"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[J around ATL]

Welcome to the forum J around ATL.

Thank you!

[John Ryan]

Good question. The only reason I can come up with is "I don't know, but it sure is hot."

Sizzling hot.

[Mrcarter]

For me it was an urge, to see if I could handle it. 25yrs later I can say I can. It was the best decision we ever made.

[Mrcarter]

For me it was an urge, to see if I could handle it. 25yrs later I can say I can. It was the best decision we ever made.

[RCM]

I always wanted to see my wife to another man’s cock. I wanted to be a big cock.
She always told me she liked big cock. But unfortunately I am small. Know that I have seen her take she dates other men and has a full-time boyfriend. It is a win-win for both of us. I get an amazing wife and she gets a boyfriend to spend time with and have fun.

[Saute]

For us it was discovering a sexual side to my wife that neither of us really knew existed and I did not bring out in her. Once uncovered it grew into the amazing HW she has become today.

[Desotomiss]

My fav question, even she asks sometimes what it is about watching. My response? Do you have a favorite color? I do to. Why is that your favorite color? Usually end of the discussion. Sometimes when the itch is enough, you just gotta scratch it...ok, prolly a poor analogy but, ya, who knows how positraction works or why the sky is blue, it just is

[Bryce 69]

Because It turns me on to Watch his cock deep down her throat or her spread open with him stretching her pussy
watching Hannah orgasam for him helping squeeze the cum out of his balls

[Mummae26]

I've always wanted this for a lifestyle. Early - in adolescence, I 'knew' I had to deal with the 'jealousy devil' and the early intuitive feelings I had would just drive me up the wall. Likewise, I've always been a voyeur..to have the privilege of seeing one whom you love in an ecstatic moment with another lover is simply...breathtaking.
Then too, I'm not the man I was 30 years ago (more or less) and the idea of 'cooperative' lovers for my dear woman feels very real and good. When I was 12 or 13, I began drawing figures in 3sums. My mother once found my drawings..and instead of reacting, said 'these are very good drawings..keep drawing everything you want'. I so loved her for that although we never discussed it any more. Now, I live with this extraordinary woman and truly feel that I am 'at home' with her and what we do..

Does this really work? I am a hotwife as what my husband wants to call me. He wants to do all of these things. He wants me to be in control

[Killerbone7872]

For us it was adding spice to our love life. After many years of being together we wanted to do more. We started with swinging but in a few yrs we ended up with and loving the hot wife lifestyle. We enjoyed it more. Especially cause she was very curious about Big dicks in general. She had her first experience when we would couple swing. And for me seeing her enjoying that and making her happy was the best experience for the both of us.

[stonemtncouple]

I am a Therapist who treats Alt lifestyle patients exclusively. I have seen a lot of so called facts related here and I wonder where thay are coming from. The truth is if you are in a hotwife or cuckold lifestyle your chance of divorce goes to 75%. This has been verified more than once. You have the same stressors as a regular marriage plus the additonal ones. I am not saying you cannot be successful, you can but it is even more difficult. In my opinion you need a certain level of intimacy to stay married and that's what get threatened in most cases because you lose your sense of being special in your partner's eyes. After all they have sex with others, they stay overnight with others, the kiss and hold hands and exchange gifts with others, all I get to do to be special is pay the bills. What I just stated was comments from many of the people that I deal with. If you are going to do this and I am not saying that I do not understand some of the excitement/joy, you must have great communication and set some rules and follow them to the letter. Also I would suggest that you do not have children. This does not mean that you cannot be loving parents with good intentions and hearts, but I have never, again never seen where the children did not find out and they were very upset and had problems well into their adult lives. Having said all of this I relaize this sounds very negative and I suppose it is to a certain extent but I do wish everyone the best in their relationships no matter what thier lifestyle is and much joy.

Catching this for future reference - something against the selection bias on this site (that been those couples it is currently working for
- those that it hasn’t aren’t here)

I just did a AI search referencing 35 different sources:
“ In summary, monogamous marriages have a well-established 40–50% divorce rate. For CNM (including hotwife), rates seem comparable or modestly elevated based on limited evidence, with no credible support for extreme claims like 92%. If you’re considering CNM, focus on communication—it’s key to any relationship’s success. For personalized advice, consult a therapist familiar with diverse structures.

