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by slenderfish » Sun Oct 25, 2020 4:33 am
Well, the ride continues!
She did hear back from Mr. S on Saturday morning. His text was "Thinking about you" with a kissy-face icon and modest smiley-face icon.
SW's reaction is interesting. I was in the garage working on a project and she asked me to come into the house for something. She was full of energy but was telling me that she thinks his reply is disappointing and bullshit, that he's playing with her, that he doesn't really want to get together, that he's supplying just the minimum of contact. Essentially that his wildly disproportionate reply (she'd asked some questions about calendar with respect to visit in November and her airfare, etc.) is wholly disappointing. To her, it shows he is not that interested in her.
I pressed and she said that his text message is also completely a different tone as compared to his texts to her in the lead-up to their getting together last weekend. She said that he was sending very erotic messages about what he was looking to do with her, how much she turns him on, etc. and said that even she was having a difficult time pulling together appropriate replies back then because she was so out of practice of dating, etc.
So this is all new information to me. She had previously mentioned that there were "a few texts back and forth" in the lead-up to their getting together, but nothing like this.
I now understand more, why she has been unhappy that his communication had completely ceased since Monday morning, when she departed to return home.
She said that she will sit on this recent text and think about what and when to reply, and would likely lean on me for my thoughts on the matter. I said that she should at least be pleased that he did reply, and that she doesn't really know if this is just his style (e.g. his cycle of ramping up before a visit and not really paying a lot of attention this far out) or if there is anything else.
I asked her if she is still considering to cancel her plans to see him in November, if she believes he is cancelling or will cancel based on this week's pattern and silence regarding communications. She said as far as she can tell, the plan they agreed prior to her returning home is still intact, and that her texts this week were only to let him know she can free up an additional day on the front end of her November visit. He hasn't answered that question, but again she believes the already-planned elements remain in place.
I asked her if she remains interested in seeing him, in light of this communication frustration. She said yes.
She spent the day ruminating off and on about it and I observed that her energy around this is more than a bit telling. She brought up the subject at least three times.
Let's observe that she had some texts leading up to her visit last week, and I now know they were very racy (to her sensitivity). And that she shared the generalities of this with me upon her return, a few hours later (on Monday night). He had originally told her he could only see her on Sunday night (last weekend), and she was initially disappointed in that she of course preferred Saturday night for a date night. But last Thursday he texted her that he will be returning early enough on Saturday to take her to dinner and they went out. He returned her to her hotel on Saturday night without fanfare, a successful and satisfying date, and they kept the plans to go out on Sunday night. Sunday night was (according to my count, after the fact) date #3. She told me (yesterday) that she had decided in her mind on Sunday morning that she is ready and will sleep with him on that Sunday night. When I texted her about an hour before she would be getting ready, she texted back "it's on" which I'd interpreted as the Sunday night date was confirmed (remember, i had no idea about the Thursday text setting up Saturday night and that they had gone out on Saturday night). She later told me that her meaning of "it's on" was that she had decided to sleep with him that night and that I must have missed that nuance. She said she prepared herself to be naked with him later, carefully shaving and primping and perfuming, etc. And all the rest that I noted in a prior posting from this past week. And that before she returned home on Monday they agreed to get together again in November on the couple of days right after the Thanksgiving weekend.
So I've been wondering what kind of connection was established and how that is playing into her distress around his not texting since Monday morning, not answering her three texts. Until his short text on Saturday morning.
SW and I had a quiet dinner at home (we'd been out to a big dinner on Friday night so agreed to have that serve as the substitute to our regular "date night" of Saturday). Opened and drank a nice bottle of wine. She started in again on the subject of his text, etc. and we were playful, she came and sat on my lap, kissed me more than usual, and then when it was time for bed she went upstairs while I cleaned up and ran through the DVR'd baseball game. When I got upstairs she was not doing her pre-bedtime routine, but rather was in the loveseat in the adjacent room and had turned on music and lit candles. I joined her and we sat in each others' arms and sang to love songs she put on via Spotify, talked more about life and the lifestyle, that she believes she is not getting the benefits I'd outlined that are supposed to be coming to a new hotwife (e.g. the adulation and doting and ego boost) but rather was getting anxiety and disrespect and ego bruising. I acknowledged and agreed, but again pointed out that she had chosen Mr. S specifically for his looks and his geographically remote distance, over pursuing with someone more local, etc. That she had put a premium on handsome over practical considerations. But that the big picture was essentially a successful first effort thus far, that she had in fact been able to establish a relationship with Mr. S sufficient for her to feel comfortable becoming an official Hotwife and actually going through with it and enjoying it. And that she now knows for certain that I'm okay with it.
