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"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
I believe some of it is evolutionary. I think that monogamy is a relatively new mode of thinking, dating back only about 10,000 years, whereas non-monogamy dates back to the beginning of life. What happened 10,000 years ago to make us change? The widespread adoption of agriculture -- which meant land rights, which meant heredity rights, which means knowing who your kids are.
Man is about the only species that has even tried monogamy, essentially no other species does it. Some try it for a season, to allow the offspring time to grow, but that's it. I believe that there are no other species of primates that do it. Some, like gorillas, only allow the alpha male to mate. A gorilla's balls are the size of raisins, because of no competition and relative lack of usage. Our balls are the largest of the primates, and in proportion to our bodies on a ratio basis, the largest of any animal.
Why, because our species evolved to provide sex as a social unifying force, a cohesion to support the tribe. As hunter-gatherers, early man shared everything, including sex partners. Our bodies were built that way. We are the only primate species that mates face to face. We mate even when we don't want to get pregnant.
As for a continuation of the species force, non-monogamy is perfect and has worked. Our females do not get tired after one male partner, in fact, many are just getting going! Whereas men are basically built for "one and done". Why? Monogamy would not have caused us to evolve that way; but it's perfect for non-monogamy. Also, sperm competition is real. Male sperm become more mobile and aggressive in the presence of other male sperm. The sight of other males having sex makes us more aggressive, and our sperm more aggressive, to have sex. Who is porn mostly made for? Men. Mostly straight men at that. Almost all porn, except for girl on girl, feature males ejaculating. Hmmm: porn made for men that features males ejaculating.
In my view, it is not non-monogamy that is new, it is jealousy. Read the book Sex at Dawn, it's like your sexual owner's manual.
Man is about the only species that has even tried monogamy, essentially no other species does it. Some try it for a season, to allow the offspring time to grow, but that's it. I believe that there are no other species of primates that do it. Some, like gorillas, only allow the alpha male to mate. A gorilla's balls are the size of raisins, because of no competition and relative lack of usage. Our balls are the largest of the primates, and in proportion to our bodies on a ratio basis, the largest of any animal.
Why, because our species evolved to provide sex as a social unifying force, a cohesion to support the tribe. As hunter-gatherers, early man shared everything, including sex partners. Our bodies were built that way. We are the only primate species that mates face to face. We mate even when we don't want to get pregnant.
As for a continuation of the species force, non-monogamy is perfect and has worked. Our females do not get tired after one male partner, in fact, many are just getting going! Whereas men are basically built for "one and done". Why? Monogamy would not have caused us to evolve that way; but it's perfect for non-monogamy. Also, sperm competition is real. Male sperm become more mobile and aggressive in the presence of other male sperm. The sight of other males having sex makes us more aggressive, and our sperm more aggressive, to have sex. Who is porn mostly made for? Men. Mostly straight men at that. Almost all porn, except for girl on girl, feature males ejaculating. Hmmm: porn made for men that features males ejaculating.
In my view, it is not non-monogamy that is new, it is jealousy. Read the book Sex at Dawn, it's like your sexual owner's manual.
Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?
*First time posting.*mr1ahole wrote:Yeah it pretty much describes how I fantasize it.doomywife wrote:
A special note here to the women, who might be reading this…. Ladies, how about those of you who have done this with your husband, giving us your viewpoint on what you like or don’t like about “sloppy 2nd’s”? And…. To those women who have never been willing to do this for their husbands, I hope that my description of what it’s like for a man, (at least for me anyway), might encourage you to try it for your husband! I promise you, it’ll be something that he’ll always love you for!
This has been a long-time fantasy for me. Now that my bf has convinced me that it's OK to make it a reality, I can scarcely believe my luck. I do not have words to describe how very close I feel to him now, even though that seems counter-intuitive. Every night, when he gets home from work, I can hardly wait for him to fill me. Even holding his hand gets my blood pumping.
As for making the fantasy a reality, there is one person I'd most like to try. It's one "missed opportunity" that I'm hoping to find again. It's very important to me that I really like and respect the guy OR am crazy-turned on by him ... or both! And, he must not blow it by acting like a jerk during our date. He must be on his best behavior and not assume I'm giving this away indiscriminately.
