Another man loves my wife

[Missthefun]

This has been the most exciting thread on here. I hope Julie and Mark find someone and begin enjoying themselves once again!

[cazzo1954]

I read page one and I jumped to the last page. It was obvious that he would have banged her.
As everybody is happy ... GOOD STORY!!!

[co-husband]

I appreciate all of your comments. All I know is that this has been a very positive experience. I loved sharing my wife with our friend. My wife admitted that she enjoyed the sex with him, and our friend of course enjoyed getting to have frequent sex with my wife.
"Hotwifeok" was right that anytime a husband knowingly allows another man to have sex with his wife, he (the husband) is being submissive. Probably in the ultimate way. And we husbands who truly enjoy giving up our exclusive rights to our wife's body, so that another man can enjoy her...even to the point that we ourselves will abstain from sex with her...well there is just no better feeling in the world.

So I think we all should celebrate our roles. Whether we are called cucks, or husbands-of-hotwives. When that combination of submissive husband, hotwife and Bull all meet at the same time....it really is a wonderful experience for all 3!

Mark

[pasadena95]

If you and Juli find another partner, it will likely not be the same. Part of the excitement of your wife's affair was related to the emotional intimacy she shared with Brian. With this element missing, it might not be nearly as rewarding an experience moving forward. Is this accurate?

[co-husband]

If you and Juli find another partner, it will likely not be the same. Part of the excitement of your wife's affair was related to the emotional intimacy she shared with Brian. With this element missing, it might not be nearly as rewarding an experience moving forward. Is this accurate?

Hi pasadena95...Yes, you are probably right about that. I hadn't really considered that before, but part of the intensity for me as a husband was knowing another man had an emotional bond to my wife..even though my wife didn't reciprocate..and the feelings he had never were openly voiced. Still knowing that another man was enjoying more than just my wife's body was an amazing turn on. Thankfully in our situation it was a safe thing and what could have been a high risk relationship, was limited to just being an erotic, sexual experience thanks to my wife's wisdom and our love for each other.

Still a year of that kind of intense sharing was enough for my wife to not want that same kind of intimacy the next time. It will be more physical / sexual...so you're right, some of the intensity for me as a husband may not be there next time.

Mark

[bubbajack]

What if we stop thinking of the hotwifing/cuckolding "transaction" as one in which one guy gains and the other guy loses in a contest between them over the use and enjoyment of a certain woman's pussy?

There are severe limitations of contemporary-world realism that are inherent in that way of thinking about it all - making it resemble cattle-raiding and and similar attributes of primitive social organization that we don't really have to engage in any more in order to sustain ourselves and our social group.

What if, instead, we think of a woman's sexuality as a "fund" which is under her ownership and control, the use and enjoyment of which she is free to distribute as she wishes, subject to whatever other agreements or value-constraints - and potentially new agreements or value-enhancements - that might exist between her and others?

Examples of such agreements and constraints and potential enhancements on how she might distribute shares of the fund can range all over the map. On the more conscious and intentional side, a shared vision with her husband of marital devotion, or health concerns (Don't fuck that guy who is a known playa without a condom! ); or , on the more emotional and affective side, a religious commitment or a sheer love of active play.

I'm only suggesting this because I think of Mark and Juli and Brian as engaging in a very fair and even (to me, at least) attractive distribution arrangement, whereby a share of Juli's sexual potential was temporarily made available to Brian, but without diminution - actually, increase and enhancement - of the share that Mark was accustomed to receiving under the prior arrangements between them. As is the case with many human heterosexual couples, Juli has a sexual surplus available that exceeds the highly satisfactory terms of her and Mark's marital requirements.

What is not so often the case with human heterosexual couples, these three discovered a way for Juli to distribute, fairly and enjoyably for all three, some of that surplus to their friend Brian in a way that did not seem to me in any important way to exhibit a one-up/one-down pattern of relations between the men, at least not in a way that was central to the three-way deal. Thinking of the deal as primarily two-way between the men ignores and diminishes the essential role of the woman - a ridiculous oversight, in my view.

