Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[coconspirators]

Hi. My wife is in to black guys but is hesitant to take to the proverbial plunge. She loves watching interracial porn while having a large black dildo driven in to her. They are her best orgasms. We talked last night about her replacing the dildo with a real person. She made clear that whatever happens it will be her decision, that she is contemplating it, but it's a matter of if not when. She also said that it was more likely that if she goes through with it, it will be me, not her, that asks her to do it again. I laughed and said if anyone was going to be asking for more after her first time it will be her. Is this true? Once the first time is behind a wife, is she more likely to want to do it again? How important is finding the right guy for the first time?

[Farmgirl]

Hi. My wife is in to black guys but is hesitant to take to the proverbial plunge. She loves watching interracial porn while having a large black dildo driven in to her. They are her best orgasms. We talked last night about her replacing the dildo with a real person. She made clear that whatever happens it will be her decision, that she is contemplating it, but it's a matter of if not when. She also said that it was more likely that if she goes through with it, it will be me, not her, that asks her to do it again. I laughed and said if anyone was going to be asking for more after her first time it will be her. Is this true? Once the first time is behind a wife, is she more likely to want to do it again? How important is finding the right guy for the first time?

What I 'colored' is a bit of a red flag for me. To me, it sounds like she is saying she is doing this for you and you will have to ask her to do it again. Maybe I'm wrong in my assessment and that may not have been what she meant. By your verbage, she seems to be telling you that you made be pushing too much.
I would say, talk to her to clear this up or maybe you already have.

Each wife is different in does she want to do it again. And, the biggest part to play in that is how you react and how you treat her before during and after. Does she have freedom to be herself? Those things can make a difference.

I can speak for me; Once I had tried it, I wanted more, much more! Finding the right guy: I find my own so, I figure he is the right guy before I'm spreading my legs for him.

[coastalkid]

What is the longest you've gone without sex (other than your husband) since becoming a Hot Wife? Do you ever get cranky when it has been too long between sessions for you?

[Farmgirl]

What is the longest you've gone without sex (other than your husband) since becoming a Hot Wife? Do you ever get cranky when it has been too long between sessions for you?

coastalkid, it's hard to say. I've maybe gone months whenever I'm between men. The normal for me is to not go longer than a week, though things come up from time to time. Work, health, family, etc. get in the way just as with all things.

Cranky? Me? My Number1 says I nip at him if I haven't been fucked often enough. I really like it 2-3 times a week so, to keep me from nipping, he encourages me.

[coconspirators]

Hi. My wife is in to black guys but is hesitant to take to the proverbial plunge. She loves watching interracial porn while having a large black dildo driven in to her. They are her best orgasms. We talked last night about her replacing the dildo with a real person. She made clear that whatever happens it will be her decision, that she is contemplating it, but it's a matter of if not when. She also said that it was more likely that if she goes through with it, it will be me, not her, that asks her to do it again. I laughed and said if anyone was going to be asking for more after her first time it will be her. Is this true? Once the first time is behind a wife, is she more likely to want to do it again? How important is finding the right guy for the first time?

What I 'colored' is a bit of a red flag for me. To me, it sounds like she is saying she is doing this for you and you will have to ask her to do it again. Maybe I'm wrong in my assessment and that may not have been what she meant. By your verbage, she seems to be telling you that you made be pushing too much.
I would say, talk to her to clear this up or maybe you already have.

Each wife is different in does she want to do it again. And, the biggest part to play in that is how you react and how you treat her before during and after. Does she have freedom to be herself? Those things can make a difference.

I can speak for me; Once I had tried it, I wanted more, much more! Finding the right guy: I find my own so, I figure he is the right guy before I'm spreading my legs for him.

