Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[BallSpanking]

Just an observation here...

If Michael continues to pressure Ms Reese to do stuff she doesn't want to do, his will be a very short-lived relationship.

She tells Mr Reese he will have to 'compete' with Michael for her affection once she returns..., my guess is that Michael's insistence will soon become an annoyance to Ms Reese...

We shall see...

[aemn611]

Michael is no amateur!
He is cunning and clever!
Like I said above, this 'modeling gig' is/likely has been Plan A since the party.

SEDL

SEDL,

I feel like Steve Martin in "The Jerk" "Oh I get it, its a profit thing" LOL So what I think you are saying is that Michael's and his buddies job is seducing and controlling very attractive women that they invite to their bullshit parties as their feedstock of nude "talent" to spice up their cheap magazines. So the endgame is to whore them out to produce nude photos for the mags and thats how they earn their money. Not a bad job considering they get to fuck some of the nicest looking women in the country. I suppose the reason that they have serveral very attractive guys at these parties is that they don't know who is going to get lucky with who but eventually everybody will get lucky with her unless she can see though it and cuts it off.

[mrs_reese]

I am back. It was a short trip! I needed to get home.
I have a lot to say, but not now, i am too tired.
First, we need to direct our attention to hotwife seeker, WE have an idea who u are and this Will stop!
Immediately!
I am kind of tired of being a hotwife right now.
I WANT MY LIFE BACK.
I am tired of Michael.
He isnt out of the picture, but WE all have a lot to sort out!
Thanks everyone for your concerns, i read all the posts.
i left early by my choice.
i didnt want to be away any longer. very disappointed in the modeling thing!

goin to bed now.

[sedvuslad]

mrs_reese
Congratualtions!!
Welcome home!!!
I'm really happy to hear the light shone through before it went REAL bad.
It appears you have met the REAL Michael.
Have a nice down to earth peaceful, real loving and happy weekend with hubs.
VERY happy for you both!!
SEDL

[sedvuslad]

aemn611:
Do you suppose?!?!?!?!
Could his invitation the next party get 'lost in the mail'????
SEDL

[nudeinnola]

From a semi expert on modeling.

Before I give my 2 cents, let me explain. I worked in a modeling and talent agency as an admin and dealt with clients and models.

Now for my 2 cents... if Michael says he did not know... full of shit. By full of shit, I mean stinking crap. If he claims they lied... full of shit... either he is not in the industry of modeling, or he is full of shit.

Here is the way it works. xyz company asks for a model, sends a description of the event, where it will be used, and what the nature of the shoot will be. If they are a reputable agency, they will tell you if nudity is involved. If your agent has been in the industry, the original form the xyz company filled out will certainly have a full description of the event. That is the contract, it is pre-determined before you walk in there, you only do what the contract says, otherwise someone will be held liable to pay up if they do not obey that contract.

Most of the time, our agency when we entering models into the system, we specifically stated if they will pose for nude pics or not. What waved the red flag for me? Usually if the pictures involve nudity, the manager will go with the girl to ensure safety. That is the only time I've seen our manager or someone go with the girl, otherwise we just expect the model to show up on her own.

I would highly recommend calling his bull.

[reese]

She is home.
I am happy. I arrived home a few minutes ago to find her asleep. I want to TAKE her so badly right now...so I needed to go to my therapy...this forum.
She looks slightly tanned.
She is sleeping in her g string panties and teeshirt.
Why am I focusing on that?
I should just be happy that she is home.
I am putting an end to Michael soon.
This wont happen again....even if it means quitting the HW lifestyle for awhile.
I miss our mfm play....
I will probably be dealing with a lot of shit this weekend. I am sure that the L encounters will HIT the FAN.....but then again, my hw encouraged me to be with her.....she did give us permission.

Did it mean anything? Being with L?
SHe is my friend...and I care for her deeply...but she isnt my wife.....
AND BEING WITH MY HOTWIFE/BESTFRIEND/LOVER IS THE GREATEST GIFT ANY MAN COULD EVER RECEIVE.

SEDVUSLAD...thanks for the email...I will respond soon...i just have a lot to do right now...thank-you for your advice.

TO THE REST OF YOU........AEMN611, KCPA, WIFEISHOT, lKMSKM, NUDE IN NOLA, BALLSPANKING...ONE DAY AT A TIME...AND THE OTHERS I DIDNT MENTION..THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT. YOU ALL ARE CLASSY INDIVIDUALS.