Obviously, it was very important to the willingness and ability of the parties to entertain and perform this distributive process successfully that Juli had had experience in her previous marriage from which she had already concluded that it is possible to fuck outside of marriage and the sun still come up the following morning on a recognizable world, not all that much changed from what it was the day before ...

Sure, Brian may have privately gloated over his "triumph" and Mark may have privately squirmed over his "humiliation", but I'll bet neither of them made a peep to Juli about their respective retrograde private fantasies of dominance and submission. I don't think she would have enjoyed it - or let it continue - if she had thought the men were fundamentally treating it as a tractor-pull over her pussy, just between them!

Men's preoccupations with ownership and control are often a real nuisance in hotwifing, but they don't have to be, yes?

[co-husband]

Oh how I agree with you both Bubbajack and Hotwifeok! You articulated it perfectly...
A sexual agreement / arrangement between 3 people does not have to be a negative, winner-loser experience. Our year-long relationship as husband-wife-FWB was definitely a win-win-win for us all. While on the surface it may have appeared to be simply a sexual sharing of a wife with a divorced, lonely friend. It was more than that for each of us.

For me...as a husband, I got enjoyment from feelings that I had within my own mind. If it was arousing for me to consider myself a submissive husband, then that's what I reveled in while Juli was with Brian. If I felt aroused by feeling denied sex..then that's what I focused on (although Juli never denied sex to me, but I would take the times that we abstained the day before she and Brian met, use that as an arousal mechanism in my own mind. Juli never knew I felt so intensely erotic about that simple act of willingly abstaining from sex with my wife, so another man could enjoy her clean body the next day).

And for Brian...I can only really surmise what all went on in his mind. But I think for most Bulls...he probably enjoyed thinking about how he was ejaculating his seed inside another man's wife. Maybe he even imagined that HE was her husband for the time she was in his bed? I don't know for sure what Brian was thinking..but that was Bubbjack's point...that Brian could draw from Juli's sexual fund in ways that didn't harm her, me or our marriage.

And Juli...she enjoyed the sexual freedom of giving herself to two men who totally enjoyed her. Our marriage was actually enhanced, she received sex from Brian in ways that I am physically unable to give her...Brian got to have frequent sexual release with a beautiful woman even though he was divorced and alone..and I enjoyed every moment of sharing my wife with him. So Bubbajack was right...a 3-way relationship can benefit all parties and still not diminish anyone's value.

Mark

[bubbajack]

I think you shouldn't forget that there are many, many other men (including this one ) who also love your wife - even if in a slightly less consummated way than Brian does - and, like Brian, we would love to see her beautiful naked body some more ... any chance?

[D+D]

Well, this is what hotwifing is all about! Well said everyone.

[davidm205]

A great testament to these wonderful people despite the much earlier naysayers.

Long term marriage with real love and commitment who limited the number of touches.

Wonderful Story that should serve as a learning tree for others in how to take a dip in the pool and coming out dry. )

Regards

[allengt]

+I have split off and deleted all the hijacking of this thread arguing about definitions. If you want to argue about definitions then open your own thread in MISC.

[Observer1931]

Thank you Allen.

[vwhisk]

This entire thread has been a lesson and very wisely voiced on the part of all the contributors. It is truly lovely.

[Footfreak]

With my first wife it was when I arrived late at a Rotary Halloween party with her going alone as I had another function. On my arrival I saw her coming out of a single stool hall bathroom with the known big stud of the group. She came up to me wearing her "Dorthy Wizard of Oz" costume kissing me sweetly with her breath reeking of cum. I almost came in my suit pants & I was hooked for life!

[co-husband]

To all of those who have followed the experience last year that my wife and I had sharing her with our friend...I wanted to give you the latest news.

Juli and I had been talking about finding someone to do an occasional 3-some with and for the past 4 months have gradually moved in that direction. We posted on a certain website and got many responses. Most were very nice and some were DOA as soon as we read them. But we did find a local man who fit our desires and Juli was very open to meeting with him...which we did last night.

