"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
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Sub4her
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Wow this is so good! So much of what you wrote I can personally relate to myself.TriangleTangle wrote: ↑Wed Sep 09, 2020 5:35 pmFor myself it turned out to be a combination of a few specific aspects which have evolved and become clear as the years have progressed and as our relationship has grown and strengthened.
#1 Erotic Compersion - which differs from emotional Compersion. I learned long ago how to transform the angst and jealousy into a powerful aphrodisiac unlike anything else. I vicariously experience her sexual pleasure as my own. I later learned I am an empath with it being especially strong in the erotic realm which explained great deal. I later learned to appreciate and experience emotional Compersion in addition to erotic Compersion. To this day few adequately distinguish these two types of Compersion or how they can be separate or combined.
#2 The risk of losing her emotionally and physically to another man. That risk exponentially multiplies the angst and jealousy for transformation into erotic Compersion. Some say that has its roots in primitive sperm competition – maybe so, but whatever the root, be it sperm competition or maybe the loss of an early love and infidelity – I can’t ever get enough.
At first it was only my partner’s physical consensual infidelity that stoked the fire in me. I was initially against my partner having an emotional/romantic connection with another male (read – insecurity). As I gradually lost my relationship insecurity over the years (and also after having gotten involved in a muiti-partner poly group arrangement), I discovered that when my female partner developed an emotional/romantic attachment it was like adding Compersive jet fuel. Naturally, it's the emotional/romantic aspects that makes the experience great for her. The stronger and more secure I became in myself and my relationship, the more intense my desire for her to stoke that jealousy by her overtly expressing her physical and emotional desire for the other male - not denial or degradation mind you, just stoking the competitive aspect to the max. Of course one of the best parts is reclamation - but I like it even more when she makes that a bit of a challenge too :-)
So, for me, the reason why I want my wife to sleep (and have a relationship) with another man is a combination of these aspects.
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New member here thought I would say hello everyone and chime in.
Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man.
Some of these are just generalizations but this is how I see things or tend to look for in my marriage/relationships. Everybody is different in what they want in their relationships, so its not a hardline, this is the way it should be, its just the way I like it.
1.) Monogamy is stupid. Its almost like some sort of kinky sex game of denial. Fun for a while, but without release, well thats just mean. Who the hell came up with the idea of Monogamy? Short answer probably men.. Idiots.
2.) Marriage/relationship you obviously got into one because you wanted one. If you are already fulfilled in everything you were looking for in that, partner, lover, friend, sex life. Its a good solid marriage, with trust and respect ect. Then why not enhance it ? Why not keep the spark alive? Its been my experience/belief that monogamy tends to lead to boredom with married couples, they become two ships passing in the night completely unaware of the others existence. Again not everybody but it happens alot. Just my opinion of course.
3.) Sex, of course, sex, why did I wait till #3 to get to the most important part LOL.. Well as aforementioned keeping the spark alive, if you want a vigorous sex life with your wife/SO, let your wife bang other men. Its really that simple, it'll go through the roof. As I've seen others mention sexually awoken women. Its a real thing. Its a great thing really, probably the best thing you could have give/help her with. Freedom of choice in a marriage does something for a woman. Let her explore her sexuality. I cant stress this enough.
4.) Marriage, yes, this again. Such a hassle sometimes ( i joke ) As previously mentioned the boredom of two passing ships in the night. The entire marriage is enhanced, communication, attention to one another, in my HGF relationships, its been my experience my partners made it a point making sure the relationship was good and everything was cool, you really dont want for anything or be made to feel insecure, of course, you obviously cant have insecurity issues of your own to begin with. So you should probably make sure you can make peace with what whatever those are, or this will not end well for you most likely. This will test the strength of your marriage or relationship, if she wants one with you, she'll make a point to make sure she does. Thus, enhanced.
5.) Kink, Yes, like everybody else, there's some kink I'm looking for in it, some of my favorites will be on the request list, but as I was reading in another thread, guys often have a scripted scenario in their head, my advice to you, dont, you'll only be disappointed. Its really up to her, who what where when and how, so to speak, of course there has to be respect, but again, just a generalization
So these are just some generalizations on how I see things, not everybody's relationships are the same. So while I tend to think monogamy is stupid, I generally go for a hotwife relationship or try to create one. In which she's the one using the free pass so to speak. I tend to get everything I want in a hotwife/HGF relationship so I really am not interested in using mine, besides, women get jealous anyway LOL.. I guess i believe in balance of power, I just like it that way.