The other night, while my bf was giving me that big, luscious cock, he was talking about sharing me, and said something about having another man take me bareback. I asked what he would do and he said that he'd have to take me immediately.
My man is alpha all the way. He takes care of me in every way. It is SO hot. He says that fulfilling this fantasy is one more thing he wants to do for me. It wasn't something that turned him on before it showed up as a theme in the fantasies we discussed. But it does now. After many months of discussing it, his obvious arousal and sexually explosive responses were what finally convinced me. When I finally went from "I think so" and "Maybe," to "Yes, I want to do this. Oh, I want it so bad," it seemed that the love between us became more palpable than ever before.
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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?
Welcome to OHW, dakini.dakini wrote: *First time posting.*
This has been a long-time fantasy for me. Now that my bf has convinced me that it's OK to make it a reality, I can scarcely believe my luck. I do not have words to describe how very close I feel to him now, even though that seems counter-intuitive. Every night, when he gets home from work, I can hardly wait for him to fill me. Even holding his hand gets my blood pumping.
As for making the fantasy a reality, there is one person I'd most like to try. It's one "missed opportunity" that I'm hoping to find again. It's very important to me that I really like and respect the guy OR am crazy-turned on by him ... or both! And, he must not blow it by acting like a jerk during our date. He must be on his best behavior and not assume I'm giving this away indiscriminately.
The other night, while my bf was giving me that big, luscious cock, he was talking about sharing me, and said something about having another man take me bareback. I asked what he would do and he said that he'd have to take me immediately.
My man is alpha all the way. He takes care of me in every way. It is SO hot. He says that fulfilling this fantasy is one more thing he wants to do for me. It wasn't something that turned him on before it showed up as a theme in the fantasies we discussed. But it does now. After many months of discussing it, his obvious arousal and sexually explosive responses were what finally convinced me. When I finally went from "I think so" and "Maybe," to "Yes, I want to do this. Oh, I want it so bad," it seemed that the love between us became more palpable than ever before.
Mia
P.S. We have a women's only forum here that you can't see right now because it is hidden. If you're interested, there is a sticky thread titled "Verified Hotwife, Requirements," located up near the top of the Hotwife Forum. This will tell you what you need to know.
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Honestly, sometimes I really do wonder if it's something deeper, and more subconsciously influenced, than just a lifestyle preference or a fetish or whatever.
There are so many qualities mixed in to this one diabolically impactful decision. Is there a thrill-seeking element to it? Not unlike base jumping or sky diving? Perhaps. The more a sense of unsure footing or growing danger exists, the more intense the experience becomes.
Is there a quiet and deeply-wounded psyche beneath the insistent call? A feeling that people can't be counted on, or that you're not enough to make someone happy? A need to see the person we love go as far out into the wild as possible, just so we can prove to ourselves that they'll come back in the end? A feeling of imbalance that eats away at us whenever we feel that we mean as much to our spouses as they mean to us? You could chew on that theory all day long.
Is it a need for competition? An inherent want to be challenged and forced to overcome? And, sometimes, to lose in order to prove the reality of the risk?
Is it an obsession with pleasure? A feeling that erotic pleasure should somehow be bigger and more overwhelming than we personally experience? Is it some strange sensual experiment with our spouse as guinea pig, as we push and pray for them to discover the most pure and all-encompassing pleasure possible?
Maybe it's just that hope cannot mean much, except when there is fear. I truly do not know.
There are so many qualities mixed in to this one diabolically impactful decision. Is there a thrill-seeking element to it? Not unlike base jumping or sky diving? Perhaps. The more a sense of unsure footing or growing danger exists, the more intense the experience becomes.
Is there a quiet and deeply-wounded psyche beneath the insistent call? A feeling that people can't be counted on, or that you're not enough to make someone happy? A need to see the person we love go as far out into the wild as possible, just so we can prove to ourselves that they'll come back in the end? A feeling of imbalance that eats away at us whenever we feel that we mean as much to our spouses as they mean to us? You could chew on that theory all day long.