We had corresponded with him several times before meeting, so we all three already knew what we wanted out of the 3-way. Juli liked him and so after about an hour of talking together to break the ice, we went to the bedroom. He is married, in his mid 60s...fit and has a very nice cock. Impressive size. I don't know if he uses Viagra or not, but he had no trouble getting an erection and keeping it throughout. He had great control too and unlike me..he did not shoot quickly. He was uncut too which I knew Juli likes. (She didn't remember ever telling me, but when we were first married, I asked her about her ex husband and she told me then that he was uncut and that she liked it).

Although I had shared my wife with our friend Brian for a whole year, I had never been with them when they had sex, so last night was my very first time to actually watch another man have sex with my wife. I have to admit that I was nervous about it, not sure how I would feel watching. I have read posts from some of you other husbands who described watching as a bitter/sweet experience..and that's what I found it to be for me as well. The oral foreplay was okay..but when this man mounted my wife..and I actually saw his cock penetrate her...it was much more intense than anything I've ever experienced before. Intense both good and not so good. It was like I felt both extremes at the same time. It was extremely erotic..and also extremely difficult to watch. Not sure I have the words yet to describe the feeling.

We agreed to go bareback and he did cum inside Juli. I almost lost my control a couple of times while watching..but was able to resist cumming until I had the chance to experience true sloppy seconds. I had felt Brian's semen inside Juli several times but that was always several hours after he had deposited in her. But last night, feeling this man's semen so fresh in her pussy was amazing! I have never felt anything like it before. I thought I understood the "silky" description everyone talks about..but this was the real thing. Fresh, still hot, the full load of cum from another man in my wife's pussy. It felt like my penis had dipped into a warm pool of sperm which happened to be inside my wife!

I'll not write a book now..lol..but wanted to let you all know that Juli and I had a very good experience last night. I know it wasn't a first for Juli (her ex had shared her before)..but for me it was a new experience and one I am looking forward to again!

Mark

[Squirming69]

Co-Husband you have now joined a much more exclusive club then you were in before. Congrats...

[Footfreak]

You write so beautifully & we are all blessed that you share lovely Juli's adventures with us.

[funcoupletx]

Thanks. As always your adventures are a wonder to read.

Did she tell you what it was like for her to have you there watching them?

[sirenseeker]

Outstanding news! I'm so glad you finally had the chance to watch Juli with another man and enjoy her with a fresh load of cum. Welcome to the club, my friend!

[D+D]

Congrats. I think watching my wife passionately kissing another man was the site that impressed me the most. Even more than seeing a cock enter her. Your experiences are so erotic, so well planned and executed, and so well told, it is exciting to read about them. Keep us in the loop.

[bubbajack]

Splendid development in every way ...

[Missthefun]

Congratulations, Mark! What an experience! I can remember our first time like it was yesterday. The foreplay was so exciting. I ate her as he put on a condom. Preparing her for him was unbelievable! I'm not into humiliation or anything like that, but letting another man have sex with your woman is extremely hot! So glad you were able to watch. I was always there, and I loved it. It felt surreal, and I was pleasantly surprised that it felt so comfortable. I get so excited when I see additions to this thread, and I look forward to reading more. This is the best thread on here by far!

[viking43]

I love this thread. I'm glad you found a way of continuing your fun together. Congratulations

[co-husband]

Thanks everyone...Yes it truly is a higher level of sharing than what I experienced all of last year when Juli would be with Brian alone. Watching was much, much more intense. An "exclusive club" as "Squirming69" described it. Juli wanted me in the bedroom and I don't think she will ever want us to go back to her being alone with anyone else.

They didn't really kiss much but he was on top of her in the missionary position which to me seems more intimate, seeing my wife with her arms and legs wrapped around another man. But what really got my attention most was what I described in my previous post...was the way it felt to go inside Juli after he had pulled out. I expected it to feel similar to what I had felt during last year after she would come home from Brian...but this time was MUCH more obvious that another man had cum inside her. It really did feel like I was dipping my penis into a pool of semen....was truly amazing!

And Missthefun is right about how surreal yet how comfortable the whole experience felt. After we were done and all of us still lying in the bed...naked and spent...just felt good. He and I lying there naked, our soft cocks satisfied because we had both just cummed in the same woman. I made a new friend lol...and I'm looking forward to the next time.

Mark

[gamma]

Congratulations Mark! I'm really glad all of you had a great experience! Welcome to the club as it were!