I'm currently married for 21 years now. In a gasp "monogamous" thus far marriage, its been a good marriage, and I sold her on all this over a decade ago. She's willing to give it a try and has been, actually more than willingly and excited about it, even with some of the obvious reservations that some women have that have been molded by society to think this entire concept is wrong, In the end its just been a comedy of life and roadblocks of why it hasn't happened. We just laugh about it sometimes.
I had previous LS relationships so I'm not just speaking from a fantasy standpoint... I dont have any of those, I lived them all, Well except the mile high thing, of course, making your wife cum over and over again under the blanket with your fingers probably puts you in the 1/2 mile club. I'd like to believe so anyway
I just want some vindication in the form of i told you so, if and when the day comes.
Mrs: We should have done this a long time ago.
Me: told ya so
Imagine how short the thread would be if the title was.
Why wouldn't you want your wife to sleep with other men.
Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man.
Some of these are just generalizations but this is how I see things or tend to look for in my marriage/relationships. Everybody is different in what they want in their relationships, so its not a hardline, this is the way it should be, its just the way I like it.
1.) Monogamy is stupid. Its almost like some sort of kinky sex game of denial. Fun for a while, but without release, well thats just mean. Who the hell came up with the idea of Monogamy? Short answer probably men.. Idiots.
2.) Marriage/relationship you obviously got into one because you wanted one. If you are already fulfilled in everything you were looking for in that, partner, lover, friend, sex life. Its a good solid marriage, with trust and respect ect. Then why not enhance it ? Why not keep the spark alive? Its been my experience/belief that monogamy tends to lead to boredom with married couples, they become two ships passing in the night completely unaware of the others existence. Again not everybody but it happens alot. Just my opinion of course.
3.) Sex, of course, sex, why did I wait till #3 to get to the most important part LOL.. Well as aforementioned keeping the spark alive, if you want a vigorous sex life with your wife/SO, let your wife bang other men. Its really that simple, it'll go through the roof. As I've seen others mention sexually awoken women. Its a real thing. Its a great thing really, probably the best thing you could have give/help her with. Freedom of choice in a marriage does something for a woman. Let her explore her sexuality. I cant stress this enough.
4.) Marriage, yes, this again. Such a hassle sometimes ( i joke ) As previously mentioned the boredom of two passing ships in the night. The entire marriage is enhanced, communication, attention to one another, in my HGF relationships, its been my experience my partners made it a point making sure the relationship was good and everything was cool, you really dont want for anything or be made to feel insecure, of course, you obviously cant have insecurity issues of your own to begin with. So you should probably make sure you can make peace with what whatever those are, or this will not end well for you most likely. This will test the strength of your marriage or relationship, if she wants one with you, she'll make a point to make sure she does. Thus, enhanced.
5.) Kink, Yes, like everybody else, there's some kink I'm looking for in it, some of my favorites will be on the request list, but as I was reading in another thread, guys often have a scripted scenario in their head, my advice to you, dont, you'll only be disappointed. Its really up to her, who what where when and how, so to speak, of course there has to be respect, but again, just a generalization
So these are just some generalizations on how I see things, not everybody's relationships are the same. So while I tend to think monogamy is stupid, I generally go for a hotwife relationship or try to create one. In which she's the one using the free pass so to speak. I tend to get everything I want in a hotwife/HGF relationship so I really am not interested in using mine, besides, women get jealous anyway LOL.. I guess i believe in balance of power, I just like it that way.
I'm currently married for 21 years now. In a gasp "monogamous" thus far marriage, its been a good marriage, and I sold her on all this over a decade ago. She's willing to give it a try and has been, actually more than willingly and excited about it, even with some of the obvious reservations that some women have that have been molded by society to think this entire concept is wrong, In the end its just been a comedy of life and roadblocks of why it hasn't happened. We just laugh about it sometimes.
