Getting cheated on.

[BlueSiteSurfer]

Wow, I can relate to all of this. I caught my ex-wife planning to cheat with a old long distance boyfriend through emails and AOL messenger (this was the 90's). I didn't take it well and confronted her with it but the experience immediately pushed my libido through the roof and with no other outlet, I would jack off daily to fantasies of her cheating on me. Before this, I didn't even know cuckolding was a thing. Betrayal is in important part of the arousal for me, fully consensual cuckolding feels more like swinging where one partner doesn't get laid , done that too but it pushes a different button.

The experience also changed my taste in women and I found myself attracted to women with bad behavior, my present wife included (she knows my taste). It probably should not have been surprising then that I caught her cheating with a nanny cam in the living room, yeah, no ambiguity on what was going on there. She had previously told me she would call this guy for booty calls during her first marriage, she neglected to mention she still had his number. I played it cooler this time and have never said anything. I still regularly get off on the video even though it was more than 15 years ago.

[Romanraven]

My wife has been cheating on me for at least 2 years, probably as long and 2 and a half years.

She doesn't have the slightest clue that I know about it. I happened to be messing around with the Toyota App one day (she has a Toyota) and noticed that it records all trips that the car makes.. I scrolled back a bit and saw a trip to a location that she has no reason to go to (not a work location or a place with shops...)

That got my interest so I checked back to point when she got the car and found trips to the same residential location happened about every 2 weeks... A bit of decective work later I'd identified her FWB - it was a male aquaintance of her's that she hardly ever spoke about... but of course all I knew at that point was that she went to this guy's house every couple of weeks and never once mentioned it to me... I mean they could have been doing something totally innocent... I found out they weren't when I put a small digital voice recorder in her handbag....

This is extremely hot. You seem very content with the situation!

Does she typically behave any differently on days when she’s seen him? Do you ever try to initiate sex with her just to enjoy the inevitable rejection? Does she mock you on the voice recordings?

I can't say that she does behave differently when she sees him - what I do know is that she does an exceptionally good job of keeping it all hidden.. I would have known nothing about it had it not been for pure blind luck and coincidence. The last time we actually had full sex was about 5 1/2 years ago - so I pretty much don't bother trying anymore.
Annoyingly they go to the bedroom for sex and she leaves her bag in the living room... However, the voice recorder is good enough that I can pick up some talk and the sounds of him and her cumming. While I have been mentioned, I haaven't heard anything bad about me.

[4incheslong]

I have been cheated on many times. Tried to get her to do a threesome early in our dating but she was not interested. But she took my cuck like tendencies and her promiscous past and ran with it. She doesn't tell me anything I have to do some sluthing like Romanraven describes. If I confront her she will deny it unless I have some proof. She says it's hotter if I don't know. Some are obvious like when she had all new thongs. I let that one go and didn't say anything.

The one that surprised me the most was when we were at dinner with her sister and her mother. The sister got mad at my wife for something and said to me out loud, that on the cruise they all took my wife had hooked up with a young Italian guy and they couldn't keep their hands off each other the entire trip. When I asked her about not telling me she denied it and said she had wanted to fuck him but he had a GF. Right!

[JeffCA]

This is a great thread. Thank you for all the husbands that have posted about their experiences.