"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[PeachesHubby]

I agree with Luv It as long as I have an understanding of exactly what he is saying. I think jealousy plays a part in being a husband of a hotwife. It is one of the more intense emotions that I have when my wife is with another man. IMHO without having these intense emotions and maybe even especially without jealousy the whole idea of my wife being a hotwife would be a non-issue. Though I do enjoy the fact that other men have hotwives, this fact does not give me the same response that I get knowing that my wife is a hotwife. Mainly because I don't have the same feelings about these other women.

My wife has been curious as to whether I would want another woman to be a hotwife if she and I weren't together any longer. I interpreted this as could I easily replace her if I needed to? I have given this a lot of thought and as it stands presently I can't see having a hotwife that is anyone else but her. All my emotions are wrapped up around her and she is the one I'm in love with and the one who makes me feel jealous and no one else has that power over me. So I truthfully answered "no" because I can't see myself with anyone else.

I believe that this is the reason why I think I would say that being a hotwife is for my wife's benefit. She does benefit greatly from it and so do I. When she is with another I experience many intense emotions including jealousy but I don't think of myself as less of a man for feeling Jealousy or admitting it. I love my wife and she loves me. She may spend time with others and love them but she always returns to me and our love is not diminished in any way by her actions. Actually it only grow stronger.

This is why I want my wife to be a hotwife have sex with other men. It makes us both happy and makes us a stronger couple and IMHO it makes me a stronger man.

[WimpToad]

Unlike some on the religious right, I beleive sex should be fun not just to porpergate. If having a HWing is fun for some and the HW is enjoying it, then why not? I am not in the postion to judge others and do not beleive they should judge others, the excepton is if its is illegal, which having sex is not.

[Texman2045]

All of the above is so true, and we all have slightly different buttons that this lifestyle pushes. For me, I was instantly turned on early in our marriage to seeing how other guys were so attracted and interested in my pretty wife. Instead of being jealous, (which I was a little), it made me want her even more. A defining moment/time for us came early in our marriage when I noticed a couple of younger guys following my wife around at a park festival as she wore a sufficiently tight skirt.
She picked up on how seeing this made me feel, and when we got back to our place, she commented, `I love how you didn't get all mad and jealous about it.' We proceeded to have great sex...fueled by what had happened at the park.
From there, there were a couple of years of hot pillow talk and fantasy that focused on other men being turned on to her and how it made me feel. And then we took the plunge. My sexy wife rather effortlessly seduced a younger construction guy (with my prior knowledge) who was involved in building our new house at the time, and who had the major hots for my beloved.
They fucked for months after that, my wife's first boyfriend as a married woman, and really, I had never seen her happier, setting the stage for a good many years now of my wife cucking me.
There have been many boyfriends since, some shortlived and some steadys, and she's still with me, going as strong sexually as ever, and I most enjoy what she gives me, when she gives it to me.
And she's still very happy...and very well sexed.

[3kidsand1dog]

My wife sleeps with other guys for several reasons. Sometimes she likes them alot, sometimes she loves them. But they all (as far as I know ) give her fabulous sex. We have had a great sex life but one guy only has so many moves. She is not promiscuous but she loves sex. She is beautiful & has a sex drive that needs more than I can give her. The most complimentary thing she does is always comes home to me. She does not have to. It is a balancing act for her. I think she can love two men, not an easy thing. Sometimes she has struggled with it but I can wait until she gets things sorted in her mind.
If I insisted that she stop, she would, but it would kill her wildness and her zest for life. I wish her many, many more fabulous orgasms. Does it really matter who gives them to her?

[biguynorcol]

We stumbled on this site recently and we are both awed over the open conversations on this subject. We must have been out of the mainstream of a lifestyle as we missed this site for years.

We have been in the "hotwife" style for years with some minor stops for kids and "stuff". As a devoted husband to a sexy and insatiable wife, I want her to enjoy her sexual side for as long as she cares to. I enjoy seeing her enjoying the passion of a lover and know she is getting royally fucked. I am always amazed at how men are attracted to her wherever she goes. I am confident in her love for me as the fucking is physical and enjoyable for her. Nothing pleases me more, and gets me excited, as having her in my arms, kissing her as she is fucked by her lover. Yes, I want her to sleep with another man as I know she wants and enjoys it.