Thanks for the response Farmgirl. She is definitely thinking about it on her own. No doubt she is also thinking about it for me as well. She has stated numerous times how awesome it would feel to have the real thing. When she masturbates, she admits all she thinks about is getting fucked by a nice looking, well endowed black guy. She rides her dildo in rhythm with the women being fucked in Blacked videos. I think her biggest reluctance is the possibility of being rejected. She is in her mid-fifties, looks awesome, but doesn't seem to have the confidence in her looks or belief in her own attractiveness to go through with it. We both agree it is her choice if she does in fact go through with it. I guess time will tell

[Farmgirl]

Hi. My wife is in to black guys but is hesitant to take to the proverbial plunge. She loves watching interracial porn while having a large black dildo driven in to her. They are her best orgasms. We talked last night about her replacing the dildo with a real person. She made clear that whatever happens it will be her decision, that she is contemplating it, but it's a matter of if not when. She also said that it was more likely that if she goes through with it, it will be me, not her, that asks her to do it again. I laughed and said if anyone was going to be asking for more after her first time it will be her. Is this true? Once the first time is behind a wife, is she more likely to want to do it again? How important is finding the right guy for the first time?

What I 'colored' is a bit of a red flag for me. To me, it sounds like she is saying she is doing this for you and you will have to ask her to do it again. Maybe I'm wrong in my assessment and that may not have been what she meant. By your verbage, she seems to be telling you that you made be pushing too much.
I would say, talk to her to clear this up or maybe you already have.

Each wife is different in does she want to do it again. And, the biggest part to play in that is how you react and how you treat her before during and after. Does she have freedom to be herself? Those things can make a difference.

I can speak for me; Once I had tried it, I wanted more, much more! Finding the right guy: I find my own so, I figure he is the right guy before I'm spreading my legs for him.

Thanks for the response Farmgirl. She is definitely thinking about it on her own. No doubt she is also thinking about it for me as well. She has stated numerous times how awesome it would feel to have the real thing. When she masturbates, she admits all she thinks about is getting fucked by a nice looking, well endowed black guy. She rides her dildo in rhythm with the women being fucked in Blacked videos. I think her biggest reluctance is the possibility of being rejected. She is in her mid-fifties, looks awesome, but doesn't seem to have the confidence in her looks or belief in her own attractiveness to go through with it. We both agree it is her choice if she does in fact go through with it. I guess time will tell

Mid 50's is a great age to start, she'll have several years of fun before she even thinks of hanging it up. I'm 64 now and have no trouble getting younger men!

[lookingiansa]

Good for you at 64 still wanting sex. My wife 55 and I am cleared to breed her what good news IKR.

We are empty nesters now we both feel we need to make up for lost time.

[RobinAdams]

Glad to join the discussion. My short back story. My lady and I have been together for about 15 years now. She expressed to me early on that she really enjoyed giving blowjobs. Years into the relationship i divulged her with wanting to watch her give somebody else head. It took some time but she finally agreed. About 10 years ago, or 5 years into the relationship she agreed to finally do it. Me a guy on LifeStyle and the second meeting she went for it. Didn’t seem to nervous or anything. We invited him over once shortly after that evening. Then it took about 5 years later to experience this again. Same routine, meet guy on LS at bar this time she was ready and kind of took charge of the night but suggesting we leave so we could get the show moving. That was about 3 or 4 years ago. Met up with him on 1 other occasion. Last time was a guy about 2 months ago literally the same story. Now to my question to the hotwives is this. How do I get her to want to do it more and to do some of the leg work. In the past I’ve always done all the leg work and prescreening of guys. I’d even like for her to just go and do and tell me all the juicy details when she comes home. I’ve even expressed to her that I’d love to receive a video of her with a dick in her mouth while I’m working. Yes I’ve expressed that many of times and often so often that she recently stated that it seems like that is the only thing I want. How do I get her to get after it more, or am I pushing to much??? Help ladies, advice is needed. Yes she repeatedly talks about sucking guys off while we have sex, very often.

[Farmgirl]

Good for you at 64 still wanting sex. My wife 55 and I am cleared to breed her what good news IKR.

We are empty nesters now we both feel we need to make up for lost time.

I don't find it odd at all for STILL wanting sex. When do you think I should quit?

On breeding your wife, do you use artificial insemination or take her to a stud/bull/etc?