[stonemtncouple]

As someone looking into this lifestyle from the outside this seems like somerhing that only a very few couples could pull off successfully? Without an honest and caring reltionship/marriage this wouldnt work.

I discovered that Im just a confirmed voyeur who gets off watching my wife and fantasizing about her.
I do love her, shes my ultimate porn star.
She has much deeper psych issues as to why she enjoys Hotwifeing. As a amateur psychologist I guess it has to do with low self esteem, need for other men to validate her beauty, sexual attractiveness, vanity, probably some deeper emotional needs also.

[Mgcouplemn]

Because it is fun, exciting, and huge turn on for the both of us. I love the idea that other men are so turned on and excited by MY wife that they are willing to fuck her while I’m right there watching. My wife says it is a turn on for her to be looking over at me, her husband masturbating to the sight of her being fucked in front of me. It is really hard to keep from ejaculating when she looks at me with a big smile as she is fucking.

[HWCarol]

Because it is fun, exciting, and huge turn on for the both of us. I love the idea that other men are so turned on and excited by MY wife that they are willing to fuck her while I’m right there watching. My wife says it is a turn on for her to be looking over at me, her husband masturbating to the sight of her being fucked in front of me. It is really hard to keep from ejaculating when she looks at me with a big smile as she is fucking.

This could have been written by my hubby. It's exactly how he articulates it. After 1,600+ posts, this is the one that captures our feelings.



As great as he says it is for him, I get triple turned on. From the fucking, from the freedom to be able to fuck (in front of him), and looking to see how excited hubby is watching me fuck.

[DCaftermath]

Because it is fun, exciting, and huge turn on for the both of us. I love the idea that other men are so turned on and excited by MY wife that they are willing to fuck her while I’m right there watching. My wife says it is a turn on for her to be looking over at me, her husband masturbating to the sight of her being fucked in front of me. It is really hard to keep from ejaculating when she looks at me with a big smile as she is fucking.

This could have been written by my hubby. It's exactly how he articulates it. After 1,600+ posts, this is the one that captures our feelings.



As great as he says it is for him, I get triple turned on. From the fucking, from the freedom to be able to fuck (in front of him), and looking to see how excited hubby is watching me fuck.
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I agree this response seems to nail it. The only thing I would add is the sex is a feel good activity and I love to see her when she’s into it and feeling good no matter if it’s me or another.

And the eye contact you speak of I think intensifies the bond as you share in something so few do.

[Dutch cuckold]

Because my wife is much more excited when she is fucking other men. And it excites me more when my wife is fucking other men than it excites me when she is fucking me.

We love each other and in the beginning of our relationship these simple facts took us years to truly comprehend and accept.

[Cuckold Paul]

Because it is fun, exciting, and huge turn on for the both of us. I love the idea that other men are so turned on and excited by MY wife that they are willing to fuck her while I’m right there watching. My wife says it is a turn on for her to be looking over at me, her husband masturbating to the sight of her being fucked in front of me. It is really hard to keep from ejaculating when she looks at me with a big smile as she is fucking.

Absolutely in my view I love the little gasp as he enters her and watching her fuck with enthusiasm and forget all around her, when she looks at me it is electric and so so special.
Paul

[Midnight Joker]

Wasn't sure if I should make a new thread about this, but Tucker Carlson dropped a truth bomb about cuckolding on YouTube. Agree or not with his take, it is true that the cuckold genre, especially interracial cuckolding, is being pushed.

While cuckolding is a big part of our fantasy talk, I do go back and forth about what I'm pushing on her.

“It Should Be Banned Immediately” - Tucker Exposes the Evil Companies Turning Men Into Cucks https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Arz2JuKvuvo

[Cuckold Paul]

For me it was a desire for years as I am now a senior citizen companies on you tube have never featured in my life.
For us it is just part of us.
Paul

[Dutch cuckold]

Wasn't sure if I should make a new thread about this, but Tucker Carlson dropped a truth bomb about cuckolding on YouTube. Agree or not with his take, it is true that the cuckold genre, especially interracial cuckolding, is being pushed.