Is it a need for competition? An inherent want to be challenged and forced to overcome? And, sometimes, to lose in order to prove the reality of the risk?
Is it an obsession with pleasure? A feeling that erotic pleasure should somehow be bigger and more overwhelming than we personally experience? Is it some strange sensual experiment with our spouse as guinea pig, as we push and pray for them to discover the most pure and all-encompassing pleasure possible?
Maybe it's just that hope cannot mean much, except when there is fear. I truly do not know.
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Excellent thought provoking post, Yupp.
Me: You’re probably a better fuck than his wife.
Her: I’m probably a better fuck than most people’s wives.
Our crazy journey: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=65359
Her: I’m probably a better fuck than most people’s wives.
Our crazy journey: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=65359
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Hi Everyone!
This is my 1st post here, so bear with me as I get the hang of it.
I joined this forum after reading the "Older Hotwife" thread which gave me some encouragement that I perhaps was not alone. My wife and I have been together for 32 years and married for 29, we are both on our second marriages. I am 70 and she is 65. We are deeply in love, but I have been suffering from ED for the past 10yrs or so. As it turns out the original cause of my ED was from meds that I was taking, compounded by my testosterone levels dropping to very low levels around the time I turned 55. Without going into great detail, I had several very bad performance experiences around the time of our 20th anniversary that pretty much put an end to our sex life.
Around three years ago, my doctor at the time, who didn't really think it was proper for old people to be having sex, retired and I transferred to a new young MD who quickly found that my testosterone levels were in the mud. Since then I have been on TRT and things have improved greatly! For the past 2-3 years my wife and I have been having sex 2 to 3 times a week, however it has either been oral, manual or with a toy. No intercourse. Apparently the bad experiences that I had many years ago are still with me and no matter what we do, I loose my erection as soon as we try intercourse. My doctor believes that my current issues with ED are mental in nature, and I would have to agree with him. I seem to have a solid mental block when it comes to intercourse.
My wife of 30 years has not had intercourse in almost 10 years. She tells me that she is okay with the way things are now, but deep in my heart I know that she really misses penetrative sex. She had an active sex life with a half dozen or so men before marrying her 1st husband. After her divorce she had relations with a couple of men before I came along. From my own experience with her, I know how much she really enjoyed intercourse. When we were dating and during the 1st years of our marriage she would have orgasms from intercourse 5 to 10 times a week!
I have brought the idea of her having a FWB with her on several occasions and she pretty much dismisses the idea without a lot of discussion. So to answer the original question, Why would I want my wife to sleep with another man ... because I love her very much and I feel that she is missing out on a very important part of her life that in the past she truly enjoyed. She knows that I am not a jealous person, and that for me, sex has always been a purely physical act. She knows that I love her, and that I know that she loves me. But she still wont discuss moving forward with my offer.
Thank you for reading along here, it really helps to put my feelings about this in writing.
Oh, for you guys that are heading toward 50, have your doc run a full hormone panel on you. It will if nothing else give you a good baseline for the future. I wish I had ...
This is my 1st post here, so bear with me as I get the hang of it.
I joined this forum after reading the "Older Hotwife" thread which gave me some encouragement that I perhaps was not alone. My wife and I have been together for 32 years and married for 29, we are both on our second marriages. I am 70 and she is 65. We are deeply in love, but I have been suffering from ED for the past 10yrs or so. As it turns out the original cause of my ED was from meds that I was taking, compounded by my testosterone levels dropping to very low levels around the time I turned 55. Without going into great detail, I had several very bad performance experiences around the time of our 20th anniversary that pretty much put an end to our sex life.
Around three years ago, my doctor at the time, who didn't really think it was proper for old people to be having sex, retired and I transferred to a new young MD who quickly found that my testosterone levels were in the mud. Since then I have been on TRT and things have improved greatly! For the past 2-3 years my wife and I have been having sex 2 to 3 times a week, however it has either been oral, manual or with a toy. No intercourse. Apparently the bad experiences that I had many years ago are still with me and no matter what we do, I loose my erection as soon as we try intercourse. My doctor believes that my current issues with ED are mental in nature, and I would have to agree with him. I seem to have a solid mental block when it comes to intercourse.
