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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

Unread post by reese » Mon Jun 08, 2009 1:20 pm

Wolfman, again, thanks for sharing your input about my hotwife. I really appreciate your kind words and understanding of hotwife play.

sh996, I am very happy that our thread is the one that helped you leave the lurking world and enter into the erotic world of this lifestyle. I beg to differ with your robot comment! There is nothing more intense and electrifying that watching your wife with another person who is real! Let's face it, it takes a lot of courage to enter into this world. Along with communication and trust, robotic play would be very boring! I realize that you were probably making a generalized statement about the mechanical play with your wife....but I want to caution you about the human element.
As much as I have tried to control it....I can't and neither can you when your wife is playing with the other male.
Dictating the role for your wife will lead to confusion and less erotic encounters. I realize that you will have to learn for yourself, but be prepared to have rules change and bent during hotwife play. It is almost impossible to NOT cross the line at times...no matter how much your wife may try to honor your agreements....remember that if you want her to play....you better be prepared for the "unexpected suprises" that will confuse and anger you!

As for this thread being more cuckold than hotwife. I again disagree. If you have followed our thread from start to finish, we touch upon all aspects of hotwife play. When my wife plays with another man, whether i am in cuckold mode or dominating ("waiting for my wife to get home so i can re-claim her") mode, I dont feel that my wife and I share one common characteristic of cuckold, cuckoldress, or just hotwife husband. We bend the rules...and we feel that there is NO label that fits our understanding of OUR hotwife play. NO matter what we do at the moment...my wife is sexy, she is HOT and she is a WIFE playing.....WE ARE A HOTWIFE COUPLE.

No offense to the other cucks out there...and to each their own..but in my mind, since I do not get off on total denial of her body or sexual body parts....wearing dresses or panties in front of the bull or lover... and getting rammed in my ass by the lover....I am a cuck in my own way as every other cuck is.....but reading in the cuckold forum....most of them love the idea of coming second to their wife's lover.....as much as I do....I always come running back to have her all for myself.
Thanks again for your comments....I am sure that I am confusing with my thoughts.....sorry if I am!
I just wanted you to know...that labels are not fair to everyone in this forum....we do what makes us happy..and sometimes WE have to struggle to find that path of happiness.....by experimenting with all sorts of hotwife play!

Good luck bro!
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

Unread post by sh996 » Mon Jun 08, 2009 5:01 pm

Thanks for your reply. Glad you did not take offense as none was intended.

Yes some of your comments are confusing, but I understand "to each his own" and how dangerous labels are. But again in all aspects of society there needs to be common agreed upon language or it makes it tough to understand anything.

I also understand about the rules and how to not expect things to stay on a hard line. This was apparent during our many discussions on the subject. That is the "good" part about these threads not being so segregated. For us, it needs to be an enhancement to OUR sex life. Not a seperate sex life for my wife where the "toy" is anything else but that. Neither of us do not want any more involvement than that - we have small children and our family is what comes first. That is the big hesitation. We understand the other peson is a human being and there will be things we cannot control. Yes a robot would not be that exciting, but that description is exactly what we want from the experience outside of the bedroom (and some characacteristics of that in the bedroom experience as well). We want another point of stimulation, and not much else. It may seem selfish, but that is our need and outr confort zone.

Hearing how all these FB and wives at some point admit to "falling in a love a little" and having loving moments outside of the bedroom etc, really is the exact opposite of what we want. We are busy and barely have time for each other sometimes. And we have good close friends and family we wish we could spend more time with. The last thing we need is to divide our time with yet someone else. This really must sound selfish, but it is what it is, and it is some of the reasons we have backed off on all this. The physical part is there for both of us - we've had some great fantasy times and even some water testing so I know she is ready as a sexual person - but the "real world risks" are too high.


OMG I am babbling - sorry.

Thanks again.

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Unread post by BallSpanking » Mon Jun 08, 2009 9:36 pm

It would be interesting to have Ms Reese's opinion on all this.
There has been an absence of her online the last couple of days, is she spending time with Robert?
I've been reading some intriguing comments by her regarding controling of Mr Reese, and wanting to spend more alone time with Robert.