[Aynsley]

In response to the OP's question, maybe it's because we want our wife not to be
limited in her sexual enjoyment, as recent research suggests that many women
have a very large capacity and desire for sex.
http://www.salon.com/2013/06/02/the_tru ... _ravenous/

[SailorGuy]

I've never know where this fantasy came from for me but it has been there seemingly forever. But I never expressed it until I was with my wife, and only then after a few years of marriage. I finally felt safe enough, like coming out of the closet, sharing with her my deepest secret: I want you to make love to another man. Before we were married we had a night together with a gorgeous lesbian friend of hers. I wasn't allowed to participate directly, but I was right there in bed with them and my girlfriend just blew my mind in how she made love to this other woman. When she became my wife I of course expressed a desire to relive the thing with her lesbian friend again, but she told me that that was a one-time thing as a gift to me, that she was 100% heterosexual. So a few years later I expressed my fantasy of her with another man; she was a little shocked at first, but she began to tell me fantasy stories at night about her and a mystery man. Of course this made me hard as a rock, but what was interesting was how it made her wet and wild. Consciously she was totally against the idea, but in the realm of fantasy she totally got into it. And then, a couple of years into this, a neighbor friend of hers came onto her while I was away, and she was home alone. As she described it, electricity shot through her when he gave her a hug. In seconds they were kissing madly. In minutes they were on our bed making love.
One reason my wife has always been socially and sexually reserved is because she has a flat chest. Not just "small breasts", but literally flat as a board. No breasts at all. Zero. Great erect nipples, wonderfully curving hips and ass, and huge dark brown outer labias that give her a huge bulge down there, especially in a bathing suit. She also has very hairy underarms and a decent amount of hair peaks out of her bathing suit bottom. In short, my wife has a rather "unique" body, a body I find mind-alteringly gorgeous but most find unattractive. Especially the lack of breasts along with the hairy underarms. I have always told her how beautiful she is, especially her chest. I just love her chest. Love the way it looks, love the way it feels. She of course thought I was a little biased, but I insisted other men would agree. If she gave them a chance.
So this neighbor made love to my wife, and in the midst of their lovemaking my wife stretched out as flat as can be, and there she was for him: flat as an ironing board and with thick forests of hair under each arm. And this man told her over and over how long he had been admiring her flat chest and hairy underarms, especially seeing her at the pool and local beach in her tight bathing suits. And this man was really hung - my wife told me his cock was at least twice as long and twice as thick as me. Which meant he was around 11" long and 2" diameter. Damn! And wasn't he surprised to discover that this mild-mannered pretty married neighbor had a huge cunt, a perfect fit for his massive tool? Oh they fucked like crazy for over three hours. My slender, conservative flat-chested wife had half a dozen orgasms with this man. He fucked her in every conceivable position ( not anal, though ) and she finished him off with a blowjob, somehow managing to get most of his shaft in her mouth, swallowing every bit of his massive load. Something she NEVER does for me.
Well when my wife told me all about this the next evening I just about died with ecstasy. She told me in bed. My mouth went dry, my heart rate tripled, my cock jumped to attention. When my wife told me how big her lover's cock was she used mine by comparison. She held my little 5 1/2" tool in her hand, my flat little balls tight in their scrotum, and told me how big her lover was, how each of his balls was huge and how they hung low and separate, how rich and thick his hair there was. ( I shave my hair there and my balls as well.) When she said all this I just exploded, all over me, all over her hand and arm. Most intense orgasm of my life!
The fantasy was always incredible; the reality was light-years beyond this. And the icing on the cake was when my wife asked me if it was okay for her to see this man again. You mean this isn't a one-time gift for me, I asked? Well, she said a little sheepishly, the lovemaking with this man was incredible. His huge cock was a revelation, a whole new world to her. Was I okay with this? Of course I was!
So this happened five years ago. Five years later we are still happily married, and my wife and her lover still get together as often as possible. My wife lost interest in sex with me as soon as she discovered her new lover, and that's fine with me. All she does with me now is tell me about her lovemaking while I rub myself to blissful orgasm. My wife is no longer shy about her chest. She now wears all these tight-fitting things that show to the world how gorgeous a woman without breasts can be. Her lover is also married, to a woman with beautiful full breasts and short blond hair. As far as I know she doesn't know about her husband's relationship with my wife. I remember one day at the beach last summer seeing my wife and him talking together. My wife was wearing this incredible one-piece bathing suit, tight on her body like a glove, with low-cut arms and high-cut legs that showed off her ample underarm hair and pubic hair as well as her flat chest. Her lover was wearing some kind of standard guy bathing trunks. They had both just come out of the water; my wife's pink bathing suit was almost see-through when wet. You could clearly see her big dark nipples and rich forest of pubic hair. And her lover's massive cock was easy to see as well, at least in outline. He is tall and strong, well-built, handsome. Of course he knows that I know he is fucking my wife regularly. He also knows how small my cock is and that I shave it ( my wife tells him all this, at my urging ), and how he completely satisfies my wife. All of this he expresses in body language and facial expressions. We have almost never spoken outright about any of this. Again, this is all fine with me. Anyway, the three of us were standing there, and after a few minutes my wife said to me, " We're going to go now. I'll see you later tonight!" And the two of them walked off, no doubt to our house! I stayed away for the next five hours to give them plenty of time to be together. When I came home my wife was home alone, looking fresh and happy and totally just-fucked. She led me into the bedroom; the bed was a wreck, the room smelled of sweat and sex and all of it. My wife took off her light summer dress; her nipples were huge and erect, her labias unbelievably swollen, dark, inviting. All she had to do was touch my chest and I came all over myself. She was happy, I was happy, her lover was happy. And this is our marriage now. Anything but dull after almost 20 years! This is incredible. I never would have imagined something like this on our wedding day. I know my wife sure as hell wouldn't! But there it is. Bliss is bliss!