My wife of 30 years has not had intercourse in almost 10 years. She tells me that she is okay with the way things are now, but deep in my heart I know that she really misses penetrative sex. She had an active sex life with a half dozen or so men before marrying her 1st husband. After her divorce she had relations with a couple of men before I came along. From my own experience with her, I know how much she really enjoyed intercourse. When we were dating and during the 1st years of our marriage she would have orgasms from intercourse 5 to 10 times a week!
I have brought the idea of her having a FWB with her on several occasions and she pretty much dismisses the idea without a lot of discussion. So to answer the original question, Why would I want my wife to sleep with another man ... because I love her very much and I feel that she is missing out on a very important part of her life that in the past she truly enjoyed. She knows that I am not a jealous person, and that for me, sex has always been a purely physical act. She knows that I love her, and that I know that she loves me. But she still wont discuss moving forward with my offer.
Thank you for reading along here, it really helps to put my feelings about this in writing.
Oh, for you guys that are heading toward 50, have your doc run a full hormone panel on you. It will if nothing else give you a good baseline for the future. I wish I had ...
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Oldcarguy, does viagra not work for you?
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Unfortunately, no. My initial problem was due the meds that I was on after my bypass and my dropping testrone levels. By the time we got everything under control, I developed some physchological issues that kill any erection that I may have when I try intercourse. If you have circulation issues, then Vigara et al are a god send, as luck would have it my circulation seems to be in pretty decent shape. I wish my mind was as well...EDAS wrote:Oldcarguy, does viagra not work for you?
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Buttercream
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Remember... many women's sexual drive does go down after menopause and if you haven't had penetration in that long of a time, she might truly be ok with not having sex again age 65.
I am buttery soft and full of cream ;-)
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Thomas Crown
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
For me, I have always looked at this question from a different perspective:
My wife was having sex with other men before she met me. So isn't the question really, "Why would I want my wife to give up sex with other men?"
My wife very graciously compares me favorably with her other lovers. That's a good thing for my ego. But I also know that feeling attractive is absolutely essential to her feelings of self confidence, and surely the best way to confirm her attractiveness is to get other men into bed with her, no?
So we both win. She feels better about herself, and she makes me feel good about my self.
She also learns things in other beds that she brings to ours. Many of the things we do between the sheets were things we would never have discovered on our own.
And finally, I often get to hear those golden words, "You're a lucky man." And the men who say them to me actually know what they are talking about!
My wife was having sex with other men before she met me. So isn't the question really, "Why would I want my wife to give up sex with other men?"
My wife very graciously compares me favorably with her other lovers. That's a good thing for my ego. But I also know that feeling attractive is absolutely essential to her feelings of self confidence, and surely the best way to confirm her attractiveness is to get other men into bed with her, no?
So we both win. She feels better about herself, and she makes me feel good about my self.
She also learns things in other beds that she brings to ours. Many of the things we do between the sheets were things we would never have discovered on our own.
And finally, I often get to hear those golden words, "You're a lucky man." And the men who say them to me actually know what they are talking about!
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forebiddenfruit43
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
I've already given some input on my thoughts for this post, but thought I'd toss in some more-
It's amazing how hot it is to lie in bed and share thoughts and turn-ons refarding other lovers for her and then fuck as the naughty, erotic talk continues, amazing how much she cums and how hard I cum. how horny and hot it makes us both to talk about her fucking other men as she asks me does it turn me on and more; all the while me asking her to tell me how much she wants another mans cock in her. Then to look at responses to ads we have and seeing which ones intrigue her. And of course to then have hot sex after talking about what we are doing, which men turned her on, does she want to fuck them and on and on 'til we collapse from orgasm. Amazing what an aphrodisiac this is when couples will allow this in their lives(btw we mainly enjoy mfm, but no hard, fast rules. )
Also, when she does find men she thinks have that potential, walking by the bedroom and see her either emailing or texting potential fb's and later that night repeating the pillow talk described in the first paragraph. And when she finally sets up a date, to trim that pussy to make her neat and sexy the night before and oh yeah, did I mention have that hot sex while talking about what's going on and about to happen.Then of course meeting the other man and either heading straight to a hotel/his house, wherever, or going back home and again having that hot bedroom fun.