[NoWayInCT]

My gawd...I am drained after catching up with the Mr & Mrs Reese show..whew! The only thing I can think of that describes how my mind interprets your choices is this: I am a Celtics fan and I have had the pleasure of watching Kevin Garnett play ball these past few years many times...although I knew he was great I learned just how much of his body & soul he puts into practice and games...he is physically and mentally drained after games because he gives it all he has got.

I see the same thing with your marriage, trust and HWing lifestyle...simply awesome and a sure fire 1st ballot Hall of Fame Marriage!! I like how you both take time out for each other to recharge...nice!

[reese]

Michael called my wife to apologize for everything. She ignored his call. Together, we both listened to his message.
She feels let down....very discouraged. She told me that I have to compete only b/c she thought that was what I wanted to hear! WE talked all night...its 130 am right now.
WE shared a passionate love making. SHE told me right away......NO FANTASY...She wanted me to re-claim her and not talk about Michael.ugh
I think she feels like he played her for a fool. We both have never been in this situation before. Reading sedvslads advice about modeling...wow!
NO harm was done though!
She is asleep again.
Her child will be home tomorrow.
My wife plans on spending the entire weekend with her.
She told me she isnt sure about Michael.
She also told me that she is jealous over L right now as well.
She asked for some time to sort out her feelings.
But she did mention one thing....she wants to get back to the simple things with hotwife play.
Flirting, phone numbers, turning me on at a bar or club, playing with L for herself and me....and maybe re-connecting with D.

More to tell.
I want her to write.
Thanks again everyone.

[Softail]

Hi Reese's,

For what is is worth, you both had a much better time this week than me and the Mrs.

3 1/2 days without all utilities from the ice storm in AR. Lost a bunch of trees and couldn't leave the house for 2 days, not even on the 4 wheeler.
Downed trees, power lines and ice blocked us in. It was like camping in your own home.
I glad we were prepared for it.
I had a lot of reading (about you)to catch up on when the internet came back online. whew!
FYI - The physical therapy is going well; she WILL ride the Harley again (after I repair it).

As always, you guys ROCK!
Keep-on keeping on!
Softail

[mrs_reese]

Hi,
I am up and awake. I was jet lagged. 2days and most of it was travelling/sex/disappointment.
Michael is an incredible lover/his body is simply yummy.
But I dont like his control. Its not right! My husband is the only one who is allowed to make decisions that I must consider, Michael is trying to take his place. My husband would never control me anyway/ his suggestions can be manipulative but I am always FREE to choose whether I want to go along with his suggestions or decline them.
I am still sorting out my feelings right now.
Crashing is not easy. I had feeling for Michael, NO woman can just have sex without letting her emotional guard down.
I will talk more about all of that later.

I missed my life. I missed my husband. I missed family.
I am a hotwife/ I love it but it is WORK sometimes.
I just want to focus on my family and my man right now.

There is one thing that I will focus on as a hotwife.
A man who I see at the gym. He is 22, very muscular/probably a roid boy/ which I dont like but he is so hot looking.
Hubby and I talked about this person. He is simple. He is fun. He is carefree. He is young and innocent. He is always telling me how gorgeous I am and how he is always available to go out for a drink. I will focus on him.
Simple stuff. I love playing the mind games with my man but THIS emotional roller coaster with Michael!!!!
I am exhausted!

I love who I am. I love my man for being my best friend. And I love most of you who offer so much advice and support!
At first I thought this forum was silly.
But now, IT has become a big part of our lives. We both love sharing our life with all of you. As a hotwife couple, we know that you all have our best interests in mind!

xoxoxo

[sedvuslad]

Welcome back to some sanity, mrs_reese.
I was 'concerned' for you, but Annie said SHE was really troubled for you in the LA situation.
We are both VERY happy that you are home safe, and away from Michael!
PLEASE DO NOT see him again, he's a USER. He has no scruples, probably has little or no true respect for you, or perhaps any woman. He will continue to USE you if you allow him to. The best way to handle him is to have NOTHING to do with him. Don't even talk to him again. Let mr_reese tell him to take a hike and NEVER contact either of you EVER again.
If he calls after that, say nothing, just hang up.
As for a new adventure, why not take a break for a couple of weeks, and see new possible playmates only in public for a while?
A bit of a quiet break is always refreshing and renewing.
SEDL

[Sunlover]

Welcome back Mrs.R Im glad to see you and Mr.R are going to slow down some...Take a couple of weeks and re-discover each other...Glad your back to where you call home.

[RGB49FL]

This is sooo like my wife's trip to Costa Rica. She came back and didn't want anything to do with the guy again.

There is a tremendous difference between having a hot relationship with someone where you can just go home at the end, and spending 24 hours a day with a person.

That is hard to do for some married couples, let alone someone you just met.

