been envious and curious about the power of female sexuality and haven't wondered or wished they could be male but experience what it is like to experience sex as a female at least once. Well, we men can't and our constant always-on sex drive is vastly different than that of females. However, when an Compersion-enlightened male gets to see another cock plunging into his wife's pussy, his own sexual and mental stimulation can reach a point where he can project her physical experience and pleasure onto his own - truly experiencing all of her pleasure vicariously. These more advanced experiences require a huge amount of empathy skill and self-security).

I can now understand why females typically cannot grasp the concept of Compersion as easily as men. I have heard a few women that experience Compersion, but they seem to be in the minority and usually among women that have done full couple swap and other lifestyle variations beyond MFM, hotwifing or cuckolding. I suspect its more difficult for a woman to achieve the male experience of Compersion but not impossible. As women become more sexually liberated I believe more will. In fact, I believe that when a couple both become fully aware of these dynamics, more women derive pleasure from both the other male and their primary partner's compersive pleasure he achieves through her; it becomes a wonderful, inverted catch 22 - the more pleasure she gets , the more her husband gets and up and up.

Anyhow, this is my theory and I'm pleasurably sticking to it!

Regards,
Triangle Tangle

[PeachesHubby]

Why would I want my wife to sleep with another man? I’m going to start off by considering the inverse and ask why would I not want my wife to sleep with another man. The first thought is I would be jealous and possessive. I mean, she is my wife. When we were married I got the keys to her body and everything. She can’t do anything unless I give her permission. Isn’t that what the marriage vows are all about? Second thought is that it would diminish her in my eyes and in society’s view. She would become a slut and a whore. Since she is diminished in this fashion it would also diminish me in our society’s view because she is just an extension of me her husband. This goes back to the idea that she doesn’t exist without me. I am independent and she in completely dependent. Rubbish!

So these ideas are rather old fashioned and sexist and bigoted. Everything that we call a reason why we wouldn’t want to allow another person to have the freedom to choose, the freedom to enjoy themselves harkens to the concept of isms that is rampant in this world. I know that we use the idea of fear to dissuade us from allowing our partners the joy of exploring other people in a sexual manner but this fear is based on the fear of loss. Frankly, if we don’t think of ourselves as in possession of our wives then how can we lose them? Regardless of how possessive we feel and how much we try to control them, we can still lose them. We lose them due to the fact that we hold too tightly. If we ourselves want freedom to choose then we must give the same freedom to those around use and most especially to those who we love with all of our hearts. Love allows things to grow. It does not diminish them in any way.

Okay, now since I answered why I wouldn’t want my wife to sleep with another man I am now going to try to answer why I would. Basically, why would I not want her to sleep with any other man she chooses? I love her completely and therefore I must give her the room to grow as a person and if that growth is sexual, great because it turns me on for her to sleep with other men. Society may view her as diminished due to the behavior of being a slut or a whore and it may do the same to me in conjunction and this is a true shame because in my eyes she becomes more beautiful and desirable by being a hotwife. Her being a hotwife doesn’t diminish our relationship. It intensifies it in many ways.
I truly believe that she has the right to love other people. Who am I to say that she can’t do something that gives her so much joy and fulfillment? I want her to sleep with other men. I want her to experience every wonderful experience that she can because we only live once, as far as I know. I know that she gets great joy from these other relationships and that it has added to our lives in wonderful ways. Since she has the freedom to be who she wants to be, I also have the freedom to be who I want to be and I choose to be her husband. Just as she has chosen to have other lovers I have chosen to be only with her. No one forces me to do this. She has on many occasions stated that I should have the same freedom as she does. My answer is always the same. I do have the same freedom as you. I just choose to only want and be with you and no one else but I truly want you to have other relationships as long as it makes you happy.

So, am I crazy? I often thought I was in the beginning. I doubted myself and my desires especially when she was resistant to the whole idea. I thought what am I doing wanting my wife to sleep with another man especially since I didn’t want to sleep with anyone else. It took me a long time to reconcile this concept into my psyche. I have found that I don’t struggle with it much anymore. I have accepted this as a true way of life.

What more can I say. I love my wife and I want her to be as happy as she can be.

Thanks for listening. Peacheshubby.

[dava]

That was a lovely, thought provoking discourse. One that truly expresses how I have come to view this world of husband and wife we live in. My question is, as a man who likes and encourages his wife to take lovers, is it her desire to get fucked by new cock or is it her desire to satisfy my need for her to do so? The freedom to do so, either way, takes a marriage to a most thrilling level. With great risk comes great reward. I say do what you love.