I want this and enjoy this especially so when it actually turns into a meeting that evolves in sex, the erotic ecstasy of watching her getting a nice wine buzz, and while dressed in sexy, slutty attire; getting in a state of undress or semi-dress, and doing crazy, sexy things with other men and me. What man in his right mind, if secure wouldn't love seeing their wife getting a glow on her all over as she sucked another man's cock, enjoying how he tastes, proud of the fact she could make another man so hard- all women down deep are wired to do this, hearing her moan and eventually orgasm as he eats her pussy and fingers her (your sexy wife's) pussy. And I really want and do this because it's about as hot as anything I have ever seen or done when I see her raise her hips to offer her pussy to another man, gets only hotter when I hear her moan as his cock enters and begins pleasuring her. Seeing her animalistic, naughty, slutty side come to life drives me wild and for her; gives her numerous, intense orgasms among many other pleasures- but this post is about why would a man, as for her story, that's for another time. Also incredible is watching as she coaxes another man to cum in her, holds tightly onto him, whispers what I know are naughty words in his ear until I see what I know to be another man cumming in my wife.
And of course the crazy sex we have after nights like this. So if anyone asks my why a man would want his wife to do this, this should give a little insight. If other men find this confusing, I would ask how many times do you and your wife fuck each week? There are many ways to keep the passion alive in a marriage, this just happens to be one of several we enjoy, Not for everyone, but I wouldn't trade it for the world.
I'm just saying.
It's amazing how hot it is to lie in bed and share thoughts and turn-ons refarding other lovers for her and then fuck as the naughty, erotic talk continues, amazing how much she cums and how hard I cum. how horny and hot it makes us both to talk about her fucking other men as she asks me does it turn me on and more; all the while me asking her to tell me how much she wants another mans cock in her. Then to look at responses to ads we have and seeing which ones intrigue her. And of course to then have hot sex after talking about what we are doing, which men turned her on, does she want to fuck them and on and on 'til we collapse from orgasm. Amazing what an aphrodisiac this is when couples will allow this in their lives(btw we mainly enjoy mfm, but no hard, fast rules. )
Also, when she does find men she thinks have that potential, walking by the bedroom and see her either emailing or texting potential fb's and later that night repeating the pillow talk described in the first paragraph. And when she finally sets up a date, to trim that pussy to make her neat and sexy the night before and oh yeah, did I mention have that hot sex while talking about what's going on and about to happen.Then of course meeting the other man and either heading straight to a hotel/his house, wherever, or going back home and again having that hot bedroom fun.
I want this and enjoy this especially so when it actually turns into a meeting that evolves in sex, the erotic ecstasy of watching her getting a nice wine buzz, and while dressed in sexy, slutty attire; getting in a state of undress or semi-dress, and doing crazy, sexy things with other men and me. What man in his right mind, if secure wouldn't love seeing their wife getting a glow on her all over as she sucked another man's cock, enjoying how he tastes, proud of the fact she could make another man so hard- all women down deep are wired to do this, hearing her moan and eventually orgasm as he eats her pussy and fingers her (your sexy wife's) pussy. And I really want and do this because it's about as hot as anything I have ever seen or done when I see her raise her hips to offer her pussy to another man, gets only hotter when I hear her moan as his cock enters and begins pleasuring her. Seeing her animalistic, naughty, slutty side come to life drives me wild and for her; gives her numerous, intense orgasms among many other pleasures- but this post is about why would a man, as for her story, that's for another time. Also incredible is watching as she coaxes another man to cum in her, holds tightly onto him, whispers what I know are naughty words in his ear until I see what I know to be another man cumming in my wife.