So, how about it, Ms Reese, are you falling for Robert? :o
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Unread post by sh996 » Tue Jun 09, 2009 4:08 am

Is there any generally agreed upon definintion of a Hotwife, a cuck, and such on the site? This would be helpful to some. If a Hotwife is what Mrs. R doing (spending lots of time with her FB, controlling her husband through the FB, etc) is then my wife and I are not looking into the Hotwife lifestyle. We just want some MFM action the enhance our sexual times together. Is there a definition of what that is that is agreed upon this site?

Just curiously, if a man is into humiliation, and his Hotwife ends up leaving him for her FB, is that a good thing for the husband / exhusband? I can think of nothing more humiliating than setting up my wife to sleep with someone and then have her leave me for him. Does that put the cuck in a "win-win" situation?

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Unread post by reese » Tue Jun 09, 2009 5:58 am

sh996,
I am not an expert, nor am I the definition translator, but if I may offer you my insight and knowledge to help you with some of your questions, then allow me!

I truly believe that in the sexual fantasy world, some of us(I am not included) would love to have their wives leave them and marry their fb or lover. I have been encouraged a few times by some to encourage my wife to leave me fulltime, she has been encouraged as well. Come on! This is not why we embark on this journey! I "get off" on the idea of my wife wanting another man over me....It is very erotic and sexually stimulating knowing that I have to compete to WIN my wife back at times...that is my thing! The challenge and chase! Re-claiming her is the single greatest sexual stimulus that I require with my sexual libido! This works for ME! It might not work for others, including yourself! At the end of the day, my wife and I never ever lose focus that this is just a sexual game...it's fantasy fulfillment! That is all! The Robert's of the world will come and go. We may talk a good game of attempting to have a poly relationship, but my wife and I understand our boundaries and limits. Bottom line! As much as it turns me on knowing that I have to compete for my wife's affections with Robert in her life...I know deep down that SHE owns my heart and I own hers! No one will ever penetrate that love that we share and has stood the test of time!
Dont worry about the labels! Dont worry about how the terminalogy of "cuckold" or " hotwife" fits into your sexual situations.

If you seek a MFM..then go for it...and make sure HE understands the rules. Make sure you and your wife communicate constantly. Make sure that there are no secrets! Whatever you might call this lifestyle, find a way to make it work for you.
Am i a truecuckold? I am not sure? DO i love humuliation? At times I do...because it is more gratifying to me when I turn OFF my fantasy or my wife's fantasy and GO back to being the man that I am! Our life is more rewarding together! We share a love that has been tested.....we share complete trust and communication.
Playing as a hotwife couple has allowed our marriage to grow and mature. It has allowed our marriage to be stronger than I ever imagined!
And you want to know a secret? It is simply because my wife and I have develped what works best for us...without the labels. In our mind, we are a hotwife couple and We play and share with what works best for us!
It might not work for you...the way that we play...so I encourage you to find out what works for you and your wife!
Who cares what the terms are that you play with!
But if you go the route of mfm....in my mind, your wife is a HOTWIFE....and you are a hotwife couple!
Oh, I guess you are also a cuckold because the definition of a cuckole includes a man who encourages his wife to sleep with others.....but if you and your wife are having fun...and your bond of love, sex and trust grows...does it really matter what you are labeled???
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Unread post by reese » Tue Jun 09, 2009 6:43 am

I forgot to mention, my wife hasnt been around the past few days, last night, she spent the night with Robert. And as I write this post in my office, I am going crazy....I need to see her asap.
I asked her via text if I could see her for lunch...I need a quickie....

her reply..."no thanks baby, I told you that I was meeting robert in his office for lunch today, I just cant get enough of him"!

That stung! I know what she is doing...she comes home later this afternoon...she will probably nap waiting for her child to come home from school............I plan on driving by our home around 2....cock in hand...and ready to explode in her!

Wish me luck...time to re-claim this hotwife!
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Unread post by mrs_reese » Tue Jun 09, 2009 11:29 am

I am back!
A lot of chatter since I last wrote to everyone! :roll: Hmmm, let me see, where should I start first? Am I in love with Robert? Of course, I love his body, his smile, the way he makes me feel, the way he controls me, the way he makes me beg for more( i know hubby hates that, sorry baby, I cant help it). But am I going to leave hubby for him. No! Never!
Hubby just left to go back to work. NO he didnt get his quickie, ( I was too sore from robert) but I did perform oral sex on him after he licked me, tasting MY sex with robert from the night before and earlier at lunch.