[TonyF25]

Ok hello. I'm a cickold in chastity. My wife is a hotwife. The relationship is strong and great. No problems. This is a seconded marrage for both of us.. tThs is just for background. I want some input about my first wife. The first maggage did not end well. She was sexually active from 14 . I wasn't Moatly because I was ashamed. I 'm very small less then 3 inches errect and about as thick as a thumb. I'm also fast on the trigger. I mean it works ,I did get her pregnant. But always left her sexually frustrated. Well I was doing the laundry on day and found the telltale signs of sex in her panties. I had not had sex with her in about 2 weeks, so this looked suspicious. I watched her and she was making quiet quick phone calls.Then disappearing for hours, living me with the baby. Finally I came home early and there was a car in the driveway. I pulled down the street. I saw him leave.
Ok I wasn't angry , this whole time the thought of her with another guy turned me on. When he left ,I went home. I grabbed he and kissed her she pulled away. I told her I knew and it was ok. It excited me.
She got angry at me. She accused me of spying on her, Then she got angry tbat I was not mad. She said I'm your wife and you like it that I'm having a affair. We fought for about a week. She told me if another man slepping with her was exciting to me , I shold leave. I did. My question is why would it get her angry, that I caught her having a affair and was not angry at her. And I became the bad guy.

[Sophie]

Ok hello. I'm a cickold in chastity. My wife is a hotwife. The relationship is strong and great. No problems. This is a seconded marrage for both of us.. tThs is just for background. I want some input about my first wife. The first maggage did not end well. She was sexually active from 14 . I wasn't Moatly because I was ashamed. I 'm very small less then 3 inches errect and about as thick as a thumb. I'm also fast on the trigger. I mean it works ,I did get her pregnant. But always left her sexually frustrated. Well I was doing the laundry on day and found the telltale signs of sex in her panties. I had not had sex with her in about 2 weeks, so this looked suspicious. I watched her and she was making quiet quick phone calls.Then disappearing for hours, living me with the baby. Finally I came home early and there was a car in the driveway. I pulled down the street. I saw him leave.
Ok I wasn't angry , this whole time the thought of her with another guy turned me on. When he left ,I went home. I grabbed he and kissed her she pulled away. I told her I knew and it was ok. It excited me.
She got angry at me. She accused me of spying on her, Then she got angry tbat I was not mad. She said I'm your wife and you like it that I'm having a affair. We fought for about a week. She told me if another man slepping with her was exciting to me , I shold leave. I did. My question is why would it get her angry, that I caught her having a affair and was not angry at her. And I became the bad guy.

TonyF25, Some women want the husband to own them as a possession. Perhaps your wife was that type.

Sophie.

[TonyF25]

Ok hello. I'm a cickold in chastity. My wife is a hotwife. The relationship is strong and great. No problems. This is a seconded marrage for both of us.. tThs is just for background. I want some input about my first wife. The first maggage did not end well. She was sexually active from 14 . I wasn't Moatly because I was ashamed. I 'm very small less then 3 inches errect and about as thick as a thumb. I'm also fast on the trigger. I mean it works ,I did get her pregnant. But always left her sexually frustrated. Well I was doing the laundry on day and found the telltale signs of sex in her panties. I had not had sex with her in about 2 weeks, so this looked suspicious. I watched her and she was making quiet quick phone calls.Then disappearing for hours, living me with the baby. Finally I came home early and there was a car in the driveway. I pulled down the street. I saw him leave.
Ok I wasn't angry , this whole time the thought of her with another guy turned me on. When he left ,I went home. I grabbed he and kissed her she pulled away. I told her I knew and it was ok. It excited me.
She got angry at me. She accused me of spying on her, Then she got angry tbat I was not mad. She said I'm your wife and you like it that I'm having a affair. We fought for about a week. She told me if another man slepping with her was exciting to me , I shold leave. I did. My question is why would it get her angry, that I caught her having a affair and was not angry at her. And I became the bad guy.

TonyF25, Some women want the husband to own them as a possession. Perhaps your wife was that type.

Sophie.