[gerardvoyeur]

Why would a sane, rational man want his wife to fuck another man?

Well said I totally agree with you!


The above question is a commonly asked question to those who've just heard of this lifestyle. The uninitiated think the answers are simple. The husband is a latent homosexual. The husband doesn't love his wife and is hoping to "bait" her into a divorce by dumping her off on another man. Or maybe the husband wants to fuck other woman and this is the lever he will use to get his wife to allow that. These are the big three themes but in any event the primary assumption is that the husband is being anything but honest and merely using his wife's promiscuity as a deception-based tool for him to achieve some unstated goal that the wife would normally not be agreeable too.

The truth is that the above stated assumption is rarely the case. Is it sometimes? I've no doubt. If the internet tells us one thing it's that there are very few limits to the human experience. But again, those are the exceptions. The truth? Well, it's a bit more complicated than that....but is much less Machiavellian.

So what is the truth?

Well, the truth is that usually the husband really does want to see his wife fuck others. The truth is that the husband rarely has any significant interest in other women. As for that latent homosexuality thing? Eh, sometimes, but that's generally not a real motivator but rather a fringe benefit for those so inclined.

So what are the motivations? They are as varied as the people who enter into the lifestyle but there are common themes. Will I address these themes? Not directly. Rather than profess to speak for all what I endeavor to do here is express MY motivations (and they are both numerous and dependent upon my mood). Beyond that, I would invite other individuals in the lifestyle to present their observations and motivations with the thought that a more complete and meaningful consensus may be formed.

Why I encourage my wife to fuck other men... Sheesh! Typing that gives me flashbacks to 7th Grade English and assignments like "What I did on my summer vacation!" In any event, I'm going to give you, the reader, several thoughts of mine on this topic. My appologies if they are sometimes contradictory and/or not always organized. We're dealing with the human mind and emotions; contradictions and chaos go with the territory.

I like to see my wife fuck other men because I am voyeuristic in nature. The most common expression of my voyeuristic nature is watching porn. I like porn. Most guys do! But what's better than watching porn? Watching real life sex, of course. Why settle for crappy video with a terrible sound track if you can get real live people to have sex in front of you? Now what's even better than a live sex show? A live sex show with the most beautiful woman in the world, of course! And yes, I consider my wife the most beautiful woman in the world. Sure, I'm biased but it doesn't change the allure of watching that magnificent woman get off. What's that, you say? Why don't I just watch her while I have sex with her? It just doesn't work well for me. For starters, there are "camera angles" that a participant can never see. Too, the sensations running through my own body make it difficult (have you ever tried to watch and appreciate somebody else while YOU were having an orgasm?). OK, enough discussion of that angle.

It makes my wife feel beautiful/sexy. Let's face it, men, making your wife feel beautiful/sexy isn't easy after years of marriage. You may tell her that she's beautiful but does she really believe you? If you're me, you're biased and she knows it so hearing "you're beautiful" from me doesn't exactly convince her. What absolutely, positively convinces her that she's beautiful/sexy is some quasi-random guy pursuing her and fucking her brains out. Then she knows that other guys find her beautiful and sexy and that does great things for both her self esteem and her libido. Short version? She ends up feeling better about herself and I get laid a lot more. No losers there!

There are some things one guy simply can not do! I'm a considerate lover and I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have. Most men do, right? But what if it turns out that what really gets her motor running is a guy eating her out while another guy sucks her nipples? One guy simply can not do that; anatomy forbid it (baring siamese twins!). If your wife is such a woman (and mine is), then the only way to really rock her world is to accept help from an outside source. Not every man is confident/comfortable doing so, but I am. Thus another guy allows me to give her sexual experiences that she could otherwise never have.

But most of all, I encourage my wife having sex with others because it is fun.




And with that, I turn the podium over to others who may wish to add to my thoughts.

[stand77]

Hotwifing: Where the husband and the wife agree that she can have sex with other men even though the husband will not have sex with other women. It has been around forever. I have been curious about why I have this interest in sharing my wife. Here's some of my thoughts.

I first was exposed to the idea in the 60's reading Penthouse Forum Letters. In very issue there were letters from mostly husbands who said they were into it. Not to be confused with cuckholding where the husband is humiliated by the wife and or lover. Reading those letters I became more and more aroused by the idea. We went through a few years where I told her about these and had her read some of the letters. Progressing to where I would have her imagine an someone we knew having sex with as I did. She became more and more accustomed to the idea until we finally took the step and had a three some.