What else, hmmm, am I controlling hubby? Yes, I am. Its true because I love making love to Robert, and at times its confusing, but right now, Robert is the one who has my pussy more/ its how I want it! I like the way his penis fills me up, and by only giving hubby LESS, it drives him crazy with lust and passion. What girl wouldnt want her husband to be that way? All hubby has to do is call out the "safe word" and if he doesnt, i am free to act out how I want!
Robert gets most of my BODY all the time/ hubby gets it only if he begs enough! Its fun being a cuckoldress to hubby.
I know the time is coming that HE completely dominates me/ getting him to give UP and LET go is so thrilling to me!

Its only a matter of time/ I know your coming for me baby! :whip:
You do own my heart :roll:

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Unread post by wolfman4455 » Tue Jun 09, 2009 12:11 pm

Dear Mrs Reese,
You are the hottest thing on the planet and every guy out here would crawl naked through broken glass to be Reese. What you are doing for him is true love. On the other hand I like the cum filled hot stories and pictures of Robert as your second relationship. I liked the time he introduced you as his girlfriend while reese was in the room. That was beautiful in its humiliating artistry.
I had a similar experience that was priceless. My 18 year old (at the time) wife found an old classmate, who was kind of a tough/glamour guy and found a way to meet him and let him pick her up. She was a very hot beauty so it wasn't an hour before he was fucking her. After he had cum in her as many times as he wanted she came home, I was waiting with the kids, and told me how she was full of his hot sperm. Hot. The next day we went to the store at her urging. We went to a certain counter and there he was, the checker. They looked at each other and flirted openly, with me standing there and his sperm still in my wifes pussy. They flirted and undressed each other with their eyes the whole time. I was blushing and tongue tied as they looked at me and humiliated me in public this way. Every time I went to the store and he looked at me I knew he was thinking what a pathetic cuckold I was and how he had pumped my young bride full of his cum. Humiliating. Hot. Sometimes it takes a while before the embarrasment leaves and the hot sexy feeling comes over the cuckold, but these are great irreplacable experiences.
Thanks for sharing your story.
I love it when you give reese a little gentle humiliation as your cuckold.

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Unread post by mrs_reese » Tue Jun 09, 2009 12:32 pm

HI wolfman!
I liked reading your story about cucking you with the guy at the store.
Gentle humuliation is important to me. If I go over board with hubby/ he will be very angry and call it all off!
Dealing with his jealousy at times is difficult/ but honestly, I dont know how he handles all of this/ i admire him for that.
God knows that I could not deal with all of this if he was doing this with L.


NOt many understand/ cucking hubby is for ME! I love doing that. It excites me knowing a man that I love so much will trust me like he does and let go of his sexual inhibitions! That turns me on so much! Not even Robert can do that for me like hubby does!

Now the question is: does hubby like being humuliated? I really dont think so! He knows how much I like doing that, and I think he plays along because HIS hotwife is very sexy to him when she is naughty! :whip:

xoxoxo

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Unread post by BallSpanking » Tue Jun 09, 2009 5:27 pm

Dear Ms Reese,

You stated: "Robert gets most of my BODY all the time..."
Does this mean Robert also gets anal sex with you?
And now that he's your BF, does Robert get to suck, and kiss ;) your toes as he fills you with cum?

If not, is it something you'd enjoy giving to Robert, because it was formerly reserved for your husband? :cool:
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Unread post by mrs_reese » Wed Jun 10, 2009 5:12 am

Oh ballspanking!
Ok, here it is:
Robert does not get my feet/ that is our agreement. I have a special thing with my feet/ very stimulating with touch for me/ hubby has asked that I try to keep those for him and I do. Robert isnt really into feet anyway, which makes it easier for all! Anal sex/ I am not a big fan of that only b/c hubby and especially Robert are over sized! :shock: IN my naughtiest intoxicated moods/ I am known to allow penetration :roll: for a few minutes at least!
Robert has entered my butt more than hubby lately/ only bc/ hubby is obsessed with licking all my hot spots after sex with Robert.