I had previous LS relationships so I'm not just speaking from a fantasy standpoint... I dont have any of those, I lived them all, Well except the mile high thing, of course, making your wife cum over and over again under the blanket with your fingers probably puts you in the 1/2 mile club. I'd like to believe so anyway
I just want some vindication in the form of i told you so, if and when the day comes.
Mrs: We should have done this a long time ago.
Me: told ya so
Imagine how short the thread would be if the title was.
Why wouldn't you want your wife to sleep with other men.
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scottob1234, Welcome to OHW.
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Thank you Sophie, nice to meet you.
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scottob1234 ,very well explained I would love to show this to my wife.
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MsMsld-1
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Well why don’t you ?sj hopeful guy wrote: ↑Sat Oct 03, 2020 12:55 amscottob1234 ,very well explained I would love to show this to my wife.
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A lot of good answers to this question.
since i got this idea from a guy ( he ask me to fuck his wife) i try to inform myself before invide my wife.
let me say
for me it is : 1 love her very much 2 beeing proud of her 3 like to expose her 3 a kind of foreplay 4 be focused on her _ do not miss any detail of her reactions 5 multiple her pleasure 6 she like to be " taken and used" during sex 7 i am not really a dom _ so why not give her the pleasure she like 8 i am not gay _ but to see how hard other men are because of " my wife" is a great turn on 9
one day i read a story :
if you have a new car ,you like to show around not to hide in the garage and hear compliments _ you like driving _ but you are not able to see how it looks like while driving _ if you let a friend drive you will know how it looks and afterwards you enjoy his compliments. makes you happy and more proud.
since i got this idea from a guy ( he ask me to fuck his wife) i try to inform myself before invide my wife.
let me say
for me it is : 1 love her very much 2 beeing proud of her 3 like to expose her 3 a kind of foreplay 4 be focused on her _ do not miss any detail of her reactions 5 multiple her pleasure 6 she like to be " taken and used" during sex 7 i am not really a dom _ so why not give her the pleasure she like 8 i am not gay _ but to see how hard other men are because of " my wife" is a great turn on 9
one day i read a story :
if you have a new car ,you like to show around not to hide in the garage and hear compliments _ you like driving _ but you are not able to see how it looks like while driving _ if you let a friend drive you will know how it looks and afterwards you enjoy his compliments. makes you happy and more proud.
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Very good examplepetco wrote: ↑Sat Oct 17, 2020 6:32 pmA lot of good answers to this question.
since i got this idea from a guy ( he ask me to fuck his wife) i try to inform myself before invide my wife.
let me say
for me it is : 1 love her very much 2 beeing proud of her 3 like to expose her 3 a kind of foreplay 4 be focused on her _ do not miss any detail of her reactions 5 multiple her pleasure 6 she like to be " taken and used" during sex 7 i am not really a dom _ so why not give her the pleasure she like 8 i am not gay _ but to see how hard other men are because of " my wife" is a great turn on 9
one day i read a story :
if you have a new car ,you like to show around not to hide in the garage and hear compliments _ you like driving _ but you are not able to see how it looks like while driving _ if you let a friend drive you will know how it looks and afterwards you enjoy his compliments. makes you happy and more proud.
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Welcome to the forum married_women33.
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in my for post i told you how i got this idea by other guy. but as i remember my last marriage it had already some similar situations. me and my wife started swinging randomly. we both were exited about someone is watching us ( also we find out randomly as a guy watched us fucking in the forest) .
As we were fucking in a corner of a club a stranger just joined in and put his cock in her mouth while i was fucking her doggystyle.
but instead of beeing jealous or angry i enjoyed it. ( my wife as well)
As we start swinging later, i was more interested to watch my wife instead of fucking the other wife.
later we experimented with BDSM and the hottest thing was to expose her and let her be used by other guys.
we both enjoyed this very much .
So may it was always in my nature to share and enjoy but i have not heard about " hotwifing or cuckold" until this guy asked me.
As we were fucking in a corner of a club a stranger just joined in and put his cock in her mouth while i was fucking her doggystyle.
but instead of beeing jealous or angry i enjoyed it. ( my wife as well)
As we start swinging later, i was more interested to watch my wife instead of fucking the other wife.
later we experimented with BDSM and the hottest thing was to expose her and let her be used by other guys.
we both enjoyed this very much .