I think your right, my wife said the same thing.But what I don't understand about her reaction was how much angry she held. She divorced me. Claiming I spyed on her.
I told her after her calssness got her caught , that I didn't care. That I know sex was frustrating for her because of me. That I was glad she was getting what she needed. I told her we just had to sit down and come up with a plan so the baby wasn't alone when she had company, and yet I didn't walk in on them. She said how can you tell me it's ok to have a lover. I said well you do have a lover that I didn't know about.
There were things that did hurt me. When we did do it it was mostly oral or fongers, because I had trouble preforming the normal way. But when she let me she had me wear a condom to prevent any mess in the bed , and to keep her from getting pregnant. . But when I found her panties in the laundry the crouch was stiff like cardboard and there were cum stains. She was taking him bareback. She told me she went on the pill because he wanted her too. So it looks like he owned her. Wounder what your thoughts are , on this. Just looking for the closer I never got. I still see her when I pick my son up we have joint custody.. But have no feelings or jeliousey toward. I love my current wife.....toni

[lookingiansa]

Good for you at 64 still wanting sex. My wife 55 and I am cleared to breed her what good news IKR.

We are empty nesters now we both feel we need to make up for lost time.

I don't find it odd at all for STILL wanting sex. When do you think I should quit?

On breeding your wife, do you use artificial insemination or take her to a stud/bull/etc?

Farmgirl

I truly meant what I said as a compliment in my wife's circle of friends many don't like sex once para menapause and Menapause sets in. In late 40's early 50's.

I just hope I'm that lucky that my wife of 29 years still will be like you in her 60's she just turned 55.

The breeding thing is you know what that is. She just got the news from the doctor that she is in menapause and I can finally have sex and not get her pregnant. I'm am the bull BTW nobody else gets her but me.

She was allergic to latex no condom okay years ago I know they make vinal condoms bit they were too brittle for us . And allergic to pill and didn't want iud. So it took alot of control in my end and will power not to shoot but now clean bill of health.

Again not meaning any disrrpect to you was meant in a good way, and I apologise in advance if it did offend you.

[Farmgirl]

Good for you at 64 still wanting sex. My wife 55 and I am cleared to breed her what good news IKR.

We are empty nesters now we both feel we need to make up for lost time.

I don't find it odd at all for STILL wanting sex. When do you think I should quit?

On breeding your wife, do you use artificial insemination or take her to a stud/bull/etc?

Farmgirl

I truly meant what I said as a compliment in my wife's circle of friends many don't like sex once para menapause and Menapause sets in. In late 40's early 50's.

I just hope I'm that lucky that my wife of 29 years still will be like you in her 60's she just turned 55.

The breeding thing is you know what that is. She just got the news from the doctor that she is in menapause and I can finally have sex and not get her pregnant. I'm am the bull BTW nobody else gets her but me.

She was allergic to latex no condom okay years ago I know they make vinal condoms bit they were too brittle for us . And allergic to pill and didn't want iud. So it took alot of control in my end and will power not to shoot but now clean bill of health.

Again not meaning any disrrpect to you was meant in a good way, and I apologise in advance if it did offend you.

Thanks for the clarification and the apology. Using the word "still" with a woman's age usually doesn't come across very well . Remove the red word above and it sounds better .
All is good, the character you show speaks well of you .

[lookingiansa]

Good for you at 64 still wanting sex. My wife 55 and I am cleared to breed her what good news IKR.

We are empty nesters now we both feel we need to make up for lost time.

I don't find it odd at all for STILL wanting sex. When do you think I should quit?

On breeding your wife, do you use artificial insemination or take her to a stud/bull/etc?

Farmgirl

I truly meant what I said as a compliment in my wife's circle of friends many don't like sex once para menapause and Menapause sets in. In late 40's early 50's.

I just hope I'm that lucky that my wife of 29 years still will be like you in her 60's she just turned 55.

The breeding thing is you know what that is. She just got the news from the doctor that she is in menapause and I can finally have sex and not get her pregnant. I'm am the bull BTW nobody else gets her but me.

She was allergic to latex no condom okay years ago I know they make vinal condoms bit they were too brittle for us . And allergic to pill and didn't want iud. So it took alot of control in my end and will power not to shoot but now clean bill of health.

Again not meaning any disrrpect to you was meant in a good way, and I apologise in advance if it did offend you.

Thanks for the clarification and the apology. Using the word "still" with a woman's age usually doesn't come across very well . Remove the red word above and it sounds better .
All is good, the character you show speaks well of you .