But, now on to the hot young stud. Rock his world, Mrs R.

[BallSpanking]

Welcome back, Ms Reese!

You are correct in your analysis, and it was about what I expected...

Michael, from the descriptions I read, was trying to replace/erase your husband in this picture, and U just think that was an inappropriate behavior once the rules of the game were explained to him. Oh well..., his loss.

I understand that there will be disappointment, realizing that this relationship had possibilities that will go unfulfilled, but you can't go along with someone else's unrealistic/demanding expectations if they go against your better judgment.
You did the right thing.

I also think that your new "Object of Desire" will be fun, and fresh for you, and keep your HotWife seduction skills at the ready for the next lucky stallion that takes your fancy...

Mr Reese is an extremely lucky man to have such a beautiful, level-headed, and horny HotWife!

[mrs_reese]

Thank-you again, everyone!
For welcoming me back and your concern for me.
I just want to say that I feel so refreshed right now.
A long weekend with hubby and watching the superbowl.
This morning, I pulled out my special vibrator and masterbated for the first time in a long time.
Of course, I had my hubbys shirt next to me.
The scent of his manliness was hot for me today.
xoxoxo
trying to get back to normal.

[reese]

I just checked into this forum and smiled after reading my wife's last post.
Masterbating...........she can turn you on so much.....just watching her is so erotic.
I wish I was there honey...to watch you!
We had a great weekend.
Open discussion about the pros and cons of hotwife play.
We even discussed the L situation....and how it might be a good idea to back off with her for a while.
My wife and I have been on a crazy tidal wave of activity and mind control.
Personally, I started to HATE our play.
It was getting out of control.
I felt weak to admit that I was so damn jealous with Michael in her life.
Sometimes I feel that everyone reading our posts would be disappointed if I ever stated that THIS is too much for me.
I have maintained a strong position even when I am being cucked by my wife.
I have also continued to be assertive and dominant....even when cucked.
But then again...........maybe some of you may think I have NOT been as manly as I appear in my type written words.
The bottom line is that this lifestyle has not been much fun lately!
The extreme moments of misery, torment, anguish, denial, and lonliness have been causing me more despair than happiness.
I have felt that I have an addiction to sex lately.
It has not been harmful to anyone other than myself. My wife has not lost herself. I admire the fact that no matter what is thrown way, she always maintains control!
I have not maintained control.
My sex addiction is powerful!
I love the rush!
I love watching her give her attention to another man. I lose her...and knowing that another man is in her mind...maybe filling her heart with anticipation and mystery....I know that I am not there....maybe put to the side....but at those exact HOTWIFE moments...I lose my wife....and that is my problem...........IT IS SUCH A MAJOR RUSH FOR ME!

I hate the way I am sometimes.
I hate the way I influence my wife to perform hotwife activities.
Yes, WE all know that my wife is strong enough to SAY NO to me...and she does.
But that doesnt stop the guilt that I feel sometimes.
I know women....I know how they love to please the man they love!
I worry that my wife is doing this b/c she loves me so much and is willing to put aside her feelings about intense hotwife play as long as she knows that I am happy with the lifestyle!
What is wrong with me?
Our sex is unbelievable!
I used to worry about losing interest in her.
"SHOW me a hot girl and I will show you her ex who was sick of having sex with her"!
I used to state that to my friends all the time.
I have stopped!
WHY/
B/c of my wife.
I found the secret formula to HOTSEX all the time!
But at what cost?
Are we damaged goods?
Have I messed my sexual libido up so badly that it is beyond repair?
I can have sex with my wife as a normal husband...without hot wife play...but only occasionally!
My mind always races back to HER as a hotwife.
I constantly think about her as a hot wife most of the day!
When we are having sex....and I know that she is too exhausted to play hotwife with me...or talk about her experiences.....I still silently think about her as a hot wife........I orgasm all the time...and it is triggered by HOTWIFE PLAY!

That is how I am feeling today.
I love my wife for dealing with my obsessed DESIRE to make her my personal fantasy!
SHE has maintained her dignity!
SHE is too strong of a woman to lose it!
I respect her for that!


AND on this day.............she and I know that Michael wont be in her life anymore.
She has told me that the 22 yr old gym rat will be her next target.
HE will be easy. HE is all over her now! He will be all about fun!
HE will be all about sex!
SHE already has sized him up!
She is an experienced HW now...so HE will be an easy target for her.
SHe told me that she still is turned on by playing a cheating wife.
WE will play this way again!

For now...we rest...and re-connect!

