w770 wrote: ↑Thu Jan 02, 2025 12:46 pm
Hi everyone, and Happy New Year.
I found some time today where there was an unexpected lull in work just at the same time that the baby is taking a nap, so I thought I would reply to some of the posts made. Apologies for not being able to go through each and do a direct reply as I often like doing, because, as most parents to young children know, the nap can end at any moment and then your entire schedule gets rearranged.
I first wanted to address seeing the doctor with Lana. I didn't realize that it wasn't the norm to go in with your partner, as whenever I go to the doctor, I go by myself, and when Lana needs to see the doctor, she always wants me to take her and go to see the doctor with her. In fact, I had to visit the doctor yesterday as I've been dealing with a pretty horrid cough for the last few days, and as I was in the waiting room, I saw a couple, and when the girl was called in, her guy just stayed in his chair. So maybe it's a bit abnormal for Lana to want me to go with her every time, but it's mainly because she tends to blank when the doctor asks her questions, and she always looks at me to ask the questions she's forgotten or tell the doctor the details that she might find herself tongue tied with. But, interesting to know I suppose.
The other issue I saw discussed a lot was the realism of what's unfolded in the last few months for Lana and myself. This is a bit of an undertaking for me to explain, and I hope some of you can understand - but there are a lot of tightropes that I'm having to walk, making sure to respect certain things that Lana wishes for me to keep private and also respecting this forum enough to give enough detail of our lives. I also suspect that there is a particular effect of having a forum and thread so specifically dedicated to one aspect of our lives, which leads to a sort of amplification effect, making it perhaps seem that this lifestyle takes up a lot more of our lives and our personalities than other areas. I've tried to expand on other mundane details of our lives at times to round both Lana and myself out as people, but it's a balance between respecting this forum being focused on the lifestyle and also giving everyone an idea of our lives.
One of the aspects of Lana's personality that I've touched upon before has been her desire to make me happy and in part, turn me on. Even before we started into this lifestyle, I've noticed that her stories of guys she's been with in the past have changed. For example, while making love, she would tell me about a particular one night stand in college and all of the positions they had sex in, but years later, when we were just speaking on the same guy and one night stand, I would question her about it and she would respond with something like, "what are you talking about? That never happened." So I realize that some of the things she may tell me are for my benefit, but I've learned to just take it all in and not call her out on any inconsistencies. In relating that to current times, I have no idea if Tyler was in fact "Adam-sized" but I understand that she may be telling me what I wanted to hear. Ultimately, I don't see the point in making it an issue.
In regards to the other aspects of our lives and personalities that I never really get into, like I mentioned, this lifestyle, while it may seem at times like the center of our lives, actually is a very small part of the things we focus on on most days. For both of us, work tends to take a lot of that bandwidth along with being parents, but aside from that, the biggest time suck has been setting up charities and volunteer organizations, which take up a lot of our free time. In terms of our personalities, I started to sense that this thread has characterized us as sex-crazed, when in fact, even at the peak of this rather strange time that we've entered into the lifestyle, it doesn't particularly rank that high of things we talk about on a day to day basis. Lately for me, I've been getting more into gardening and being self sustainable as I have a somewhat conspiratorial mind and am under the impression that we'll have to fend for ourselves at some point in the near future. Whereas Lana has been much more into some show on Netflix called the Crown lately. So after work, we tend to unwind, try our best to be good parents, while I try and tell her my latest conspiracy theories and she recaps me on her Crown show. Like I've alluded to before, we're pretty boring people.
I also saw that there were posts concerning pictures of Lana. I will say now, there are a handful of people that have seen pictures of myself and Lana. The fact that it hasn't become wider knowledge tells me that my instincts on who I can trust was accurate. But beyond a very small handful of people who I have cultivated an amount of trust and rapport with, I want to continue to respect Lana's wishes of "staying off the internet." Honestly, though, it would be quite a turn on to post pictures of her and hearing how badly some guys want to fuck her, but that's just not the world we're in.
Update: So Lana should be getting her period in a few days, and she has expressed a lot of apprehension to me about being late. I've put on a brave face but it also is a bit nerve wracking to me as well. I've already told her that we're going to be fine no matter what happens, but that doesn't seem to relax her too much.
I originally wanted to make this post a bit more substantive, but I'm hearing my work email notification sound a bunch so I should get to those. Hope 2025 is going well for everyone.