wife interested in other guy

[gordon921]

Hi Bi, again just dropping in... so with you agreement. I'm looking at the extreme..
So G stays at Conner's 5 nights a week (not sure if that's possible but don't have the time to scroll through 13 pages, Conner comes to your place once a week (G still stays at Conner's) and you spend 2 night a week with G at your place.
So in 4 weeks 28 days, you will see G 8 days, she and C will be together exclusively 16 days, you'll be with Conner 4 days, so you'll be by yourself for 16 days!
Are you and her allowed to talk to each other every day or when they are really exclusive?
Have the three of you agreed a safe word, i.e. game over/stop, this is not working and the three of you have agreed to stop totally until you can talk it out..

[Bi+Gigh]

Hi Bi, again just dropping in... so with you agreement. I'm looking at the extreme..
So G stays at Conner's 5 nights a week (not sure if that's possible but don't have the time to scroll through 13 pages, Conner comes to your place once a week (G still stays at Conner's) and you spend 2 night a week with G at your place.
So in 4 weeks 28 days, you will see G 8 days, she and C will be together exclusively 16 days, you'll be with Conner 4 days, so you'll be by yourself for 16 days!
Are you and her allowed to talk to each other every day or when they are really exclusive?
Have the three of you agreed a safe word, i.e. game over/stop, this is not working and the three of you have agreed to stop totally until you can talk it out..

Gordon,
Thanks as always for putting your thoughts into this.
One thing I need to make you aware of (true, you can't scroll thru 13 pages) is that G has maybe been to Conors place 3-4 times. His roommate works with them and is so far unaware of their relationship (I think). So when G and Conor are together, it will almost exclusively take place at our condo unless they are traveling etc. And we are all comfortable that I will be there but obviously staying in the guest room unless occasionally watching or somehow participating. We have stepped things up as a triad, as it's been referred to, so no one is being excluded or shut out. Just some changes to the arrangement. Changes that I think are pretty exciting. But, we'll see.

[Bi+Gigh]

And we spent the afternoon looking at possible choices for a cock cage. Conor wants me to give him my top 3 choices and he wants to order them (and pay for them, too). So, I guess it's possible I could be caged by the end of the week.

[Open2it]

Proper fit is important for longish wear. An open cage makes it easier to keep everything clean.

[Bi+Gigh]

Proper fit is important for longish wear. An open cage makes it easier to keep everything clean.

Thanks, Open2it.

[gordon921]

Gordon,
Thanks as always for putting your thoughts into this.
One thing I need to make you aware of (true, you can't scroll thru 13 pages) is that G has maybe been to Conors place 3-4 times. His roommate works with them and is so far unaware of their relationship (I think). So when G and Conor are together, it will almost exclusively take place at our condo unless they are traveling etc. And we are all comfortable that I will be there but obviously staying in the guest room unless occasionally watching or somehow participating. We have stepped things up as a triad, as it's been referred to, so no one is being excluded or shut out. Just some changes to the arrangement. Changes that I think are pretty exciting. But, we'll see.

I did have a feeling there was an issue with G staying at C, which I think is good. At least you are all together for those 5 days, however I would suggest the 2 days you have with G, are only with you and G, not C staying in the guest room, which looks like has been agreed, the two of you need total alone time and I hope without thinking to much of C, the two of you check in with each other as you did to start off with and do the husband and wife stuff. You are the married couple, C is a guest the two of you have allowed in, it makes it more complicated that you are both involved with him, but think you both need to be straight and truthful with each other about the triad and if it looks like it could threaten your marriage.

I also think that B&G alone time will help you get out of you "submissive & pleasing mindset" and G to really drill into if this is really what you want (and her) to do.. proceed, as I'm sure in the heat of the moment you will make more concessions, again and again, it's in your nature.

Remember C is going back home at some stage, he has some very compelling reasons to go, so if he does, you and G need to ensure your marriage does not come out damaged the other side, but enriched and more knowledgeable if you two should ever find another C.

I am glad the three of you are getting along and enjoying each other, hopefully I'm not throwing up too many negatives for you, but I'm not a board cheerleader (there are enough of them) that will just congratulate you and push you to do more and more things, seen to many car/train/plane crashes on here from that behaviour (yes I'm English if you've not worked it out by now!!). They have no interest in how it turns out for you, hopefully you understand I'm just pointing out some of the pitfalls that may lie ahead so you can not go blindly forward into them.

Enjoy the week and check in sometime. We're having fun in the UK, not been incinerated by the sun if we step outside today and tomorrow, grew up in the tropics and visited your country years ago where our trip took us through death valley, so yes it's warm!!