[nudeinnola]

Actually, most us were hoping that you would get a little tired and slow down a bit also. We all like to see a good ride, but never a crash... Same for Hotwifing. I am sure most of the people would rather see you as husband and wife instead of husband and hotwife.

[Sunlover]

Reese, Absolutly an AWESOME post, Thanks for sharing your honest feelings and putting them out on the table and in a laymans term that all can understand and most of all, relate too...I dont know how many other guys or gals on here have read this post and could see "your" real life situation as our own.. so many things we all share and have in common which is what draws me to this post.
Im glad things can calm down some for you two...and if you ever figure out how to get that feeling or thought of her being a HW out of your mind when making love to your wife, please share that also, I know I also do the very same thing.
Goodluck..

[mrs_reese]

sunlover, what a nice thing to say about my husband.
I was taken aback when I read his post.
I love that about him, very honest and full of emotion and sensuality.
I am not sure that is how he would explain himself, but that is the way I see him.
Nudeinnola, we are taking it slow.
I promise.
Another day of just US.
Michael tried calling me 2 times today.
I didnt answer.
He sent flowers to my house.
I have one Michael weakness:
HIS EYES AND HIS BODY!
I am struggling here!
Save me someone!
Why should I call him again?
I shouldnt right?
My hubby told me NO, but then again, he knows what happens when someone tells me no.
AND HE WONT use our safe word.

[Sunlover]

Mrs.R, remember me asking you if you would be able to just drop Michael? and I see you have strong feelings for Michael, But you also told us you could stop this (HWing) at anytime you wanted (all he had to do was say the say word) Let him have a freebie, Do not fall into this situation again. Tell Michael bye, and set yours and Mr.R mind at ease. I know it woulnt be easy, but I think you need to do this for the health of your relationship.

[aemn611]

Save me someone!
Why should I call him again?
I shouldnt right?
My hubby told me NO, but then again, he knows what happens when someone tells me no.
AND HE WONT use our safe word.

Mrs. R maybe only you can save you from yourself! But you can do so much better than Michael - you haven't scratched the surface! Its time to move on and tell Hubby to take Michael out. You should not have any contact with him.

thats my .02

Aemn

[RGB49FL]

Mrs R, the gym rat sounds like a nice change of pace after the heavy stuff with Michael. You guys need a break, and by break we still mean you are fucking another man.

Take it down a notch, get grounded, relax. This is all supposed to be fun, not work, or stress.

Reese, I got to hand it to you, man. I think I would have blown up. Pretty cool to stay in there. It can get very hot, and almost overpowering some times.

Stay cool.

[sedvuslad]

Stick to your guns!
Don't give him the slightest opportunity to burrow into your head again, only to twist your brain like a wet towel with his cunning and deceit. He is nothing but an greedy uncaring abuser.
Please leave him completely shut out and keep him that way, PERMANENTLY!
WE all care about YOU, a lovely beautiful woman.
Don't let him turn you into something ugly.
SEDL

[likesharing]

AmazingAmazingAMAZING!

Mrs Reese, congratulations on doing what I had thought was undoable - you built the ultimate emotional rollercoaster, the one that, finally, is just tooooo dangerous to ride again - at least in its present form. In this series of coasters you've designed for both of your enjoyment - and that includes joy and terror - this is your masterpiece, the one that finally was too much for the man that I swear has no dopamine receptors in his brain at all! He tolerates - no, THRIVES - in situations that would have the rest of us glassy eyed, drooling and twitching.

I'm glad both of you have gotten a well-deserved rest. Reese - of COURSE this hasn't been fun for you - this was, finally, the dangerous ride, the one where you really weren't sure if the wheels were staying on or not. Now both of you know where the hard limits lie, and it will be fun to build coasters that are a little scary and a lot of fun. You play hard, Reeses, but I've not read anything in this thread indicating anything other than playing as a couple, even if it IS at "Mr and Mrs Smith" intensities .

Michael's not a viable candidate so long as the 'cheating wife' scenario is in play; it gives him too much room for unrealistic thoughts. I know you two clued him in, somewhat - but did he really get the full picture, all the reasons why he's just not ever going to get anywhere but Annoyanceville with all that 'cut out husband / have babies / etc' talk? If he were brought fully into the picture, by both of you, then he's got a reasonable choice: he goes for the great sex with Mrs Reese on a regular basis, including threesomes when Mr Reese desires - or, sadly but definitely, He's OUT. Kill all of his fantasies by calling off the cheating wife play with him, and he's got no choice but accept your conditions as a couple or call it a day. I think he'll want to keep playing even so, but you know him best.

Thanks for contributing such a fantastic account of your adventures and feelings; they're wonderfully written and greatly appreciated!