Last but not least, my moods change all the time! Hubby is total control over me if and when he makes his move/ for the time being/ I love cucking hubby and denying him my body/ but like I said earlier/ that wont last long!
I have a feeling hubby will take ME very very soon! :whip:

xoxoxo

Off to get my toes pedicured and nails manicured! Compliments of Hubby! Love you baby! :cool:

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Unread post by nudeinnola » Wed Jun 10, 2009 6:34 am

mrs_reese wrote: Robert has entered my butt more than hubby lately/ only bc/ hubby is obsessed with licking all my hot spots after sex with Robert.
Holly butt sex, I just came on myself. :D

Mrs Reese, This calls for details!!!!

PLEASE!!!

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Unread post by mrs_reese » Wed Jun 10, 2009 6:46 am

HI Nudeinnola, I missed ya! ;)

Details: only because I am in one of my moods :o

I really love feeling my lover enter my butt from behind. Like most girls, that feels so dirty.
Robert absolutely loves bending me over, ANYWHERE, and lubing himself up and pulling the back of my hair( he learned how much i love that) and making naughty love to my butt. Usually that doesnt happen very often/ it hurts!
But a few times this past month, I asked Robert to do that to me right before I came home to hubby. If there ever was a man who went absolutely wild with lust after his wife was fucked in her butt/ its my hubby!
Licking me all over/ I love that feeling knowing my lover was inside of me and my hubby is cleaning me up!
There that is all for now!

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Unread post by aemn611 » Wed Jun 10, 2009 3:53 pm

mrs_reese wrote:....I really love feeling my lover enter my butt from behind. Like most girls, that feels so dirty.
Robert absolutely loves bending me over, ANYWHERE, and lubing himself up and pulling the back of my hair( he learned how much i love that) and making naughty love to my butt. ....
The visual image of this must be driving Mr. R nuts. The whole caveman image of taking her butt and grabbing her hair in total dominanace on Robert's part and total submission on Mrs. R's part is soo hott and must amplify in all three of their minds the sense that she is fully taken by Robert. This is sooo hot.

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Unread post by reese » Thu Jun 11, 2009 9:14 am

With all this butt discussion and teasing by my hotwife...last night...i was able to explore and reach an orgasm playing with my wife's sexy butt.

It looks as good as it does in the pictures. There is something so wild about diving into her sexy/tight butt!

last night was fun....just her and I being very wild.

Oh, last night, I was able to have sex with her....but this time there was no denial.
After playing with her erotic butt, I was not going to be cucked and denied her other hotspot.
I was able to fill her with my orgasm while making love to her.

Finally!!!

I have no clue how Robert will ever recover IF we pull the plug....my wife is too hot for any man to handle!

Sorry about boasting about my treasure....She is unbelievable!

Thank-you babe!
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Unread post by mrs_reese » Thu Jun 11, 2009 4:12 pm

ur welcome honey.
So while you are taking a shower right now/ i didnt talk to you about this b/c we are busy being mom and dad/ but what would you think if i took a picture of your cum leaking out of my butt???? :cool:
We can do that tonight/ or should I make you take the PIC with Robert's cum coming out of my butt?
I will give you the answer after you get out of the shower/ and after you have read this post! :whip:

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Unread post by aemn611 » Thu Jun 11, 2009 6:22 pm

mrs_reese wrote:.....We can do that tonight/ or should I make you take the PIC with Robert's cum coming out of my butt?
I will give you the answer after you get out of the shower/ and after you have read this post! :whip:
Looks like Mrs R is getting frisky. My vote is to force Mr. R to take a profile photo of Robert pulling Mrs R's hair as he takes her butt along with a photo of cum running out. Of course Robert will make Mr. R post the photos (both identities obsecured) of his conquest of Mrs R.