I did it with friends - New York to Los Angeles by car (we had to disconnect the seedo cable), down to San Diego for a while, then drove up the PCH to Seattle into Canada and Vancouver Island, then I had three flights back home one after the other, think I nearly spent 24 hours in a plane over about 36, but a trip I'll never forget.

[Bi+Gigh]

So I'm getting caged Wednesday. Conor said last night that since he becomes the key holder then "now is as good as any time" to start doing what he wants. He had me trim my pubes all the way back, says he doesn't like them. He did the same with G.
For all you guys who are caged, do I have to do everything he wants?

[airhorn]

So I'm getting caged Wednesday. Conor said last night that since he becomes the key holder then "now is as good as any time" to start doing what he wants. He had me trim my pubes all the way back, says he doesn't like them. He did the same with G.
For all you guys who are caged, do I have to do everything he wants?

If you want it to be that way, sure.

If you don't, then don't. There might be consequences (why play a game if you're not going to play along?), but it's up to you.

That said, if you're wearing a cage I imagine it'll be less uncomfortable if you're not getting your goddamn ball hair stuck in it. I'm told that really doesn't feel good.

[Bi+Gigh]

Gordon,
Thanks as always for putting your thoughts into this.
One thing I need to make you aware of (true, you can't scroll thru 13 pages) is that G has maybe been to Conors place 3-4 times. His roommate works with them and is so far unaware of their relationship (I think). So when G and Conor are together, it will almost exclusively take place at our condo unless they are traveling etc. And we are all comfortable that I will be there but obviously staying in the guest room unless occasionally watching or somehow participating. We have stepped things up as a triad, as it's been referred to, so no one is being excluded or shut out. Just some changes to the arrangement. Changes that I think are pretty exciting. But, we'll see.

I did have a feeling there was an issue with G staying at C, which I think is good. At least you are all together for those 5 days, however I would suggest the 2 days you have with G, are only with you and G, not C staying in the guest room, which looks like has been agreed, the two of you need total alone time and I hope without thinking to much of C, the two of you check in with each other as you did to start off with and do the husband and wife stuff. You are the married couple, C is a guest the two of you have allowed in, it makes it more complicated that you are both involved with him, but think you both need to be straight and truthful with each other about the triad and if it looks like it could threaten your marriage.

I also think that B&G alone time will help you get out of you "submissive & pleasing mindset" and G to really drill into if this is really what you want (and her) to do.. proceed, as I'm sure in the heat of the moment you will make more concessions, again and again, it's in your nature.

Remember C is going back home at some stage, he has some very compelling reasons to go, so if he does, you and G need to ensure your marriage does not come out damaged the other side, but enriched and more knowledgeable if you two should ever find another C.

I am glad the three of you are getting along and enjoying each other, hopefully I'm not throwing up too many negatives for you, but I'm not a board cheerleader (there are enough of them) that will just congratulate you and push you to do more and more things, seen to many car/train/plane crashes on here from that behaviour (yes I'm English if you've not worked it out by now!!). They have no interest in how it turns out for you, hopefully you understand I'm just pointing out some of the pitfalls that may lie ahead so you can not go blindly forward into them.

Enjoy the week and check in sometime. We're having fun in the UK, not been incinerated by the sun if we step outside today and tomorrow, grew up in the tropics and visited your country years ago where our trip took us through death valley, so yes it's warm!!

I did it with friends - New York to Los Angeles by car (we had to disconnect the seedo cable), down to San Diego for a while, then drove up the PCH to Seattle into Canada and Vancouver Island, then I had three flights back home one after the other, think I nearly spent 24 hours in a plane over about 36, but a trip I'll never forget.

Gordon,
You are not throwing up too many negatives. Every point you make needs to be considered so I appreciate your thoughts.

[Bi+Gigh]

So I'm getting caged Wednesday. Conor said last night that since he becomes the key holder then "now is as good as any time" to start doing what he wants. He had me trim my pubes all the way back, says he doesn't like them. He did the same with G.
For all you guys who are caged, do I have to do everything he wants?

If you want it to be that way, sure.

If you don't, then don't. There might be consequences (why play a game if you're not going to play along?), but it's up to you.

That said, if you're wearing a cage I imagine it'll be less uncomfortable if you're not getting your goddamn ball hair stuck in it. I'm told that really doesn't feel good.

Some other feedback suggested that if I want to orgasm sooner rather than later, do what he says. So I'm following that advice. I don't think he'll be unreasonable.