While cuckolding is a big part of our fantasy talk, I do go back and forth about what I'm pushing on her.

“It Should Be Banned Immediately” - Tucker Exposes the Evil Companies Turning Men Into Cucks https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Arz2JuKvuvo

Watched this video, he speaks very convincing but to me nearly everything he says is not true at all.

Society isn't built around the principle of your wife being loyal to you at all, it's built on an economic system and on laws and a justice system, among other things.

You are not less of a man if you let your wife sleep with other men unless you want to be less.

The cuckold genre isn't pushed by anybody, people are watching it so creators make this stuff. Cuckoldporn is likely to be hot for a lot of people, specially men and women in a relationship. For (single) men it's probably a hot idea fucking someone's wife. A big audience.

Just tell your wife honestly how you feel and what's your fantasy and talk to each other.

Please stop listening to the people in this video.

[Midnight Joker]

Watched this video, he speaks very convincing but to me nearly everything he says is not true at all.

Society isn't built around the principle of your wife being loyal to you at all, it's built on an economic system and on laws and a justice system, among other things.

You are not less of a man if you let your wife sleep with other men unless you want to be less.

The cuckold genre isn't pushed by anybody, people are watching it so creators make this stuff. Cuckoldporn is likely to be hot for a lot of people, specially men and women in a relationship. For (single) men it's probably a hot idea fucking someone's wife. A big audience.

Just tell your wife honestly how you feel and what's your fantasy and talk to each other.

Please stop listening to the people in this video.

Appreciate the response. My wife fully knows about my fantasy and cuckolding, despite the video, is a big part of our 'dirty talk' / role play. Still I often feel guilty about those feelings, and yes some insecurities about what could happen, especially after reading some of stories on here.

[emca753]

I was forced to live it after our play talk and trust me there are UPS and DOWNS, although in my case more UPS

[Dutch cuckold]

Watched this video, he speaks very convincing but to me nearly everything he says is not true at all.

Society isn't built around the principle of your wife being loyal to you at all, it's built on an economic system and on laws and a justice system, among other things.

You are not less of a man if you let your wife sleep with other men unless you want to be less.

The cuckold genre isn't pushed by anybody, people are watching it so creators make this stuff. Cuckoldporn is likely to be hot for a lot of people, specially men and women in a relationship. For (single) men it's probably a hot idea fucking someone's wife. A big audience.

Just tell your wife honestly how you feel and what's your fantasy and talk to each other.

Please stop listening to the people in this video.

Appreciate the response. My wife fully knows about my fantasy and cuckolding, despite the video, is a big part of our 'dirty talk' / role play. Still I often feel guilty about those feelings, and yes some insecurities about what could happen, especially after reading some of stories on here.

There's also a lot of stories on here about how the love between husband and wife deepened because of her sleeping with other men. If you two are strong together and keep talking this lifestyle could bring some powerful and beautiful feelings of excitement but also of love for each other.

I still have these insecurities of her leaving me sometimes, even though she tells me she will never leave me. Makes me appreciate what we have even more, makes her realize I'm still crazy about her.

You definitely don't have to feel guilty for wanting your wife to sleep with other men. Just tell her what you said here, you want this but have insecurities about what could happen. Talk it true.

[Cuckold Paul]

I am in agreement with you my marriage is stronger than ever even after 25 years and sll because we were honest with each other and starter our journey together.
Paul

[Bloomincpl]

My wife and I being non-monogamous has made our marriage deeper, stronger, more meaningful, more communicative, and more special. There hasn't been a negative aspect to it for us. The same might not hold true for some couples, but for us it has been wonderful.

To the original question; I enjoy my wife having sex with other men because of the excitement she has, the fulfillment she feels, the ways in which she can be satisfied that can't be done with just one man at a time, and the ways in which it draws us closer. For my part only; it is intensely erotic to watch her having sex with other men, or for her to come home and tell me all about it. It's absolutely delicious to have sex with her right after another man has cum in her. I absolutely love the sounds she makes when she's taking another man.