Farmgirl

Thanks for letting me know about using the word "still". Where are you from located near must be somewhere in Midwest right?? We are in Eastern Iowa between Cedar Rapids and IA Quad Cites on a rural acreage in middle of nowhere.

thanks for accepting my apology

[Farmgirl]

Farmgirl

Thanks for letting me know about using the word "still". Where are you from located near must be somewhere in Midwest right?? We are in Eastern Iowa between Cedar Rapids and IA Quad Cites on a rural acreage in middle of nowhere.

thanks for accepting my apology

I very well understand rural living . We're ranchers in southwest Arkansas. Haven't been to your part of Iowa yet but, we do go through the western side a few times a year.

[petled1235]

Hi hot wives,

Have any of you guys transition from cuckolding to polyamory in which your cuck husband was also able to seek out other partners as well?

[Sophie]

Hi hot wives,

Have any of you guys transition from cuckolding to polyamory in which your cuck husband was also able to seek out other partners as well?

petled1235, Just had to say, when I just look I am still a lady, not a guy.

No we have not made a change from cuckolding to polyamory.

Sophie.

[superb101]

Ladies, what is the kinkiest thing (other than your hubs) has asked you to do? And did you do it or refuse? Did you like it or hate it?

[Sophie]

At the time it was kinky, but now it is not so kinky from my point of view. I was asked to leed a couple of guys by their penises around the car park of the pub we went to for a bdsm play nights, they were naked and me in a short leather Mistress dress from Honor in London.

I actually loved it, because it was the start of being accepted into the inner circle of the club. I still remember it as if it was yesterday, especially when I leed a lover to his bed by his penis.

Sophie.

[glakes85]

Hello,

I am in an awkward situation. I have a wife that was extremely adventurous when we first got together (we have been together for seventeen years - since high school), but right after we got married, she became religious (conservative catholic). Now our sex life is quite different. It is only missionary - oral is allowed for foreplay - and dirty talk is a non-starter for the most part. She also will not talk about anything sexual - e.g., her fantasies.

I have been interested in the fantasy for years - since before we got married. At first - prior to getting married - she enjoyed it as dirty talk and fantasizing about while we were having sex. I would like to reintroduce the topic somehow even if with extremely small baby steps to try to have her open up more sexually.

I guess I am looking for advice on how to start somewhere or if the situation is hopeless. She says she enjoys sex, and she does orgasm from it, so I assume she is just not turned off from it completely. I whole situation is driving me mad to be completely honest. I am just looking for help from women who have gone through some sort of process to become more open and comfortable with their sexuality.

Thank you.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum glakes85. Not talking about her fantasies is not unique to your wife. Many women won't talk about it even though you know they have them. Mine opened up a lot when I was in Iraq and we were both horny as hell and on Skype.

[glakes85]

Welcome to the forum glakes85. Not talking about her fantasies is not unique to your wife. Many women won't talk about it even though you know they have them. Mine opened up a lot when I was in Iraq and we were both horny as hell and on Skype.

Thank you.

It would be interested to hear a hotwife's perspective on some of the other points.

Thank you,

Ed

[Farmgirl]

Welcome to the forum glakes85. Not talking about her fantasies is not unique to your wife. Many women won't talk about it even though you know they have them. Mine opened up a lot when I was in Iraq and we were both horny as hell and on Skype.

Thank you.

It would be interested to hear a hotwife's perspective on some of the other points.

Thank you,

Ed

I'm at a loss as to the other points, I haven't seen them, is something missing?

[glakes85]

Welcome to the forum glakes85. Not talking about her fantasies is not unique to your wife. Many women won't talk about it even though you know they have them. Mine opened up a lot when I was in Iraq and we were both horny as hell and on Skype.

Thank you.

It would be interested to hear a hotwife's perspective on some of the other points.

Thank you,

Ed

I'm at a loss as to the other points, I haven't seen them, is something missing?

Sorry. I am not sure what happened.

Long story short. My wife was adventurous when we first got together (over 17 years ago), but shortly after we were married she became religious and kind of shut off from anything other than standard PIV - e.g., no fantasy talk, etc... Before marriage, she used to think talking about hotwifing was hot and got off on during sex. I am trying to figure out if it is even worthwhile trying to bring up again and how best to approach (I know it will have to go real slow).