[Open2it]

Just because you’ll be in chastity you still have the right and should feel comfortable expressing your concerns, likes, and dislikes. It will probably take awhile to adjust wearing a cage. Good luck and have fun with it.

[gordon921]

Well Bi,

big day today, hopefully you'll update us daily on you adventure into a cock cage, it'll be good to get an honest viewpoint from someone starting out.

Also what happened to you and G going away, is that still on the cards, will you be released for the week the two of you are away?

Regards

[Bi+Gigh]

Well Bi,

big day today, hopefully you'll update us daily on you adventure into a cock cage, it'll be good to get an honest viewpoint from someone starting out.

Also what happened to you and G going away, is that still on the cards, will you be released for the week the two of you are away?

Regards

Yes, Gordon, today is the big day. I'm both excited and nervous. Conor won't tell me what he got and said I have to wait till he brings it over tonight. He had me masturbate last night in front of him and G and said that would be the last time I cum for a while. He told me not to touch myself and so I'm just going to do what he says.

And since we started on G and Conor being exclusive on Saturday, we decided not to go away this week.

And I'll definitely provide updates on my new "situation."

[gordon921]

Hi Bi,

hope it goes well...

One observation is with you and G agreeing to exclusivity and you to a CC, he has in one move impacted your relationship,
1. the two of you cancelled a holiday together and after beach boy you both possibly needed it
2. you can give G orgasms with oral, she has no way of returning that favour.
3. Are you going to spend the whole 4 weeks in a CC?

I hope your 4 weeks is a hard stop and you can call it out if it becomes a problem before hand and if G lasts that long before calling it out.

From what he said you're not going to have an orgasm for 4 weeks, can you handle that?

Regards

[Bi+Gigh]

Hi Bi,

hope it goes well...

One observation is with you and G agreeing to exclusivity and you to a CC, he has in one move impacted your relationship,
1. the two of you cancelled a holiday together and after beach boy you both possibly needed it
2. you can give G orgasms with oral, she has no way of returning that favour.
3. Are you going to spend the whole 4 weeks in a CC?

I hope your 4 weeks is a hard stop and you can call it out if it becomes a problem before hand and if G lasts that long before calling it out.

From what he said you're not going to have an orgasm for 4 weeks, can you handle that?

Regards

Gordon,
Right now, I'm in a good place. And I can't give G oral because we have agreed to her and Conor being sexually exclusive for the month. And I don't know at the moment if I'm going to be in the cage for the whole 4weeks or if I will be denied any orgasms during that time. I guess I'll have to just wait and see.
Again, the 3 of us are all comfortable with what we're doing, and both of them regularly check in with me to be sure I'm good.
Thanks, Gordon.

[gordon921]

Hi Bi,

hope it goes well...

One observation is with you and G agreeing to exclusivity and you to a CC, he has in one move impacted your relationship,
1. the two of you cancelled a holiday together and after beach boy you both possibly needed it
2. you can give G orgasms with oral, she has no way of returning that favour.
3. Are you going to spend the whole 4 weeks in a CC?

I hope your 4 weeks is a hard stop and you can call it out if it becomes a problem before hand and if G lasts that long before calling it out.

From what he said you're not going to have an orgasm for 4 weeks, can you handle that?

Regards

Gordon,
Right now, I'm in a good place. And I can't give G oral because we have agreed to her and Conor being sexually exclusive for the month. And I don't know at the moment if I'm going to be in the cage for the whole 4weeks or if I will be denied any orgasms during that time. I guess I'll have to just wait and see.
Again, the 3 of us are all comfortable with what we're doing, and both of them regularly check in with me to be sure I'm good.
Thanks, Gordon.

Thanks Bi, sorry did not know how exclusive, exclusive was, thought it only applied to C&G's days, does that mean you don't see her naked, she's wearing pajamas, are you allowed to sleep in the same bed on your & G's days, just curious, if you're not comfort answering not a problem.

[Bi+Gigh]

No, I'll answer just about anything. When he's not at our place we do sleep together. And I see her naked but it's mostly when she and Conor are having sex. But she doesn't hide herself otherwise. And now that I have the cage on (I'll update later) she likes me naked so she can stare at. But that's brand new so don't know how long that will last.