From there we tried swinging and still have some good friends from that time, but she was never really comfortable with me and another woman. So eventually we found that the other woman wasn't necessary for my satisfaction and here we are; my wife is free to have sex with anyone she is so inclined and I am free to watch, participate or wait as the situation warrants and enjoy her sexuality the way I do.

I have thought about my reasons for liking to share my wife and list them here:

Experiencing the sights and sounds of your wife having sexual pleasure with another can't be appreciated the same if you're the only action. Watching her have an orgasm is a sight to behold. There are nuances about her I see that are missed otherwise.

Watching her gently fondling another man's erection is super erotic for me, especially when she first exposes it and begins to make it hard while focusing her attention on it with an occasional glance at me for encouragement. It's a turn on to see her allow a man to fondle her breasts and to slip his and to her vagina. If I'm not there (most of the time) I love her description of how she exposed his penis, did it spring forth rock hard? What did it look like? What positions did they use?

The sight of her guiding a throbbing cock past her labia into her vagina giving him access to this special reserved and protected place is almost enough to make me cum then and there. I always think, she's actually letting him have intercourse, that special most intimate human action between two people. She is sharing as much of self as is possible when she allows that penetration to happen and formerly this act was reserved only for me.

There is a musk that her vagina has after she has been fucked by someone else that is lovely and erotic to me and I can't resist going down on her to wrap myself in the smell of her sex.

Her expressions of sexual enjoyment as she's cumming or when the one she's coupling with ejaculates deep inside her that gets me hard just thinking about it. I like knowing that his semen is there because she turned him on to the point of cumming.

There's a certain bonding or connection I feel with my wife when she's with another man. If I'm present we both feel intensely if kiss her deeply or encourage by whispering, tonguing her ear or otherwise fondling various parts of her body.

We also feel this connection when she comes home from a date and describes the sex with him while I make love to her and add my seed to his. When she is out I will often be from partially erect to fully erect knowing what she's doing for 3 or more hours. Usually she'll call me and give an update, like 'we're dancing and and I can feel his hard on against my leg' or 'we're at dinner and I'm sitting across from him and have been rubbing his erection with my foot'. These little updates get me fully up.

I suppose there's some bisexual component as well. I haven't done anything with another man, but I'm not adverse to touching his erection either and have, on one occasion, guided it into my wife on her instruction. When I'm present I get a kind of fever and feel completely driven by sex and my erection. My IQ is not the same, nothing out of bounds, I would probably agree to anything sexual including actions performed on the other male if she wanted it.

Knowing that another man is aroused by my wife's body and things she does is hot. Even just out together I point out guys that are eying her up. They should know what we do together. I guess it's "look what I have".

I really have intense sex with her because of it. Sometimes I masturbate and when I do I always do it to a memory of her experiences. We mutually masturbation every so often watching each other and when I talk about some past friend inside her we both wind up cumming.

And I love her more for doing it for me! I know if it wasn't for my urging she would never have been a hotwife.

[mrstevela]

We had just enjoyed sex with one another and were discussing marriage, and our views on extra-marital sex. She was 29, I was 30. We knew we loved one another, but we also knew (and hadn't yet discussed) we liked the idea of additional partners in bed with us from time to time. She shared with me that she was still having and enjoying sex with her ex-husband, and would probably need to have sex with other men from time to time, perhaps she wasn't a good candidate for marriage? Although I'd just had an orgasm deep inside her (and was fingering her labia enjoying the slickness and erotic silky feeling of my cum on her skin) my cock was stiffening. I shared with her that I'd be very turned on being in bed with her while she had an orgasm with another man deep inside her, and that she'd turn me on if she continued the affair with her ex. She drew me close and kissed me and I had my answer.....

[Dlfun]

Peacheshubby said this at bottom of his post......"What more can I say. I love my wife and I want her to be as happy as she can be."

With 18 pages of response I am not gonna repeat my similar thoughts but I had to take that quote because I realize that is why I would allow it. I have found that my love has grown with my wife and its at this new place where i dont care about anything but her happiness. Am I naive enough to think that my attractive wife who is a human being doesn't have desires and fantasys. Is she not like most women who like to be desired and looked at and feel good and attractive. Is a 20 minute romp with some dude she was flirting and dancing with enough to ruin our great marriage?

Like said to my wife this openness may be pre emptive since we are in earliy 30s and since we are pretty sexually satisfied right now and not in a bad spot or stressed out, but say in 7 years or so after all this time together.....is she not gonna be curious or maybe want something different? If she is out with her friends and having fun and half the fun of a girls night out is the flirting and dancing with guys, why do I want to stop her from that fun and enjoyment. Do you know how rewarding it is to know she had a blast was able to feel good and free and be herself and so forth.....u don't think there is a benefit to a marriage from that. It's the societal norms and restrictions and lies and all that suit that causes issues...ever since my wife and I began sharing more about this and other stuff we haven't felt closer.