During this lounging together and kissing and fondling, we finished the bottle of wine and I made subtle moves to see if she was game for having sex but she seemed to be ignoring those. It started getting very late and I said we really should go to bed, that we do have plans in the morning.
I was again expecting her to begin her bedtime routine but she stayed and listened to more music and drank more wine. I had laid down on the bed in the bedroom (adjacent to the sofa room) and had drifted off to sleep, when she came in and woke me up with a burst of energy and asked me if I would arrange something for dinner two weeks from tonight, at a private supper club where my good friend is a member. Of course, I said, this is an easy ask.
She then jumped in bed and started again about the texting and lack of reply by Mr. S. She then added that he hadn't yet replied to a text she actually did send earlier in the afternoon. Remember (as I noted above) she said she was not going to reply for at least a day and was planning to run it by me first.
She said that she decided to take a page from his book and send him a text that he would "have to" acknowledge and reply.
Her text message was "I can't stop thinking about getting your big cock back inside me."
I wasn't sure if she really sent it, or if she was pushing my hotwife buttons, but of course it had the intended effect and I tore off her clothes and took her then and there, without delay. I again asked her the language of the text and whether she had actually sent it, and she confirmed and restated what she'd said. We had sex in the way she prefers, missionary position, and I came inside her with a strong climax.
I thanked her for the gift of sharing with me. She then started the bedtime readying routine and I laid in my post-orgasmic bliss and drifted off to sleep.
I woke up a couple hours later to find an empty spot net to me in the bed and tip-toed to the sofa area where there was still music playing and a light on, and SW was sleeping peacefully on the sofa with a blanket but her neck in an uncomfortable position. I tried to wake her to come into the more comfortable bed but she was groggy and asked to stay put. I reorganized her position on the sofa and brought out a soft pillow, and put a second layer of blanket on her.
In all the years I've known her (since 2001) she has never chosen to sleep on a sofa.
As I sit here and write this, I'm thinking two things:
1) If she didn't send that text message to him, then I am extra grateful that she made this extra effort to give me a strong hotwife sexual encounter with her.
2) If she did send that text message to him, did she mean it? If so, then it explains more about her crankiness this week, owing to his not communicating. That is, she may be more hooked than even she realizes, or she does realize it and continues to downplay it to me.
As I wrote first above, the roller coaster ride continues.
We're now about two months in (from when I told SW I am earnest in my desire for her to enter the hotwife lifestyle) and some observations:
a) We are communicating more frequently and more deeply vs. the past.
b) We are trying to achieve a balance of our regular lives and keep the hotwife elements from overwhelming. I let her bring things up. She ends up doing so, probably more than she expects. It's working just fine for me.
c) She is feeling extra "alive" with the ups and downs. Not sure if she loves it, but she seems to be taking to it quite well.
d) We are having more sex. About doubled.
e) She seems to be more randy.
f) She is drinking more wine. Gotta keep tabs on that.
g) She has lost a bit of weight. Didn't have much to lose, so I'm hoping she doesn't lose more. Not sure if this is her natural response to being back in the dating mode (this is how she was when we were dating) or if it's a result of the emotional ups and downs. Gotta keep tabs on this also.
h) She readily talks about what she will do to establish a relationship with somebody else if Mr. S fails.
i) She is sharing much more about Mr. S and their conversations, etc. Much more, which is very pleasing to me.
Last edited by slenderfish on Sun Oct 25, 2020 9:22 am, edited 1 time in total.
