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[Thor23]

So, I was having a discussion with my wife regarding her recent experiences, and she told me that she was open with both guys about the fact that she was happily married and that I was aware of them / what she was doing. My wife said it never stopped them from sleeping with her, but she did say they were a little weirded out by the fact.

I saw this topic start to raise it's head on the great thread about a wife that wants to sleep with an ex, but it wasn't really addressed.

Do others think its best if their wives lovers know or don't know, does it seem to impact the strength of their relationship if it's more than a one time encounter.

From the guys perspective, what would you prefer your wife / GF to say about your relationship. I was initially in favor of complete honesty, but if it stops the other guy from feeling comfortable and pursuing continued encounters, maybe it's best if they just think she's cheating behind my back.

[SilverStag]

We are in the category where we openly tell her prospective guys that we are happily married and that I am supportive of her HW activities.

However there have been a couple of prospective guys that dropped out (to her dismay) because they prefer the "cheating wife" scenario (I guess it is an ego thing form them if they can get a woman to cheat on her hubby). So I offered my HW the freedom to tell a story indicating that she is cheating (one sided role play) if she desires. She has steadfastly said that she won't enter into that type of false scenario because it will disrupt her Karma and she doesn't want anyone to think that she is that kind of person (cheater).

So, we stand in the "knowing and supporting" category even if it means some guys will drop out.

[Iamgroot]

So, we typically are with guys who knows we're married, but open to play. However, our current playmate has been admiring my hotwife for years, never knowing that we were swinging before we became more about her pleasure. He was over doing some work for us during our remodel and got drunk talking with me about his lack of sex with his wife. I happened to mention that my wife (and good friend of his wife for nearly 16 years) had some interest in him. Well, that changed the dynamics of the relationship quickly. It took him 3 different days to finally get to reach penetration with her. He blew his load way too fast. When he finally creampied her, his cum (he's fixed) was dripping out of her so beautifully, I wanted to clean it up, but didn't want to scare him off. Since then, he's been getting more excited about spending time with us. He likes to watch me fuck my wife. He confided that he wanted to I have his wife be a hotwife, too, but now she's not interested in sex at all due to an operation that destroyed her desire for anything sexual. He was contemplating looking for a hooker, but I saved him the STD issues, money, and unexplained time away by having him join us for fun at our house. Added bonus, he lives just a few streets from us in our subdivision, so it's easy to meet up and hang out as friends do..... with benefits.

[luvwives999]

For some unknown to me reason, all my wife's playmates had no desire to know that I knew and approved. Maybe they thought it was hotter if they thought she was cheating. Of course once we stared to go to swing clubs, that obviously changed.

[kort677]

we are completely up front about our status

[kort677]

we are completely up front about our status

[2inUPMichigan]

I always am upfront about our situation before meeting face to face. They need to be able to accept our situation, I'm not going to adjust our reality to make them feel more comfortable.

This is about finding a compatible match. Someone who doesn't accept me as a non-monogamous hotwife with a husband who accepts and encourages the playing is not a good match.

There are plenty of men out there that are not vanilla and can accept alternative choices

[Parsifal]

My wife's two current regulars know we have a great marriage in which she's playing with my knowledge and consent. Occasionally, however, we do play affair games in which she enacts the cheating wife dynamic for a set time-frame. Our experience is that a sizeable portion of the available men for her are married seeking affairs with cheating wives. It seems that many of her guys who were in on her doing it as a hotwife thing can't get their heads around how it works for us, yet the sex with her is still good so they look past the weirdness (in their view) of how she and I are drawing energy off of it with each other. Indeed, one of her current regulars thinks it really cool how we can incorporate nonexclusivity into our marital sexual dynamic, but he is incapable of empathizing with it. This phenomenon of men serving in a bull-type relationship with a hotwife couple

[Long Lurker 34]

So, we typically are with guys who knows we're married, but open to play. However, our current playmate has been admiring my hotwife for years, never knowing that we were swinging before we became more about her pleasure. He was over doing some work for us during our remodel and got drunk talking with me about his lack of sex with his wife. I happened to mention that my wife (and good friend of his wife for nearly 16 years) had some interest in him. Well, that changed the dynamics of the relationship quickly. It took him 3 different days to finally get to reach penetration with her. He blew his load way too fast. When he finally creampied her, his cum (he's fixed) was dripping out of her so beautifully, I wanted to clean it up, but didn't want to scare him off. Since then, he's been getting more excited about spending time with us. He likes to watch me fuck my wife. He confided that he wanted to I have his wife be a hotwife, too, but now she's not interested in sex at all due to an operation that destroyed her desire for anything sexual. He was contemplating looking for a hooker, but I saved him the STD issues, money, and unexplained time away by having him join us for fun at our house. Added bonus, he lives just a few streets from us in our subdivision, so it's easy to meet up and hang out as friends do..... with benefits.