[Mia]

I've never know where this fantasy came from for me but it has been there seemingly forever. But I never expressed it until I was with my wife, and only then after a few years of marriage. I finally felt safe enough, like coming out of the closet, sharing with her my deepest secret: I want you to make love to another man. Before we were married we had a night together with a gorgeous lesbian friend of hers. I wasn't allowed to participate directly, but I was right there in bed with them and my girlfriend just blew my mind in how she made love to this other woman. When she became my wife I of course expressed a desire to relive the thing with her lesbian friend again, but she told me that that was a one-time thing as a gift to me, that she was 100% heterosexual. So a few years later I expressed my fantasy of her with another man; she was a little shocked at first, but she began to tell me fantasy stories at night about her and a mystery man. Of course this made me hard as a rock, but what was interesting was how it made her wet and wild. Consciously she was totally against the idea, but in the realm of fantasy she totally got into it. And then, a couple of years into this, a neighbor friend of hers came onto her while I was away, and she was home alone. As she described it, electricity shot through her when he gave her a hug. In seconds they were kissing madly. In minutes they were on our bed making love.
One reason my wife has always been socially and sexually reserved is because she has a flat chest. Not just "small breasts", but literally flat as a board. No breasts at all. Zero. Great erect nipples, wonderfully curving hips and ass, and huge dark brown outer labias that give her a huge bulge down there, especially in a bathing suit. She also has very hairy underarms and a decent amount of hair peaks out of her bathing suit bottom. In short, my wife has a rather "unique" body, a body I find mind-alteringly gorgeous but most find unattractive. Especially the lack of breasts along with the hairy underarms. I have always told her how beautiful she is, especially her chest. I just love her chest. Love the way it looks, love the way it feels. She of course thought I was a little biased, but I insisted other men would agree. If she gave them a chance.
So this neighbor made love to my wife, and in the midst of their lovemaking my wife stretched out as flat as can be, and there she was for him: flat as an ironing board and with thick forests of hair under each arm. And this man told her over and over how long he had been admiring her flat chest and hairy underarms, especially seeing her at the pool and local beach in her tight bathing suits. And this man was really hung - my wife told me his cock was at least twice as long and twice as thick as me. Which meant he was around 11" long and 2" diameter. Damn! And wasn't he surprised to discover that this mild-mannered pretty married neighbor had a huge cunt, a perfect fit for his massive tool? Oh they fucked like crazy for over three hours. My slender, conservative flat-chested wife had half a dozen orgasms with this man. He fucked her in every conceivable position ( not anal, though ) and she finished him off with a blowjob, somehow managing to get most of his shaft in her mouth, swallowing every bit of his massive load. Something she NEVER does for me.
Well when my wife told me all about this the next evening I just about died with ecstasy. She told me in bed. My mouth went dry, my heart rate tripled, my cock jumped to attention. When my wife told me how big her lover's cock was she used mine by comparison. She held my little 5 1/2" tool in her hand, my flat little balls tight in their scrotum, and told me how big her lover was, how each of his balls was huge and how they hung low and separate, how rich and thick his hair there was. ( I shave my hair there and my balls as well.) When she said all this I just exploded, all over me, all over her hand and arm. Most intense orgasm of my life!
The fantasy was always incredible; the reality was light-years beyond this. And the icing on the cake was when my wife asked me if it was okay for her to see this man again. You mean this isn't a one-time gift for me, I asked? Well, she said a little sheepishly, the lovemaking with this man was incredible. His huge cock was a revelation, a whole new world to her. Was I okay with this? Of course I was!
So this happened five years ago. Five years later we are still happily married, and my wife and her lover still get together as often as possible. My wife lost interest in sex with me as soon as she discovered her new lover, and that's fine with me. All she does with me now is tell me about her lovemaking while I rub myself to blissful orgasm. My wife is no longer shy about her chest. She now wears all these tight-fitting things that show to the world how gorgeous a woman without breasts can be. Her lover is also married, to a woman with beautiful full breasts and short blond hair. As far as I know she doesn't know about her husband's relationship with my wife. I remember one day at the beach last summer seeing my wife and him talking together. My wife was wearing this incredible one-piece bathing suit, tight on her body like a glove, with low-cut arms and high-cut legs that showed off her ample underarm hair and pubic hair as well as her flat chest. Her lover was wearing some kind of standard guy bathing trunks. They had both just come out of the water; my wife's pink bathing suit was almost see-through when wet. You could clearly see her big dark nipples and rich forest of pubic hair. And her lover's massive cock was easy to see as well, at least in outline. He is tall and strong, well-built, handsome. Of course he knows that I know he is fucking my wife regularly. He also knows how small my cock is and that I shave it ( my wife tells him all this, at my urging ), and how he completely satisfies my wife. All of this he expresses in body language and facial expressions. We have almost never spoken outright about any of this. Again, this is all fine with me. Anyway, the three of us were standing there, and after a few minutes my wife said to me, " We're going to go now. I'll see you later tonight!" And the two of them walked off, no doubt to our house! I stayed away for the next five hours to give them plenty of time to be together. When I came home my wife was home alone, looking fresh and happy and totally just-fucked. She led me into the bedroom; the bed was a wreck, the room smelled of sweat and sex and all of it. My wife took off her light summer dress; her nipples were huge and erect, her labias unbelievably swollen, dark, inviting. All she had to do was touch my chest and I came all over myself. She was happy, I was happy, her lover was happy. And this is our marriage now. Anything but dull after almost 20 years! This is incredible. I never would have imagined something like this on our wedding day. I know my wife sure as hell wouldn't! But there it is. Bliss is bliss!