Enjoy,

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Unread post by BallSpanking » Sat Jun 13, 2009 12:16 pm

Whatever is happening, I hope Ms Reese hasn't retired...
She deserves to be well filled, and fulfilled, even if that means having her cake, and eating it too! ;)
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Unread post by mrs_reese » Mon Jun 15, 2009 5:51 am

I am back/ we took a little break for a few days.
It was that time of the month for me :oops:
Hubby was granted my feet for the weekend.
Of course with scandals, this can be his favorite time of the year! :roll:
I plan on seeing Robert on Wednesday/ spending the night, morning and lunch in his office again! :whip:

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Unread post by reese » Mon Jun 15, 2009 6:15 am

I just talked to my wife......phone call....
Robert wants to call me and ask me if I would approve if they went away for a long weekend at his friends cabin in the back country....he wants to leave Thursday thru Sunday.
I asked her if she really wants to go....she told me that it is up to me.
I hate being put on the spot like this.
These are moments that I wish I didnt love the hotwife lifestyle so much.
I do not like being away from my wife this long.
I know that she would accept my decison if I say NO...but I know that she would love to spend 4 days with Robert.
What should I do???
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Unread post by lukkydog » Mon Jun 15, 2009 6:50 am

I've been down this road, my friend. Given the circumstances...I would say no. 3 nights is too long. It will lead to complications. Will you and Mrs. survive it? Yes, just like you did with Michael. However, it is a progression that you don't need.

I know the desire to push the envelope/boundaries due to the wish to get the "high" higher. But, be careful.....

My vote is no.

P.S. If you would like to discuss my experiences in this area in person then pm me and I'll give you my cell. Good luck, Reese.

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Unread post by kcpa » Mon Jun 15, 2009 7:12 am

As I recall she went on an out of town trip with Michael and was ready to come home after a day or two. Different guys but might have same result. I say Thurs - Sun is too long and might ruin it for everyone.

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Unread post by Sunlover » Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:10 am

Reese, I also am feeling this is too long for the Mrs. to be gone. Why not ask Robert to come by the house late Friday evening or Saturday morning and they could return on Sunday? That would be an acceptable weekend for most. Goodluck Bro..Godspeed :up:

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Unread post by aemn611 » Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:54 am

I'm kinda with the rest of those who are advocating shorten the time. I don't think Mr. R should be denied his wife that long yet he shouldn't say no either know how much she probably wants this. Robert needs to understand sandbox 101 and he has to share Mrs R romantically and sexually with her equally viable husband. For the sake of clarity the day to day time Mr R and Mrs R have are their time as normal husband and wife conducting family business doesn't count in the equation. This way Mrs R is free to love who she wants and recognizes that Robert cannot be a full time lover for her and it will help her continue to appreciate the affections of Mr. R. Undoubtedly Mrs. R's time with Robert may be more intense which if it wasn't, I'd think there is something wrong and thats to be expected by Mr. R. In fact knowing this must be very arrounsing to Mr. R, but he needs to know there will at least be a balance of romantic time to keep this thing going otherwise everybody looses.

Does that sound fair to everybody?
Curious as to what others think of this assesment.

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Unread post by mrs_reese » Mon Jun 15, 2009 10:35 am

Hey everyone. Kjeld, aemn, sunlover,kcpa, luckydog, you guys are great. At times we all need a voice of reason!
My hubby came home for lunch and talked about all of this. WE both agreed that WE dont want another Michael situation again. Robert is really falling for me, kindof being possessive and jealous. I am going to talk to him later tonight. I am not mad at him, I just need to counsel him. SLow him down a little bit. RObert and I need to put some fantasy back into our relationship, he may be getting too serious. I am more prepared to handle a situation like this now.

My hubby called Robert with me present to tell him NO WAY!
His exact words were; "At the end of the day, she is my wife, and I dont want to be away from her this long bro"!
What is up with all the guy "bro" talk?
Anyway, Hubby told Robert that the only reason why he gives me up like he does it b/c it enhances our sex together, and because he and I love fantasy role playing. In the end, hubby and I have the safe word/ and he used it. I loved the way he took charge and told Robert no.
I am not going.
My man took control. I like that!

Can I share something with you. After his phone call to Robert, hubby and I shared some wild sex. Bending me over our kitchen table! Funny how men are so damn wild at times.

Guess what?
I feel safe knowing that there are friends out here that watch our backs.
thanks again everyone!

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