IAG - Just amazing the number of projects YOU need a hand with around the house. Now to just to buy a old car that needs lots of rebuilding.

[Her number1]

In the past, Farmgirl let some of her guys think she was cheating, especially if she thought that they wouldn't be able to handle hotwifing and me knowing.
For some time though, she has told any she's with about being a hotwife with my full support. Her current FWB and her current boyfriend both know I know and approve. I see both of them regularly for business and socially.

[Iamgroot]

So, we typically are with guys who knows we're married, but open to play. However, our current playmate has been admiring my hotwife for years, never knowing that we were swinging before we became more about her pleasure. He was over doing some work for us during our remodel and got drunk talking with me about his lack of sex with his wife. I happened to mention that my wife (and good friend of his wife for nearly 16 years) had some interest in him. Well, that changed the dynamics of the relationship quickly. It took him 3 different days to finally get to reach penetration with her. He blew his load way too fast. When he finally creampied her, his cum (he's fixed) was dripping out of her so beautifully, I wanted to clean it up, but didn't want to scare him off. Since then, he's been getting more excited about spending time with us. He likes to watch me fuck my wife. He confided that he wanted to I have his wife be a hotwife, too, but now she's not interested in sex at all due to an operation that destroyed her desire for anything sexual. He was contemplating looking for a hooker, but I saved him the STD issues, money, and unexplained time away by having him join us for fun at our house. Added bonus, he lives just a few streets from us in our subdivision, so it's easy to meet up and hang out as friends do..... with benefits.

IAG - Just amazing the number of projects YOU need a hand with around the house. Now to just to buy a old car that needs lots of rebuilding.

I am a professional who doesn't have time for projects, so I make the money to pay the people to do the things I don't want to do. The added bonus is that I have a curvy hotwife who doesn't mind using what she has to get what she needs. Last year, around this time, our house got struck by lightning, and it caused a huge revamp to the entire house due to the damage. Our friend's help came at the right time and right price.

[Long Lurker 34]

So, we typically are with guys who knows we're married, but open to play. However, our current playmate has been admiring my hotwife for years, never knowing that we were swinging before we became more about her pleasure. He was over doing some work for us during our remodel and got drunk talking with me about his lack of sex with his wife. I happened to mention that my wife (and good friend of his wife for nearly 16 years) had some interest in him. Well, that changed the dynamics of the relationship quickly. It took him 3 different days to finally get to reach penetration with her. He blew his load way too fast. When he finally creampied her, his cum (he's fixed) was dripping out of her so beautifully, I wanted to clean it up, but didn't want to scare him off. Since then, he's been getting more excited about spending time with us. He likes to watch me fuck my wife. He confided that he wanted to I have his wife be a hotwife, too, but now she's not interested in sex at all due to an operation that destroyed her desire for anything sexual. He was contemplating looking for a hooker, but I saved him the STD issues, money, and unexplained time away by having him join us for fun at our house. Added bonus, he lives just a few streets from us in our subdivision, so it's easy to meet up and hang out as friends do..... with benefits.

IAG - Just amazing the number of projects YOU need a hand with around the house. Now to just to buy a old car that needs lots of rebuilding.

I am a professional who doesn't have time for projects, so I make the money to pay the people to do the things I don't want to do. The added bonus is that I have a curvy hotwife who doesn't mind using what she has to get what she needs. Last year, around this time, our house got struck by lightning, and it caused a huge revamp to the entire house due to the damage. Our friend's help came at the right time and right price.

IAG - I think you may have misunderstood my comment. There are only so many easy reasons to hang out, this is where he is helping you with "projects" comes in handy. And to quote Red Green, more or less, "If you aren't handy you'd better be handsome."

[Iamgroot]

Ah, yes! His wife seems to be oblivious to the number of projects we have for him, and she does come with him on occasion to hang out, but he usually takes her home, then realizes he forgot something over here or needed to go back to enjoy a shot of Dos Hombres with me. He's definitely the handy type more than handsome, but my wife doesn't mind.

[Mgcouplemn]

We make it perfectly clear that she is married and her Husband will be there masturbating while watching them having sex.

[isinlarsa]

The men she dates know up front that she's married. Most of the men she meets are through an online ad that says "Married woman seeking to date and perhaps more." Indeed the men she attracts are attracted to the thought of making it with a married woman. Some probably don't care if I know, but others feel safer because I know, so they have no fear I'm going to burst in with a gun. I've met a couple when they came by to pick her up for a date, but for the most part I don't meet the men.