Welcome to OHW, SailorGuy.



Mia

[Aynsley]

Another reason:
http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/20 ... esome.html

[SailorGuy]

That's a great story, thanks for posting it. My wife has no interest in sleeping with any number of men, and I don't want her to. Having just the one other guy is perfect for both of us. He satisfies her completely, sexually speaking. And with me she still has that deep, long-term emotional bond. Amazingly, I love her even more now than ever! And to think that husbands and wives - even boyfriends and girlfriends - get all bent out of shape if their significant other even looks at somebody else! Well, my wife not only looked at another man, she hugged him, kissed him, took off her clothes for him, let him make love to her many times. And she still loves me intensely. And I her. Our relationship is intensely vital - how many marriages are?

[rs480]

Thanks Aynsley!
Read all four. The one listed as costumes sounds like a hell of a lot of fun.
All four of the people that responded and were "published" would fit right in over here.

[unclecuck]

my wife and i have been looking for answers.
all what we read is just about exactly what i say all the reasons that you all have are the same as mine.
but she think differently. And unfortunately for me, I can not prove her wrong. She is wondering why not even one doctor or therapist can respond to that threat.
According to her, it is some kind of mental issue, sickness and it needs to be taken care of, Before it will ruin our marriage of many years.
I stopped pushing, so don’t get me wrong. And she enjoys the aspect of playing this as a game and fantacy, to a point that she gets hotter, wetter than ever. In one occasion she even squirted Which she never have other than this time when we where playing a fantasy.
Today she said. Find me a therapist that will say this is normal. This is ok. This will not ruin a marriage. And I will find a lover next week.
so anyone can help me on this?

[rockynook]

What is normal.
"Normal" is only a setting on a washing machine.

[Buttercream]

Find a sex therapist maybe.

[curiouspete]

I really want this to happen, I so want to see her being pleasured and having someone elses cock in her mouth

[Mia]

I really want this to happen, I so want to see her being pleasured and having someone elses cock in her mouth

Welcome to OHW, curiouspete.

Good Luck, too!



Mia

[alexd4fun]

You might want to check out Divine Sex - Liberating Sex from Religious Tradition by Philo Thelos.
The on-line copy: books.google.com/books?isbn=1553954009

One of his quotes
"If they exercise themselves sexually outside the marriage they must be faithful to the needs of their mates at all times. These things said, there is no reason for men not to enjoy the same sexual advantages now that God's holiest men did in OT. And since women are now sexual equals with men there is every reason to liberate them, inform them of their privileges, and release them to take advantage of their sexual freedom and enjoy this wonderful pleasure to their full satisfaction. Men have always had this privilege (in spite of church dogma). Are we "man enough" to grant it to our women?"

