Who suggested the Hot Wife Lifestyle

[Cdncuck]

I suggested it when we were quite young. She tried it and I doubt now you could force her to stop. Took to it like a duck to water

[Jerzeycuckhub]

I think in most cases it will be the husband that breeches the subject. I don't think most women initially accept the fact that their hubby wants them to fuck other guys and is only using it as a ploy for him to fuck other women. In our case, I am totally satisfied with being monogamous with her, but I find it highly erotic that she experiences other men, especially those who can give her something I cannot. I also think it does wonders for a woman's self confidence that she is constantly desired by other men of all ages, colors, etc..

[54321]

I love this thread.

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[54321]

Bump!

[vrmtr]

Mine...she has not acted on it...but I suggested it and we are still discussing and roleplaying

[xochipili66]

I dropped hints for years, but it was she who took action by suddenly beginning to sexy-text a guy she knew on Facebook. She came to me and admitted it, we talked like adults, and she ended up doing him a few weeks later. That was the beginning of an incredible journey.

[Wifedates]

Knowing Donna had several lovers prior to marriage I was aware that Donna loved sex and variety. It wasn't until after we were married for quite some time that I brought the idea to her. At first she thought I was testing her loyalty, but once she understood I wasn't that it would be great for both of us for many reasons we agreed to go forward with no regrets,
Ken

[isinlarsa]

I've been married twice, and both marriages started with the expectation of total monogamy. However, after a number of years, each of my wives suggested we open our marriage.

My first wife was attracted to the husband of a couple we socialized with, and she suggested we switch. After that, she also took a co-worker as a fuck buddy solo.

My second wife came to me and said she wanted to meet and date other men. She would have been okay if I also dated, but I found it hot to have her date and me stay faithful.

[Passion4sharingamy]

Adults only: Ours was a combination of my wife’s flirtatious personality with my fantasy of seeing her have sex with other men. I sense that Amy “controlled” her hidden desires of being a “sex pot” for years because of her strict upbringing. The mixture of my telling her off and on about my fantasy and her growing desire for more sexual exploration outside our marriage finally came together after 7 years of marriage and her regular flight attendant travels far away from home around men who flirted with her. The mixture of our experiences, new lifestyle friends, strong hormones and more open communication about our fantasies brought us to the point of trying the hot wife, sharing arrangement. What started out as only to be a “one-time” experiment has turned out to be our mutually enjoyed lifestyle. Jim

[Hooker]

Yep, he did, but then I suggested lots of things once I knew and loved it

[txhwhubby]

I voted husband because I brought it up in this marriage. I told my wife about my ex being a hotwife and that I would never deny her something I had let someone else do. Now my ex brought it up to me. She had heard or read about it and had done some research and wanted to try it. I agreed, we tried it and we liked it.

[Shamblerett]

My husband suggested it. At first I rejected it out of hand but then I thought about it for a quick minute. I had already had one long term affair, and lots and lots of partners before Hubs. It wasn't a month after Hubs brought it up, that I spent a weekend in bed with another man.

[jpapjp]

Hard to answer that question. No one suggested it really. It wasn't discussed and planned, it just happened. We had been married 35 years. The first man to take her had told me he wanted her. I told him I was on board with it, but I doubted it would ever happen. We barely knew him, we only spent an hour or two next to him on a nude beach. He used to be in town on business once a week. He and I arranged an "accidental" meeting at a restaurant and things went from there. That evening he told me he would be in her panties within 3 weeks and I thought no way. Boy was I wrong! When it happened I was shocked (but very excited) that she went for it. He fucked her right in front of me and I was thoroughly cuckolded with all those glorious mixed up first time emotions. It quickly went from there to a Hotwife/cuckold lifestyle. Whatever he wants he gets in our house (including me sometimes), though we don't see him very often these days as he is rarely in town anymore. But she has others...... I think what surprised me most was how quickly she got into it and how soon she had me in panties and heels and then in full sissy outfits - which I love. Now she fucks other men for sexual satisfaction and makes love with me for emotional satisfaction, sometimes even while I am dressed. I do get sexual satisfaction from our love making, but I'm physically disappointing for her now compared to her bulls with their big cocks - she's a size queen now, all it took was that first really big one.

[Passion4sharingamy]

Adults Only: It's funny but the week before we got married, my own dad sort of helped me realize something about my soon to be wife Amy. We were at my dad's country club for a special evening with hundreds of people (having dinner and dancing, etc.), and my dad was alone with me for a minute as we looked across the room watching Amy (25 then, wearing a stunning black outfit) talking to a couple of 30+ year old single guys who were obviously flirting with her. He told me something like, "Jim, Amy is a very charming and beautiful girl--you know that you 'married up,' right? I just want to give you some fatherly advice because I guarantee that Amy will always have men wanting to be near her; she's very charming and attractive. Just know that at some point in your marriage, you will need to deal with the reality that Amy is a free spirit who is adventurous and obviously likes to socialize with men. This may make you feel jealous at times, but I'm sure you will find a way to control those feelings and keep her happy too." I didn't really connect what he told me until years later when I first saw Amy enjoy sex with another man...and then his words came back to me. I think he predicted a possible "hotwife" future for her but I didn't really understand all that until years later into our marriage. Jim

[zorro]

R and I knew each other for 5 years but had to go separate ways. After 35 years with no contact, R found me, which is a great thing, because I had been searching for her on line to no avail. When we got back together, I told her about the swinging and extra guy service I had been engaging in for 6 years. I told her, knowing her libertine, sex positive nature from years before, "You'd love it!" After 3 months, she tried it -- and she did! Since then we have done many MFMs, almost all of which have been super. She has infrequently played alone, but only with a guy we had played with many times.