And of course the crazy sex we have after nights like this. So if anyone asks my why a man would want his wife to do this, this should give a little insight. If other men find this confusing, I would ask how many times do you and your wife fuck each week? There are many ways to keep the passion alive in a marriage, this just happens to be one of several we enjoy, Not for everyone, but I wouldn't trade it for the world.
I'm just saying.
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sexykentwife
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Using the anology of a car.
If you have a beautiful sports car would you want to lock it away in your garage so noone else can experience its beauty.
Wouldn't you prefer to take it to some Classic Car Shows so others can appreciate the cars beauty.. Even better wouldn't you want to allow other men to sit inside the car and feel how wonderful it feels to be in front of the wheel.. And the ultimate way would be to allow another man to drive the car (carefully of course) so they can feel the whole experience however they know they need to return the car to you afterwards..
If you have a beautiful sports car would you want to lock it away in your garage so noone else can experience its beauty.
Wouldn't you prefer to take it to some Classic Car Shows so others can appreciate the cars beauty.. Even better wouldn't you want to allow other men to sit inside the car and feel how wonderful it feels to be in front of the wheel.. And the ultimate way would be to allow another man to drive the car (carefully of course) so they can feel the whole experience however they know they need to return the car to you afterwards..
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
Good work FF43. I don't watch but aside from that, yes, I identify with every word you wrote there. You have to be a very closely bonded couple to make this work successfully. Your wife has gone against her upbringing and societal conditioning to do this. It is a very big thing for most women and she needs to be totally cast iron secure in your pledge that you will never backtrack on her for letting loose her sexuality or start getting shitty with her about it. Never forget that YOU volunteered! If you are lucky enough to have such a woman, and can treat her as she deserves to be treated without letting your moods and occasional jealousies get in the way, you will share a life of ecstasy. At least, we have.
Our story: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=22964
Our story: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=22964
Me: You’re probably a better fuck than his wife.
Her: I’m probably a better fuck than most people’s wives.
Our crazy journey: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=65359
Her: I’m probably a better fuck than most people’s wives.
Our crazy journey: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=65359
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mrsbeeee
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man
on another thread, I’ve been asking for advice because my hubby wants me to make love with other men. one of the questions I've been asking is why do you think he wants me to do it. i found a article by a psychologist that has some reasons some men want to do it and i sat down with E and asked him if these are his reasons. this is what he said
Reasons he has
voyeurism
he thinks this is the biggest reason. he really wants to see me doing it with a guy. he thinks that when it happens its going to be so hot. even if he's not there he thinks hell be excited thinking about it or hearing about it after its over.
the thrill of the taboo
he didn’t think that he's a wimp or anything i don't either. but he says yeah this might be part of it. he got all excited when he found out a friend of mine was having an affair so yeah
female sexual fulfillment
this was a good one for him he does think that having other men will make me more satisfied. he doesn't think he's as good as he was when he was younger but he can still get it up. but he thinks when someone else sticks it to me i’ll be happier.
female empowerment
hes not sure about this one. we both think women should be equal and all that but he's not sure he's making me any more powerful or anything. after i do it he thinks our marriage won’t change so maybe this is true down deep but maybe not
the royalty perk
this is another one hes not sure of. yeah he knows that im not going to leave him for somebody else just because i screw them. but he does think im very sexy, and thats one of the reasons he wants other guys to have fun with me
reasons he doesn't have
sperm competition
I’m past the child bearing years so this doesn’t apply to us. yeah he gets hard just thinking about me in bed with a guy but E’s not going to compete with them, he's just going to share me.
bisexuality
E says he doesn't like other men that way, not that theres anything wrong with it or anything. he doesn't want to go to bed with the guy after I'm done with him or anything
physical health issues
no problem here. E can get it up anytime he wants. hes been proving that the last few days lol
masochism
we don’t get into bdsm so this one isn't true for us
financial reasons
he really laughed at this one. hes not trying to pimp me out or anything
misogyny
E’s a perfect gentleman, we’ve never humiliated each other and he isn't going to start now.