The author is a Seminary graduate (B.Th.), licensed and ordained to the Pastorate by three Christian organizations, and a full time minister in the Christian Church for 36 years. His first 18 years of ministry were with the Church of Christ. Since 1984 he has ministered in both "mainline" Evangelical churches and independent Charismatic churches. He recently retired to devote his time to writing.

my wife and i have been looking for answers.
....
Today she said. Find me a therapist that will say this is normal. This is ok. This will not ruin a marriage. And I will find a lover next week.
so anyone can help me on this?

[loverman]

My wife have been leading a hotwife/cuckold life for four years now. When I say cuckold I simply mean that I encourage her to have sex with other men and women. I am now submissive to her in many ways although our friends would be surprised by that statement. I am totally not into watching or creampies or anything like that.

We tried swinging but didn't like that much and we also found that she could not handle me fucking other women. The first few times she went off and fucked other men I was incredibly excited and a more than a little jealous. Now I am just excited. I am excited because this has empowered her. She loves the thought of being her own woman. This has also led her to a wonderful confidence professionally and she has risen to great heights (and a great salary) at her place of work. She sometimes goes a month or more without outside sex but she loves the idea that she can discreetly see her boyfriend or girlfriend whenever she wants, or even pick up somebody new. I love her calling the tune and I don't feel humiliated at all.

This has also led to a new dynamic in our relationship. She has become the dominant one and I love that. Now when we make love, which is often, I massage her and go down on her and play with her toys until she has several orgasms, all before we fuck and long before I cum. I love her being the goddess and me being her go-to lover.

I know this is not for everyone but it is great for us. We are totally "normal" in every other way. We have lots of friends, jobs we love, children we worship and who worship us. It's funny too, she has fucked two of our mutual friends and it turns out those guys have relationships similar to ours, although obvious theirs includes both husbands and wives doing other people. I have no desire to do other women now because it causes her anxiety. Unfair to me? Hardly. I have the greatest sex I could want and all I can handle. We have been together for 20 years now and we both acknowledge this was always where we were headed and what we both wanted. I worship my hotwife goddess.

[HOT4MYWIFE]

my wife and i have been looking for answers.
all what we read is just about exactly what i say all the reasons that you all have are the same as mine.
but she think differently. And unfortunately for me, I can not prove her wrong. She is wondering why not even one doctor or therapist can respond to that threat.
According to her, it is some kind of mental issue, sickness and it needs to be taken care of, Before it will ruin our marriage of many years.
I stopped pushing, so don’t get me wrong. And she enjoys the aspect of playing this as a game and fantacy, to a point that she gets hotter, wetter than ever. In one occasion she even squirted Which she never have other than this time when we where playing a fantasy.
Today she said. Find me a therapist that will say this is normal. This is ok. This will not ruin a marriage. And I will find a lover next week.
so anyone can help me on this?

Your request is answered: https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-a ... l?catid=14

I hope this helps,

[buckewe]

just spent "considerable" time in effort to explain this to my "hot" wife...she says she will be spending time with me on this site tomorrow........I will post where I feel we are at after she reads this and other threads.

Wes

[unclecuck]

to all of the people that took the time to answer. i sure would like to thank all of you. i sure will make sure that she reads the answers. especially, i will look on finding therapist that could help.
dont know if i will be abe to proceed with this since i had a very bad experiance with that.
we have seen therapist in the past and the minute this subject came up? i became his enemy. and he started with names and accusation and to name a few, he said , you are an idiot, you are a Madonna whore, you are a masochist, you are sick and make me sick,
Why would you take an alcoholic to a bar, and on and on.

and to Alex. your suggestion is good, but most i dont understand as we always Practiced as Jews .

i sure hope to see more answers and hope that i am not stealing this thread.

[Swantiet]

My reason i wanted to let another man fucked my wife is because i wanted to show how hot she is and that she is willing to do what ever i ask her even when i ask her permission that i will fuck our asian maid

[alexd4fun]

I would think any biblical references from the Old Testament would be relevant.
Here is the on-line copy: books.google.com/books?isbn=1553954009

And I also found: www.libchrist.com
Resource, Support & Fellowship Cyber Center For All Regardless of Religious Belief, especially Christians overcoming traditions with no biblical basis

Then one can use do a Google keyword search using:
site:libchrist [words you are looking for]

[cumhubby]

It's fun!

[D+D]

Because we both want her to.