So, I take either the credit or the blame (nothing wrong to blame for). She says she loves the lifestyle and at times takes the initiative to ask if there is a party we can attend, so we are two very happy and sexually fulfilled campers!

[tractorman2]

I vote me the husband but only because after first cheating on me when she was 16 by her mid 20s I found she was having a long term affair with my then best friend, she then confessed to doing her driving instructor earlier, fitting them around having 2 kids too. I figured that as I had encouraged her with my best mate I knew I had a wild child of a wife who liked a little extra, I had liked watching them too so I would be better having some involvement and an element of control. Works well!

[54321]

needs a bump

[54321]

I've suggested it but no luck so far. Any ideas? What happened with you?

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[Wesley Hudson Valley]

My wife and my penis suggested the Hotwife lifestyle.

Years ago prior to our Hotwife lifestyle my wife and I would often watch porn or read erotic short stories such as what you would read in Penthouse forum

As a side note during sex with my wife I would admit to myself I was not completely satisfying my wife’s insatiable sexual appetite

My wife was kind to word it this way, we need to add something to spice up our sex life. We talked about a few ideas then my wife pointed out my erection got the hardest when we read Hotwife stories and equally hard when watching interracial porn featuring black men with blonde females my wife being a blonde.

So not realizing it my penis had “discreetly” disclosed to my wife what turns me in the most. Which lead her to suggest the Hotwife lifestyle plus from her dating history it was obvious she likes black men.

I was embarrassed at first then in short order my wife and I starting planning together how to try the Hotwife lifestyle

[zorro]

They say a woman has to be dragged into swinging and dragged away from it.

I think that's true!

[dinoo]

Difficult to say.
Prior to our HW lifestyle and during an evening with hot sex, LadyD asked me if, meanwhile having sex with her, I dreamed to have sex with another person. I said no because she was always satisfying me. Do you, I asked her? Yes was her answer.
A year or so later she wanted me telling her my encounters with other women. I did honestly. She was "disappointed" with the number and asked me then to disclose myself, to show to her what I liked to watch on internet. I showed her some of my downloads. The next question was what I liked most. I showed her one of my favorites, HW-ing and cuckolding.
She kept questioning me and finally asked which was my ultimate dream.
"Once watching a man unloading around and in your mouth after a BJ" was my answer.
"If it happened, would you clean me?" was the next question.
"If you take my head to force me, yes" I said.

Our conversation became hotter and hotter. Finally we agreed on visiting a swingers club. It was her choice to attend the nudist evening.
After only 5 to 10 minutes after our nervous entry, men were already massaging her breasts and feeling her pussy. I was scared that she wouln't like this bold approach but told me to let them after I asked her to stop them. Ten minutes later she was fucked. Another man unloaded in to her mouth ( she told me at home, I didn't remark).

A very big part of the evening she had beautiful sex with a nice man, denying my presence completely.
At the end of the evening (it was after midnight) six men unloaded their sperm on her body. More were looking at.
"Come on guys, is this all? I want more." I remember still these words as it happened yesterday, but obviously "they were empty".
LadyD didn't clean her body, took only a summerdress on her naked dried cum covered body and we went home. There I had to lick her clean.
A HW was born.

Sorry for this very shortenend "cold expressed" version.
Who suggested the Hot Wife Lifestyle??????????????

[Johnann2227]

Neither instigated it really. We discovered swinging by accident with friends in our early 20s and both loved it. We knew it was just about sex and pleasure and not love and commitment so jealousy was not a problem. I always wanted Ann to experience the best in life and she got turned on watching me fuck other women. Swinging sort of progressed into open marriage where either of us were allowed to pick up a one night stand if we were out separately. That turned into dating others. Our main rule was that the dating had to stop if real feelings started to develop.

[Natatude]

Grizzly is the one who came up with the idea, I was young, only 24, he said my buddy that I had here last night? I said yeah, he said I wanted you to fuck him. I said well why didn’t you say so before hand dummy??? he said would you have done it? I said would you care? He said no it turns me on, I said ok, let’s do it, so I chose my friend and we had our first threesome and he turned into my lover of 25 years!! he doesn’t want to have sex with any other women, he wants me to have a lover that I can play with and come back and let him have sex with me, show him pics and vid’s of us together.

[rebelsc61]

Before we were married I arranged for her and another woman. 18 years later, after some online risky business with a co-worker, our porn style changed to strictly MFM. After asking her about it all, she said this is what she wants!

[Parsifal]

They say a woman has to be dragged into swinging and dragged away from it.

I think that's true!

So true, yes