Like I said I and we are only at the talking about and fantasy aspect of this but she has made comments and admissions that makes me think she will possibly do something in the future....and that alone is hot to me that my wife is cool, open minded, receptive to an odd idea, hot, and so forth.

By the way this whole thing started when I was deployed and she was sharing some of her prior sexual experiences with me and I found my self intrigued, not upset or jealous, wanted to hear more with detail and most importantly I was turned on by it all.

[canadiangirl]

Although My husband and I have had experiences, I wouldn't call myself a hotwife yet as I'm still struggling with the whole concept, which is very new to me. I am newly married and my husband has expressed his interest in this sort of lifestyle and on occasion we have had MFM experiences. I'm still very nervous and conflicted about it all, but I just want to thank you for being so honest in your responses. By exploring the feelings and thoughts of your explanations I feel that I am starting to understand his desires and am finding that many of my fears are being alleviated. I want him to have fun but it can be scary when I don't understand.

[gerardvoyeur]

I agree with this 100% I really like watching my wife enjoy her lover while just sitting on a chair observing her enjoying herself with him.

Why would a man want his woman to fuck another man?
You know, when you think about it that is a very legitimate question that deserves an honest answer. Basically, just the thought of my wife passionately fucking (anyone including me) turns me on like nothing else. In the old forum I did share my personal take on the motivation behind this fascinating excitement.

Here it is again in a nutshell:

Because watching my lovely bride in the sizzling heat of passionate lovemaking is like observing the beautiful majesty of the changing hues of a mountain sunset. Each occasion is special, awe-inspiring and moving. As an artist can touch the soul with oils and canvas, my wife can produce an inferno of excitement with her captivating personality and gorgeous body.

Having performed in air shows before, I know the best seat is actually on the ground in the crowd, not in the air. Being in the aircraft does give you the thrill of being tossed around a bit but you really can’t experience everything else that is going on. You have to exclusively focus on your personal performance.

Being able to step back and just observe allows me to truly appreciate the wonder that is her and witness the poetry of her sexuality in motion. I love her and I love to watch her or even just imagine her in action as she tells me of her night out.

Mr Fun

[gerardvoyeur]

I just would go slow and communicate your concerns and go with you intuition. My lovely wife now enjoys her other lovers.
Best of luck. JIm

Although My husband and I have had experiences, I wouldn't call myself a hotwife yet as I'm still struggling with the whole concept, which is very new to me. I am newly married and my husband has expressed his interest in this sort of lifestyle and on occasion we have had MFM experiences. I'm still very nervous and conflicted about it all, but I just want to thank you for being so honest in your responses. By exploring the feelings and thoughts of your explanations I feel that I am starting to understand his desires and am finding that many of my fears are being alleviated. I want him to have fun but it can be scary when I don't understand.

[Man-of-mystery]

New here, Have been reading many of the threads.
I have been curious as to how couples desire to make these fantasies real.
We have been married over 30 years, she has a low sex drive, but she really enjoys it when
we do have sex. She like many wives will not even discuss the issue of her being with
other men, as for me, I acknowledge the fact there is a turn on factor, seeing your wife
getting fucked by another man, but I have no desire at all to be cuckolded, in fact that type
of relationship which seems to be one that hotwifeing tends to morph into, is something
that i would quickly put an end to if we were to actually go down that road,
I think that fantasizeing about your wife is erotic and exciting, but makeing it into reality
is not for everyone, we most likely fall into this category, she will never ever allow
another woman to have me, and while I do admit haveing a hung stud fuck her is
arousing to me, I know I could not handle the other emotions I would have, the
Angst, and jelousy would overwhelm me, and I know this, She is very content
with our sex life and I guess I will leave the fantasies as just that, but I have gained
some knowledge and understanding about these topics that seemed so weird and strange before.

[casualfun850]

It turns me on and I like having a naughty wife. I don't have the fear issues that Triangle writes about.

[Luv It]

It turns me on and I like having a naughty wife. I don't have the fear issues that Triangle writes about.

Yes, but, can you explain just why "it turns you on"?

"Triangle" has summed it up pretty well IMO for most. For those where his "model" does not fit, about the only option left is he wants his wife to be his private porn star.

Personally, I don't buy but it when some say its all for their wife's benefit and this is what turns then on and then they deny the jealousy aspect of it as if being jealous makes them less of a man... ....after letting other men fuck her mind you . It's actually quite laughable .