So thats our reasons, what are yours?
oh, the article is at psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201007/why-would-you-do-want-watch-your-wife-another-man
Reasons he has
voyeurism
he thinks this is the biggest reason. he really wants to see me doing it with a guy. he thinks that when it happens its going to be so hot. even if he's not there he thinks hell be excited thinking about it or hearing about it after its over.
the thrill of the taboo
he didn’t think that he's a wimp or anything i don't either. but he says yeah this might be part of it. he got all excited when he found out a friend of mine was having an affair so yeah
female sexual fulfillment
this was a good one for him he does think that having other men will make me more satisfied. he doesn't think he's as good as he was when he was younger but he can still get it up. but he thinks when someone else sticks it to me i’ll be happier.
female empowerment
hes not sure about this one. we both think women should be equal and all that but he's not sure he's making me any more powerful or anything. after i do it he thinks our marriage won’t change so maybe this is true down deep but maybe not
the royalty perk
this is another one hes not sure of. yeah he knows that im not going to leave him for somebody else just because i screw them. but he does think im very sexy, and thats one of the reasons he wants other guys to have fun with me
reasons he doesn't have
sperm competition
I’m past the child bearing years so this doesn’t apply to us. yeah he gets hard just thinking about me in bed with a guy but E’s not going to compete with them, he's just going to share me.
bisexuality
E says he doesn't like other men that way, not that theres anything wrong with it or anything. he doesn't want to go to bed with the guy after I'm done with him or anything
physical health issues
no problem here. E can get it up anytime he wants. hes been proving that the last few days lol
masochism
we don’t get into bdsm so this one isn't true for us
financial reasons
he really laughed at this one. hes not trying to pimp me out or anything
misogyny
E’s a perfect gentleman, we’ve never humiliated each other and he isn't going to start now.
So thats our reasons, what are yours?
oh, the article is at psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201007/why-would-you-do-want-watch-your-wife-another-man
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This is not a discussion thread so if you want these answers then start a thread and ask them. By asking here you are hijacking the thread, taking it off topic of Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man.gkor524 wrote:Well Mrsbeee...I heard of alot of what "he" thinks, but not much about what do you "think" or "feel" about it, so I wouldn't claim it is both "our" reasons. I feel your feelings about being shared trump his since you will be the one exposing yourself to potentially dangerous health risks via other men's body fluids.So thats our reasons, what are yours?
Language is so telling in a lot folks tales. There seems to be much pressure for women to "appease" or "perform" for their not only their men, but men as whole in our culture. It's so conditioned and ingrained in our patriarchal society, it's hard to separate it out and really know what the women wants in a relationship or who she is sexually. As far as the woman gaining "empowerment" through Hotwifing...perhaps one does gain empowerment from sexual liasons, but until women reach or surpass men in social status, power, and economically in the workplace; then they will remain a second class citizen. Sex and using their bodies as sexual objects will be their only currency or bargaining tool for the "men".
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I appreciate your comments - like you I/m age 73, wife is 63, we've been married 33 years - I am fortunate that I am still able toOldCarGuy wrote:Unfortunately, no. My initial problem was due the meds that I was on after my bypass and my dropping testrone levels. By the time we got everything under control, I developed some physchological issues that kill any erection that I may have when I try intercourse. If you have circulation issues, then Vigara et al are a god send, as luck would have it my circulation seems to be in pretty decent shape. I wish my mind was as well...EDAS wrote:Oldcarguy, does viagra not work for you?
have sex a couple times a week or more and still can have full intercourse - My wife would never consent to becoming a hot wife as much as I've proposed (subtly) the idea - at first she was very reluctant to even discuss it but over time she's ralized that it is not so uncommon and now plays along as a fantasy - thats fine with me -
I am glad you two have found out like me that we old guys can still have fun in the bedroom - I'll be willing to die when I can't
Hope I didin't highjack a wonderful thread - I thoroughly enjoy reading the comments by women and their husbands - Sharing my wife would be a dream come true to me but I'll take what I've got over nothing.
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For me, it was all about giving more pleasure to her. Adding another man means 4 hand, 2 tongues and two dicks which is double the pleasure for her. I mean there is the excitement of seeing another man make her cum, but also of course the entire fantasy, perpetration and role play which turns us both on quite a bit.