[ucaneffher]

In the past my ex did them all...

She played:
-The cheating girlfriend
-The single and available
-The single and available but living with ex (me) due to financial reasons.
-The girlfriend with a boyfriend who lets her do whatever she wants

I liked them all, every single one had its pros and cons but for sure every single one had tons of hotness to it.

The cheating was hot because I would typically meet the guys that were her "friends" and they would come pick her up on a Friday night because they wanted to *catch up" and we're gonna go to have some cocktails. Meanwhile my girlfriend was dressed with her ass and tits hanging out. I loves that it was obvious to everyone but I would just tell them to have fun.

I'm not going to break each one down unless someone is truly curious.

Lastly, my current girlfriend wants honesty so if there is ever a man in the picture... He will know that she has a boyfriend who approves and is letting her have fun. Personally I am open to every scenario depending on her end goal with it.

[Long Lurker 34]

In the past my ex did them all...

She played:
-The cheating girlfriend
-The single and available
-The single and available but living with ex (me) due to financial reasons.
-The girlfriend with a boyfriend who lets her do whatever she wants

I liked them all, every single one had its pros and cons but for sure every single one had tons of hotness to it.

The cheating was hot because I would typically meet the guys that were her "friends" and they would come pick her up on a Friday night because they wanted to *catch up" and we're gonna go to have some cocktails. Meanwhile my girlfriend was dressed with her ass and tits hanging out. I loves that it was obvious to everyone but I would just tell them to have fun.

I'm not going to break each one down unless someone is truly curious.

Lastly, my current girlfriend wants honesty so if there is ever a man in the picture... He will know that she has a boyfriend who approves and is letting her have fun. Personally I am open to every scenario depending on her end goal with it.

UC - Still no progress I take it? Even thou you were hoping for a "break out" season. I'd bet this is 'nerves' on her part. Her, not truly knowing how you will react, despite what you might say. On the other hand she maybe concerned how she herself will act/react, once she 'slips the leash'.

[parklife]

My wife’s first few forays into hotwife fun involved in he other guy knowing I knew and approved. That brought its own complications and some scenarios couldn’t they off the ground because of it. Guy was happy to flirt and move forward when they thought she was cheating but not when she was free to do so. So, her current guy thinks she’s a cheating wife, the last one “J” she said knows and maybe they discussed it one time but all of his actions were more like treating it as a cheating situation so I doubt he realized she was free to engage.

Personally, I’d prefer the upfront and honest approach but my wife has no problem playing the cheating wife. It floors me to think some people think it would be horrible if it was found out the husband is ok with the wife playing and a better alternative is the wife is cheating behind his back. What’s that say about her if people found out?

But, I’m content to let my wife lead that conversation where she pleases.

[ucaneffher]

In the past my ex did them all...

She played:
-The cheating girlfriend
-The single and available
-The single and available but living with ex (me) due to financial reasons.
-The girlfriend with a boyfriend who lets her do whatever she wants

I liked them all, every single one had its pros and cons but for sure every single one had tons of hotness to it.

The cheating was hot because I would typically meet the guys that were her "friends" and they would come pick her up on a Friday night because they wanted to *catch up" and we're gonna go to have some cocktails. Meanwhile my girlfriend was dressed with her ass and tits hanging out. I loves that it was obvious to everyone but I would just tell them to have fun.

I'm not going to break each one down unless someone is truly curious.

Lastly, my current girlfriend wants honesty so if there is ever a man in the picture... He will know that she has a boyfriend who approves and is letting her have fun. Personally I am open to every scenario depending on her end goal with it.

UC - Still no progress I take it? Even thou you were hoping for a "break out" season. I'd bet this is 'nerves' on her part. Her, not truly knowing how you will react, despite what you might say. On the other hand she maybe concerned how she herself will act/react, once she 'slips the leash'.

Patience is key my friend. She is being cautious and taking her time but the minute she has her first romantic encounter with the BBC that she has been wanting for the last few years, I already know that I'm barely going to see my girlfriend once she is fully turned into a hot girlfriend.

She wants me to watch her get fucked but she also told me that when the time came, she would be spending a lot of time away alone with her men and hoped that I truly was okay with her not being around as much as she has been. I can tell you that I am beyond ready to sleep alone and ready to spend entire days solo while she is out with another man.

Absolutely cannot wait until I have to resort to doing my errands and past due tasks simply because my GF is nowhere to be found because she's locked away in her lovers bedroom getting pumped and filled for the 5th time.