So may it was always in my nature to share and enjoy but i have not heard about " hotwifing or cuckold" until this guy asked me.
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tunafish
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Before my wife became a HW and I a HWH less than three months ago my answer would have been because I’ve been fantasizing about her fucking another for over 40 years
What a bull shit answer that would have been.
Now that I’ve experienced it first hand I could say unequivocally because it makes her happy. It makes her smile. Its helped build self esteem and confidence in her almost magically.
In a couple of short months my wife has blossomed into a gorgeous ( she always was gorgeous) happy woman that is stretching her wings like never before and I’m here to see it all before me.
A woman who isn’t afraid to be happy and unconventional. A woman who at 68 says I’m a hotwife. And not many are.
So yes that’s why this guy wants his wife to sleep with other men.
What a bull shit answer that would have been.
Now that I’ve experienced it first hand I could say unequivocally because it makes her happy. It makes her smile. Its helped build self esteem and confidence in her almost magically.
In a couple of short months my wife has blossomed into a gorgeous ( she always was gorgeous) happy woman that is stretching her wings like never before and I’m here to see it all before me.
A woman who isn’t afraid to be happy and unconventional. A woman who at 68 says I’m a hotwife. And not many are.
So yes that’s why this guy wants his wife to sleep with other men.
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I’m sitting at home, right this moment while my wife (38) of 13 years is out on her first meet n greet with a 25 yo with what she describes as a giant cock.
I got the text an hour ago they’re going for a hot tub at his place.
Can’t describe the Adrenalin going through me right now, when she comes home tonight and I start to eat her as she tells me about her night! (We have already pre-determined this)
Welcome to the Hotwife Life!
I got the text an hour ago they’re going for a hot tub at his place.
Can’t describe the Adrenalin going through me right now, when she comes home tonight and I start to eat her as she tells me about her night! (We have already pre-determined this)
Welcome to the Hotwife Life!
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Welcome to the forum 780Hotwife. We will anxiously await your story when she gets home and you reclaim her.
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780Hotwife, Welcome to OHW.780Hotwife wrote: ↑Mon Nov 02, 2020 9:03 pmI’m sitting at home, right this moment while my wife (38) of 13 years is out on her first meet n greet with a 25 yo with what she describes as a giant cock.
I got the text an hour ago they’re going for a hot tub at his place.
Can’t describe the Adrenalin going through me right now, when she comes home tonight and I start to eat her as she tells me about her night! (We have already pre-determined this)
Welcome to the Hotwife Life!
Don't assume everything will run as '(We have already pre-determined this)' things can easily change, let you Lady guide you and go at her pace.
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I'm 60 and I've tried and had a LOT of "highs" in my life, and NOTHING compares to the high of my beloved beautiful wife making love to another man. It has been a win-win-win for us for over 20 years. The same lover for my wife all this time. He is a stud who gives her the best sex of her life hands down. It makes both of them happy and it makes me ecstatic. It has made our marriage stronger too. It's been wonderful, the best thing that's ever happened to us.
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SailorGuy, You are so very lucky to have such a wonderful Lady in your life.SailorGuy wrote: ↑Tue Nov 03, 2020 8:16 pmI'm 60 and I've tried and had a LOT of "highs" in my life, and NOTHING compares to the high of my beloved beautiful wife making love to another man. It has been a win-win-win for us for over 20 years. The same lover for my wife all this time. He is a stud who gives her the best sex of her life hands down. It makes both of them happy and it makes me ecstatic. It has made our marriage stronger too. It's been wonderful, the best thing that's ever happened to us.
Sophie.
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The sight of your wife underneath an attractive man, having an orgasm with him inside her is so erotic. You'll never forget it, and you will want it all the time. Both of you.
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The first time I saw my wife and her new lover kissing was powerful as hell to me. They were in the soft glow of a distant streetlight at our front door. I saw them from the dark of our yard. To see how hungrily my wife was kissing him; to see his hands running up and down my wife's hips, chest and ass; to see my wife rubbing between his legs....I was in heaven.