We are still at the fantasy stage but the sex is great because many mentioned it, she feels better about herself. She also can enjoy a guy flirting with he r without wondering what I will think.
We are progressing nicely and we hope 2014 will be the year that it happens!
We are still at the fantasy stage but the sex is great because many mentioned it, she feels better about herself. She also can enjoy a guy flirting with he r without wondering what I will think.
We are progressing nicely and we hope 2014 will be the year that it happens!
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thecuckstopshere wrote:I can only speek for me and why I like it...
The reason being that I am so into her and seeing her in action or hearing and seeing her pleasure drives me crazy with lust for her. The love for this is about watching her enjoyment not focusing on him. Its about her. I think many people get confused and think it has something to do with the guy...but it does not. This is about seeing and hearing her her passionate love making. Its almost like I am doing it to her but can take a few steps back to enjoy what I am doing by seeing it like I am watching my wife in a porno but better. I don't know if this helps anyone understand more or if they can grasp that but it is how I feel.
I totally agreed with you, it all about bring sexual pleasure to my wife, showing her that other men find her sexual attractive, and what a great fuck she is. It like watching my wife be in a porn film, seeing her pussy so wet as the other guy slide his cock in and out of it. To watch her as she drains the other guy hot cum deep in her pussy, or watch the lust and sexual passion she shows as she sucks his cock & then every drop of his hot cum in her mouth.
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Just watched an old episode of "Two and a Half Men" -- Alan's ex-gf, who has a new bf, nevertheless is still sleeping on the sly with Alan. Alan insists that she break up with the new bf and she does, but then Alan notices the sex isn't as good as when she was a cheating slut, so he tells her to get back with the new bf so they can continue to cheat on him. She agrees, and Alan's sex drive suddenly goes to the moon... as does hers.... Who knows why but then nobody knows why aspirin works either. It just does....
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Women are beautiful when they're having sex. I would love to watch another man give my wife a mind blowing orgasm. The sounds she makes and the way her body spasms is incredibly sexy. What a show!
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Multiple orgasms for her. Other guys attracted to MY wife. Dap - can't do that with just one guy and it is mind blowing for her. Get cramps in my tongue from eating her pussy - need assistance. It is just hot.
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Until you have seen your wife totally let lose and give into your desires you could not imagine how sex it is.
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My wife is enjoying her second boyfriend as a married woman - and it's her second in the last year as in the many years before that we were married she was only with me, (and I with her). As she got into her 40s, she got hornier, it seemed, and she wanted more sex. The thought of her fucking younger guys that were interested in her increasingly got us going.
I agreed beforehand with her choice of BF #1 and it was intense. They fucked heavily for several months. She was thrilled. the new sex, the energy of her new sex and lover, and that he was he younger and fucked her better than I can. I got off on it...and she even more.
After years of a fairly typical marriage...and then this, it was sort of overwhelming, for both of us.
The sex she and I had was still very good, even better, really, and I was (and am) even more interested/turned on to having sex with the wife now that I'm sharing her sexually with another man.
In recent months, she moved on to BF #2, an even younger guy, a guy she works with. They fuck once or twice a week and when it's my turn, it's divine. I can't wait to fuck her.
She seems happy, radiant, and likes that I'm sort of competing for her now.
I agreed beforehand with her choice of BF #1 and it was intense. They fucked heavily for several months. She was thrilled. the new sex, the energy of her new sex and lover, and that he was he younger and fucked her better than I can. I got off on it...and she even more.
After years of a fairly typical marriage...and then this, it was sort of overwhelming, for both of us.
The sex she and I had was still very good, even better, really, and I was (and am) even more interested/turned on to having sex with the wife now that I'm sharing her sexually with another man.
In recent months, she moved on to BF #2, an even younger guy, a guy she works with. They fuck once or twice a week and when it's my turn, it's divine. I can't wait to fuck her.
She seems happy, radiant, and likes that I'm sort of competing for her now.
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Lately I have been having the desire to see my wife fuck a stranger in front of me. We are married 25 years and have good sex. I don't know why these desires. I don't think I can speak about it to my wife.