These are excellent points. Some really great advice for you (OP).frank12 wrote:Unfortunately the MOST likely situation is that Frank will want to tell others about his conquest. It is part of human nature to do that. It requires great self-restraint to recognize this about oneself and control that urge to tell others. Now, he may have that, but the downsides of it are something you both have to reconcile before letting it go further. It breaks the mood to do so but if things begin to head that way it would be good to have "the talk" with Frank, and read between the lines as he undoubtedly will *say* that he will keep it secret.... make note of how easily he talked of his previous relationship too...
The delay does indeed play an important part, as it gives you more time to assess how trustworthy and discreet Frank is. It also will tend to raise his level of anticipation - all good for you.
And still, enjoy yourselves!
I would also suggest you become more involved in the conversations before hand. I kind of wonder if , after the bar date, Frank might have the impression that your husband would be ok with you and Frank fucking around alone. Without your husband present. I get the impression that your husband needs to be an active part of any sexual play that goes down snd not some part of a cheating wife fantasy. Frank having just experienced the betrayal of a cheating spouse may be looking for some kind of retribution scenario. This goes back to the trust and open communications between the three of you.
Sorry if this is a bit of a buss kill today . I think you will be great and I hope you and your amazing husband enjoy this day and many adventures.