[Bi+Gigh]

Well, it’s on. So many emotions and then some.
Conor didn’t buy any of the three cock cages I asked for. I asked why not and just he said he didn’t like the look of them and he liked this one better. So being a good little dooby I just thanked him for getting it. It’s called a birdcage and he said he didn’t spend a lot of money for it. He said we’ll see how comfortable this one is before he buys a more expensive one.
But we had to try to fit one of the rings on me. It was kind of humiliating because Conor and G were the ones trying to get my balls and dick through the ring. Luckily the second one we tried seems to fit.
Most surprising was G’s reaction. She said it was one of the hottest things ever and she wants one of the keys now. She said it was actually making her wet. She wanted to see Conor and I have sex with the cage on and we did but it was brutal cause I naturally get hard when we do that and it was my first experience and didn’t feel too great. I also had to stay naked so they could keep staring at it lol. Humiliating but I was still aroused.
G called me “our little cage boy” and said I looked adorable. Ugh. Later I heard them going at it and it was straining in the cage again. But it just makes me feel really sexual with a cage on which is ironic because I won’t be having sex anytime soon. But it makes me feel sexual and obedient, I guess, cause I really feel like I want to please G and Conor. Weird feelings. But I really like it but it will take some getting used to.

[gordon921]

Hi Bi,
I'm not surprised by G's response at all
So are you required to wear it 24/7?
From reading between the lines do you think G & C are going to make you go the whole 4 weeks without an orgasm, realise not through sex?
Sounds like the cage could be more than 4 weeks..
A lot of guys on here say it makes then a lot more attentive to their wives and foreplay becomes very focused and important when cage, i.e. no PIV, but that's off the table for you for the next 4 weeks, so will be interesting how you cope.

Good luck.

[Bi+Gigh]

Hi Bi,
I'm not surprised by G's response at all
So are you required to wear it 24/7?
From reading between the lines do you think G & C are going to make you go the whole 4 weeks without an orgasm, realise not through sex?
Sounds like the cage could be more than 4 weeks..
A lot of guys on here say it makes then a lot more attentive to their wives and foreplay becomes very focused and important when cage, i.e. no PIV, but that's off the table for you for the next 4 weeks, so will be interesting how you cope.

Good luck.

The plan is for 24/7 but I'm going to ask them to take it off for a bit tonight. They can be there with me but I want to adjust it some and put some lotion around the area.
And I did ask about when I could cum again and Conor said for every time I ask that he's going to add another day.
And it's only been less than 24 hours and I'm already thinking about getting to G's pussy. I can't imagine how I'm gonna feel in a month.

[gordon921]

The plan is for 24/7 but I'm going to ask them to take it off for a bit tonight. They can be there with me but I want to adjust it some and put some lotion around the area.

I really don't think you can go from zero to 24/7 in one go, it is just not realistic and G should realise this and set C straight, leaving out C as he'll just push.
To be perfectly honest I'm a little disappointing in G's response to this, I thought she would have backed you for some relief every week, but then I don't know how hard you pushed for it.
I think you will struggle and may have to call time at some point and hopefully G will support you, 4 weeks is a long time to not make love to your wife and I hope G feels the same about not making love to her husband, most of what you read on here starts off a day, couple of days etc, etc.
I know this is what you agreed, but as I said before with your submissiveness you'll possibly agree to anything at the right time and G should be your wingman (lady..)

[kinkydetroit]

If want lotion for chafing you may want to look for a silicon based lube. The water based ones are just absorbed and you are back to chafing in a few hours.

If you are not circumcised there are a lot of issues with chafing on the foreskin. Check out the mature metal website for more info. Just add dot com to their name.

[Bi+Gigh]

If want lotion for chafing you may want to look for a silicon based lube. The water based ones are just absorbed and you are back to chafing in a few hours.

If you are not circumcised there are a lot of issues with chafing on the foreskin. Check out the mature metal website for more info. Just add dot com to their name.

Thanks, Kinky. It needs something so good tip.

[Open2it]

How is your experience progressing in chastity? It must have been a real mind trip having your wife and Conner working together to secure and lock the cage in place. Seeing both of them wearing the keys to your freedom must also be incredibly exciting. The first few days are the toughest.

[Bi+Gigh]

How is your experience progressing in chastity? It must have been a real mind trip having your wife and Conner working together to secure and lock the cage in place. Seeing both of them wearing the keys to your freedom must also be incredibly exciting. The first few days are the toughest.

It's been awesome . . . and then not lol. They took it off last night cause I said it needed to be adjusted. We tried a smaller ring which didn't work (again with them trying to shove my balls through the ring). I think I just wanted it off for a bit. And I got some silicone cream on the area based on Kinky's advice before they put it back on again.
G and I slept together last night and I told her I wasn't going to last. I put my hand down her panties and said I need some of this. You all know I like messing with Conor but I'd give that all up for one night with G. She said not to worry, she'd take care of it. Haven't cum since Tuesday.