I had to rely on her stories for a long time before she finally let me watch them make love, in secret. It was just the highest high I have ever ever experienced. She clearly was more present, more into the lovemaking with him than she ever was with me. And clearly this man knew how to please a woman. I was stunned by the size of his cock, that my slender sweet kind-hearted wife could ( very happily ) take every inch of that massive thing and then let him pound her mercilessly seemingly forever while screaming with joy - well this was a side of my wife I had never seen.
When I made love to her I was in heaven licking her great glorious cunt. I could have stayed there forever. But she always wanted me inside her, and when I slid into her it was so fucking nice I had to perform every mental trick in the book to keep from cumming immediately. In even the best cases I could only hold out for maybe five or ten minutes.
I swear: that one time she let me watch them make love Tom pounded away in her for at least half an hour. First missionary, then from behind - his large masculine hands ahold of my wife's great curvy hips - and finally she riding atop him and screaming and squirting all over him. And even then he hadn't cum! Not until my delirious wife got off of him and took his still rock-hard cock into her mouth and passionately sucked him to his own gushing orgasm, swallowing every drop of his huge load,
Something she never ever did to me.
Yeah, that is some intense stuff right there. Intensely wonderful.
I had to rely on her stories for a long time before she finally let me watch them make love, in secret. It was just the highest high I have ever ever experienced. She clearly was more present, more into the lovemaking with him than she ever was with me. And clearly this man knew how to please a woman. I was stunned by the size of his cock, that my slender sweet kind-hearted wife could ( very happily ) take every inch of that massive thing and then let him pound her mercilessly seemingly forever while screaming with joy - well this was a side of my wife I had never seen.
When I made love to her I was in heaven licking her great glorious cunt. I could have stayed there forever. But she always wanted me inside her, and when I slid into her it was so fucking nice I had to perform every mental trick in the book to keep from cumming immediately. In even the best cases I could only hold out for maybe five or ten minutes.
I swear: that one time she let me watch them make love Tom pounded away in her for at least half an hour. First missionary, then from behind - his large masculine hands ahold of my wife's great curvy hips - and finally she riding atop him and screaming and squirting all over him. And even then he hadn't cum! Not until my delirious wife got off of him and took his still rock-hard cock into her mouth and passionately sucked him to his own gushing orgasm, swallowing every drop of his huge load,
Something she never ever did to me.
Yeah, that is some intense stuff right there. Intensely wonderful.
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Dzs1653
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Why in secret? Did she not even want him to know that it was with your knowledge and complicity? Did you not want him to know? I guess I've been obsessed with this question for a long time, and my very first post in OHW was about that, subject "Does he know?"
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He wouldn't agree to it, and I had to promise I would never tell him. 15 years later I've still kept it!Dzs1653 wrote: ↑Thu Nov 12, 2020 10:53 amWhy in secret? Did she not even want him to know that it was with your knowledge and complicity? Did you not want him to know? I guess I've been obsessed with this question for a long time, and my very first post in OHW was about that, subject "Does he know?"
But of course after 20 years as my wife's exclusive lover everything is settled between us and it's all good. I've continued asking to join them, but he always declines. He's very conservative and my wife is off-limits to me. I wasn't yet a cuck when I watched them make love, just the excited husband of a hotwife. But by now I am a full-on cuckold and very happy about this man being my wife's lover.
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This comments sums it up completely for me.
if you have a new car ,you like to show around not to hide in the garage and hear compliments _ you like driving _ but you are not able to see how it looks like while driving _ if you let a friend drive you will know how it looks and afterwards you enjoy his compliments. makes you happy and more proud.
if you have a new car ,you like to show around not to hide in the garage and hear compliments _ you like driving _ but you are not able to see how it looks like while driving _ if you let a friend drive you will know how it looks and afterwards you enjoy his compliments. makes you happy and more proud.
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my husband likes to watch me being fucked especially if bt a black man he also likes to clean us after wards lick both me and bull
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my husband likes to watch me being fucked especially if bt a black man he also likes to clean us after wards lick both me and bull
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bham87uk wrote: ↑Fri Nov 13, 2020 6:51 amThis comments sums it up completely for me.
if you have a new car ,you like to show around not to hide in the garage and hear compliments _ you like driving _ but you are not able to see how it looks like while driving _ if you let a friend drive you will know how it looks and afterwards you enjoy his compliments. makes you happy and more proud.